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#1 Posted on:
Sat, 03/12/2016 - 20:08

Mixer

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2016-12-03

 

Day 3 - 3/12/16

No gambling so far this month.

However, this counts for jack because I'm a binge gambler, and after my last binge on Nov 30th, know I simply can't afford another binge for a couple of weeks, so that's the weak spot I've got to watch out for. I know my 'pattern'.

So, like I say, Day 3 doesn't mean a thing. If I get to Day 20, that'll be worth noting because I'll have passed the first binge weak spot. But it's always one day at a time when you're really impulsive like me.

I've got my first counselling on Monday, worth a try. 

Good luck everyone.

 

 

 

Posted on:
Sat, 03/12/2016 - 20:59

Guestuser9

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Hi again mixer good to see you on chat.

All the best bud

Posted on:
Sat, 03/12/2016 - 21:00

Katiecoo

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2016-11-25

Day 3 for me also. I also binge gamble on slots. I just keep reminding myself that in 4 weeks a new year starts and I want to be feeling positive for that year ahead.. so after 22 years of gambling 3 days ago I stopped. Good luck , join the chat rooms instead on vulnerable evenings x

Posted on:
Sat, 03/12/2016 - 21:05

Mixer

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2016-12-03

Nice one Katiecoo. Neither of us is going to buckle right? Let's both see this through till 1st Jan. What do you say :)

Posted on:
Sat, 03/12/2016 - 21:06

Mixer

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And thanks Deano; really appreciate the warm welcome mate.

Posted on:
Sat, 03/12/2016 - 21:08

Samson

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2016-05-08

Very good to talk to you Mixer.

Best wishes.

Posted on:
Sat, 03/12/2016 - 21:13

Mixer

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Cheers Samson, likewise.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 10:50

KP82

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Hey mixer. I binge like hell also. I got plenty of money in the bank now but I haven't done it yet.

I'm not going to either. AND NEITHER ARE YOU PAL.

We can do this together.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 10:53

Mixer

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2016-12-03

Yes, exactly. Don't let me down right. I won't let you down. I will be honest with you. Likewise?

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 13:30

Katiecoo

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Me and you stopped on the same day mixer..:) New year coming and hears to a peaceful panic free year

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 13:52

Mixer

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Excellent Katiecoo. Let's stick together. And no-one le the side down. And at moments of weakness, write about them on this forum. It's always one day at a time but achievable if we gee each other on collectively. 

Here's a tip - don't look at anything to do with gaming online, even for free. Turn your head away when gaming adverts are on. Let's give our collective brains a rest from this very damaging thing we've all been doing.

 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 16:54

Katiecoo

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I am keeping very busy at moment..house cleaned from top to bottom and cupboards pulled out. I am also trying to 're teach myself how to relax in other ways. I got rid of Facebook at the same time as stopping as I don't want any triggers,like seeing others brag or out at bingo etc. I need to learn to come home from work and turn off. I will keep checking in on you mixer.. stay well, stay busy x

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Sun, 04/12/2016 - 17:10

Mixer

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2016-12-03

That's the spirit Katiecoo :) and getting rid of Facebook a great idea. Getting rid of anything that might tempt you is a good thing. It really is all or nothing. Permanently. Now.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 21:05

Mixer

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Day 5 tomorrow. 1st counselling session. 

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 21:19

Katiecoo

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Good luck for tomorrow

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 21:49

Hchale2

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Evening, just joined tonight. I also binge gamble. Finances changing imminently and cannot continue to do it. Been clean before for 3 months but gave in. 

Need to stop now. Any advice?

 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 22:13

Change

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Great support for each other Mixer and Katiecoo - keep going and keep working hard to get over this addiciton.  It's the only way to get back into living life.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 22:13

Mixer

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Sure have some advice Hchale. Give any significant other / trusted relative your card. Tell the same  people you've got a problem and you need their support. Get counselling free via this site. You'll get 13 one-hour weekly appointments. Go to every one. At the first one, look the counsellor in the eye and say you're not going to gamble for all 13 sessions. Stick to it ; you've made a pledge. Just a few ideas off the top of my head :)

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 22:15

Mixer

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Katiecoo wrote:
Good luck for tomorrow
thanks Katiecoo, will let you know how I get on. Good luck with your Day 6!

