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#1 Posted on:
Thu, 01/02/2018 - 23:41

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Fri, 02/02/2018 - 09:05

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It is sneaky and you aren't alone, it has happened to every one of us which is why we are all here. Hitting rock bottom is important I guess, it brings us here looking for help and support and that's when our journeys begin. Wishing you well, you've stopped for periods before, you will do so again.

Wilsy

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Fri, 02/02/2018 - 11:06

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Sat, 03/02/2018 - 13:03

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Hello Dith, 

Another triangle to add to your list - Drop, cover and hold on. I find that quite an appropriate triangle of life, especially when the emotions erupt and not having the comfort blanket of escapism, whether that to be gambling, drink or other ( another triangle ) As, I’m on a roll, I know with me that I have a triad of addictions but gambling is the primary one at the pinnacle. 

Anyway I’m on a rambling tangent and just popping by to wish you well.

Have a good weekend and remember there’s no coincidence in life, complacency is our enemy so stick around or even try another avenue and keep on your toes ..,

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Sat, 03/02/2018 - 13:05

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DITH2016 wrote:
Has anyone (reading this) had any success with the reclaiming of payday loan excessive interest charges? I have one company I can approach which I used over last 6 years but I have at least 5 other company's I used before that. Any advice on how I can claim back on the ones prior to 6 years? I know its a bit desperate, but that's where I'm at right now. Plus, I read that the payday loan company's have been investigated for irresponsible lending. Yes I borrowed the money but jesus I had 5 or 6 on the go at same time and paid many thousands in interest so it's got to be worth a look. Any advice, experience or pointers? Thank you...

Not me personally but have seen similar questions on ‘ Overcoming gambling ‘ section so possibly post this there and see if any comeback ? It’s worth a shot 

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Sun, 04/02/2018 - 20:59

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Mon, 05/02/2018 - 11:28

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Ha ha crocodiles swimming towards your canoe! :-) Go kill the suckers buddy!

Just ride this third day out mate, you can do it

Wilsy

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Mon, 05/02/2018 - 23:08

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Tue, 06/02/2018 - 10:27

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Good post mate. You gambled, no big deal, you backed that up by coming on here and writing what you did. It is very hard trying to get rid of something you have had all your life like I have but we know it is no good for us, which is why you will keep on trying to give up. Everyday we don't gamble we improve ourselves mentally, physically and financially.

Wilsy

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Mon, 12/02/2018 - 16:49

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Thu, 15/02/2018 - 00:20

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Thu, 15/02/2018 - 00:25

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debtcamel - worth looking at in regards complaints

but totally pointless if you are still gambling or are likely to gamble any of it

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Thu, 15/02/2018 - 06:37

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Hello P-A,

Thinking slippery slope the ‘ free play ‘, It’s a fairly clever ploy of there’s to suck us in and to quote a cliche ‘ you get owt for nowt ‘ . Thinking it’s similar to switching smoking cr.ack to smoking methadone, hence it’s obviously better for one, yet still very much in the game.

Moral - We don’t play to win, we play for the rush

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Thu, 15/02/2018 - 07:23

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I have been there and done that. After one year of gambling free, my relapse started a few months ago and it went really bad. I felt so guilty and angry at myself for doing it again after all those lessons I learned I can't win in gambling. So I don't know what to say... but we are on the same page.

PositiveAction wrote:
Day 0 Not sure what the hell happened. Was so strong in my previous diary and now here I am approximately 8 months since last 'strong' entry. I've been gambling for probably 7 maybe 6 of those 8 months while not visiting here. Really am sickened by how sneaky the gambling affliction is... Literally just got back under my skin now I'm in more debt, behind on bills and payments and wondering how I've let this happen... I'll work it out, so disappointed and angry with myself right now. Back at the start of the climb out the hole, ridiculous!!! So very angry about this and the troubles and stress I've caused myself. Feel a bit better being here though getting it out of me. Can't believe. Madness.

 

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Thu, 15/02/2018 - 10:52

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Thu, 15/02/2018 - 18:33

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Thu, 15/02/2018 - 19:26

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Are you actually going to accept God’s help though?  He can’t work miracles alone & it’s no good just wanting it different!  

I get that you are a proud man, strong as an Ox so use some of that strength to take the support that is out there, think of it as an ally crossing dangerous territory if you need to...You can’t fight a war alone!

