I have been reading all the family and friends posts on here and can so relate to these stories.
I’ve always known that my husband of 12 years has had somewhat of a gambling issue on and off but never so much to really worry me. It used to be bookies football bets and horses but now online gambling.
Until the last year when it has really spiralled out of control - every month he will gamble his wages away so there is no money left for bills, then make up lies about the money and drag it out until eventually he has to tell the truth when there’s no other option left.
I also think he has multiple addictions - often taking recreational drugs in the house despite me asking him not to. And I have also discovered he has been cheating with escorts - several of them over the years that we’ve been married.
I have put up with so much over the years but I can’t physically or mentally do it any longer and have called time on our marriage.
I’m so angry and hurt but still struggling to process it all.
the trust has completely gone from our relationship and there is no way back.
I’m now just trying to work out what this means for me and how I get through this.
No real point to this story other than that I can truly relate to what everybody is going through on here.
Wishing you all hope and happiness for the future.
Hi BlueTone.
Welcome to the Forum and thank you for sharing your story with us.
From what you have written it looks like you have dealt with an awful lot throughout your relationships.
I know you said that it was only last year you began to really worry about the impact but 12 years is a long time for you to live with that. You said that you are physically and mentally exhausted from this which is understandable. I am so glad to see you have shared this with the forum and that reading other peoples stories has been helpful for you. Give yourself the time you need to process all that has gone on, it can take time to find a way forward but it sounds like you are taking the steps that are right for you.
I wonder if you have been able to talk to friends or family about all of this. It might also be good for you to speak to a GamCare adviser. They are available 24 hours a day. You can speak to them on the Helpline on 0808 8020 133 or through the Live chat option. Which ever you feel most comfortable with. They can offer a listening ear, support, advice and free one to one treatment that could help you find a way to move on.
Please do keep posting here on the forum,
Rebecca
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