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#1 Posted on:
Mon, 23/01/2017 - 09:08

blueteam

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2017-01-18

Hi all

I have been reading quite of a lot of forums lately.

I am 25 years old have two kids and wife. Not in any debt ATM but feel like I'm going down that road Been gambling for many years started off on betting on football with £1 accumulators then to casino online casino and so on. Hadn't gambled for a while until recently and started my journey on chasing my lossses. Was alll roses when I was winning but u end  up giving it all back and start with ur own money. Currently £800 odd since last week and keep bettting £25 on football bets hoping I just get my money back. Last time I had lost a lot money and opened up to my wife. Who did support me and also my mum. Now she doesn't have a clue ATM but knows something is up. I feel so bad as she goes on about buying things for £20 but I can blow £800 just like that without a thought. I don't earn a lot and we do struggle but I do not get why I'm wasting money I just can't stop. For that 90 mins of football I'm on a high then when I lose I'm straight back on another bet. So up and down with my mood all day and not enjoying my family life. Just thinking about gambling 24/7

Posted on:
Mon, 23/01/2017 - 09:51

Phil83

Joined:
2017-01-17

Hi Blueteam (who I hope, but doubt, is the mighty Southend Utd)

Two things are certain, if you continue to gamble you WILL end up in debt (and once you're there it's impossible to get out until you stop gambling). Also, you will NEVER get your money back, it's gone and you need to write it off. Let's face it, best case scenario, you get a big will and make back the £800...would you stop? (I know I wouldn't have done as I'd have been looking for a win to put me in profit). It's a little cliched but it's so true that "We can't win because we can't stop".

Well done for identifying the problem before you got into debt, this will take one of the main challenges of recovery away (but you have to stop now). Close your online accounts and self-exclude from the bookies. I'm in the early stages myself so please take my advice as encouragement rather than preaching.

Good luck and one last thing, you will be amazed how much more you will enjoy watching football when you're not frantically checking other results every 2 minutes!

Stay strong mate and keep posting :)

Phil

Posted on:
Mon, 23/01/2017 - 11:05

blueteam

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2017-01-18

 

Thanks Cheers for the post Phil. And it's Everton I'm afraid lol.

Thanks for the advise there Phil, your completely right, I need do need to take them steps. Duno what is wrong with my head but I'm finding it really hard to right it off this time around. I haven't really been going bookies all online ATM, mainly is. Maybe sell my iPhone and get a basic phone which may help. I get paid tomorrow and really not looking forward to it, I'm saying to myself u win it back and never gamble again. The amount of times I have said this. And in regards to enjoying football matches, all I think now is oh I could of won that, and it's getting bludy out of hand because I'm even looking at how many corners and cards are in matchs. And when not betting on that I'm like oh I would of easily got that. If u get what I mean my head is completely ruined. 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 23/01/2017 - 11:59

Phil83

Joined:
2017-01-17

Could have been worse...Could have been Chelsea! lol

My addiction is very different but the thought process is still the same. I was/am addicted to fruit machines and FOBTs (never had a problem with sports betting...£10 on a Saturday was my limit but think nothing of putting £100's in machines). The idea of 'going out on a high' and quitting with a win is flawed because (a) You might not win and therefore need to lose more to get a win and cover the previous loss and (b) That win will spur you on to bet more...I know, I've been there.

Try and get some blocking software for your phone as that will stop you from having to change phones/numbers etc. I'm sure someone on here can advise.

As for enjoying the football, even with my small stakes, I know it can have an impact. I find myself in the pub and I'm concentrating more on Jeff Stelling and the boys than on the people I'm with OR I'm out with the missus and she's in mood because I'm always checking my phone (probably thinks I'm having an affair!). This is the other impact it can have. I was always that boring b*****d of the group that would take his pint and disappear off to play the fruits on a night out, and I'm sure the same can be said for any form of gambling that causes a distraction, eventually people can't be bothered to invite you out.

Keep the diary upto date mate as I'd like to see you, and everyone on here, beat this...you can!

P

Posted on:
Mon, 23/01/2017 - 13:39

woodley3

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2010-02-26

Hi Blueteam

As Phil83 said you have to write off the money you have already lost you won't get it back. From my experiences I wish I was in your boat right now ( I've been booted out) as I would be telling my wife and even giving her control of my cards knowing I was getting paid tomorrow as I know I would be gambling in your situation ! Like most gamblers stakes start small and get bigger along with the compulsiveness to gamble again and again. You are at the early stage but have a chance to come clean before its gets worse and believe me it does.

