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#1 Posted on:
Mon, 27/05/2013 - 04:36

SB28

Joined:
2013-05-25

Joined GC & became part of the family in 2013....

 

The only thing you have to do to help with your life & recovery...is - Let go!

 

https://youtu.be/s_Vg5NN7LBo

 

For my friend Rachel..https://youtu.be/eOfHQjuEM70

For my friend Joan.....https://youtu.be/6Cp6mKbRTQY

For dear friend SA....https://youtu.be/gdf5XaHU11U

To my friend Ryan.......apols...seems to come too close to the truth :-P....https://youtu.be/kEvE_04x-xI

For dear friend Stephen....https://youtu.be/eVqPFDessyQ

My lovely friend Carla....miss you...https://youtu.be/sekLEG8xsOs

Lovely Soulie of course ☺....https://youtu.be/hu6GviOiz8s

To Sesuo.....https://youtu.be/cQ-48rr6Wfo

Dear friend Freda....https://youtu.be/k2qgadSvNyU

S..(Blondie ☺) ....https://youtu.be/L0MK7qz13bU

Dear Castle....you turned your life around & this vid comes close to transformation you have reached (not phys8cal matter but the clue is in never giving up..plus this song was my fav when I joined GC..so many memories..! Im very proud of you& your family!.....https://youtu.be/M97vR2V4vTs

For some reason deep connection with this song (maybe more the vid) resonates with V (Paul)..proud of you! ...https://youtu.be/KDPW_g2AhAU 

Lil miss wild child of course ☺....https://youtu.be/1y6smkh6c-0

 

& GamCare....our angels.....https://youtu.be/BWf-eARnf6U

Sandra1/ SJ/ Pasimetus/ S_J_B/ SB28......S&B xxx

Posted on:
Mon, 27/05/2013 - 09:37

castle2

Joined:
2012-01-30

Hi Sandra

A big well done on the 7 days gamble free it might not seen much but when gambling has played a big part of ur life for the last year it takes a massive mental step change just to stop so be proud of urself for that as is really is not easy

Life problems play a massive part in why people gamble its sometimes easier to gamble and block all that pain away instead of facing up to them , finding the balance is key try to deal with what u can and the ones u can't leave them and dont worry till u can

Ultimately though it all comes down to choices to make that decision to choose whether to gamble or not , one will lead to a life of misery the one u know oh so well the other will be a life of whatever u make it , gambling is ruthless it will take everything from u it doesn't know when to stop , it takes all our self belief self confidence and replaces it with self hatred and loathing

Hopefully after 7 days the real u will start to return the confidence and belief will come back , each day u dont gamble will make u stronger and strength is the key in fighting this disease

Plan ur days well , boredom is another key factor and when u do go out take out what u need only take no chances and dont let complacency play any part

Stay close to this amazing site get all the support and advice there is and put into ur own recovery

I wish u all the best

Castle2

Posted on:
Mon, 27/05/2013 - 13:12

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Sandra

Welcome to this forum! You are right, its a great place for support and sharing ideas.

Well done on taking the initial steps. I look forward to following your progress and wish you well!

Take care
Irene
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Posted on:
Mon, 27/05/2013 - 19:28

atk85

Joined:
2012-06-05

Good on you for finding your way here, Sandra. You really are better off for having decided to quit the gambling. I was similar. My gambling went on for about a year and half, but I reached the point where you're probably at now where you need to stop for your own good. I wish you well on the start of an amazing journey. You can do this!
Best tip for the early days is if you have any urge to gamble, get yourself here instead. Post in your diary or read others. Urges will pass as the time will. You'll be stronger and will beat this.
All the best
Alex

Posted on:
Tue, 28/05/2013 - 07:41

liberator

Joined:
2013-05-21

Hi Sandra, looks like we stopped together, I was hooked big time on the betting shop roulette, its been a period of 4 years that's seen my life spiral out of control and into debt, these things are evil.
Gamcare were great they got a councillor in place for me very quickly, this forum whether reading or posting is the place to gain strength and determination especially in those dark moments when the urges become strong.
Stay strong and true to yourself, be proud of day 8 money isn't everything, it helps but we have lives to live and try to enjoy.... Straight forward, no looking back fake care x

