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Posted on:
Fri, 22/06/2018 - 21:12

Little miss lost

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2016-05-24

1000 days - what can I say. . . Your story must give hope to those who feel hopeless and your words and advice gives help to those who feel totally helpless.
Thank you for sharing and proving that no matter how desperate people may feel, never give up because it can be done. Take it a day at a time and those days will add up.
Massive congratulations Martin
May you continue to KTF.

Posted on:
Fri, 22/06/2018 - 21:26

Little miss lost

Joined:
2016-05-24

Ps. I remember your posts from long ago when you said how your mum used to get you a beer ready for when you came in from GA and how you would remember to thank her for being there for you. Don't know why it stuck with me but it did. Maybe it was because i was a mum and I hoped that I could be there when needed for my children. The chances of that have massively risen now that I've got blocks in place - listen at me, now look who's rambling!! Haha!
All good wishes

Posted on:
Sun, 24/06/2018 - 06:35

Garyl1976

Joined:
2015-01-02

Congratulations on 1000 days Martin - great achievement 

Posted on:
Sat, 28/07/2018 - 09:06

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I’ve not had a bet today or since my last post. 

Thanks for all the messages guys 1000 days who’d of thunk it. 

Thought I’d do a quick catch up as I’m sat in the back garden on the deck chair under a tree avoiding the rain showers lol. I stayed at my old house last night and forgot my keys, mums normally up early but must of fancied a lie in so not going to wake her up she must need it. 

It’s easier to sit out here than wait at the old house as the ex has got home from work. It’s not that we don’t get in these days can’t remember last time we had an argument but this probably because we keep our conversations to a minimal. 

Anyhow all’s good in my world even nearly 3 years on I still get the fleeting thought of a bet every now and then I think everyone does, the voice in the back of your mind to say this time would be different. I know that’s not the case and I never come close to date but still keep my guides high and keep adding to my blocks, must be 200 bookies now got Gamstop in place, there no worries excuse not to do it if you are serious about stopping. 

I see the Chatroom is back, I’ve missed that not that I went on it every night like I used to but always liked to pop every week or two. I’ll give it a go when it’s  back on in the evening as can’t do the day time slots, no pun intended. 

Got a few days off next week so a few days out with my lad, Jodrell Bank  a trip round Manchester to do the Bee trail I looked at a few night away but so expensive for hotels just to sleep there we’d rather spend the money on doing things rather than thinking can I afford that. 

My lads final year at school next year if his mock results are anything to go by hrs got a bright future all A and B’s apart from French so he better not want to move there. 

Got a trip out today one of those that always puts a smile on my face, taking a GA member to so bookies to self exclude, cant let him go in on his own, I’ve done it a few times and it’s weird going back in the noises do bring back memories, were only doing a few local ones in person as I get the impression he’s well known in them so I’ll be making them aware they ain’t to let him in. Last time I did it they pulled me to say I’m barred but ince I explained why I was in they let me carry on lol. 

I’ll go and have a read of a few diaries while I wait for sleepy heads to get. 

KTF

Posted on:
Sat, 28/07/2018 - 09:43

ODAAT

Joined:
2014-11-10

Once met never forgot eh?!?  Kudos to the staff that pulled you!

Really good to hear your updates my friend :-)

Amazing what can be achieved if we put the work in to our recovery - ODAAT 

Posted on:
Sat, 28/07/2018 - 10:31

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

I wrote a bleedy long post...then lost it !
Ffs. ..lol
Basically saying....topman...
Hugs and kisses....
Xx

Posted on:
Sat, 28/07/2018 - 16:18

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I write this post knowing the response I should get. 

I’ve drunk in the same pub as my Dad for years and he’s just come in an hour after me and asked where Gary was. I knew why it’s so he can put his bet on. He’s not been in the best of health so struggles to get to the bookies he would have asked my in years gone by but won’t now for obvious reasons. I’ve seen him when I’ve walked in on him hide the paper and the slip lol I’ve known he still has a bet be he tries to protect me from it it’s not big money as you’ll see in a minute. 

He has a lucky 15 at the weekend maybe at a festival or major meeting. As Gary wasn’t going to be here before his first race he’s asked me to text him to put it on for him. I don’t mind I’ve no interest if they win or lose but it gives him a bit of pleasure he’s in control always has been he can’t understand why I am not. Because he can do that 10p lucky 15 and leave it till next week he doesn’t know why I can’t. 

