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Posted on:
Wed, 03/08/2016 - 14:36

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Jake15 wrote:
Hi I'm new here and have just finished reading your diary how do I start my own?

Hello Jake15,  

Welcome to the forum.

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Take care,

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Posted on:
Fri, 05/08/2016 - 07:52

gambler.toad

Joined:
2015-09-21

Hi All,

Jake admin answered your question. They are always very helpful so don't be afraid to contact them.

So this morning i had a coffee and toast with marmalade. Trying to eat a little healthier.

No gambling recently and i have accepted my wife still needs to look after the finances. It means she isn't worrying am i gambling and i am not working for nothing!!!!

I'm training a new start at the minute. Also learned yesterday that my boss has breast cancer. Very upsetting as she has been so good to me and understanding. I pray she recovers. She is the boss i told i had suical thoughts but i never told her i had gambling issues. I really miss her in work already.

Anyway going out for a friends 50th today. Have a few beers. Taking a half day.

Also today our first mortgage payment comes out for the new house.

BOOM !!!!

Take care folks. Stay away from Mr Turf he is the enemy.

Stay safe on the lily pad...
Toad.

Posted on:
Sat, 06/08/2016 - 08:21

Jake15

Joined:
2016-07-30

gambler.toad wrote:
Day 0,

Lost 5k today on fobt. Terrible day. Feeling numb.

I need back here for recovery.
Toad.


Morning toad this was the post I asked you about in the chatroom
I didn't think I had imagined it

I know your upset that your wife has had the financial control for a long time but how did you manage to get that much money if she has the finances?
I think it's time put some real measures in place not pretend ones
I really felt for you the other night
And I understand your in a bad place
It will only get worse if you don't act on the barriers now
Stay on the lilly pad toad

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 07:15

gambler.toad

Joined:
2015-09-21

Morning All,

Last morning at the hotel then it's back to the pond and on my lily pad.

I have to say i was a bit disappointed last night in the chatroom.

Unfortunately a member found it amusing to fire personal insults directed at me. Thankfully admin sent the individual packing.

I have to say a few people were hostile towards toad. The thing is it doesn't bother me. Maybe they were trolls. I just get on with my recovery.

Why can't people be nice. It's nice to have manners too.

Anyway things are good. I feel pampered after that break. I spent most of day in the spa with mrs toad.

Thankyou for all the good people who supported me on gamcare.
The rest I don't care if they throw it on the fobt. They don't take my advice as they know better.

If they could change the record of time money location. Getting boring now.

Toad......

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 10:45

ADT785

Joined:
2016-05-11

HI Toad

I read your diary here and there as i find you a bit of a rare fish and your off the float more times than a milk man!

Somthing this morning made me write somthing on you diary.....  "The rest I don't care if they throw it on the fobt."

That is a very sly statment! Even if you dont like someone you shouldnt wish the worst on someone like that!

Someone could say i hope a storm hits your pond and your lillypad exploeds.... Or we hope a bird comes down and eats you.... But lets not be like that! We are all in recovery together and it should be about supporting one another not fighting!

Take care Toad and all the best with staying away from the bookies and FOBTS

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 11:20

Guestuser9

Joined:
Before 2009

gambler.toad wrote:
Morning All, Last morning at the hotel then it's back to the pond and on my lily pad. I have to say i was a bit disappointed last night in the chatroom. Unfortunately a member found it amusing to fire personal insults directed at me. Thankfully admin sent the individual packing. I have to say a few people were hostile towards toad. The thing is it doesn't bother me. Maybe they were trolls. I just get on with my recovery. Why can't people be nice. It's nice to have manners too. Anyway things are good. I feel pampered after that break. I spent most of day in the spa with mrs toad. Thankyou for all the good people who supported me on gamcare. The rest I don't care if they throw it on the fobt. They don't take my advice as they know better. If they could change the record of time money location. Getting boring now. Toad.
 ...You come on here making up story's on a daily basis. Just to get a rise out of people. ... You cry you are sick of your wife having your money yet. You some how get your hands on 500 quid weekly ...

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 11:26

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Hey toad Havnt bothered commenting on your diary lately as I felt all the advice you were given was falling on deaf ears...or like water of a toads back ! And ..for what it's worth I feel a lot of what you write is sometimes not quite the truth.....maybe I'm wrong. ...only you know that....one thing I do know is....if what you write is all truth.. then your the unlucky one .....you ...like alot of us on here could be enjoying an open and honest recovery.... I'm knowbody special....maybe you think I'm rude talking to you like this....I'm not...just saying what I feel....and as the one with 200 odd days under my belt ....I feel I've got the right to say it... So.....I'll still wish you well with your so called recovery....but again...if I'm honest I imagine your diary will never be any different. ...sad....not for me....just you and the Mrs...

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 11:32

Craig19

Joined:
2016-03-23

The only person that will be sticking money into the fobt will be you. Not the good people on here giving you great advice. 

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 12:35

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

Firstly my apologies for the way I worded my request for you to refrain from conversing with me all I said was I'd rather platt s h I t than talk to you  

After reading your diary for the last 11 months I thought you could had sense of humour and could take a joke  sorry if that's wrong just the impression Ive got from reading your diary.

Anyway all the best in your recovery you seem to have turned a corner in the last 6 days.

KTF 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 14:20

gingernut1

Joined:
2011-04-09

Having read most of your diary ...I've wanted to comment to you in the past but was conscious of the fact that I might be getting hold of the wrong end of the stick so I held fire as others seem to be taken in by your statements, and not being a chat roomer I've no clue what's  disscussed and what you post that gets people's backs up.....but if you are a genuine gambler looking for help then good luck with your journey 

Please don't think you've found another one who's risen to your bait, coz it couldn't be further from the truth...I've been Swimming in your pond beneath your Lilly pad for a long time now and never bitten yet.