Posted on:
Tue, 28/05/2013 - 08:52

thetractor

Joined:
2013-05-27

Hello Sandra,

Congratulations for your decision and keep strong...i wish i could tell you how to defeat your demons,i cant because i cant do this for myself very well( but i fight it)...i also have this problem with nightmares,i can not sleep very well i dream of playing roulette...i think i shall move my jogging in the evening to exhaust myself and hope to sleep better....try to keep yorself busy!Be strong!Ivan

Posted on:
Wed, 29/05/2013 - 14:51

atk85

Joined:
2012-06-05

Well done on your 10 days, Sandra. Double figures now. Don't look back. You can do this. Stay strong, be positive.
All the best
Alex

Posted on:
Wed, 29/05/2013 - 14:55

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Sandra,

i have been 4 days now, and last night i dreamt i was gambling, pretty surreal, funny cos i didnt make me feel good in my dream, I was just frustrated and anxious......keep up the good work!!

Phil

Posted on:
Wed, 29/05/2013 - 17:57

liberator

Joined:
2013-05-21

Brick by brick, no looking back

Posted on:
Thu, 30/05/2013 - 07:36

stu38

Joined:
2011-06-22

Hi Sandra
well done on your 10 days- brilliant! you can do it. I've just read your diary and really identify with it, I too have been dreaming about gambling and been feeling really low for a lot of my 20 gamble free days. I know that is to do with just missing the rush of it. I don't want to go back to those horrible feelings of despair and shame when I lost and lost and lost.
I'm glad you enjoyed the chat- I've really valued it too, wasn't able to get on there last night as was working but its really good to talk with others who understand.
stay strong- you can do it.
we will not gamble today
Stux

Posted on:
Thu, 30/05/2013 - 12:06

liberator

Joined:
2013-05-21

Hi Sandra, 10 days on I can't sleep those intrusive thoughts haunt me, I feel sick, I don't feel good, but I hope one day these thoughts will leave me, walk past the place and hate what it has done, imagine those machines covered in stinking manure, an evil cancer, we don't need em we re not gonna take it anymore..
We can do it together we are strong, focus on day to day things then one day Liberation.. stay strong

Posted on:
Thu, 30/05/2013 - 20:01

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hey Sandra

It was great to catch up in "chat". You deserve to be proud- you are doing great!

I find it useful to anticipate potentially difficulties and work out a wee plan to manage them- looks like you did that today :-)

I hope the session went well.

Hopefully catch up soon
Irene
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Posted on:
Fri, 31/05/2013 - 08:44

stu38

Joined:
2011-06-22

hey Sandra
thanks for posting on my diary and lovely to talk with you on chat.
Well done for walking past temptation yesterday- you can do it, one day at a time.
Stuxx

Posted on:
Fri, 31/05/2013 - 22:27

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Sandra

You are doing great! 12 days- fab :-)

I'm sure the "racing mind" will settle as you get more used to thinking without the gambling "fog". You are right, take it a wee bit at a time. Remember, the cravings are only thoughts (horrible ones!) but so long as we don't act on them we'll be fine :-)

Have a great weekend and keep at it!
Irene
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Posted on:
Sat, 01/06/2013 - 21:35

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hey Sandra

I know that post- nightshift feeling too well, yuk!
You are doing really well. You are right, the road can be bumpy but as each day passes, you'll deal with the bumps differently or even manage to avoid them :-)
Keep up the great effort
Irene
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Posted on:
Sun, 02/06/2013 - 06:38

stu38

Joined:
2011-06-22

Hey Sandra, congratulations on your 2 weeks!, well done- brilliant achievement. It can be a difficult road and as you say there definitely are some bumps in it aren't there, but its worth it!
keep going- stay strong.
take care
Stux

Posted on:
Sun, 02/06/2013 - 21:32

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Sandra

2 weeks- well done :-)
I hope your shift's an easy one tonight.
You ARE doing it- keep it up!
Irene
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Posted on:
Mon, 03/06/2013 - 03:35

myles

Joined:
2013-03-04

Well done Sandra

The first few weeks are torrid because gambling consumes all thoughts (or at least it did for me). If you can compose yourself when the impulse comes and remember the commitment to change that you've made, you can talk yourself out of it once you consider how far you have come and how much can still be achieved.

Having an idea of things to do in free time is a good course of action. At least until the strongest impulses pass.