He’s supported my through this I’m not going to take away that but if fun he has and that’s what it is fun. The fun stopped for me but not for him. 

I’m comfortable in facilitating a bet for him it will be a one off. Anyhow I rambling now. 

KTF 

Posted on:
Sat, 28/07/2018 - 16:53

geordie

Joined:
2009-08-17

Nowt wrong with rambling

It sure beats gambling!

 

 

Wow just checked your profile (just being nosey), and read your first post, on what I think is your first thread (Better to ramble than gamble). Hopefully I'll have time to read the whole thread in the next day or two.

I'm pleased you've managed to turn yourself around. 

An inspiration to many, I'm sure.

Was that post the start of this period of recovery? I'll know the answer once I've read it, just curios.

Take care, and thanks for sharing.

 

Posted on:
Thu, 16/08/2018 - 16:22

TM1985

Joined:
2016-05-30

Good to catch up today Oldham. 1000+ days who would have thought. An inspiration to many. Your phrase 'better to ramble than gamble' has always stuck with me. Interestingly I found it hard to do in real life now I know I need to open up more to those around me. Easier now they know what's going on in my head.

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 13:58

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I’ve not had a bet today or since my last post.

Well I’m coming up to the 3 year mark, when I first started I couldnt go 3 hours without thinking of a bet. I have to post this here as they don’t have active Gamcare diaries anymore but if memory service me correctly my old mate Alan should be hitting 3 years in the next day or so, I’m sure he will be lurking in the shadows so hopefully he will see this, well done bud if you need anything you know how to get in touch x. The same thankyou goes to Deano who was still going well the last time I spoke, need to give him a text to check in with him, he will be 2 years in a couple of days. Cant thank both these guys enough I’m sure they are out there fighting the fight and hopefully hitting these milestones.

As for me all’s going well, just booked a break for me and my son in October to Cologne, looking forward to it was nice to book and chose the hotel we wanted without any worry about the cost, we’ve not gone mad but not gone for the cheapest.

Had a catch up with my brother at the weekend not had a one to one talk for ages normally were always with family when we meet so was nice to be able to have a chat and thank him for all the support he’s given me these last 3 years. He paid off a few bits for me at the start and I’ve never really paid him back, he doesn’t want it back but one day I want to give it him. He’s just a top lad always there if needed to keep on the straight and narrow. To this day I have still never set up a bank account in my name, I see this as a massive block but I need to get one set up if I’m to move on, he asked me why I hadn’t and I just said its working without me having it now and one less temptation in the way. He’s said get it put in place and he will monitor it for me. Just little things like that show how good a guy he is.

Not much else been going on still attend GA weekly, all going well there we changed venues which was a bit of a nightmare but everything seems to have settled down and the room is going from strength to strength now. All is just generally going well life’s much more manageable without gambling in it. Ill leave it there.

KTF

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 14:16

Amom

Joined:
2014-10-09

Congratulations!

Cathyx

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 15:03

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

Thanks I’m Not there yet so won’t count my chickens but I’ve no reason to go back and lots of reason to stay away

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 15:48

Amom

Joined:
2014-10-09

Not really congratulations on your day count but congratulations on a life in recovery which is such a gift to your son, your parents and most importantly yourself!!

You are an inspiration to both sides of the forum.

Cathyx

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 15:52

A 9

Joined:
2018-08-31

That's quite strange that I've only just logged on again in the last few day's because someone caught my attention and although I'm not day counting anymore it must be the whole 3 yr thing coming up as I new it was in September ish ? A 9 wasn't going to take long to work out was it 1+3+5 = ? but there again you were alway's good at the maths wer'nt you Martin :)) .

I was going to come on with a 3yr speech but you know how I go on and there's really not enough time in the day for most people with job's to read it .!! .

Sooo glad to hear thing's are going well for you mate and that your still gamble free but I never really doubted that of you buddy and also great to read of how well your son's done with his education and I imagine your so proud of him and all he's achieved which comes accros whenever you mention him :)) . 