Seriously, you say you went to a mirror and saw a Toad looking back, hence the name...you need to return to that mirror and take another look...

Ginger

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 15:08

Forum admin

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Dear forum users,

While it is sometimes constructive to criticise the behaviour of another user, (In the context of sharing peer support with sensitivity and consideration), it is not appropriate to attack the personality of another user, and we do not allow personal insults on the forum.  Please avoid doing this, or we may be obliged to place your accounts on moderation.

http://www.gamcare.org.uk/support-and-counselling/frontline-services/cha...

Remember the purpose of the forum is to share peer support for recovery from problem gambling.   Take care of yourselves and share support with each other when you feel you can do that genuinely.

Kind regards,

Forum Admin.

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 15:31

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Surely ADMIN ...
YOU need to protect the majority of us here who have all tried countless times to help toad
To have it all thrown back at us all the time and with " polite " sarcastic digs which slip under radar....plus continuase remarks about gambling....we can't all be wrong !

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 15:39

gingernut1

Joined:
2011-04-09

Great point made well Loxxie...Ginger 

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 15:41

ALAN 135

Joined:
Before 2009

So why have you sided with this person again and just removed my post admin ?  You nor he like the truth then ? 

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 16:01

Amom

Joined:
2014-10-09

Admin... on my side of the forum and in my Gamanon room this would be considered enabling.

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 16:05

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Come on ADMIN
PLEASEEEE listen to the majority on here.....these people are a massive support to addicts on here....I for one would not have got to over 200 days without them.....no moderator has ever given me advise....only the members you are now chastising !

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 16:06

sbisstopping

Joined:
2015-06-08

Admin - as per my post in the "feedback" section. Is this forum for those on a journey of recovery or people who wish to bait others and use as an opportunity to wind people up (whilst of course letting us know what they had for breakfast)? When you have decided please let us know as from where I  sit, it appears that you either don't see the impact one user is having on those who want to recover - or, you don't care. 

 

 

 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 16:07

gingernut1

Joined:
2011-04-09

What an absolute joke...my post has been moderated to such an extent that it makes it appear I'm offering support to this Toad character .....please admin remove my whole post..because apparently  I'm the egotistical Walter Mitty on here not our amphibious friend 

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 17:39

[email protected]

Joined:
2014-12-31

Pull all of my post please admin rather than some of it. If you want to write for me then do so. My suggestion for toad regarding sectioning & residental treatment is a legitmate recognized recovery tool is it not? Why that has been censored is beyond me. I wrote nothing against his character or did anything other than offer him options

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 21:31

Guestuser9

Joined:
Before 2009

Admin if I have to sacrifice my account for you to get the message that the above user constantly rubs people's face in it
Then that's fine with me. But letting this continue on a daily basis is mocking good people on this forum and telling them to go feed the fobt is in my eye's the lowest someone can go to take a pop at people who have offered him support over and over

Posted on:
Mon, 08/08/2016 - 23:00

Craig19

Joined:
2016-03-23

Guys I would urge everyone to just ignore this person. If he's upsetting yous I would just ignore him and continue to support each other. Having read this I'm not convinced it's a real diary just a sad troll. 

However Toad if you are real best of luck to yourself.

 

 

Posted on:
Tue, 09/08/2016 - 07:52

gambler.toad

Joined:
2015-09-21

Morning All,

Back to work today. It was a great weekend away but i'm feeling very tired today. I need a holiday after the holiday !!

Last week i did okay. I over spent by £20 so Mrs Toad only wired £40 to my account yesterday. So i'm paying back £20 in two instalments. £10 in August and £10 in September.

Anyway i'm feeling positive today
.

As i said on a previous post.

Always look on the bright side of life.

Toad.

17.35 update.

Lost my weeks budget on the fobts.
Devastating.
Toad.

Posted on:
Tue, 09/08/2016 - 17:33

New beginning

Joined:
2015-02-28

Ok having read your diary and various pieces of advice I figured why not stick my two pence in. Toad I wish you every success in your ongoing battle against this horrible addiction I to am suffering but trying my best. I think what angers other people on here is your perceived flippant nature about things and that your just playing around. I however think this is all a bit of bravado and find it interesting when the real you posts. As gamblers most of us are very adept at wearing various masks or identities. The one word that springs to mind when I read your diary is frustration! Your lucky you have several properties and a living devoted wife but these could be lost if you ever had access to your funds so cut the bravado accept that you may never be in charge of your money and please self exclude from every single bookies you can and COMMIT to this recovery process!!!! I wish you well and good luck :) 

Posted on:
Tue, 09/08/2016 - 23:08

New day

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Posted on:
Wed, 10/08/2016 - 07:12

gambler.toad

Joined:
2015-09-21

Morning All,

I was running last night with the club so i just had a light breakfast this morning. Ham and toast washed down with punjana tea.

On the bus heading to work with £1 !!!! I am safe on the pond today. The turfs won't get my hard earned cash today. My budget went sour early on but i have to learn from this. Get to Sunday and try again.

This is a battle for life. My eyes are bulging and i let out a loud croak. Let's do this!!! Anyway you get the idea. 

Stay safe amphibians and best of luck today. Hop off the fobts and embrace a life of fun, laughter and hapiness. Join me at the pond on a sunny day near the cold waterfall and admire the colourfull birds and wildlife on offer. See, i took you to a beautiful place. Just close your eyes and imagine being in my pond. Don't worry i am on my lily pad and if i see any predators i will warn you. You are in a safe place now........free from gambling.

Best wishes,

Ribit-ribit toad.

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