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Losing myself  


I am losing my mind.  I've already lost myself. It's so hard to explain how I feel. What his choices have done to my mind and body. To me, to my relationships with others, my job. Now he has our neighbors believing that I am the problem. The police have been here at least 10 times. I've had 2 restraining orders which only made it worse. He is currently in his bedroom asleep and I am in my room trying not to cry, trying not to draw attention that I'm awake. Lately, I've been giving him the same respect that he gives me when I refuse to conform, and he doesn't like it. I'm scared.


Posted : 18th February 2021 9:02 am
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Dear @littleguitars,

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through right now. It sounds like a very damaging and dangerous situation to be in. Gaslighting and emotional and mental abuse are also domestic abuse so I would strongly recommend that you urgently contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline for advice on how to keep yourself safe in this situation:

Please know that you are not alone and please know that help is out there for you. Please contact us urgently as well on 0808 8020 133 or talk to us via our live one-to-one chat The service is confidential and is available 24/7.

I would urge you to take action immediately as things could quickly escalate even further.

Please know you are not alone and we are here to help and support you.

Wishing you all the very best,



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Posted : 18th February 2021 9:55 am

Hi... from what you say, it sounds like you need to get out pure and simple. Sounds like your partner has a high degree of narcissism. They don't change in my opinion. Expect more of the same until you decide to exit stage left.

All the best.

Posted : 20th February 2021 8:32 am
Merry go round

Hi I don’t know what to advise you. Other than try and have an exit plan. Do you have anyone to talk to? I wouldn’t play his game, I would try and keep things calm.

another helpline 08082000247

even if you just leave with the clothes on your back, things can be replaced. 

ask for ANI at a pharmacy (action needed immediately).

You’ve shown great strength reaching out. This is not your fault and you don’t deserve to live like this.

Posted : 20th February 2021 12:49 pm
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