Do I believe him this time?

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(@two-girls)
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I asked my partner to leave two days ago just put a post on here. He said I could do monthly account checks he never actually let me. I could not do it anymore. I found him out obviously this is rock bottom for him but looking at advice and stories on here I am dealing with myself first. He thinks I am going to listen to other people and not allow him back ever. I made my own decision. Ur story sounds very similar it was five years ago just after we had a baby. All of our family and friends have known for some time it made no difference. As was said in a previous post some betting websites slip through the net he uses them. He says he is protecting me by not letting me look at his bank account. I have tried full control part control no control. No money system has worked and I have given him thousands. I was the enabler and I know realise that. That is why it had to stop and my life has been broken down for now but I am hopeful for the future it just depends how bigger a part he will play. I hope you can work it out and move on from now I really do. It is horrible addiction.

 
Posted : 30th January 2021 11:17 pm
 Magh
(@magh)
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@two-girls hi sorry a year later I see this message ? 

 

a year has passed by for us now after everything coming out. The extent to his debt. We worked through it together. I got monthly statements off him. Saw everything I needed too. I haven’t checked for a couple of months but if I ask him to show me he will. 

i do believe now that he knows if he were to ever go back that would be us over for good. 

did your partner stop? Did he ever let you look through his banking? Sorry you had to go through this too, it’s horrible to go through it really is. X

 
Posted : 28th January 2022 9:12 pm
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