I’ve always known my partner has had enjoyed gambling and to be honest, deep down I’ve known he’s had an issue.
We have zero savings and literally live from pay cheque to pay cheque with a toddler. I’ve taken action by putting together a budget excel spreadsheet to a, get us out of debt and b, see where our holes are.
Snoop is an app which uses API and syncs with online banking transactions and then categorises where you’re spending money. It has been eye opening for the both of us.
It’s shown my partner has spent over £20k on gambling in the last 18 months, this is more than 60% of his wage. He never buys anything for himself and is always moaning we have no money. Now I know why. He does always pay his share of the bills so he thinks he has his problem under control.
Also, instead of owning up and being shocked he has dismissed the app and said there must be something wrong with the software, and has continued with his gambling for the day.
the emotion I’m feeling is disappointment rather than sadness or anger. If he doesn’t see this as a turning point I don’t know how I can convince him that this is not a healthy habit.
Their is nothing more you can do until he admits gambling is a problem in your lives , how can you solve it for him,? that has to come from him, its called accepting responibility for his actions.
You cannot do it for him.
I wish you well.
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