Good luck with everything, Myles

Posted on:
Mon, 03/06/2013 - 11:09

stu38

Joined:
2011-06-22

Hi Sandra
thanks for your kind words on my diary.
well done on getting through these first few weeks, its not easy is it but CONGRATULATIONS. Perhaps time for a little 'well done' treat, something simple that you can enjoy, even if its a nice bar of choc or glass of wine????
hope you have a good day today
Stuxx

Posted on:
Tue, 04/06/2013 - 02:22

duncanmac

Joined:
2012-01-26

Sandra.
may i take this opportunity to congratulate you on your continued abstinence.
you have a great deal of determination which will continue to serve you well.
your resolve grows with each post making your diary a pleasure to read.
keep up the good work.
be kind to yourself.
duncs stepping forward never back.

Posted on:
Wed, 05/06/2013 - 00:45

stu38

Joined:
2011-06-22

hey Sandra
thanks for the note on my diary, glad to hear you are ok. well done on day 17! take care, stay strong.
Stux

Posted on:
Wed, 05/06/2013 - 02:26

Adam321

Joined:
2012-07-31

Well done Sandra and you should definitely be proud of yourself. Every day without gambling is a great achievement. Just keep going now one day at a time I know what you mean about it getting harder after a few weeks ive struggled many times myself. But just think you could be posting on here in a couple of weeks saying how you've managed a full month without gambling that really would be an achievement and I look forward to seeing that diary entry from you. Keep up the good work.

Posted on:
Wed, 05/06/2013 - 14:28

Stubbsy

Joined:
2013-02-09

Hey Sandra, thank you for your message. I hope all's going well for you. Catch up on chat sometime.

Stub.

Posted on:
Thu, 06/06/2013 - 07:56

Charlottex

Joined:
2011-12-10

Hi Sandra,

Well done on 18 days gamble free, u r doing gr8 :)

Each day we do not gamble is a better one, u should be so proud of urself :)

Have a gr8 day xx

Posted on:
Thu, 06/06/2013 - 20:48

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Sandra

Well done, you're doing great! I know it's not easy at times but your positive, determined attitude will get you through I'm sure.

Sorry I've not been about much this week, thanks so much for the encouragement.

Take care
Irene
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Posted on:
Mon, 10/06/2013 - 10:38

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Hey Sandra, was just writing on my post that I thought 17 days was a lifetime, it feels that way, but maybe that is because when we were in our own world, precious time and life passed us by. Hope work is good for you today/tonight and use those urges that you had yesterday as more motivation for you to achieve your goals.

Phil
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Posted on:
Mon, 10/06/2013 - 22:35

needtomoveon

Joined:
2013-06-09

Hey Sandra, just wanted to say well done for what u have achieved so far. I am new to this site and a few weeks behind you, but reading the posts lets me realise however tough it is it is still possible to get though day by day! Keep up the good work. Try not to stress about ur job, although I don't know the situation it sounds as if they must trust and respect you if they are leaving you to cope on your own - I'm sure it doesn't feel great but you come across as do strong and determined in your posts (even if u dont realise it) don't let others get u down. It is journeys like yours that make me feel more able to do this. Thank you x

Posted on:
Tue, 11/06/2013 - 06:45

stu38

Joined:
2011-06-22

Hi Sandra
sorry that work has been pants for the past few days, but glad to see that you have pushed through without gambling. You are right, life is so much better without it. Stay strong, have a great day today, all the best.
Stux

Posted on:
Tue, 11/06/2013 - 19:08

castle2

Joined:
2012-01-30

Hi Sandra

Really pleased how well ur doin , its great to see u supporting others as well , for me thats always been the best way to recover , it will give u so much strength knowing ur helping others

Feel for u with work I had the same last week , try to break it down do what u can prioritise and the main thing try not to stress

Ur doin fantastically well and nothing makes me happier to see u keep striding forward

Castle2

Posted on:
Thu, 13/06/2013 - 06:38

stu38

Joined:
2011-06-22

well done Sandra on 25 days- brilliant
stay strong- have a good day.
Stuxx

Posted on:
Thu, 13/06/2013 - 21:09

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Sandra

Sorry, didn't get a chance to "chat" much earlier.
The post to your dad is beautiful.

Almost a month gamble free- you should be so proud!
Take care
Irene
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Posted on:
Fri, 14/06/2013 - 15:11

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Hey Sandra,

good chatting as always, I think one thing you can hopefully see is that it already has got better in the last 26 days, still will be tough but will always get that little bit easier. Keep up the great work!!

