A question ..

Any practical advice and suggestions given that able to do will update on this thread to be accountable , actions speak louder than words. Im sorry for any partners here that suffered affliction of a cg , yes an illness but you didnt ask for it either and how it effects you so badly. Dont blame some of u walking.

Hello,

You say 'actions speak louder than words' and you are right.

From my own personal experience, a cg needs to show his/her partner that s/he is sorry. It takes time and it's a slow process, but slowly you can rebuild trust. 

When my husband was in the depths of his addiction, he had no interest in the house and not much interest in the kids. 

Now, just by doing chores like cooking, DIY, gardening and generally caring about our home, I can see that he is changing and trying to make amends.  

Once all the dust had settled, it helped us to sit and look at our finances and work out a plan for paying off debt and saving for the future. As each month goes by, and our savings slowly build, I feel a bit better.  

We also try to make time to do things together now, as we were both taking each other for granted. I know it's especially hard at the moment, but if you can try to spend more time together, even just going for a coffee or a drink, it shows that you are committed to making things work. I can't speak for your partner, but when I found out, my first thought was that my husband must be unhappy in the marriage to have turned to gambling. Making time together shows your partner that you still care about them.

It is a slow process but hopefully over time you can move on.

Good luck.

J 

Thanks jess great advice , thank you for taking the time to reply. Agree with all u say.

You're welcome. Good luck. ?