Im looking for some help/advice My fiance is a gambler, he has signed up to begambleaware.com and can no longer open accounts.
Snce then, I have seen he is using my name under a fake email address, luckily he is not using my card but he is taking money out of our joint account to put into his personal account to bet with.
How do I go about this? It's not fraud is it because he's not using my card? But wouldn't the betting company see the name on the card doesnt match the account name online? Plus, does he have to show ID to sign up?
Sorry for all the questions, but I'm really struggling and we've had COUNTLESS of conversations about his betting.
sounds like a ticking timebomb to me
usually the gambling operators will turn a blind eye to these shenanigans ….. until someone wins
gambler think they have won and dug themselves out of a hole
then usually gambling operator will conveniently decided to review the account and do the know your customer checks
when they see the account name doesn't match the card they will just refuse to pay out
As mentioned above the gambling company usually wont bother to do anything until a win has been made and a request to withdraw has been submitted. The card being used has to match the name off the person using the account or they will refuse to pay out. I would try and make your partner aware off this information as in reality they are never going to be able to win and lift money therefore your partner is spending money on gambling and will never be able to get anything back in return and in all honesty theres no point doing that if you cant get anything back.
Hi Bear and welcome to the forum.
Its understandable that an addict would do that but it is fraudulent.
Im not saying he is planning the crime of a century but its hardly a little white lie is it. It is a form of identity theft to satisfy his addicted cravings.
My view is that you have to be firm and have separate accounts. You have to protect yourself and then you can look at this in a stronger way.
Im afraid you need your own account and then you can think about helping him if he is ready to stop gambling.
Gambling is highly addictive and acts like a drug addiction. Its not something you can let him do as if its his hobby or something
Its highly dangerous and a progressive illness. Do you know what he is really gambling away? Its not something you can turn away from for a quiet life...You are along for the ride whatever he is doing.
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
I echo much of what has already been said
As far as I am aware begambleaware.com is simply a website giving information and advice about problem gambling and has nothing to do with actually closing accounts. Did you mean Gamstop? this is a website where the gambler registers their details and then they would not be able to open new gambling accounts and already open ones would be closed. If he has done this, it might be the reason why he has been forced to use your details to carry on gambling with.
The bottom line as others have said is that he has to be able to prove his identity and address in order to withdraw any winnings. If things don't match up then the betting site won't pay out... simple as. Its to protect against fraud.
Using your name is showing you no respect and the power of his addiction. As a compulsive gambler myself my suggestion is to completely separate your finances from his before he empties the joint account and (assuming you don't gamble yourself) register your own details with Gamstop, which will prevent him using your details to gamble with.
I strongly advise taking action quickly.
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