A trip to Cologne eh?? , sound's great . I went there when I was a kid with my parent's , it's a lovely city and the Dom cathederal stand's out in my mind , full of bullet holes in the walls from WW2 , I also went to Hamburg with them and can remeber a trip to the Reeperbhan with my dad who wanted to show his 14 yr old son certain ladies of ill repute ? . That was an eye opener ( no pun intended ) and questions to my dad like " What are the ladies holding in the windows" and " Why are the lampshades Red " ? Then one guy comes running out obviously without paying and the lady chasing him shouting in a thick "German accent "  Vhat abouut my Mark's " ( pre euro) and him replying "  Sorry... I'll give you 4 out of 10 " Sorry mate , you knew there'd be one in there somewhere right ? and no they haven't got any better :((. 

Glad to hear Deano's all good as well :)) He's probably built a thousand houses since we last spoke , HA HA, HA , HA, HA, HAHAHAHA, sorry couldn't stop then and have you heard from that other woman Lorry , Lottie , ?? You know the one with the Pub ? Oh yeah , Loxxie that's the one , I hope she's well and still screaming at the punter's " Get aaaaat muy Puuuub " :)) xx.

So now you can see why no 3yr speech :)) but I am doing well and like yourself still on the straight and narrow although I'd be lying if I didn't say I don't think of it still but it's a fleeting moment now and soon passes and I'm all to aware of how it would end and it's somewhere I never want to visit again .

2  more foster children have set up home with us and we still have the eldest boy from our original batch ( makes them sound like Gremlins ) all with a different set of emotinal issues but as with us on here with a bit of TLC and shown the way forward everything will be well :)) , my kids are all well and my grandson's just turned a year old with walking being imminent and grandad having to do lots of chasing but I love it :)) .

Anyway I'd better let you go now if your still awake and let you know that as alway's it been a pleasure to walk this recovery road with you and that the support youv'e given along the journey weve walked has been greatly apreciated ( not by me but those youve supported you understand ) LoL , LoL , youv'e missed this be honest . 

Take care my oldest and dearest and keep up the Northern soul dancing :)) 

Love to you and your's and I'll talk to soon old friend 

Alan x 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 16:29

Amom

Joined:
2014-10-09

Sooo happy to hear you are doing well Alan :)

As they say... recovery looks like recovery!

Cathyx

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 19:22

volcano

Joined:
2010-07-05

 

Hello Martin. 

Firstly, 3 birds one stone as your diary is the conduit - Good on you, Alan and Dean for your continued  rediscovery. Pass on my regards to the slasher Dean. 

It’s superb that you continue to respect this addiction, and yet strive on as well as passing on and giving back. 

Said that as I sit on my bucket and look down from this lofty height of championship leaders. Thinking my rediscovery is in tune with the mighty Leeds returning to the summit of world domination. 

Cologne a cool city, but keep your hands in your pockets. A pun there, as last placed I lived in 2 hand days.

‘ Ein Kolsh bitter ‘ about as much  left of my German but will keep you in good stead. 

All the best 

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 20:13

Jason5819

Joined:
2018-09-03

A9? And there was me thinking you’d gone all upmarket with your new chip wrapping.

Well done both on the upcoming treble, double for me tomorrow. Time flies huh?  

So I guess in a way this is one of those old American school reunions. 

Me I’m doing well and it’s good to see you guys are too,  thanks for all the help you gave me over the time we were here. 

I’ll keep it short as I don’t want to take away from Oldham’s post and wish you all well on recovery road. 

Until next time 

Almost forgot volcano, line up

X

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 21:53

A 9

Joined:
2018-08-31

In the absence of a page to call my own  ( sorry martin hijacking your thread ) 

Hi Jason ? Yeah gone all digital instead of anolog :)) Good to hear your doing so well mate and congrats on 2 yr's XX

Cathy and Paul , thank for your kind word's and thought's and good to hear from you both :)) xx

Love to all x  

Posted on:
Mon, 03/09/2018 - 22:35

ODAAT

Joined:
2014-11-10

Big up you all - ODAAT 

Posted on:
Tue, 04/09/2018 - 07:28

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I knew you’d both be lurking great to here from you and pleased to see you’re both on target for the next milestone.  

Nice to see you offering words of wisdom Al and even better to see you still fostering nd helping them youngsters to a better start in life. 