 

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 22:17

Mixer

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Change wrote:

Great support for each other Mixer and Katiecoo - keep going and keep working hard to get over this addiciton.  It's the only way to get back into living life.

Thanks change, appreciate that. It's all or nothing this, not in the mood anymore for half measures.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 22:24

Change

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No probs Mixer - I'm up and down all the time and need some better focus myself so just put in place a 20 week plan with some rough targets of things to do, money to save, objectives to achieve etc.  Constantly need to come up with a plan to avoid gambling and I need to keep it different as so easy to forget the pain.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 23:46

Mixer

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Hi Change, My preference is for a simple plan with one short term goal; not to gamble for 3 months. I'm going to try to do this in 2 ways. 1. Going for counselling (free, from this site) for 13 weeks. Tomorrow is my first visit and I'm going to say to the counsellor I'm not going to gamble and stick to my pledge. 2. I've met some determined people on here who also want to stop and we're trying to together. 

Now, this approach might suit you, might not, but I will stay your plan's a bit tricky if you say you're losing track. Simpler is better, one target at a time, in my opinion. All the best :)

 

 

 

 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 04/12/2016 - 23:52

KP82

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Good luck with counselling tomorrow mixer. I hope it goes well for you.

I'm hoping to start next week when off work.

Posted on:
Mon, 05/12/2016 - 06:27

Mixer

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2016-12-03

Hi KP82

Good morning; I'm just off to work with a 4hr commute (2hrs each direction?. I'm thinking, do I really want to do this, day in, day out, and give my hard-earned earnings to an electronic flashing box?

I would arrange counselling today, at a regular time that suits you. Don't wait. It will give you something to look forward to and hold off the urges to gamble.

Trust me. I know what I am talking about and am helping you because I have faith in you. You have pledged to me that you won't gamble. Don't let me down KP.

Posted on:
Mon, 05/12/2016 - 06:27

Mixer

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2016-12-03

Hi KP82

Good morning; I'm just off to work with a 4hr commute (2hrs each direction). I'm thinking, do I really want to do this, day in, day out, and give my hard-earned earnings to an electronic flashing box?

We're both not stupid, KP, yet that's exactly what we've both been doing!

It's madness.

In your shoes, I would arrange counselling today, at a regular time that suits you. Don't wait. It will give you something to look forward to and hold off the urges to gamble.

Trust me. I know what I am talking about and am helping you because I have faith in you. You have pledged to me that you won't gamble. Don't let me down KP.

I'm not here for tea and sympathy because I've had a bad gambling result or whatever and nor are you. I'm serious when I say we stop now, and permanently. With me? 

Posted on:
Mon, 05/12/2016 - 07:52

brandon

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Morning Mixer.

Thanks for the post on my diary.

I was a similar gambler to yourself by the sounds of it, large amounts in a big binge. You sound fully committed...I'd just advise to keep yourself busy, you'll soon find you've done a month without really noticing. Feel so much better to be out of it all, clearer head, happier person. Keep going, all the best. 

Posted on:
Mon, 05/12/2016 - 19:44

Hchale2

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2016-12-04

Thanks Mixer. Break it to the wife tonight and give cards over. 

I like the short term goals/targets to work to. 

Day 1 over nearly. Good to talk and read other comments on here. 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 05/12/2016 - 19:49

Change

Joined:
2015-01-30

Hope the commute has been ok... I've had roughly the same journey today.  Still it beats gambling... keep going with your diary as it's a good read.

Posted on:
Mon, 05/12/2016 - 21:18

Mixer

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2016-12-03

 

Thank you Brandon, Hchale and Change; I very much appreciate your supportive comments. It's a real pleasure conversing with people that genuinely want to stop and actively proving it can be done.

I had my first appointment with the counsellor today and the first thing I said was: I am not going to gamble whilst on counselling. I have made a promise. 

She said that if I do relapse, to tell her, be honest. 

But I tell you what. I will be honest but I am not going to relapse.