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Thu, 15/02/2018 - 21:52

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Thu, 15/02/2018 - 23:54

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OMG, that is one of the most heart wrenching posts I have ever read :-(

 

Part of me wants to yell about you getting over your stupid male pride but I completely get it & I hate that I do!  For a long time I’ve kidded myself that my niece & nephew would do well to go into the uniform services, that half our inner city gang problems would be solved with National Service, give the kids a place to belong, but that’s smashed my rose tinted glasses to pieces!  I hope that the ‘sometimes’ you refer to are the brave men & women that end up with PTSD getting proper support, although I know that that too is a fairytale!  

 

It’s utterly heartbreaking & I want to ask, can you not have counselling through GamCare discreetly or go to GA (anonymous being the operative word) when you aren’t on tour but I’m guessing that’s all pretty irrelevant really because when all is said & done, you think because you have been through so much & can survive the atrocities you have then why not this.

 

So fine, do it your way but don’t leave it to the GamCare Gods!  This is a great place for support, lots of lovely arms round the shoulders & the occasional bit of cracking advice but if you are going to address this alone, get educated.  There are plenty of books out there on the subject, lots of online stuff that can help you to help yourself.

 

Nothing I can say or do can drag the Services into the 21st Century & to some extent, I understand the need for the stubbornness that is drilled into you all to make you mentally & physically capable of withstanding superhuman activity!  But!  You can still run a marathon with a broken arm...Maybe our brains aren’t disimilar to our bodies & different parts can work independently of each other.

 

You are not worthless, far from it & you have no idea how much I am willing you to find a safe onwards path - ODAAT

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Fri, 16/02/2018 - 11:48

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Agree with ODAAT'S post you are not worthless at all and I too wish you well in finding a safe passage.

Hang in there.

Wilsy

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Fri, 16/02/2018 - 18:00

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Hi PositiveAction,

really sorry to read how challenging your situation is and how torn you are over getting support.

Just to let you know, GamCare offer confidnetial counselling, and this can be attended online as well, if you are not at the same place all the time. 

Please get in touch with our Netline here or call the Helpline on 0808 8020 133 to discuss a referral or even if it is just for the opprotunity to talk to someone. You don't have to 'hack it' alone.

All the best,

Eva

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Sat, 17/02/2018 - 22:07

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Fri, 23/02/2018 - 12:40

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Fri, 23/02/2018 - 13:24

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Liking your post but not liking the number of emails you have had since you asked to be excluded for the maximum period. Admire your resilience and so pleased you are done with the industry. You'll smash day 5 and you'll smash the weekend, I can see you getting to double figues and treble figures with the determination you have which is bucket loads.

All the best for your weekend

Wilsy

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Fri, 23/02/2018 - 23:24

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Sat, 24/02/2018 - 05:26

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It’s okay if you just had a relapse. I had relapses twice too in the past few months that saw me lost 14k. You can’t win in gambling simply. Try to fill the void in the place of gambling. But it is hard but try. Find some motivation to quit and to enjoy your life again without gambling. 

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Sat, 24/02/2018 - 12:41

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Sat, 24/02/2018 - 14:43

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Lol you did a very good job to get some money saved up on shopping, my friend! Keep that humor and positive attidue going everyday. I will keep on reading your diary.

PositiveAction wrote:
Humour... Always told the kit you need for operations is.. Weapon, CEFO (combat equipment fighting order) and never Never forget your sense of humour! Even when your feet are bruised from carrying heavy loads and you've not had more than 2 hours unbroken sleep in weeks always have that sense of humour stowed in your personal kit. It's that sense of humour getting me through the realisations of today... How I'd scour the net to find the best price of something, even look for voucher codes. Save £30 or £50 on my purchases and congratulate myself :) But online gambling I could spend hundreds sometimes thousands without ever grasping the value of the money or realising the actual impact until it was all gone and I couldn't afford essentials... Borrow>high interest>Debt cycle.... Mental, off balance behaviour, mitigating factors or not it's just crazy behaviour. OK.... Soak it up buttercup, sense of humour! (fuming inside at myself today) Onwards, forwards.. Steady, calm. GRIP

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Sun, 25/02/2018 - 10:27

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Wed, 28/02/2018 - 01:14

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Hey GRIP, I read your last two posts. I see you are still very upset and regretful about your losses and relapses. And I am sorry to hear that you budget is so tight because of debt. Let me know how you have done with your paycheck tomorrow. 

Best of Luck