All the Best

Darren

Posted on:
Mon, 23/01/2017 - 16:24

blueteam

Joined:
2017-01-18

Thanks phil and Darren for your responses, really appriecatie them. All forms of gambling we all end up having the same feeling. It was this time last week I lost big and went to play football in the evening, at one point I didn't want the football practice to end as I would know what I lost and how horrible I felt prior to playing football. Also had a big accumulator on which I knew I obv lost but too scared too look as if I knew I had lost I would put more on. Sometimes all that triggers my betting is a simple £5 then leads to £500 and so on. I want to just say I will stop but I doubt I will. Already eying up the fixture for tomorrow. I can stop online casino and just replace it with sports betting. Which really I shouldn't be doing. I have stopped before because I had broke even at one point. But I started again and stopped on a loss. And now started again....just a never ending situation. I have been there and ended putting £100s in roulette machines in bookies, done it at casinos and online, and honestly I don't even know what I'm doing half the time and just burning cash. Going work this morning feeling proper guilty as u see all the hardworking people out there working day and night to make money. While I'm sitting here looking at wasting more money. The thing is I know what I'm doing is wrong and stopping now will help me losing more money. But realistically I doubt I'm gona stop yet.....could go till the weekend but will randomly start. I might transfer all my money to Mrs after bills, but don't want to miss opportunity of a bet which sounds ****** awful. Head is all over the place. 

Posted on:
Mon, 23/01/2017 - 16:27

blueteam

Joined:
2017-01-18

It's so true tho if you were given that first £1 you lost right at the beginning of the gambling journey ,you would stop gambling for good. I rather wish I never ever put that £1 on, because once u started gambling especially for people like me who get addicted it's all down hill. 

Posted on:
Mon, 23/01/2017 - 16:29

blueteam

Joined:
2017-01-18

Then if I'm thinking like that then why don't I just stop and stop chasing my losses as it won't make a difference. It's something in our heads, honestly my head is gone not good. I have the answers in my head but can't think straight to make any sense. If you guys get what I mean...

Posted on:
Tue, 24/01/2017 - 08:59

Cynical wife

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2015-06-23

Morning,

Ok, there's the logical response: You can't have your cake and eat it? Your cake/money has gone, you've spent it on the gambling experience and it's not yours any more. You've had your gambling experience and the money now belongs to the bookies.

Logic isn't going to help much, though. The addiction turns everything round, you have the compulsion to bet so you look for a good reason and getting "your" money back seems like a good reason. Except that it's not your money because you've spent it on the gambling experience. It's all false, spending your money on gambling has caused the financial problem and spending more money on gambling will make it worse. 

As you said, the problem is the addiction itself. You don't have to act on the corrupted logic if you want to stop the misery of gambling. There's a lot you can do to help yourself, if that's what you choose to do. The detail is posted elsewhere but it amounts to counselling, GA, blocks and barriers (without loopholes) and telling your family. Daunting, but it's what will change things.

And wanting to go it alone? The difference between "well" and "ill" is the difference between we and I. Addiction is a problem with "l" and it doesn't work to use your own problematic "l" to fix your problematic "l".  It takes "we" ie the input of other people such as your family, counsellor, fellow GA members. And long term, "we" can do together what "I" can't do alone. But it all starts with your own choices.

Wish you well,

CW

Posted on:
Wed, 25/01/2017 - 00:34

Joydivider

Joined:
2015-03-11

Hi blueteam.

Welcome to the forum

You havent been thinking straight because you have been and still are in the grip of a full blown addiction. You have shown a compulsive addiction so you need a born again moment when you gain the strength to let this go. Its not for you and life is much better without it

They have been pushing these accumulators because its big money for them. They arent ignoring the odds because they set them and nobody is offering a life changing accumulator based on matches like Manchester United vs the Grannies 11. You know all this really

One guy had this so bad that he was betting on Saudi Arabian teams on Christmas day. Thats the way the addiction heads before it spirals into debt homelessness, divorce, bankruptcy and the utter devastation it has in store

Take deep breaths and you need to tell your close family that gambling got to you you need help self excluding and controlling your finances. That stops it I can assure you but the thing is you will feel better like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders.

I put it to you that youre not really enjoying the football because you are wrapped up in the desperate butterfly feeling in the torso. Its more like a grim determination that your next pick will be the one and its more like a cold sweat than anything like fun.

