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hi - I am in a mess - I caught my wife gambling on line- in April- she admitted she had lost £7k - she promised to change she told our stepson and my father - we made a finance plan to sort it. 

last night I caught playing again- it turns outlet she now has lost 20k - credit cards in both our names- we are married with two young girls  I am devastated - 

i am so angry- I want to leave ( the house is in my name)her but I love my children dearly- 

any advice .. 

Posted : 25th August 2019 8:49 pm
Forum admin

Hi @Paddymanc,


Welcome to the Forum here at Gamcare, we hope you find the community supportive and helpful.

You must be going through a very difficult time. If you would like to speak to one of our advisers directly, we are available 8am until midnight on 0808 8020 133

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Best wishes,


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Posted : 25th August 2019 9:29 pm

Thanks Admin- I spoke to someone last night and it helped a little. Just want to rewind time and stop her when she started- we had such a wonderful life with the kids. 

Posted : 26th August 2019 1:35 pm

Please take your time .. don’t rush into any decisions. Your wife has an addiction , it’s sickening and she needs help. Im lucky , i have managed well with mine. She hasn’t done this to be a bad person , it appears she might have been chasing debts. Ive done this myself and you can’t stop , you just can’t stop going , i didn’t think about my wife or kids... Stand by her for now and take your time. Its money at the end of the day and you can work it out. Good Luck to you both x stay strong and talk talk talk.

Posted : 27th August 2019 8:55 am

Yesmrc- thanks

Posted : 27th August 2019 3:52 pm

Hi, Paddymanc

You know my dad before used to cheat on my mom, even though he already has a family and he also had a bad habit at that time his so scary. But until the time came when he realized why he was doing these things to our family. He realized these things and he was crying and praying to God and apologizing for all his shortcomings for his family and saying to himself "I will never do it again" and time passed now he and we are a disciple of God. God changed my dad from a scary and now a good father to us.

So don't leave your family and pray to God and the right time will come she will realize that things and she will change. Stay strong and do it for your children.

Note: Realization is the best way for a person to change and only the Lord can give it.

Sorry for my bad English

Godbless Us!

Posted : 28th August 2019 5:07 am

Hey Paddymanc

im so sorry you too are in this situation. I found out last night my hubby has been gambling for a few months. I have a five week old newborn. You will see my story when the moderators have approved it. But, this post is not about me. What I have learnt in the last 24 hours is that my emotions and feelings towards him are changing all the time. One minute I’m shouting the next I’m cuddling him because I feel sorry for him. Don’t make any rash decisions, not yet. Your wife needs help. Be strong. But know it’s ok to also be going through the emotions. You own that right. You are in shock. 

Posted : 1st September 2019 3:39 pm

You took the words out of my mouth! Just discovered last night my husband has gambled away £30,000.

its not like he bought cars or luxury goods, we have two children who we were going to take to Disneyland and move to a bigger house. 

I feel your anguish



Posted : 16th September 2019 2:02 pm
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