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Mentally cant get over my huge gambling losses

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#1 Posted on:
Fri, 22/01/2016 - 13:10

chaser1508

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Hi

I am new to the forum and I am wondering how people mentally cope with the debt that gambling has created?  In 2014 I lost £8000.00 gambling online roulette and fobt's.  I then stopped gambling for 8 months after reading Allen Carr's book.  Unfortunately I was diagnosed with an illness and found it hard to cope.  I had a major relapse and since Sept 2015 I have lost £21,000.00.  I am now struggling to cope with the shame and gulit of this but also when I think about what I could have brought or how I could have treated my family I feel sick.  Also i have to face up to about £18,000.00 of credit card debt as well as £4000.00 borrowed from family members.  I feel confident that I can stop gambling but not confident that I can face up to my losses and realise what an fool I have been.  Thanks for any advice offered.

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Fri, 22/01/2016 - 14:11

Bal

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Hi and welcome to the forum.

Unfortunately you have to realise those monies are not returning and you must not "chase" the losses. That will only result in even more.

Having been in a similar financial position you begin to learn to deal with it. That is so much better than phone calls and letters threatening court action for lack of payments made.

If the debts are a concern give stepchange a call. I pay them a fixed monthly fee and they distribute that amongst the creditors. They can also freeze the interest and stop the phone calls and letters. They also don't charge a monthly fee. (Other debt management companies are available).

Just a few thoughts but mainly you have to let it go.

Best wishes

Posted on:
Fri, 22/01/2016 - 15:04

chaser1508

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Thanks Balvaird for your wise words. I can service the debt payments it's just going to take many years to clear. I understand that others have lost homes and houses etc...so I guess I mustn't be too hard on myself? Yes chasing losses is what got me into this situation.  I realise that even if I won all that money back I would probably lose it all again the next day! Have you just accepted that you will be paying off debt for years? 

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Fri, 22/01/2016 - 15:10

Bal

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Unfortunately yes for a few more years but then the interesting part begins.

I no longer live by any means of credit and when my debts are paid I will have a sum of extra cash each month to spend as I and the good lady see fit. Certainly not on gambling!!!

Best wishes

Posted on:
Fri, 22/01/2016 - 23:32

Frozen

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2010-11-22

It's not easy but sometimes we have to say enough to is enough 

 

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Fri, 22/01/2016 - 23:38

DeLorean

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Personally even if you think you can manage the debt, I would consider contacting Stepchange or Payplan to see if they can help you come to an arrangement with your creditors. Firstly the act of helping yourself will also make yourself feel better and secondly any way of clearing your debt more quickly is an obvious benefit. Having to contemplate years of paying off debt is more likely to drive you back to gambling so take all the assistance you can get.

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Sat, 23/01/2016 - 06:02

Joydivider

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2015-03-11

Hi chaser2508.

You have to mentally get over the money lost even if it takes counselling. Its one of the first hurdles that must be overcome because the money isnt coming back. Its not a get it back later scheme. This has to be dealt with and brushed off so it doesnt make you ill. Your mental health now has top priority. Its time to count your family and friends as more important

I have to use my own systems because there is no point dwelling on it when it can only make me ill. You do eventually have to adopt an easy go / its gone attitude. I have my own systems of oh well a footballer would have spent my losses on a cake or a party.

As I said on another thread the debts have to be dealt with so that it doesnt make you ill. I dont know your income and assets and thats your business You can only pay what you can afford

Then again if you are a property owner I understand that it is considered an asset for some creditors. I do understand its not an easy situation

You may need financial advice from someone that can help you directly.

All the best.

 

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Sat, 23/01/2016 - 23:23

chaser1508

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2016-01-22

Thanks everyone for your thoughts.  As soon as I opened my eyes this morning my first thought was about how much money I wasted and I felt like I wanted to cry. How can you stop these thoughts and self loathing? Reading your replies really helps and makes me feel more positive about my situation. I will speak to someone if I can't mentally let this go.  