You need to stop and you need a born again moment of realisng that addiction is an illness and you are going to make it history with the strong action you take

Best wishes from everyone on the forum

Posted on:
Wed, 25/01/2017 - 08:30

Phil83

Joined:
2017-01-17

Hi (again) Blueteam,

I totally understood the story about football practice. I have been there, wanting to keep my mind occupired so I don't need to face the reality of my loss. As gamblers, we do that by gambling as well ("I don't want to think about the £100 loss right now" so you end up throwing good money after bad, not with a view to getting it back, but in order to blank out the net result for as long as possible)

Apart from that, I can't really add to what Joydivider said but wanted to wish you all the best and hoping you are still GF.

Keep posting and hope you have a good, gamble-free day.

Phil

P.S - There is a lot of advice on here and some of it is invaluable in helping your recovery. Not everything works for everyone though so don't feel bad if you don't agree with some of it as every recovery is different.

Posted on:
Sun, 29/01/2017 - 06:55

rupidoda

Joined:
2017-01-27

 

Hi blueteam,

I'm new to the forum too, and reading your subject line am in a similar mindset as you ...I.e need to get my money back that have lost. I too feel guilty when my wife thinks about spending a small amount of cash on herself but doesn't as she wants to save while I can go out and lose 1k within a matter of hours.

Anyway, I've now come to terms with that I will never see the money lost again and urge you to do the same. I've also come to the realisation that even if I was to somehow win big and get the money back all I'm going to do is lose it again and start feeling like this again. You need to let go, winning big or getting you money back Is not the answer...and you need to tell yourself that everyday.

A couple of things I'm now trying is when I feel like I want to gamble and tell myself £50 won't be bad, I add a zero and the end of it and think about losing that much and how I would feel. Then I go and either put that amount into a notice bank account or give it to the misses as a "treat"...if she spends it on herself, great, if she saves it even more better...but aleast I know that money has done something better than what I was going to do with it.

Hope that gives you some ideas

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 08:14

blueteam

Joined:
2017-01-18

 

 

 

Hi all,

Been off this for a while but still reading people's stories. As u know when your gambling you lose contact with people hence no posting as started gambling. Been close very close to big wins which has kept me going on gambling. Have been gambling nearly everyday, and attended my first ga meeting last night. Put a bet on before I went to the place, took me over an hour to find, didn't give up tho kept trying to find it in the darkness. Found it eventually and Was ok. Actually talking about it face to face to people wasn't bad. Going to try my best to keep going, it is an hour away. Also another one coming up on Friday but in a different town around 50 mins away. My first day hopefully not gambling feeling very low. 

Sorry to ramble on, thanks for your time 

Toffees 

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 09:20

Rhoda

Joined:
2016-12-06

Hi blue team, well done getting to GA, I know I find it supportive. Have you got blocks in place? No access to cash/cards? You need them initially, or the urges will get you. Love the 'been close very close to big wins'.....surely there are only two outcomes, win or lose, and you have been losing, cos that is what us compulsive gamblers do.....cos even when we have a win, we just bet again and lose. The odds are against us. You can stop. Your life will be better for doing so.

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 09:53

blueteam

Joined:
2017-01-18

Hi Rhoda,

Your right we will never win, I am still feeling I will win my money back and stop I know this won't happen. It's really frustrating, I know I'm not getting my money back just can't get it out my head and count it as a loss and move on. I'm in the process of selling my car not because I can't afford it anymore just need smaller car for Mrs, but I will be getting some money soon and want to transfer it all to my Mrs account but like I have that feeling I can win cash back. I want to stop, like you said need no access to money and cards etc. Don't think I can come clean to Mrs as she will be mad. 

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 11:07

Ottoman

Joined:
2016-08-20

I have the same exact problem. Chasing back. Can gamble online roulette, slots and blackjack and be winning for weeks until one night takes it all (and more) back. Last week was hell and still is, as guilt and hopelesness remain my main two emotions. Was up £2000 in an amazing run of luck, then lost that in one night (had bad feeling that I will lose, but still did it). Next three days, I spent chasing and chasing and chasing until lost another £1000. I was betting stupid in despair, like £100 on just zero spiel, huge side bets on blackjack, crazy football bets and etc. Now completely out of money and 3 weeks away from payday (f****** idiot). I had to tell my girlfriend, who supports me usually, but this time she was having none of it, even threatened to leave. Complete rock bottom.

