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Lethe

Member since:
10.12.2016

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20-11-2017 My advice would be to bite the bullet and get him told asap. Making yourself accountable to someone …
20-11-2017 Talking you down is all very well but what proactive measures are you both putting into place to blo…
17-11-2017 Seems to me reality is starting to bite. Stopping gambling isn't an instant cure to everything that'…
16-11-2017 Mr L did exactly this on a shopping trip five months after near nuking everything around. I actually…
15-11-2017 We can't predict whether, when or if a relapse might occur. Trying to second guess is a slow route t…
15-11-2017 What is it you want to spend on? Is it a want or a need? If you had it would you be accounting for i…
14-11-2017 Hi Mr L is (as far as I know. We can never be entirely sure) closing in on four years gf now. I have…
14-11-2017 I'm sorry to see the way he speaks to you. Not wanting to tell him when you get that kind of reactio…
13-11-2017 Lots of people start the downward spiral with a win. The gambling industry pay IT gaming experts a l…
13-11-2017 Hi again No-one here can guarantee what his reaction will be but having been in his position I can a…
12-11-2017 How about a letter? Or showing him your post here? There isn't going to be a good time to do it so d…
11-11-2017 Having been the mug on the receiving end of the lies and deceit I can 100% assure you your partner w…
11-11-2017 He's spot on when he says there are no consequences for him. Unfortunately for us on the other end o…
11-11-2017 You've had some very good advice on your previous threads. What are you going to do to break the cyc…
07-11-2017 He doesn't think he can ever get better because he doesn't want to. There is a lot of advice help an…
06-11-2017 If you want to stop rather than just stop losing you need to put as much as possible in between you …
04-11-2017 Don't look to any gambling operator for help. It's not going to happen. That said he's not helpless …
04-11-2017 You have done the right thing in prioritising your own and your son's interests. Gamblers lose the c…
31-10-2017 I wouldn't advise telling work mainly because these things have the potential to backfire. Can you d…
30-10-2017 Gambling advertising on TV and via sports fixtures is at near saturation point and there aren't any …
29-10-2017 Hi JD From observation there tends to be a difference in tone from those posters with substantial gf…
28-10-2017 Hi My husband is the CG in the house. Your partner is going to be reeling but at the same time he's …
28-10-2017 Recommended option would be to come clean properly. Telling just half the story leaves you accountab…
28-10-2017 First time round is a bit of a blur. Shell shocked and then panicky about who was going to be turnin…
27-10-2017 Hi again Mr L is closing in on four GF years as far as I can tell. We can never be 100% sure and eve…
27-10-2017 Hi Unfortunately bailing them out often just gives them a clean slate to go right back at it. That (…
26-10-2017 Hi Mr L had the card to the joint account (monitored daily) back quite quickly partly because it was…
25-10-2017 Hi again Free to use debt advice charities such as Payplan (the one Mr L used) or Stepchange are ver…
24-10-2017 If you're SE'ing you may find they try as hard as they can to stick obstacles in your path. They don…
24-10-2017 Hi Chappers There's always hope. Many have done exactly what you have and worse and turned their liv…
24-10-2017 Why are you 'cooling off' and not self excluding for the maximum amount of time available? Leave loo…
14-10-2017 Best option is a gambling blocker (you set the password) on every device he has access to. K9 is fre…
14-10-2017 Free credit reports list credit accounts. Try Clearscore (Equifax) Noddle (Callcredit) and Experian …
13-10-2017 Everything you've said so far indicates you only want to stop losing. That's not going to happen. Wh…
10-10-2017 Lots of people start the downward spiral with a large win. It's a deliberate ploy to suck in the unw…
10-10-2017 You need access to his credit reports from all three agencies. Not all lenders report to all of them…
10-10-2017 You're stuck with him all the time you keep letting him use you as his safety net. It's often said o…
10-10-2017 When I heard it was Las Vegas, gambling problems were the first thing that sprang to mind. However m…
09-10-2017 Would your mother consider giving you a power of attorney over her financial affairs? You would then…
07-10-2017 I'm not sure what you mean by rules for other accounts. The only access Mr L has to bank accounts is…
05-10-2017 What else are you going to do to show your partner you mean business? She's heard it all before now …
04-10-2017 Hi Tooshie My husband is the recovering CG in the house and I look after all the finances as your pa…
03-10-2017 Telling your wife is going to result in some pretty bruising conversations, yes and very likely a fa…
03-10-2017 There won't be a good time to tell her so don't wait for one especially with the temptation of furth…
30-09-2017 If you can't block the phone effectively, consider a downgrade to a non internet enabled brick. Mr L…
30-09-2017 If you've seen gambling transactions she hasn't stopped. How is she making them if you have full fin…
29-09-2017 As the OH of a CG who kept right on going behind my back I can promise you that not telling your hus…
28-09-2017 Having the cards and hoping isn't enough. He doesn't want you to see what's going on because it's al…
28-09-2017 Prioritise the bills - Council tax and rent/mortgage are the non negotiables. He can do the worrying…
28-09-2017 I have to disagree that reading your post is likely to make him understand. Gambling and getting the…

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