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#1 Posted on:
Sun, 12/10/2014 - 23:00

itsover2014

Joined:
2014-08-21

Hi

Have posted here a few times..

I just took the plunge and excluded myself from every gambling site I know.

I hate them, I hate myself, and I hate this curse.

I am feeling however, what is the point of carrying on, honestly. Every couple of weeks, I relapse. I know it will happen again.

I am in the biggest financial mess, am being investigated by the taxman, I virtually am screwed anyway.

Even though I have banned myself, if I get another urge I know I will find another, less trustworthy site, somewhere, even with blocking software. If I get the urge nothing will stop me.

I am 26, this has been going on for 10 years, its not going to stop, for the rest of my life I will have this curse, wherever I am, with, without my family, gf..

What is the point..

Posted on:
Mon, 13/10/2014 - 18:29

Lost2048

Joined:
2014-10-13

Hi there,

Decided to make an account as you need some advice. You sound hopeless, and for a few months i did too - but i am battling on, whether i relapse or not. The important thing to do here is try - if you want to change you can.

Self doubt is a horrible thing and so you must stop doubting yourself or you will fail, think positive and you won't - even if you relapse. A relapse is just a setback, however it does not have to set you back into the life of losing, just get straight back on track to stopping this vicious cycle for good! As long as you try, things will get better, just don't give up on yourself.

As for your finances, you need to hand them over to someone you trust such as your parents, just for a while so you can get back on your feet. You need to think positive, regardless what happens with the taxman.

Your 26, there is still plenty of time for you to change and that i guess is a good thing that you are young. I'm 20, and all i can think about is my life without gambling and how good i want it to be - i'm focusing a lot more on a career than i did when i was gambling.

As for my experience, i really didn't enjoy myself for a good while. I told myself it wasn't my fault what happened and it really helped me out ( I lost so much ), it was a compulsion and any logical thinking i had didn't exist when i was in the 'zone'. Do you get what i'm saying?

Good luck to you friend,

And don't ******* give up! Don't give another penny to them.

Posted on:
Tue, 14/10/2014 - 23:41

matty1658

Joined:
2013-09-24

All I can say is don't give up. If you took the time to post it at least shows there is still some fight left in you.
Forget about your age (I am 36 and having to start again) and forget about the taxman, he can't take what you haven't got.
All you should think about is not gambling, forget the money and the time you have lost, you aren't getting it back.
Keep getting up every morning and tell yourself you want a better life and the only person who can give you that is you.
You need good people around you who you can talk too, they won't understand a lot of it at first as people who don't gamble don't understand it.
But the more you talk the more they understand and the better you feel.
I tried to deal with it alone for 5 years and got in a hell of a mess, people can and will help.

Posted on:
Wed, 15/10/2014 - 19:50

orbits

Joined:
Before 2009

Itsallover, stop gambling and it will be more like it'sonlyjustbegun, your life that is, it will be great. RossGam19, joined just to give a stranger advice, so mature for a young person, the advice is spot on and what a soul you have to want to help others, beautiful. matty1658, another good person, sound advice. i'm 42, gambling took everything apart from my house, and it nearly had that. I now have savings, holidays, i can go and buy a new car if i want outright, SO NEVER GIVE UP. It can be really hard but the only one that can change it is you. You want more pain, carry on gambling. You want a life? get help, get to a GA meeting and meet people who know how your brain works.

Posted on:
Fri, 17/10/2014 - 22:01

JTC

Joined:
2014-10-07

This is really helpful, I just wish my son would go on this site and read things like this. He has a big gambling problem but does not seem to want to get his life sorted, it feels so hopeless because he won't talk or do anything to help himself