My wife has lost £20k gambling-help

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Thanks Admin- I spoke to someone last night and it helped a little. Just want to rewind time and stop her when she started- we had such a wonderful life with the kids. 

Please take your time .. don’t rush into any decisions. Your wife has an addiction , it’s sickening and she needs help. Im lucky , i have managed well with mine. She hasn’t done this to be a bad person , it appears she might have been chasing debts. Ive done this myself and you can’t stop , you just can’t stop going , i didn’t think about my wife or kids... Stand by her for now and take your time. Its money at the end of the day and you can work it out. Good Luck to you both x stay strong and talk talk talk.

Yesmrc- thanks

Hi, Paddymanc

You know my dad before used to cheat on my mom, even though he already has a family and he also had a bad habit at that time his so scary. But until the time came when he realized why he was doing these things to our family. He realized these things and he was crying and praying to God and apologizing for all his shortcomings for his family and saying to himself "I will never do it again" and time passed now he and we are a disciple of God. God changed my dad from a scary and now a good father to us.

So don't leave your family and pray to God and the right time will come she will realize that things and she will change. Stay strong and do it for your children.

Note: Realization is the best way for a person to change and only the Lord can give it.

Sorry for my bad English

Godbless Us!

Hey Paddymanc

im so sorry you too are in this situation. I found out last night my hubby has been gambling for a few months. I have a five week old newborn. You will see my story when the moderators have approved it. But, this post is not about me. What I have learnt in the last 24 hours is that my emotions and feelings towards him are changing all the time. One minute I’m shouting the next I’m cuddling him because I feel sorry for him. Don’t make any rash decisions, not yet. Your wife needs help. Be strong. But know it’s ok to also be going through the emotions. You own that right. You are in shock. 

You took the words out of my mouth! Just discovered last night my husband has gambled away £30,000.

its not like he bought cars or luxury goods, we have two children who we were going to take to Disneyland and move to a bigger house. 

I feel your anguish

my story couldn’t be more similar! 

2 young daughters and thought I had it all until my husband admitted (only because he was so far in debt and couldn’t cope) a few days ago he has a gambling addiction. Love him but just don’t know if I should go with my head instead of my heart. Will he ever change?! 

Posted by: NP999

You took the words out of my mouth! Just discovered last night my husband has gambled away £30,000.

its not like he bought cars or luxury goods, we have two children who we were going to take to Disneyland and move to a bigger house. 

I feel your anguish

 

Hi I’m going through the exact same thing word for word...how are things now?