I can't change the past, what is done is done. It's hard...but I have to find ways of focusing on today and my future rather than my negative past mistakes. 

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Sun, 24/01/2016 - 15:37

cardhue

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Hi

Just a thought-but be careful you're not really focusing on the loss to justify further gambling (eg I'm in too deep, can't get out, no light etc). The mind can come out with unhelpful thoughts, particularly an addicted one. These are just thoughts. Don't buy into them.

I gambled for 16 years, lost circa £120k. **** happens, I lost a lot but money never equalled happiness. I've stopped for 3 years and tried to address what was driving my addiction and I try to live by my values. The money takes care of itself.

So, like everyone else on here has to do, you accept its gone. You focus on what and who is really important to you.

Best

Louis

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Sun, 24/01/2016 - 15:46

Frozen

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I gambled 20 years and spent 20 focused on losses.  Let go not easy but it is your only hope

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Sun, 24/01/2016 - 18:42

DeLorean

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chaser1508 wrote:

Thanks everyone for your thoughts.  As soon as I opened my eyes this morning my first thought was about how much money I wasted and I felt like I wanted to cry. How can you stop these thoughts and self loathing? Reading your replies really helps and makes me feel more positive about my situation. I will speak to someone if I can't mentally let this go.  

I can't change the past, what is done is done. It's hard...but I have to find ways of focusing on today and my future rather than my negative past mistakes. 

Easy to say but it will get better. I hated myself when I had to confront what I had done but when you move out of the world of gambling, the fog does start to lift. Stop the loathing and start loving yourself more - by stopping once and for all.

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Tue, 26/01/2016 - 00:21

chaser1508

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Thanks everyone for your wise words. It's been great reading your comments and when I am feeling low about my debt I read your posts and feel better. Also when I focus on how stupid I have been I try to switch my focus (as advised) to the important things in life (friends/family etc). Today I have thought about it much less and I think I am starting to accept my huge losses. I am also trying to be grateful for the things I do have in my life that are great (my lovely daughters and wife, house, car, job etc). Focusing on what I have rather than what I did have has been very useful. Thanks again for your advice and I hope we can all beat this horrible addiction for good. 

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Sat, 06/02/2016 - 21:31

charlieoscarluke

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2015-12-11

Hi Chaser. I am in a similar position to you. I've managed to run up approx £18000 in debt and I struggle daily with the guilt and shame of what gambling has made me. I have a long road ahead but I think you have to have hope. FOBT roulette and online roulette have destroyed me and my finances. I'm at rock bottom at the moment but determined to get myself out of the mess that I'm in. The losses are gone and they are not coming back. Chasing them just leads to more heartache, frustration and misery. There's more to life.

Posted on:
Mon, 08/02/2016 - 00:45

chaser1508

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2016-01-22

Hi charlieoscarluke. Sorry to hear that your in a similar situation as me. Yes your correct you have to have hope...also we must look forward and not back. We can't change what's happened but we can change our future by making better choices. Also I read that the dalai larma was asked if he could give only one bit of advice only from all his years of wisdom what would it be.  He said "let go, let go, let go." This hit home with me and I try and think of these words when my thoughts go towards my past gambling/debts and it really helps me. 

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Wed, 17/02/2016 - 10:52

charlieoscarluke

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Hi Chaser £18000 in debt with a 48 month repayment plan ahead. I'm never getting the money back but see this as a way of proving that gambling is a mugs game. 4 years of struggle to repay what generally is an hour of watching a ball bounce around a wheel with numbers on it. Defies logic. It's time for a change and bit by bit I will reclaim my life, pay back my debts and kick this habit. What's gone is gone. I'm never getting it back but I can stop anymore money falling down the gambling drain. I can't control my past but I can control my future!