What makes it even more painful is the fact that I did well recently. Had councelling and was starting to take control of my problem. I just don't understand what makes me think at that time so naively that I can get my money back. Deep inside we all know chasing money back is adding fuel to fire. God damn it

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 11:16

Colz17

Joined:
2017-03-09

Hi Blueteam.

I'm a fellow blue, but I'm much further down the line to you. My total debts are 28k and I'm the same age as you. Difference is I'm living at home with parents when I should be looking to start a family like you. I joined today and haven't posted about my journey yet so watch and listen with interest because you DO NOT want to end up like me.I have a long term girlfriend and Ive let her down as she wants to move out but I'm broke. Ill lose everything if I dont start now. Here's to being GF!!

COYB

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 12:33

blueteam

Joined:
2017-01-18

Hi thanks for all your replies, and welcome aboard fellow blue. 

It's the worst thing ever when you think what you could of done with that money which is the worst bit about it. I posted couple of weeks back and read all the helpful things you guys said, I was £800 but kept bludy going. Gone to 2k now, literally spending all my money until I'm left with £1, then I stop until I get paid and cycle keeps going. Day 1 is today really, already checked today's football bets and screenshots of what I would of put on, for now hopefully won't bet but watch that bet come in typical. I thought GA meeting was helpful, actually was let myself go and told them everything, I feel like I was trying to make myself believe it's wrong and should stop. I have always been really bad about losses even £1 which is crazy, obv before I was a compulsive gambler never used to bother me. My brain is very confused ATM and just want to be happy again when I never used to bet and enjoy time with my kids and Mrs. Got today off work aswell beautiful day, but still feeing lost.

blue team  

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 13:21

blueteam

Joined:
2017-01-18

I don't even earn that much and just about make ends meet, I recently got a interest free credit card, which needs paying within 1 month. So what I have done to feed my bad habits is use all my money up on gambling and use credit card to feed my family, I keep finding ways around it. But when it comes to pay it back i won't have the money to pay it. So it's gone from using my own money basically savings to the banks goodwill. I know it's wrong and aCting dumb in a way to ignore the future problem. Swear this whole situation is the worst I have ever been in. 

 

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 14:02

Colz17

Joined:
2017-03-09

The last year for me has been awful. Last March my cousin borrowed me 5k to pay off credit cards and small overdraft. That was me, pay him back and I'm debt free. It was an 18month loan which will be gone in Spetember. Fast forward a year and I'm over the limit on both cards I've taken out countless payday loans, a 7.5k guarentor loan (which I can't afford) and over 2k to my family. Get out of the cycle NOW! Because it will end badly I promise. I envy you Blueteam because you're not in too deep and have time to turn it around. Even after one morning on this forum I realise that even though Im 28k deep, I have plenty of time and can turn it around for myself. Today will be day 1 of GF for me. I firmly believe I have been given another chance purely by changing my attitude and surrounding myself with positive stories on here. You can do it!!

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 15:05

blueteam

Joined:
2017-01-18

All the best to you my friend, I hope you do get past this, hope we both do. Even reading what you just said to me, that you envy my position, it still isn't getting to me, it's like it won't get to you until your over the 10k mark etc. Just gone for a long walk at the park with lil one asleep in the pram, defo gives you time to reflect 

Posted on:
Thu, 09/03/2017 - 15:39

Colz17

Joined:
2017-03-09

ive no right to give advice other than stop before its too late. I'm starting my journey before you and one position isnt better than the other when wrapped by this life sucking addiction.

I should nhave stopped so so long ago.

Posted on:
Sat, 11/03/2017 - 10:32

blueteam

Joined:
2017-01-18

 

2 days Gf, today will be 3rd day going to be very hard with all the football. Very tempted today urge is high. Been horrible 2 days urges still there 

 

Posted on:
Thu, 23/03/2017 - 08:10

Colz17

Joined:
2017-03-09

Horrible relapse for me since the post. Borrowed 2k... Lost it all. Total.debt over 35k now. When will it end, stomach is twisting, cant go to work. Only one way out for me.

