Evening all...i need your advice.
I recently lost 3k gambling and feel like a have to make the money back as soon as possible to fill a void of shame and guilt.
Im not gambling but i'm doing alot of overtime at work however i feel that is now becoming my addiction.
I have told my wife i will do it for 3 months to make my money back and she supports me but i am sacrificing alot of my time and weekends to do the overtime.
Should i carry on and stay focussed for the 3 months or try to come to terms with losing the money.
I feel a huge pressure to provide for my partner but i may be doing harm to myself psychologically with all the overtime.
Any thoughts will be appreciated.
Hi torrio :)).
You could have taken your post from one of my own from my original diary when I first came here .
I totally threw myself into work although I'm self employed so it may be a little different for you ? but I knew that for so long I'd neglected my business and really taken my eye off of the ball while in full blown gambling mode .
It's back where it should be and better than ever thanks to no longer gambling but I hear your concern as me doing that very thing was almost like swapping one addiction for another . Crazily I used to have the same problem with decorating :)) , I had the cleanest house around for months and always smelling of newly painted wood and walls ? .
What can I say my friend except that I think in time you find balance and although you want to rush and replace what's been gambled away , over time it will be replaced but " Recoveries for life so what's the rush " ?.
Have a good evening bud and take some time to enjoy the important folk in your life :))
my advice as long as ur not struggling financially and need that 3k back then take ur work life balance seriously if you work yourself too much you may need some time off work. welcome to the forum.
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