However, to make doubly sure, I am going to carry out the following actions tomorrow.

1. Ban myself from every bookies; the phone no. is 0800 294 2060. You'll need to scan a picture of yourself and this is transmitted to all bookies in the area(s) you nominate.

2. Ban myself from every online bookies. There's a site called Betfilter.

I won't go into my counselling experience in detail because it is, by its nature, personal and I need to consider my counsellor, who, I have to say, is brilliant. 

I recommend it to anyone. I had preconceptions there would be a "there there" approach as I wallowed on some leather couch (OK, I exaggerate for effect).

The actuality is different: it's designed to help you stop gambling. If you truly want to stop and want to be taken seriously and are prepared to put in the hard work and determination, do it.

Jeez, I'm on Week 1 and I feel very positive. I know it's going to get harder before it gets easier but it's all about sharing your problem, and building up your support network, which crucially includes the good people here on these forums.

Hchale, I will be handing over my card to my mum (not my wife, because the card is still "in reach").

Do I care that my mum is looking after my card, after all I am 47 years old?!

No. Because I'll do anything that stops my gambling. And if my mum has to always look after my card, and give me money to spend, then I'll do it. The rewards, how I'll feel, and importantly how my wife, son and mum feels, is worth it. 

Sorry to ramble, but had to get all this off my chest. 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 05/12/2016 - 21:38

Change

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2015-01-30

Take a look at Gamban as well - i use that and it's free. I believe it was created by a problem gambler who wanted to help other problem gamblers so didn't want to charge.  There is a link to it through this site.  It's worth a look but by all means go for Betfilter if you've heard good reviews.  It blocks gambling sites and also any pop ups.

Posted on:
Mon, 05/12/2016 - 22:05

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thanks Change, I'm going to activate both tomorrow (the 6th Dec to placate those who say tomorrow comes!)

Posted on:
Mon, 05/12/2016 - 23:07

Anon100

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Hello Mixer and welcome.  I can feel your determination through your diary and wish you all the best.  It's still early days for me 69 but already I feel so much better.  The key things for me were the blocks in place, willpower, determination and support.  When the urges come keep yourself busy and they will pass.  Read the diaries on here for inspiration, it's proof that it can be done.  Best wishes x 

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 04:26

KP82

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2016-12-03

Hey mixer, sorry for the belated reply on your diary!!

I'm not gonna let you down. We're all in this together but I'm here for the very long haul if you are.

Total honesty my end guaranteed. Even a £2 scratchcard (which I havent)

I do still continue to do the bingo in work but it's a quid a week so I'm guessing that's ok?

Be strong.

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 06:39

Mixer

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2016-12-03

 

Hi KP, I'm genuinely pleased to hear you're sticking with this and not going to gamble today. It puts a spring in my step, because we are all in this together. 

I'm in a lottery syndicate at work, £2 a month or something. I'm keeping that because it's not gambling in my book; I simply look at it as a kind of club and will leave that in situ. Some fellow readers may disagree, but that's where I've personally drawn the line. 

KP, scratch cards most certainly counts as gambling so do not buy one. 

I'm not sure about this bingo you subscribe to. You know, KP, if it's gambling or not. 

I would like to ask you, KP, have you noticed there's extra cash in your pocket, or your bank balance is a little 'ahead' of where you might expect it to be?

If so, is this a nice feeling? Just imagine, even with the small amount you've saved so far, you could take your son for a really exciting day out. Now I don't know his age, but what about a train trip somewhere, a children's play centre, the zoo etc. Can you imagine his delight? His face lighting up? Wow. 

How's that for inspiration and how he'll can't wait to see you each time if every time you're together is like that!

 

 

And your ex will gain some respect for you. Look; even if you don't get back together surely it would be better to be friends again. 

Better than a buzzing, beeping, thieving box every time, surely....

We are not here for tea and sympathy KP. We are here to stop. Now. A mix of practical steps will help, along with a reawakening of what really matters whilst we live the short time we have on this planet.

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 06:52

Mixer

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2016-12-03

Anon, thank you for your kind words. I've left a message on your diary. 

