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Cynical wife

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23.06.2015

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Long term married, family growing up, last summer (2015) found out the hard way that my husband has been gambling for many years.

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04-06-2018 Your mother needs help as much as you do if the dysfunction is ever to be addressed. As a compulsive…
04-06-2018 Hi, I’d urge GamAnon and/or CoDA. It’s also about changing your responses and learning how to pr…
28-05-2018 Sorry to hear what’s happening. Re trust, the person who you should be trusting in the first insta…
28-05-2018 Chasing losses is universal amongst gamblers, it’s one of the signs that the compulsion is getting…
27-05-2018 Gambling is an emotional issue, the financial consequences occur because using - gambling - always r…
27-05-2018 She’s supposed to be an equal life partner, not your crutch, your mother or your enabler. Everythi…
27-05-2018 Hi, I’m married to a gambler who didn’t tell and the children and I eventually found out the har…
17-05-2018 Did you stay long term gamble free after one to one? …
13-05-2018 How come this thread has become about financial loss? Surely that misses the point.  Gambling does …
07-05-2018 I wish you well, Stephen but at the end of the day, it’s actions that speak louder than words, how…
02-05-2018 Part of the manipulation involves exaggerating what will happen if you don’t pay up. Remember that…
02-05-2018 If you can see for yourself that your financial “help” is simply paying for his gambling, then i…
30-04-2018 As a non gambler, I’m not convinced by or about stats...  Recovery isn’t for those who want it,…
27-04-2018 The Fellowships work for those who believe in God. They work equally well for those who don’t beli…
27-04-2018 Access to the bookies with Dad and the 2p arcade machines at the seaside etc started a lot of gambli…
26-04-2018 If you move the money in time, and say clearly that you are doing it because she is a compulsive gam…
26-04-2018 Gambling and addictions are emotional problems, not financial. With gambling, it’s money that gets…
25-04-2018 The only person who decides how you live your life is you. You choose what you’re going to do or p…
22-04-2018 You can’t overcome his addiction for him. You might ask yourself why you’re so determined to try…
22-04-2018 Hi, Sorry to hear what’s happening. A couple of thoughts? It sounds as if you need your decision a…
18-04-2018 There are two sides to him - him and the addiction. The addiction takes him over to different degree…
05-04-2018 GamAnon doesn’t cost and is available in London. …
02-04-2018 Somewhere along the line you’ve learned the wrong lessons, no criticism, join the club. Someone ha…
02-04-2018 HolHol, how can someone who’s busy gambling and who has lied to you really be such a fantastic lif…
02-04-2018 The problems of addiction and co-addiction run deep, they’re serious emotional issues that take a …
26-03-2018 Low as the industry is, compulsive gambling is an emotional problem with financial symptoms. Focusin…
26-03-2018 Send them payment details by post? I wrote to the head office by snail mail and the refund (of sing…
21-03-2018 The first step would be to remove the quotation marks around addiction. Put another way, it’s not …
20-03-2018 Solving life’s problems by using (alcohol, drugs, sex, food, work, whatever ) is addiction. Mature…
20-03-2018 Two things: Compulsive gambling is an addiction, it’s the itch to place the bet. Addictions always…
19-03-2018 Hi, Phoenix, Seems that you have stopped  overfunctioning for him (Harriet Lehrer’s phrase, worth…
18-03-2018 You might also consider using parental controls from your ISP to block access at home. The account h…
13-03-2018 Hi, Agree with Merry - you can crip.ple people by insisting on carrying them instead of allowing the…
12-03-2018 Hi, I’ve been in this situation and would advise you to avoid making the same mistakes as I did. T…
11-03-2018 Sorry to hear it, addiction (whether alcohol, food, gambling, codependency) is a whole family issue.…
09-03-2018 Has 2018 been different precisely because you’ve not been drinking in the pub with the machines? …
08-03-2018 That’s him, what about you? …
08-03-2018 Hi, Starmix, I’d warn you against trying to control whether or not he gambles. It’s futile. If h…
07-03-2018 You gambled your rent and now that same money isn’t there to pay the rent. It’s not the money th…
06-03-2018 I found the evidence in his bank statements...long lists of transactions to the betting site. The od…
06-03-2018 The point about spread betting is that you can lose more than you deposit. In regular betting, the m…
04-03-2018 More of the same, then, from both of you? Quoting AlAnon, if you don’t want to be treated like a d…
01-03-2018 Not what you want to hear, but the bail out doesn’t help her or you. It relieves the crisis and ke…
28-02-2018 Morning, Are you asking about when you’ve had enough or when he has? Because only you can decide w…
28-02-2018 Morning, If you want things to change, then the place to start is to change you. Because it’s impo…
26-02-2018 Morning, The trouble is that we get caught up in what the gambler is or isn’t doing and we lose ou…
21-02-2018 How much pain do you have to be in be before going to meetings????? I don’t like CoDA, GamAnon is …
20-02-2018 Apologies for offence taken, none intended. But your gf is in an equivalent relationship with you as…
20-02-2018 Reread previous threads? Go to GA for your issues? Try CoDA? Does your gf say “no” to you? How d…
20-02-2018 Morning, I’d move the focus away from what he’s (not) doing and over to what you’re doing and …

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