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Cynical wife

Member since:
23.06.2015

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Long term married, family growing up, last summer (2015) found out the hard way that my husband has been gambling for many years.

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15-08-2017 Tenants in common (nothing to do with renting). It's where more than one person owns the equity in a…
14-08-2017   Sorry to hear this last.  Our crisis happened two years ago, I'm not aware that he's since gambl…
13-08-2017 Hi,  I'm not convinced about your liability for future debt, it was also an issue for me. I insiste…
10-08-2017 Hi, Good, Get another Solicitor? There's enough of them out there. The Law Society have a list avail…
08-08-2017 A few suggestions for short term emergency measures. I would advise you to obtain bank statements fo…
08-08-2017 Hi, Tink, IME it's not a choice between leaving immediately or staying permanently. The third option…
06-08-2017 Echo all advice to put yourself first but often we F&F don't know how to and the next relationsh…
04-08-2017 Hi, I'm still angry about it all but I don't think what we had before I found out about the gambling…
04-08-2017 Hi, JxB, hope some of this is helping and references to "him" above are simply because it's the male…
04-08-2017 Hi, The advice that I've heard, which makes sense but which I struggle to put into practice, is that…
03-08-2017 You didn't Cause it, you can't Control it and you can't Cure it. Ultimately, you can't decide whethe…
03-08-2017 Hi, Re her emphasis on your trust issues: all active addicts project blame onto those around them. I…
31-07-2017 Hi,  I think that's the point: it's about you getting help for you to make things better for you. I…
30-07-2017 Hi, Sean, Sorry to see what's happening.  By definition, her gambling affects you on the no man is …
30-07-2017 In what way are you (not your finances, but you) different to eight months ago? What personality cha…
20-07-2017 Still think it's a non question. What difference do research and studies make to an individual perso…
20-07-2017 The Fellowships offer the help to anyone who is ready to take it but they don't produce stats and da…
19-07-2017 Morning, Dan, apologies for taking liberties on your diary, this might be better on your separate th…
19-07-2017 Hi, Sandra, Thanks for your post. I agree re the Fellowships that there could be too much of a good …
18-07-2017 Thanks, Sandra, you're quite right in all respects. He wants to recover with meetings alone, withou…
18-07-2017 Hi, Sandra, You're quite right in all respects, will post on mine.  Have a good day. CW …
17-07-2017 Thanks for those few kind words, Sandra! He doesn't care for open meetings and wouldn't want me anyw…
16-07-2017 Hi, Kelly, I can't imagine in a month of Sunday's why you wouldn't want your husband to be anything …
13-07-2017 Your emotions cycle because not surprisingly, it takes more than 62 days for you to recover. Recover…
12-07-2017 Hi, For him, reasonableness doesn't exist, all he wants is to fulfil his urge to use/gamble. Nothing…
10-07-2017 Of course he thinks that it's none of your business! If it were your business, that would threaten h…
04-07-2017 Hello, Jenna, Beware of trusting someone who hasn't earnt your trust. Also know that you can't chang…
04-07-2017 Its not for me or anyone else to judge you personally and my apologies if it comes across as such. B…
03-07-2017 Not deliberately and systematically throughout the duration of the relationship. …
03-07-2017 Honesty matters. …
03-07-2017 Being deceived by someone with whom you are supposed to be in an emotional relationship hurts. It hu…
02-07-2017 Hi, Duncan, If you're planning to use the Steps as a life guide, all good, but do them in order, wit…
29-06-2017 Wishing you strength and good choices. Take care. CW …
27-06-2017 Hi, Sandra, Just read your post about codependents. Ouch!!!! But true. Take care, CW   …
27-06-2017 I don't think getting away with it is real recovery because real recovery involves a long hard look …
25-06-2017 Echo above. You haven't got dragged into this accidentally. The problem isn't the financial losses, …
22-06-2017 Getting old is better than the alternative. Glad to see you're doing well. BW, CW …
22-06-2017 Morning, The advice of the Anon groups for  partners and family is to keep the focus on you. As far…
21-06-2017 Hi, Mary, FWIW, I think PE in underwear is beyond wrong in this day and age - if my kids lack kit, t…
20-06-2017 Morning, Split, Personally, I don't wish to bring you down or see you fail. Cardhue is well able to …
20-06-2017 Well done on your gf time. Would be interested to know - do you think that you (as opposed to your c…
19-06-2017 Hi, The problem with thinking that its for you to keep a roof over his head and prevent him from sel…
18-06-2017 Echo Dan: the Twelve Steps of Recovery work fine if you follow the prescription carefully but it can…
18-06-2017 The Simple Approach to the 12 Steps!There's a power that will kill me. There's a power that wants me…
18-06-2017 Hi, For the avoidance of doubt I didn't write The Twelve Steps to Insanity, I downloaded it. As far …
16-06-2017 It's unfortunate that your father's gambling is affecting you but don't lose sight of what you need …
14-06-2017 Hi, Mary, I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through, the problem with being enmeshed in a r…
12-06-2017 Hi, Sandra, Knock, knock, I hope you're OK. Or OKish. Saw your post to Dan and thought that I would …
12-06-2017 Hi, Cathy, Sorry, wrong diary before. I'm sorry to hear that he's gambling again, wishing you streng…
11-06-2017 Hi, Paul, Hope all is well for you but am responding to your post elsewhere. Bad news: You can't be …

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