I met him when I was 17. He was unlike anyone I had ever met. He made me so happy, we had so many stolen moments after work and before school and late at night. We had dreams, we were going to move into a home of our own, we were going to have a big TV, and he's a really good cook, so we had made a deal he would cook and id do the washing up after. We were supposed to see so many countries together, and have so many birthdays together.
He was supposed to be there when I finished Uni, and I was supposed to see him build this car he had been going on about since the day we met. we had so many things to do, and they'll always stay as things to do.
He gambled a week after we met, maybe two weeks. I forgave him, I remember I said don't be silly its okay and I laughed it off. I didn't know what a gambling addiction was, I thought he would earn the money next week and he wouldn't do it again. Then it happened again and again.. and again.
He used to cry and bang his head, try to pull his own hair out of anger. He would say sorry. He promised on so many things he wouldn't do it again. On his mum, on me, on himself. Everything. He never did keep those promises. I loved him anyways, I still do.
A couple months ago he became homeless because of the gambling. He told me to wait and that he would fix everything.. and so I did. He gambled everyday, I didn't know until yesterday when he admitted it. I don't understand why.. he had finally admitted he wanted to change, he'd even been in contact with GamCare and booked an appointment..
I loved him with my everything but what can I do when he can't even stop to save himself? I left him. And it hurts, it hurts so much
As sad a story as anyone has ever written or anyone has ever read. I sincerly hope that one day a I will read a happy ending but YOU only live once and that has to be respected . I wish you all the luck in the world and that he can somehow realise that its only change that will help and have the strength to change. Good luck. John. x
He's ill, he needs to see his gp. This is a mental health issue, if nothing else longtime gambling will cause it if it wasn't there before. He needs GA. You can get help and support from gamcare, counselling and find a gamanon meeting. Look after yourself. You don't stop loving someone because they're a gambler, but you do need to protect yourself.
Hi @john-w
Thank you for your reply. I didnt realise how nice its for someone to actually respond back to everything ive been feeling and haven't been able to say. Thank you.
I wish he would seek help. The one time he said he would and he never went to the appointment. I wish more than anything he would want to change. And I know, I can see know that even if he doesn't want help.. I do. Thank you for your reply 🙂
Stick around Done_k everyone needs a little help . Even as a non-gambler your eyes will be opened and you can rebuild . Hopefully some time soon he will see that gambling is not his biggest loss and put some effort in because thats what is needed and it CAN be done > 🙂
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