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Sun, 25/03/2018 - 22:23

jerry2018

Joined:
2018-03-25

I entirely agree. You see gambling addiction, is not like others. People give us a title "Gambling addicts", and the truth is, it makes complete sense. You gamble with an intention to win money / make profit. If that result doesn't happen, you continue to do it until that is acheived. If it is not acheived (how ever many chances you can / how ever much money you have), then you end up with no money! Then, your called a gambling addict. People think your addicted to gambling, when the truth is, all you really want / need is the "Money". How ever means of winning it is irrelevant. So i completely relate with you when your saying you wont stop until you get your money back. When you quit, you just prevent losses, but when you continue, although its painful and odds are bad, you may just come through. You have to be in it to win it they say. And i cant just sit back and slave for all my hardly enough money, and pay my debts and live miserably after all the efforts and hope i put into gambling. Something has to give. I've done abstinence and recovery, but primarily, the most important thing and detrimental problems that were going on were money. you even need money to get to a meeting. So my statement is, If you have the courage to swallow it and leave your losses behind, thats fantastic; stop gambling and have faith you'll get over it. Or otherwise, you can be like me where I've been so humiliated and damaged, I have nothing else to lose, so my only hope is "The so called big win" or a great winning streak in which I can pay my way out. The man in the movie called "The Gambler 2014" said "The only way i'm gonna get out, is the same way I came in". If you have that right amount of money on a good price, once or twice your good to go. And yes I wont deny the addiction in itself, but if you win a substantial amount of money to bring your life back, then yes you need serious help. I've never won that so I can't give you evidence that If I win big, i'd continue gambling because i'm addicted. Give me £10,000 right now, I wouldn't gamble a penny of it. Not saying I wouldn't gamble in the future. In conclusion, I think most of us truely want the money. I'ts nothing to do with a buzz. I just want to win money and spend it on nice things and live nicely.

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Mon, 26/03/2018 - 08:48

deepend89

Joined:
2018-03-25

@Jerry2018, I have the same thoughts I just want the money. If I will win big, I will stop. But it will never happened coz i keep chasing my losses, same as everyone. At the moment I am tempted again, this forum is keeping me away from bingo sites. I don't want self exclussions, I have done it before and it doesn't help thy pride when you try to go back and they just shoo you away. So I will just have to control myself, find another outlet for the mind. It's day one for me, I hope by next week I can affirm that its day 7....

Posted on:
Thu, 19/04/2018 - 14:49

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

I am too scared to look at the results for 1.50 at Newmarket. I have lost couple of important grand. Just taken a payday loan and placed £500 bet to win. If it wins I'm never gambling again. If it loses I'm getting another loan. Problem is too scared to look if it won or not. I'm proper stressed out- stomach all over the place. Drinking vodka. Numb the pain if I've lost. I need help man. First time I admit that. All the numbers on roulette add up to 666. Even if you win it's the devil's money. He always gets it back. So listen up chumps and chumpesses. Get spiritual and exercise. I'm getting out of the horrible existence. Hard way or easy depending on the winner at 1.50 Newmarket.

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Thu, 19/04/2018 - 15:16

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

I tell you one thing. If im going down I'm going down fighting. It's all in the balance. Is it Micheal Watson or Micheal Johnson. Am I blowing up like a phoenix on nitro seed or crash and burn like an ill conceived land speed. Record, Hold on let me look at the Sporting life. Oh ****- When I'm gone can someone take care of my wife. I still too scared to look. So I still don't know. I hope that filly didn't fall. I have to pick up the kids from school.

Posted on:
Thu, 19/04/2018 - 15:16

SLS

Joined:
2017-10-21

Win or loose, better to stop now! 

Posted on:
Thu, 19/04/2018 - 15:55

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

Help. Total ****** now. Got to get kids still too scared to look. Don't want to now. Better to wait till they sleeping. As now I still have hope. That's what them ******* Pendle hope! No good *****! No love my kids. Ultimately that's what drives my addiction. The hope to provide something better for my children. My love for them. Like in green mile that's what that evil fuuckhead used on them little girls. Same **** - different modus operandi. We are the moronic fools that drink in that muck. Then we say thanks and come back later. I still haven't looked at the result of my life. Still too scared. Someone tell me the winner. PLEASE!

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Thu, 19/04/2018 - 19:09

wittle71

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2018-04-17

Not sure if this is a wind up or not about the 1.50 newmarket . Hope not cos this sites no place for joking about

Posted on:
Thu, 19/04/2018 - 21:33

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

I ain't joking I lost.

Posted on:
Thu, 19/04/2018 - 22:58

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

Just got another payday loan and blew the lot on roulette. Not being accepted for anymore. Guess this is the end of the rope. Not sure what to do. Thinking of running away. I'm too old for this nonsense. I will finish this vodka and hope to die in the night. I love my little boy. Why can't I be normal? Why can't I give him a good start. Why am I such a LOSER!

Posted on:
Thu, 19/04/2018 - 23:02

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

No answers here for me. If I wasn't a dad I would end my life.