Just sent Jason a text to congratulate him and will have a catch up with him after work  

Good to hear from you too Paul nice to see you taking up a few months less nice to see those who’s name I can’t mention pushing for the premier leagues,all I’d say is there’s a long way to go so plenty of time for you to implode again. 

Hey Kelly big up to you to x

Posted on:
Tue, 04/09/2018 - 23:48

Forum admin

Joined:
2010-11-01

Dear Oldham,

as you sort of kind of started celebrating your three year gamble free mark, a huge congratulations from us Forum admins as well.

Your contributions have been invaluable here on the Forum and in the Chatrooms as well and you are an inspiration to all. 

A huge congratulation to Alan and Dean as well.

Keep posting and keep enjoying the fruits of your work and efforts.

All the best,

Eva

Forum Admin

 

 

Posted on:
Wed, 05/09/2018 - 15:41

A 9

Joined:
2018-08-31

" I thought I saw someone following your advice " , Why so suprised Martin ?? LoL :)) 

Thank's for letting me know Loxxies ok but like yourself she's made of tough stuff so I kinda knew she would but pass on my regards to the old gal when you speak :)).

I did see the post from admin which was nice , I think for you like me the day's arn't as relevant as they were but it's nice to have it documented , I don't know how it works but I'm assuming you get another pin from GA ? perhaps you could let me know if that's the case but congratulations to you my old friend in any case . 7th of sept you say , tbh I wasn't 100% sure but I'll always remember my daughters birthday on the 4th as the time it all came to a head , dark day's but  like you it lead me to better things .:)).

Stay well Old buddy and we'll talk soon x

Posted on:
Thu, 04/10/2018 - 20:33

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I’ve not had a bet for 3 years and 11 days. 

 

Obviously I would of posted sooner but haven’t been able to due to the issues with the site. Would I have got to the 3 years if I couldn’t log or sign up 3 years ago? Maybe I would as I also had GA from day 1. I know 100% it would have been a hell of a lot harder. 

 

I emailed Gamcare a few times and could sense there frustration, I wonder if it was one of the betting firms site had similar issues it would have taken this long to sort out, I think not!!! But they have the money to sort it. 

 

Moving on, things are going well, no thoughts of gambling well non to mention the odd fleeting thought. 

 

Families good my lad doing great looking forward to our little breakaway in Cologne at the start of Nov, parents are good actually on there jollies so house to my self a bit of Barry Horne on the big telly although don’t need that so much these days ;)

 

GA still a massive part of my recovery and had some great meetings recently, I did lose a little love of GA a few frustrations but really enjoying it recently been some new blood coming through door who seem to getting it quite quickly. 

 

Work going better than ever over achieving constantly, to think I actually used to constantly gamble to try and earn more money all the time I just need to do my job, gambling is just madness. 

 

Hopefully the issues with the site are resolved now, I hope it wasn’t as simple as removing CAPTCHA. Saying that I suppose ever problem looks simple once you no the solution. 

 

Thanks to everyone who has supported me over the last 3 years. I’ll leave it there as always it’s better to ramble than gamble. 

 

KTF

 

Posted on:
Thu, 04/10/2018 - 21:06

Change

Joined:
2015-01-30

Well done Oldham! Great 3 year stint! Very supportive forum member over that period.

Posted on:
Fri, 05/10/2018 - 21:11

Forum admin

Joined:
2010-11-01

Dear Oldham,

huge congrats from us Forum admins as well on your 3 years and 12 days gf!

So good to hear how good life is for you and your family and good to hear that you are still working your recovery.

Really sorry again about the log-in issue, it looks like it has improved.

All the very very best,

Eva

Forum Admin

Posted on:
Fri, 05/10/2018 - 23:22

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Blimey....id forgot about dear old Barry. ...I'm just intrigued to know why you've not bothered with you're old mate so much nowadays.....something you want to tell me mart
Mwahhhhh x

Posted on:
Tue, 09/10/2018 - 20:55

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Wow....that really was some cake....huge effort martyn...I'm totally flattered....
I do like the odd cryptic clue....probs cose I'm a nosey old bat. ...but if it's what I think ....I'm made up ....thanks for always being here xx

Posted on:
Tue, 09/10/2018 - 21:08

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

A blast from the past, well done mate we joined at the same time and shared many a chat. Ive finally managed a good 2018 and couldn't be better due to it. Huge congrats adam

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