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Cynical wife

Member since:
23.06.2015

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Long term married, family growing up, last summer (2015) found out the hard way that my husband has been gambling for many years.

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16-10-2017 Do you see your biggest loss as financial? From my experience on the other side of the fence, financ…
15-10-2017 There’s nowhere else that you can possibly get breakfast apart from a gambling establishment?  No…
15-10-2017 Why on earth do you need to go into an “amusement” arcade and sit there, worrying about what oth…
11-10-2017 Morning, You can change you but you can’t change him.  No doubt this concept is not new to you, b…
09-10-2017 Hi, I’m not unsympathetic but in this situation it’s actions not words that changes things. Your…
08-10-2017 .Hi, I’m sorry to hear what’s happening but I just wonder if, like me, you’re losing yourself …
03-10-2017 If it’s your fault then it’s not his and therefore he doesn’t need to change. That’s his war…
03-10-2017 How are you? …
02-10-2017 Hillel , Ethics of the Fathers: “If I am not for myself, then who will be for me? And if I am just…
02-10-2017 Hi, Sorry to hear it. There are no easy solutions but on the other hand I’ve never heard of anyone…
01-10-2017 Hi, Reezie, Echo MGR that your problem won’t go away just because he’s denying his. I bought int…
01-10-2017 Hi, My experience was that first time round I got denial / minimisation ("spread betting is investin…
29-09-2017 Am also not convinced about expanding time and energy talking or writing to someone who doesn't want…
28-09-2017 Echo above. I've heard of a CG who could use cards (his own and other people's) after one glance at …
28-09-2017 Hi, Laura, The trouble is that you're enmeshed, so tangled up in him and his problems that you've go…
26-09-2017 Morning, I'm sorry to hear what's happening. I am the wife of a compulsive gambler who has cost the …
25-09-2017 Courage isn't about not being fearful/anxious etc. It's about doing what needs to be done despite th…
19-09-2017 Re the Guru Challenge, how on earth can you continue to play poker without gambling? Poker is gambli…
18-09-2017 I found "Women who Love Too Much" by Robin Norwood and "Facing Codependency" by Pia Mellody worthwhi…
17-09-2017 Reread posts 167 to 178? CW …
15-09-2017 Hi, Sorry to be brutal but do you understand the danger that you're in? Unchecked, addiction is prog…
15-09-2017 Morning, My husband's gambling was exposed a couple of years ago and he's not gambled since. We have…
14-09-2017 Hi, Phoenix, Glad to see that you're looking after yourself and maintaining boundaries. Your life is…
12-09-2017 Congratulations on the milestone and wish you an easy continuing journey. CW …
06-09-2017 Would refer you back to the advice on previous threads and suggest that you attend GA to help break …
04-09-2017 Morning, Sorry to hear what's happening. The three Cs: you didn't Cause it, you can't Control it and…
04-09-2017 Hi, Nicola, I would urge you to start AlAnon meetings immediately, as in today. Not for him but for …
03-09-2017 Hi, GF, The counselling is about you. You, not him. The effect that this has had on you and what you…
01-09-2017 A gambler who is gambling isn't "there" emotionally and the F&F do notice.  She can't prop you …
31-08-2017 Hi, Rubbish as it is, the priority is for you to do what's needed to help you. At the moment, you're…
31-08-2017 Hi, again, I spent a lot of energy seeing the "stinking thinking" operating in my husband and trying…
31-08-2017 Hi, I don't want to depress you, but my experience is as follows: I've been on the forum a little ov…
30-08-2017 It's your debt, not hers, and it's your responsibility to deal with it in such a way that those arou…
30-08-2017 Compulsive gamblers who are active will gamble bill money and there are stories on the forum. If the…
29-08-2017 Hello, Mixer, Glad to see you back and but I too would offer the following, intended as food for tho…
29-08-2017 Bust, probably. Such has been my experience. BW, CW …
28-08-2017 Hi, Sandra, Saw an exchange on another thread about sex and meetings and decided to offer my thought…
28-08-2017 Hi, ODAAT, Sorry for being rude and slow to reply to your last post, which was appreciated. Beware t…
25-08-2017 Hi, MGR, Your MiL is what she is, you're you and she doesn't define you. It's no good looking for su…
25-08-2017 Hi, MGR, I saw your thread in debates. I find my GamAnon meetings helpful, but it is a smaller progr…
24-08-2017 Hi, Short answer: It's not your fault. You didn't Cause his gambling, you can't Control his gambling…
21-08-2017 Please can I emphasise one thing having personally experienced it:  being on the receiving end of l…
17-08-2017 Hi, I suggest that you tackle the addiction as well as the actual gambling. On other words, focusing…
15-08-2017 Tenants in common (nothing to do with renting). It's where more than one person owns the equity in a…
14-08-2017   Sorry to hear this last.  Our crisis happened two years ago, I'm not aware that he's since gambl…
13-08-2017 Hi,  I'm not convinced about your liability for future debt, it was also an issue for me. I insiste…
10-08-2017 Hi, Good, Get another Solicitor? There's enough of them out there. The Law Society have a list avail…
08-08-2017 A few suggestions for short term emergency measures. I would advise you to obtain bank statements fo…
08-08-2017 Hi, Tink, IME it's not a choice between leaving immediately or staying permanently. The third option…
06-08-2017 Echo all advice to put yourself first but often we F&F don't know how to and the next relationsh…

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