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Hi I posted on here a couple of weeks ago because my partner’s online poker addiction has put us in a really difficult financial situation of struggling to pay the rent and bills etc with a young baby while I’m on maternity leave. He spent all of his redundancy money on poker and another £1.5k which I discovered last month. He is adamant he won’t stop playing poker and does not believe he has a problem just thinks he got carried away. However all my friends believe he doesn’t respect me and is sponging off me because doesn’t contribute financially since he lost his job 6 months ago. This has led me to give him an ultimatum to either stop gambling and get help or move out this weekend but as this weekend is drawing nearer I’m having second thoughts about whether I’m doing the right thing as I don’t actually want him to move out but for me the gambling is at an unacceptable level and has blighted my maternity leave.  
thank you 

Posted : 27th February 2020 2:07 pm
Boo radley

Wonderful read 


Posted : 27th February 2020 3:29 pm
Forum admin

Hi Chanty,

Sorry to hear you are having a difficult time.  If you would like some support or information please contact the helpline which is open 24/7 on 0808 8020 133.

Best wishes


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Posted : 27th February 2020 9:41 pm

Hi Chanty... well i am a compulsive gambler and I certainly wouldn't live with one. I can't imagine what it must be like to be in your shoes. I guess if you put emotions aside, ask yourself, would I be able to cope without my partner being around? Do I have the support I need? Your partner has a gambling addiction, protect yourself and the interests of your child as best you can.

All the best

Posted : 29th February 2020 9:39 am

Thank you for your kind reply. I decided that yes I can cope without him emotions aside. However it turns out that his family don’t want him to stay and won’t take him in. He has nowhere to go. I wasn’t expecting that. I’m not wanting to make the guy homeless 

Posted : 29th February 2020 9:48 pm

What was his decision from the ultimatum? If he isn’t wanting to stop you cannot really help him.

I have been in the same position and the first step is him admitting he needs help, then it’s up to you if you stay with him and help him through it. 


Posted : 4th March 2020 5:06 pm
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