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 12:10

KP82

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2016-12-03

Hi mix, I'm not gambling I'm in bed, working nights and we are doing this together.

This bingo we do is £1 a week, pick 7 numbers from the lottery and first man to mark his line off takes the pot. I don't see it as gambling per se.

And yes, bank balance is ahead too!

As for a day trip out with the kids, I've let them down in the past because I've gambled the money away. I can't hurt them like this anymore.

Be strong my friend.

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 20:03

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

 

Hi KP

The bingo thing seems harmless enough to me. And glad you're ahead financially. Cash in your pocket!

I'm not ahead because of my last binge on Nov 30th. In fact, I'm coming up to a bad time when I would think about another binge. However, I am not going to gamble a penny.

Let's keep this going. I am going to hit Day 100 and you are going to join me on here as we both hit our centuries.

 

 

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 20:18

spud1966

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Thanks for the message of support Mixer, wish I had some of your positivity, good luck mate.

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 21:39

Katiecoo

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Our one week mark tomorrow..congratulations my friend. Think of how positive we are both going to feel in one months time.. 1st Jan 2017.

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 22:03

Mixer

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2016-12-03

And my I pass on my congratulations to you Katiecoo. I am not going to let you down and Iknow you are not going to let me down either! Roll on a happy New Year!

 

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 22:17

brandon

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Congrats on 1 week for tomorrow, positivity is great to see on here!

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 22:24

Mixer

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Thnaks Brandon, although it's a hollow victory due to the nature of my addiction (periodic binges). If I get to Day 30 - and I'm going to, along with some fellow ex-gamblers I've had the pleasure to meet on here, and they know who they are - then that'll be worth a celebration. And I wish you continued success, Brandon.

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Tue, 06/12/2016 - 22:35

brandon

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You'll get there mate, don't put any doubt in your own mind. I'm gonna hit 200 days, 1 year, 2 years. Not if....when...

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 22:48

KP82

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2016-12-03

Well done mix, a week!! I knew you could do it.

Please keep going pal I'm with you all the way.

We CAN and we WILL

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 22:55

Mixer

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I am NOT going to let you down KP. And I know you are not going to let me down either. Let's both remember; it's a BOX. Real life and real people are much, much more interesting. We are not those sorry looking saps talking to a flashing box any more. Not us.

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 22:58

Change

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C'mon Mixer lad!  You're doing great!  Keep going!

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 23:03

Mixer

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2016-12-03

Thanks Change, Not gonna stop now. Have momentum and your support is terrific. And I've joined a team who are equally determined - KP and Katiecoo. All complete strangers yet have bonded brilliantly and as KP says, time to slay this beast. Nearly 20 gambling free days between us, what a start!

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Tue, 06/12/2016 - 23:03

KP82

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2016-12-03

Definately mixer. Not anymore.
Spent too much of my time and money with them.

I want to be a good dad again, not a brainwashed shell of a man.

I'm done with it and I know you are too.

We CAN and we WILL

Posted on:
Tue, 06/12/2016 - 23:12

Change

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This is great lads - all the motivation needed their KP82... "not a brainwashed shell of a man". I've hide in the bathroom on many occasions after a huge binge on my phone.  Disgusts me to think of the opportunities i've spurned for my family.  Sam Cookie sang it and although the contect was wildly different "a change is gunna come"... "it's been too hard living, but I'm afraid to die, coz i don't know what's up there beyond the sky, it's been a long... long time coming.... but i know a change gunna come"

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Wed, 07/12/2016 - 07:45

Mixer

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2016-12-03

That's a great post Change, and you are most welcome to join us in our collective journey to stop forever. Join us, that's me, KP and Katiecoo? What terrific people I've had the pleasure of meeting in here. 

KP, you are dead right: we have been shells for too long. The real "us" is amazing and, as we crawl, walk and eventually run away from this the world will see!

Posted on:
Wed, 07/12/2016 - 15:47

KP82

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2016-12-03

Hey mixer just popping in.
Hope your strong.

I'll be in group chat tonight if you and Katie are coming along.

We'll get each other through it and before you know it we'll be 28 days clean.

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