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Wed, 17/02/2016 - 15:23

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Posted on:
Sun, 21/02/2016 - 23:27

chaser1508

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Hi Midlifecrisis and charlieoscarluke,

It seems you are both dealing well with your losses and looking forward.  I like the mental tricks a lot...very helpful. I also try to imagine that my debt was from a business that I set up which didnt take off (again no one would mind) or an expensive course in how to be financially more astute!

I am getting better everyday in "letting go."  I think I am slowly coming to terms with my losses and finding making progress in paying them off (no matter how small) quite motivating.  

Lets keep in touch with our progress.

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Tue, 29/03/2016 - 21:01

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Posted on:
Wed, 30/03/2016 - 03:07

PlasticDream

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Letting go of the finacial loses seems hard at first (I lost a hell of a lot, not all my money either) but it does get easier and its crucial in recovery, when it comes down to it its nothing really, what is money ? when its lost its gone forever, I find letting go of the time wasted, chances wasted, trust lost and friendships etc lost far harder, the money means nothing compared to them.

Hopefully you haven't damaged them too much, If those loses are all you lose and teach you to stay away from gambling forever, consider it a bargain life lesson

 

good luck mate  

Posted on:
Wed, 30/03/2016 - 03:47

Johnboy

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2010-03-18

I also struggle with this, despite the fact that over the past 4 years I've 'only' at maximum lost £10,000 or so gambling of my own money, I've been much higher with 'winnings' of course but obviously they were just temporary!

 A huge amount of money of course but before I handed my finances over to someone else I was pretty much spending my monthly wage and beyond.

I think the main problem for me at the minute is mainly that my brain is trying to tell me to gamble but I'm fighting it back which it isn't used to at all and it is difficult, today for example I walked round town but couldn't actually bear to buy anything it just felt weird every time I tried to do so!

Why is it so hard to just forget about some blooming electronic machines which you know you're not going to win on!

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Wed, 30/03/2016 - 08:52

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Posted on:
Wed, 30/03/2016 - 10:46

Shep72

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Hi Chaser,

Like the others say the money is gone! I'm facing up to paying my debts off. It can be frustrating to face the monthly repayment plans, but good god they are far cheaper than the amount I was turning over in bets on most days.

Try and look for positives, not negatives. Waking up every day and telling yourself you will not gamble today is a good start.

Reading this thread I can see you've grown stronger already. I quote something you wrote earlier....

" Also when I focus on how stupid I have been I try to switch my focus (as advised) to the important things in life (friends/family etc). Today I have thought about it much less and I think I am starting to accept my huge losses. I am also trying to be grateful for the things I do have in my life that are great (my lovely daughters and wife, house, car, job etc). Focusing on what I have rather than what I did have has been very useful."

These are great positive words. Say them everyday to yourself. Most of us on this forum have debts but some people have lost everything. I will never forget the upset I caused to my wife and myself when facing up to my addiction, probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life and something that I don't ever want to do again. There's a mental scare there to always remind me.

Speaking 1 to 1 with a long term GA member on my first meeting, opening up to a complete stranger, listening to his story also, something else I will never forget. Then attending GA meetings with all the ladies and gents in the same boat as me. All positive moves. I don't want to let myself down as I will be letting down many other people too.

With a strong mind you I'm sure you will make big strides forward. Life is full of ups and downs no matter which path we take.

Wishing you all the best.

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Wed, 30/03/2016 - 22:44

Lints

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2016-03-30

 

Very inspiring thread to read. I guess loss is loss, and there's an element of grieving to be done while your head rounds the sharp edges off the whole experience. Time is a great healer too. Sounds like you need to forgive yourself also if you don't mind me saying. You never set out with malice in mind, or to create a situation that was ultimately a nightmare for youself. Why would you. I hope you you keep feeling better and more at ease with each passing day :)

 

