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#1 Posted on:
Sun, 18/06/2017 - 19:40

Beany

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2009-12-08

Hi its been a while since I last posted on here but here goes. I am over 7 years gamble free now and it is crazy looking back at my old posts. I can't believe I have got this far and yet I still haven't told my family I suffer from this addiction. It is not easy keeping it from them but I just take one day at a time and it works. With so many new ways to gamble such as phone apps etc I am amazed the government doesn't crack down on this because everyone I work with is on their phones gambling. I say to them is that all you do on there and they say it's only a few quid. A few quid adds up my friend trust me and over the months you wonder where all your money goes. 

Anyway for everyone out there what has helped me is to look at other things to do in your life, such as reading, sports etc. Trust me you end up saving money. I pay for my house over the years and still do, and if I gambled I am sure I would have lost it by now. You only end up chassing your losses and whats the point because you end up loosing more.

Just take one day at a time people and you won't go wrong. If you feel tempted (I do sometimes) think of the bigger picture your life or a few quid? I choose life everytime.

Hope this helped a bit and sorry I don't post often.

Posted on:
Sun, 18/06/2017 - 19:59

degenerate

Joined:
2013-05-10

Awesome. Gives some hope to us all.

I see you have a few threads similar to the rest of us who stop and start again. I might try and read some more of them.

Posted on:
Sun, 18/06/2017 - 20:07

darkhorse2016

Joined:
2016-06-11

Nice one man! How did you stop, willpower? But yeah I think the government should ban gambling, it is a joke

Posted on:
Mon, 19/06/2017 - 19:26

Beany

Joined:
2009-12-08

Yeah mostly will power you just have to take one day at a time. It is hard at first but it does get better.

Posted on:
Mon, 19/06/2017 - 22:56

split

Joined:
2017-02-28

Thanks for sharing. 

I have been gamble free for nearly four months now. It's been painful and in the begining i wondered how i could even live. It hurts everytime i see the debt i have. 

   Am glad you have posted, I get a lot of   """Advice""" stating i am wrong in not telling my family. And they will find out and I should fess up now. 

Everytime i add to my day counter and feel positive and more strong someone posts stating i should tell. 

Are we missing the point here. I am gamble free. Its a good thing. 

I hve my reasons for not wanting to tell. But its mainly due to the fact i want to make it right again and dont want anyone to get hurt. 

Its not so much about my ego or pride. I dont wanna hurt those that I love. 

Some posters on here have even gone as far to say I will never do it. Stating there has been no one that has done it alone. They even went as far as making a discussion to prove this point in evidence. 

No one replied. 

So i thank you for making this post. I dont know your story but I am sure it has been very painful at times.

i would be really grateful if you could share more on your success. More so the not tellin part. 

Thanks again 

split 

Posted on:
Tue, 20/06/2017 - 07:14

darkhorse2016

Joined:
2016-06-11

split wrote:

Thanks for sharing. 

I have been gamble free for nearly four months now. It's been painful and in the begining i wondered how i could even live. It hurts everytime i see the debt i have. 

   Am glad you have posted, I get a lot of   """Advice""" stating i am wrong in not telling my family. And they will find out and I should fess up now. 

Everytime i add to my day counter and feel positive and more strong someone posts stating i should tell. 

Are we missing the point here. I am gamble free. Its a good thing. 

I hve my reasons for not wanting to tell. But its mainly due to the fact i want to make it right again and dont want anyone to get hurt. 

Its not so much about my ego or pride. I dont wanna hurt those that I love. 

Some posters on here have even gone as far to say I will never do it. Stating there has been no one that has done it alone. They even went as far as making a discussion to prove this point in evidence. 

No one replied. 

So i thank you for making this post. I dont know your story but I am sure it has been very painful at times.

i would be really grateful if you could share more on your success. More so the not tellin part. 

Thanks again 

split 

I think the same to be honest. Gamcare encourages you to get counselling sessions and to tell your family not taking into account if you DO NOT have a supportive family. It's all a state of mind and I think that if your heart is not into stopping gambling not even counselling sessions will help. Congrats for being 4 year GF.

Posted on:
Tue, 20/06/2017 - 08:33

Magsy

Joined:
2014-02-02

Very well and thanks for sharing. Today is my Day 2 of not gambling - not my first day 2 but hopefully my last.

It was interesting reading your post about the Government clamping down on gambling. I was playing an app game today called Coin Dozer and you can get 'free coins' by registering and depositing on gambling sites. It's like a slippery slope. Needless to say I immediately deleted the app.

And split I agree with you re not telling your family. Some people can't understand addiction and will judge you and this will make you feel bad. I have told my partner but he can't understand or help me so now whenever I give in to my online gambling addiction I don't tell him cos he will only judge me and also worry. Very well done on being gamble free for 4 months x

Posted on:
Tue, 20/06/2017 - 08:51

Cynical wife

Joined:
2015-06-23

Well done on your gf time. Would be interested to know - do you think that you (as opposed to your circumstances) have changed in that time?

BW,

CW

Posted on:
Mon, 26/06/2017 - 14:42

Beany

Joined:
2009-12-08

Hi guys, still going strong. Sorry for not replying sooner. Regarding not telling people I just chose not to let anyone know, apart from a younger cousin but that was at the beginning. A few friends know but again at the beginning. No other relatives or friends know. I believe they have all forgot anyway. I chose not to tell family members I'm an addictive gambler because I didn't want them to judge me. 

I have never attended GA meetings either and I know I should but I find the online service more convenient for me. I am not saying everyone or anyone should do it but I choose to do it this way.

I see so many adverts now bet here bet there and then in the papers you have the pro footballers gambling thousands away. It seems like gambling seems to be the norm but it has a dark side to it and everyone always says I won this or that but what they never say is how much they lost.

Stay strong.

Posted on:
Mon, 26/06/2017 - 19:45

conradnose

Joined:
2017-06-21

Well Done Beany 7 years gamble free is fantastic! It's great that you're still sharing your story with us on here.

I choose to tell my close family but i throughly believe there isn't a one size fits all for us complusive gamblers. I think the most important thing is to learn to know yourself and you've clearly done that to get to 7 years.

Well done again true inspiration!

Conradnose.