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Posted on:
Sun, 22/10/2017 - 11:44

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Congratulations Sharon 220 Days GF. Loved your last post ; chilling out - doing your chores - working in a practical thoughtful way to get your life back on track. No doubts now on today's song choice .....stephen

Posted on:
Tue, 24/10/2017 - 12:29

Matt 24

Joined:
2012-04-25

Hi Sharon,

Glad to read your still motoring on. Days piling up now, well done. Give yourself the credit you deserve, I know some days feel a little empty but every day gamble free is a challenge that you have accomplished even if it doesn't feel like it. 

Keep going and well done!

Matt

Posted on:
Tue, 24/10/2017 - 15:00

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Aaah thank you both Stephen and Matt my fellow travellers, Yes really enjoying the every day stuff without fretting about wasting money/time. Am slowly chipping away at the debt mountain which is gradually becoming a hill. Had a nice weekend and had a rare dat off yesterday visiting family friends, much needed to have a break. I continue to read diaries and throw in the odd comment, great to see members striving towards a GF future. But can also sympathise and show understanding to those who have relapsed. As everyone says there is no quick fix and really you have to do it your way as it'S not 'one size fits all' have a super GF day S:) 

Posted on:
Thu, 26/10/2017 - 11:32

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Sharon,  hope your happy and feeling good after your day off. Really like the song you mentioned "Morning Has Broken", I haven't heard it for ages ....stephen 

Posted on:
Fri, 27/10/2017 - 22:11

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Just a quick post to wish you a good weekend. It's forecast really cold next week but it won't be as cool as the 225 Days GF on your profile page. YIHAAA ROCK ON SHARON & keep blazing that trail ...stephen 

Posted on:
Fri, 27/10/2017 - 22:28

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Aaaaah thank you Stephen hope you have a top weekend too. i indeed intend to continue odaat and get ever further away from my last gamble. Take care my friend S:)

Posted on:
Sun, 29/10/2017 - 10:09

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thankyou for posting on my diary Sharon, I always appreciate your humour and good advice...stephen 

Posted on:
Sun, 29/10/2017 - 17:53

degenerate

Joined:
2013-05-10

Well done Sharon, keep chipping away. I hope to stop fretting about spending money myself. We need to enjoy the day and not give it a thought. 

Posted on:
Sun, 29/10/2017 - 18:37

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Hi Degenerate it'S really hard to not have that black cloud looming 24/7 but the damage is done and we need to live our lives. I am committed to my dmp and yes it hurts to see that going out of my account but that in hand with not gambling are my only goals for now. I have had a v.sad example that life us short and precious recently so each day at a time is for me! Take care S :) 

Posted on:
Mon, 30/10/2017 - 23:31

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Sharon thankyou for posting on my diary. 

I feel annoyed when I make my monthly debt payment thinking what a fool I have been. I will have paid it off in another 5 years.

Belinda Carlisle is really good, i'm about to play some of her music. Take care ...stephen 

Posted on:
Tue, 31/10/2017 - 12:02

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

You're welcome Stephen, yep it's painful to see thst money repairing the damage I've caused every month. But lets all go forward together, take care S:)

Posted on:
Tue, 31/10/2017 - 12:29

Smashed

Joined:
2017-08-13

The hardest part is paying off the debt, a bitter pill to swallow. But we all know CG is just a car crash, we got out looked back saw the destroyed car, and we have to pay for it. But it never got us, it wants us to buy a new one and try again, we walk past the showroom daily and we get sent all the offers buy now pay later. But every day we walk on by is another victory for all of us.

Posted on:
Tue, 31/10/2017 - 16:54

Matt 24

Joined:
2012-04-25

Hi Sharon

The debt is a firm reminder that we cannot win unless we stop. Once your debt has gone the satisfaction and freedom will beat any quick fix gambling offers. Yes you have been a fool in some ways but without the debt the determination to quit wouldn't be there.

Keep going Sharon, your doing great.

Matt

Posted on:
Tue, 31/10/2017 - 23:15

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

@Smashed I've never thought about it like this but yes everyday the temptations are there but seem to fade with time. I had debts before I started gambling and part of me must of thought it would be easy money....wrong! The pretence sites use to reel people in is so false and now I'm on the other side I can see that. Thanks Smashed for a thoughtful post.