Posted on:
Wed, 01/06/2016 - 00:53

chaser1508

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2016-01-22

Hey, was checking how everyone is getting on since posting re this thread? I had a relapse at the end of April and lost £1800 on an old online account I hadn't shut down...so stupid.  I promtly closed the account and I am now 31 days gambling free and paid off £2k of my debt...just £18k left!  Actually I now see this debt as a useful reminder of how damaging and costly gambling is.  This sounds very obvious but when you truly realise that gambling gives you NO pleasure you start to think why do it?  So many people mistaking believe they actually enjoy gambling when all it is doing is making you miserable and depressed.  This has really helped me quit so when I get an urge to gamble I remind myself that I am not getting anything out of it, the odds are against me so why place a bet.  I hope you are all making good progress with battling this horrible addiction. 

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Thu, 27/10/2016 - 19:08

chaser1508

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2016-01-22

Sorry to say I am back again!  Last week I just thought I have now got some money saved and a little go on fobt's won't hurt...how wrong was I.  I really can't handle losing money and can't except a loss.  I lost £800 which then turned into a £6000 loss because I wanted to "win back"my original £800...what an idiot! 

 

 

Posted on:
Thu, 27/10/2016 - 19:24

chaser1508

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2016-01-22

The weird thing was I really didn't care when I relapsed, I just thought **** it.  Now I don't understand why I felt like that.  Although I am more determined than ever to stay gambling free.  An expensive lesson learned hopefully. 

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Fri, 28/10/2016 - 06:49

alainepo

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Posted on:
Fri, 28/10/2016 - 20:32

Shattered79

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So true

PlasticDream wrote:

Letting go of the finacial loses seems hard at first (I lost a hell of a lot, not all my money either) but it does get easier and its crucial in recovery, when it comes down to it its nothing really, what is money ? when its lost its gone forever, I find letting go of the time wasted, chances wasted, trust lost and friendships etc lost far harder, the money means nothing compared to them.

Hopefully you haven't damaged them too much, If those loses are all you lose and teach you to stay away from gambling forever, consider it a bargain life lesson

 

good luck mate  

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Fri, 28/10/2016 - 20:35

Shattered79

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2016-05-14

So true

allainepo wrote:

Hi chaser, I got to that **** it point also, it's a very dangerous place to be in. At times it feels like it can be ok as you can cope with bigger losses but that is the point, the losses do become bigger and bigger until they are so big the crushing huge debt is upon you which is not so easy to live with. I got so bad i got to the point of winning and losing thousands every day and thinking easy come easy go which led to a monumental loss and near suicide. I hope you can get some gambling blocks in place which will buy you some time if you do get a gambling trigger and like all sick people get yourself to see your GP and talk everything over with them and stay on here even if you think you are over the worst. It is a battle for the rest of your life so stay here and help others battle too, oh and change your screen name as chaser is a bad name, do not go down the chasing route you have to forget the lost money and start living a gamble free life. All the best to you and everyone

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Sat, 29/10/2016 - 21:37

chaser1508

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2016-01-22

I have online blocks so can't gamble on my laptop or phone. But I drive a lot for work and I drive past a bookies and thought **** it.  It was like a rebellious act to myself after doing so well, very strange.  I am lucky as only lost money. It friendships, partners etc. The lesson learned is I can never bet again as I am very competitive and can't handle losing so ending chasing loses.  Should really understand that I shouldn't except to win on roulette when the game is designed for you to lose!  Thanks for the comments so far, all thoughts on this are very much appreciated and valued.  

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Sat, 29/10/2016 - 22:02

alainepo

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Sun, 06/11/2016 - 09:50

chaser1508

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Thanks allainepo,  your comments have been very helpful.  Its so true, we are not missing out on anything and it is just a "house of fools."  I must remember that gambling doesn't bring me any pleasure or fun...just stress and misery. So why do it!

I haven't even wanted to gamble for 2 weeks, partly from reading your comments...sometimes you just need someone to tell you straight and reinforce.  Thanks again and to anyone else who posts as I am sure you are helping many others.  