Phil

Posted on:
Fri, 14/06/2013 - 19:07

needtomoveon

Joined:
2013-06-09

Hey there, just wanted to say congrats on the 26 days! Its was one of the first diaries I read - so a real inspiration! Keep up the good work x

Posted on:
Sat, 15/06/2013 - 20:47

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Sandra

A massive "well done" on 27 days- what a smashing effort!

Phew- 6 nightshifts is a killer, no wonder you're tired. I hope you have a few off afterwards to re-charge.

Take care of you
Irene
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Posted on:
Sat, 15/06/2013 - 21:38

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi again Sandra
Sorry to hear about the rubbish at work.....what does strike me about your last post is your determination and strength to face up to problems now...keep it up!

Irene
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Posted on:
Mon, 17/06/2013 - 09:17

FEB 2013

Joined:
2013-02-01

Well done Sandra. You are doing really great - you will soon be notching up 50 days.

Take care.

Feb.

Posted on:
Mon, 17/06/2013 - 09:20

stu38

Joined:
2011-06-22

hey Sandra

well done nearly 30days- keep going- you can do it. Hope that you have a great week.
Stux

Posted on:
Mon, 17/06/2013 - 10:35

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Hi Sandra, hope work ok for you this week, well done on the 29 days, keep up the great work!!

Phil

Posted on:
Mon, 17/06/2013 - 14:07

Adam321

Joined:
2012-07-31

Well done Sandra good to see you're doing well.

Posted on:
Wed, 19/06/2013 - 09:11

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hey Sandra

So glad you've managed to catch up with some well deserved rest!
Well done on 30days-I hope you're rewarding yourself with a wee treat!
Hopefully we'll catch up on chat soon.

Take care
Irene
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Posted on:
Thu, 20/06/2013 - 05:07

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

You were just obviously so pleased to be back at work!! Day 32, wow, keeps getting better and better, just as I imagine your whole life is!!

keep it up

Phil

Posted on:
Thu, 20/06/2013 - 08:46

FEB 2013

Joined:
2013-02-01

Well done Sandra.

Its great being sensible isn't it!!

Stay strong and continue doing what you ae doing.

Feb.

Posted on:
Thu, 20/06/2013 - 21:43

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Smiling Sandra :-)

I smiled reading about your smiling day!

You are doing great- keep hold of the positives and a whole weekend to look forward to.

Keep up the fantastic effort- you're reaping the benefits of all your hard work!

Take care
Irene
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Posted on:
Fri, 21/06/2013 - 07:58

FEB 2013

Joined:
2013-02-01

Hi Sandra

lovely to read that you are still doing really well and are smiling!

Remain strong and committed and your smile will remain I can assure you.

Enjoy your weekend

Feb..

Posted on:
Fri, 21/06/2013 - 14:59

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Hey Sandra,

thanks for your message on my diary, this being happy seems to be infectious!! Let's give ourselves a big pat on the back, keep up the great work and have a super weekend, hope not too much work for you!

Phil

Posted on:
Fri, 21/06/2013 - 22:25

needtomoveon

Joined:
2013-06-09

Hey Sandra - well done so far and thank you for the post on my thread - exactly what was needed - thank you x

Posted on:
Sat, 22/06/2013 - 18:50

FEB 2013

Joined:
2013-02-01

Wishing you a very Happy Birthday Sandra. Hope you enjoy it.

Take care and keep strong.

Feb.

Posted on:
Sat, 22/06/2013 - 18:59

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Happy Birthday Sandra x
Enjoy your evening with friends. You are right, it a much healthier way to be living!

take care
Irene
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Posted on:
Sat, 22/06/2013 - 22:49

needtomoveon

Joined:
2013-06-09

Happy Birthday hopr you have had a lovely evening
L x

Posted on:
Sun, 23/06/2013 - 09:04

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

you kept that one very quiet, didn't realise it was yours!!! happy birthday for yesterday and stay strong, you can be very proud.

sending cyber birthday bumps!!

Phil

Posted on:
Sun, 23/06/2013 - 14:46

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hey Sandra

Glad the celebrations were enjoyable.

5 weeks gamble free- another massive reason for celebration :-)

The recognition that we missed so much "life" whilst gambling was for me hard to accept and something I now enjoy and appreciate also!

Irene
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