@Matt 24 True, my debt should be cleared in 18 months and I'm sticking to my budget rigidly. Dmp are fantastic and make the budget liveable. Thanks as always for your support and inspiration :)

Posted on:
Wed, 01/11/2017 - 13:23

Matt 24

Joined:
2012-04-25

Good for you Sharon, staying gamble free and piling up those days will soon make that 18 months fly.

Stay strong

Matt

Posted on:
Sat, 04/11/2017 - 11:01

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Well done Sharon. You've accumulated a massive 233 days free from gambling, and paid a chunk off your debt. Only 18 months to go! And as Matt said - without the debt you would not have the determination to quit.

Posted on:
Sat, 04/11/2017 - 21:35

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Thanks for your kind words @change yep it'S a constant reminder to not even go there! :)

Posted on:
Sun, 05/11/2017 - 09:20

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Sharon and congratulations on 234 Days Gamble Free ....stephen 

Posted on:
Tue, 07/11/2017 - 19:45

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thankyou for posting on my diary Sharon and thankyou for always being there with advice and support ...stephen 

Posted on:
Thu, 09/11/2017 - 23:22

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

I'm not sure why but for the first time in a while have been swept away in a wave of self pity and gloom, haven't gambled but feel at a bit of a standstill in all areas. Have been reading through my diary to reassure myself and to show how far I have come. I'm not in the same place and I'm not that person anymore, just takes a lot to be strong and have your guard up all the time. We'll tomorrow is another (GF) day,  onwards and upwards, take care all S:) 

Posted on:
Fri, 10/11/2017 - 11:34

Smashed

Joined:
2017-08-13

I get like that you can feel full of positivity but there are always reminders of your mistakes, and always get the "What if I did this" moments or I could of stopped earlier and not totally self destroyed myself financially. Its life and people want to tell you that you can't do this or that, you've had your time, you've made your bed, but we have to want more, to see and do and taste things and not get caught in the groundhog day loop.

Posted on:
Fri, 10/11/2017 - 23:40

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Sharon. Thankyou for the post on my diary. Wishing you a good weekend and a well deserved rest from work.

My relatives are getting really ancient, been invited to my Aunties 80th celebration in a weeks time and the week after will be celebrating my sisters 70th. Good for me being only 67, I will feel quite young ha ha.

240 Days Gamble Free tomorrow and I know from your diaries you have battled every step of the way. Massive respect to you Sharon for your courage. You have brightened up the recovery road and I will always be grateful for that ...stephen 

Posted on:
Sat, 11/11/2017 - 11:31

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Thank you Stephen, I feel a world away from the beginning of my time here and this forum really has got me through some dark times. Saw a great quote 'like a hangover neither triumphs or disasters last forever. They both pass and a new day arrives' This backs up the odaat theory which works for me but although I don't take my past actions lightly I'm done with mentally beating myself up and not enjoy life,  I just can't do it anymore. So I will allow myself a set time per day to worry, think about debt etc then move on with my day. I have thought a lot about 'the darkest hour is just before dawn' and this was me every morning after a binge the night before but not anymore.  So have a great GF weekend everyone and be kind to yourselves S :) 

Posted on:
Sat, 11/11/2017 - 23:25

Little miss lost

Joined:
2016-05-24

As you say sharon, it's time to put away that stick. We just have to accept it was just another chapter in our life and now it's time to turn the page.
You're doing really well with your new chapter, not only with helping yourself but also helping many others along the way.
Memories of the morning after the binge the night before can still be vividly recalled. Upon waking now don't forget to congratulate yourself, think about how much better you feel mentally and love the new you because you deserve to be happy! X

Posted on:
Sun, 12/11/2017 - 18:38

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Thanks LML It's hard to break the thought cycle of 'I am awful becsuse I have caused this etc' but I'm tryibg really hard to cut mysrlf some slack and look after myself. Best wishes to you my friebd and take care Sx

Posted on:
Tue, 14/11/2017 - 11:08

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Sharon. Hope your having a good week. Around 8 months now since you last gambled which is absolutely brilliant. It is sometimes really difficult when the addiction bombards us with negative thoughts and emotions. Take care and keep your chin up cos your wonderful...stephen 

Posted on:
Tue, 14/11/2017 - 11:28

Wilsy

Joined:
2012-02-22

well done on your continued success Sharon

Wilsy 

Posted on:
Thu, 16/11/2017 - 17:25

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Thank you both for positive comments, makes the world od difference to not be alone on this tough road, take care S:)

Posted on:
Thu, 16/11/2017 - 17:48

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thankyou for posting on my diary Sharon. I feel so bad and utterly ashamed for letting down myself and my friends on the diaries. Take care ...stephen 

Posted on:
Thu, 16/11/2017 - 19:13

adam808

Joined:
2017-08-27

Hi Sharon, well done on hitting 245 days gamble free. An incredible achievement!! I feel inspired reading some of your original posts compared to now.

