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#1 Posted on:
Tue, 05/02/2019 - 15:35

sophieholmes07

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Posted on:
Tue, 05/02/2019 - 17:21

Merry go round

Joined:
2017-06-08

Hi Sophie it sounds like he's spinning you a line about everything. You moving all direct debits into your account, him using your credit card to gamble, you paying when you go out. You are paying for everything and he's free to gamble, and when he runs out of his money he steals from you. What are you staying for? You can't show your emotions because that causes an argument, the list is endless of what you can't do, but he can do what he likes. It's not your responsibility to pay for his lifestyle. It's not up to you to manage his money. He's even conned you into thinking gamstop is group meetings. Gamblers anonymous is group meetings. Gamanon is for friends and family. Gamstop is online agency that you sign up to to block online gambling for different lengths of time. He doesn't want to stop, doesn't need to. Please get some help and advice as to what compulsive gambling means. This is an unhealthy relationship and he is playing you. I'm sorry that's harsh but this is not sustainable. Stop funding him. The more you pay the more they play. He's dragging you to debt and destruction.

Posted on:
Tue, 05/02/2019 - 18:35

Lethe

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2016-12-10

He's shown you the real him. It's the one who lies, snaps, steals and manipulates. You haven't been in this relationship very long. Think about why you feel it's OK for him to treat you like this and then think about how you actually deserve to be treated, how you want life to be. 

Life with an active CG is a nightmare. He's dragging you down with him already and there's plenty further to go if you stay. Those who advise you to leave have your best interests at heart. If my daughter came to me with your story I would tell her to run and never look back.

Posted on:
Tue, 05/02/2019 - 23:24

sophieholmes07

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2019-02-05

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Posted on:
Wed, 06/02/2019 - 06:52

Merry go round

Joined:
2017-06-08

Sophie the person who needs help is you. You are going to spend the rest of your time in this relationship walking on eggshells, never believing him and waiting for the next debt. Trust me I've done this. You are at the beginning of a long hard road. This is not normal or healthy. The moment this all changed was when he stole from you. You did nothing but forgive him. This is not your fault but please stop making excuses for him. Is he going to GA? If not why not? Just saying he doesn't like groups is saying he doesn't want to stop. They gamble any money, lunch money, borrow from mates. This is forever, serious, mental health issues. Start standing up for yourself and looking at why this is ok in your world. 

Posted on:
Mon, 11/02/2019 - 12:19

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2010-11-01

Hello sophieholmes07,

It looks like you may have deleted your posts.  If you'd like immediate emotional support you are welcome to call us on our freephone 0808 8020 133 or our netline.  If you're experiencing any difficulties with the forum you are welcome to email [email protected]

Take care,

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