Posted on:
Thu, 19/04/2018 - 23:12

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

Nobody cares about this. One comment. Telling me I'm joking. Someone needs to help me. I need help. What can I do? I need treatment or something. I just don't know what to do!!!

Posted on:
Thu, 19/04/2018 - 23:26

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

All these payday loans and I don't even have a job. I have strong guilt about my little boy. He's sleeping now happy. I bought this vodka when I was up about 1200. I was happy then. By the time the bottle finished 48 hours later in about 2 shots time. I had lost over £3000. Not much for some people but for me it was everything I had and more. I was going to buy a van. Thrown that new van away now. Please someone tell me where I can get some sort of help. Is it a mental problem? Can I commit myself to hospital. I need a line in the sand. I need to change this. Please someone tell me how they got away from this lifestyle.

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Fri, 20/04/2018 - 00:01

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

So it's Micheal Watson. All the best people. Don't be a loser like me. Get out while you are still young. I'm gone - another casualty - another life wasted. I lost every woman I loved because of gambling. I can't quit. I have tried so many times. It would be more beneficial to the ones I love. If I wasn't around. I have to go now. I doubt anyone will make a fuss for a wretch like me. Hopefully my son won't remember what a screw up basket case loser his daddy was. Peace love. Don't gamble you fools. Out.

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Fri, 20/04/2018 - 08:20

amanda0324

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2018-03-29

 

STORAGEHUNTER, 

Hi, I just now saw all of these, I really really hope you are okay!! It’s such a hard thing to have to deal with, but I do agree that you definitely need help! Start here! You can talk to someone free on the phone! 

Posted on:
Fri, 20/04/2018 - 10:53

STORAGEHUNTER

Joined:
2018-04-19

I spoke to nice woman on the phone for nearly an hour but hasn't changed anything. Im still screwed. I have decided too keep everything to myself and try and work my way out of this situation. I think having a voice at the end of the phone helped me. Because I do feel more positive now. I've got £20 to my name. Actually I owe thousands so that's nonsense. I'm not gambling that £20 I'm not spending it on weed to help me forget. I'm spending it on a pitch at the carboot at the weekend. I would love to go residential for 3 months and get proper counciling but need to look after my boy. I will have to stay strong and keep trying always to do the right thing. I'm going to build a fantastic life for myself and my boy. I have to try.

Posted on:
Fri, 20/04/2018 - 20:41

Bryan

Joined:
2017-12-24

Hi Storage Hunter . I’m sorry you are feeling beaten by your addiction at the moment . No one said it is going to be easy . It looks like you have hit your rock bottom moment and you have come through the other side . You are still here to tell the tale and for that you should see this as a fresh opportunity . Everyone has war wounds and battle scars most of it mental . It boils down right now to a signpost for you . Take care one route or the other route . You seem to have a self destruct button like every single one of us here . It will get easier day by day when you distance yourself from the gambling . It hasn’t really worked for any of us in our life hence coming to this site . You see we can’t win. Not ever. Maybe small wins but at what cost ? It isn’t all about the money you know that . It’s hurting people around us , loved ones . We don’t mean to but it’s a biproduct of our addiction . We start out meaning to be good honest decent people but we get consumed by gambling to the point of nothing else matters . In a short space of time if you are committed to stopping life significantly improves . I have said before on here to give this 3 months . Follow the advice . Self exclude . Hand control of your money over to someone close to you . Occupy your time with something more productive . Make it a habit not to gamble where normally it is . After those 3 months you will be no worse off than you are now but given it a good go and will hopefully see the benefits of stopping . You sleep better , you don’t worry as much , you don’t have to lie to others or even yourself . You can do this ! 

Posted on:
Fri, 20/04/2018 - 21:31

valdab

Joined:
2018-03-10

Bryan...I just want to say...I dont know what you do for a living but if you ever think of a caree change I think you have found your calling! I have only been on this site a short time and any time I see a response from you I am compelled to read it. You always offer the right balance between 'reality check' and and encouragment and support etc. I suppose you are coming from a great place in that you are only too familiar with this addiction process (unfortunately!)...you cant beat living the experience so to speak. So thank you...your responses help me alot. I am filled with positivity when I read your replys and the attitude that I can beat this if I follow the advice etc.Sorry to hi jack the thread of someone else but Im not sure theres a way to message you seperately without starting a new thread. We need more people like you Bryan...I find you a great councellor.Thank you :-)