Posted on:
Thu, 16/11/2017 - 22:52

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thankyou for the post on my diary Sharon. I feel really stupid but i'm not going to let it beat me. I've learnt a lot in the last 6 months and i'm not going to throw it all away. Stephen 

 

Posted on:
Fri, 17/11/2017 - 18:55

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

Hi Sharon , 

Nearly 250 days gf for you my friend !! Very inspiring ! Well done for staying strong ! Imaging another 750 days that’s 1000 days hahaha :) 

Sars 

Posted on:
Sun, 19/11/2017 - 22:34

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Sharon. You have been a great role model for everyone and I hope I can follow your example this time.

I know sometimes you feel sad, but you persevere and keep going forward. Very proud of you. Stephen x 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 20/11/2017 - 10:15

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Thank you Stephen for your kind words S:)

Posted on:
Tue, 21/11/2017 - 00:34

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Just been looking at the 250 on your profile page WOW that looks awesome. 

Congratulations for what you have achieved. 250 Days Gamble Free is a massive achievement and you have my utmost respect and admiration. Stephen x

 

Posted on:
Tue, 21/11/2017 - 20:21

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Day 250 Well I never thought I would be at this point EVER! Being a fraught, stressed mess day in day out pushed me seek help to break the cycle I found myself trapped in. The support of this forum has been vital to me getting through odaat. I found some old diaries at the weekend and the evidence was there, continuous money juggling to get thru each month. I'm still in debt but now have a solid routine and aim towards being debt free. So sincere thanks to Stephen, Matt and everyone who has supported me and others whos diaries have been thought provoking and inspirational. May tomorrow being another GF day towards a bright future S:) 

Posted on:
Wed, 22/11/2017 - 09:36

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Saw a great quote earlier 'the smallest steps move you forward' think we should all remember this when things seem to be not moving, especially me! Have a great GF day S:)

Posted on:
Wed, 22/11/2017 - 23:23

Little miss lost

Joined:
2016-05-24

Congratulations Sharon, fantastic achievement. We all know how difficult it must have been for you.
I hope that you feel 'well proud' of yourself because you deserve to be!
Here's to many more gf days.
Take care xx

Posted on:
Thu, 23/11/2017 - 14:06

Smashed

Joined:
2017-08-13

Keep moving forward. Gambling is like Snakes and Ladders but the trick is if we know the game we know where the Snakes are and Gambling will mask our minds as to where the Ladders are, keep finding the Ladders, sometimes they seem hard to find, but when we find one it feels good and we know where all the Snakes reside and avoid them by any means necessary.

Posted on:
Thu, 23/11/2017 - 16:24

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Thanks Lml am thrilled to get to this milestone but feel realistic about maintaining bring GF, I don't feel 'cured' just have learnt the warning signs etc that triggered gambling. Take care S :) 

Posted on:
Sat, 25/11/2017 - 14:03

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Sharon, hope your having a good weekend. Take care and treat yourself with kindness and respect because you certainly deserve it. Stephen

Posted on:
Sat, 25/11/2017 - 16:04

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Well done Sharon for the massive steps and progress that you have made. A shining example to others showing that there really is a way forward. You deserve to taste the fruit from the tree of life, from which you now nurture the budding growth, having carefully planted the seeds. Happiness and freedom - because you're worth it!

And I like the 'snakes & ladders' analogy from Smashed. Just visualise the playing board with its pitfalls and opportunities; the evil-looking, sly grinning snake with its winding, slippery slope of doom. Or the ladders of hope in many sizes, giving us the chance to navigate our way through this life to better things.

Posted on:
Sun, 26/11/2017 - 10:18

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Hi Stephen am off into work for a few hours but that's ok. Hope you're having a lovely time catching up with family, great show of resilience and courage from you, stepping forward to a GF future. Take care S:)

Posted on:
Mon, 27/11/2017 - 20:12

Chris30z

Joined:
2017-10-15

Hey Sharon, just read your latest post in LML’s diary. Sorry to hear you have been having those thoughts in the middle of the night. You have done so well, I hope you are feeling ok today. Chris

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