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Sun, 29/01/2017 - 04:18

Joydivider

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Is this a spam attempt above from the account stacymorgan? The reply has gone out to multiple threads and it looks like spam advertising

Nobody waves a magic wand for debt and the link looks more than iffy....Im bringing it to the attention of the moderators

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Sun, 29/01/2017 - 07:43

Pwm101

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I have this on my feed . Zoho.com doesn't look like a debt consolidation place to me ? What is going on ? 

Posted on:
Sun, 29/01/2017 - 10:08

Forum admin

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Thank you all who reported the user stacymorgan. The account and all its posts have been deleted. 

Forum Admin

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Sun, 29/01/2017 - 10:31

Joydivider

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Pwm101 wrote:

I have this on my feed . Zoho.com doesn't look like a debt consolidation place to me ? What is going on ? 

Yes the account denied it but was multiple posting with a link that I didnt like the look of. I had a look and it all looked very iffy including the name.

We dont need that on the forum and Im glad the moderators deal with these matters effectively.

We all live by the rules on here and this results in an excellent forum which helps people

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Sun, 29/01/2017 - 12:27

Pwm101

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2017-01-23

Well if there's an upside it got me reading your posts ! Can see a lot of similarities. I too get these self destruct tendencies. But not this time I'm 11 days gamble free and going to keep it that way. I have huge debts (almost 50k) and my sole focus is paying them off the legitimate way. My punishment is it will take me 5 to 6 years . That's the burden I deserve for being an idiot and I can live with it. Wishing you all the best . I reckon you can do it 

Posted on:
Mon, 30/01/2017 - 00:01

chaser1508

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2016-01-22

Hi Pwm101,  congrats on 11 days gf.  I had debts of £55k from gambling and came very close to financial ruin.  Mentally getting over how much money I has wasted was hard but I can only control my future so thats what I did.  After 3 years I now have them down to £18k and hope to be debt free by summer 2018.  It has been a hard slog but I can see light at the end of the tunnell and I am looking forward to having those monthly cc payments all to myself!

I am sure I can do it and if I can do it you can to.  Good luck and keep in touch with your progress.

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Mon, 30/01/2017 - 02:38

I will save mys...

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2016-06-15

Wow Chaser, how far have you come in your journey ! 55k to 18 K in 3 years... testiment to your resolve to straighten your life out and away from addiction.

You must feel so much inner peace and respect and that was so inspiring to read, thank you for posting your progress

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Sun, 05/02/2017 - 08:51

wasteofmoney

Joined:
2017-02-02

Hi,

I'm hoping people can help me feel a bit better. I never really had a big gambling problem, except when I have been on holiday in the past I tended to get carried away with roullette. However, after suffering a recent loss in the family I tried online roulette after being lured in with one of the rip off offers, and after losing £20 I went mad and managed to continue winning a bit and then eventually losing £7k of my own money. I spent the whole next day on my phone again and won it back to the penny and vowed to never do again and I felt so much better.

 A few days later I stupidly tried to have a go to try and win some money again on roulette on my phone. I decided I woudl only bet 

£50 but that turned into about £2k deposited. After playing for several hours I managed to win £40K. I couldnt believe it, I thought finally some good luck and was thinking about all the ways I could improve my life. But I just couldn't stop I was placing bigger and bigger bets as I was up so much, and again bigger bets when I tried to recover when I was losing money. Even at £30k, £20k £10K or even anything over £2000 I would have been up but I continued until I lost it all. From the euphoria of £40k I had lost it all!

 

I thought I had a strategy where I could win big again and took money out of savings for a house. Over the next week managed to lose now a grand total of £15K. Its been over a week and I have no desire to gamble, but the fact that I was £38K up and could have withdrawn and now am £15K down, which will take me over a year to save is something I just can't get over and is depressing me to the core. As mentioned previously I initially won back £7K in losses at the start of this gambling and thought if I was patient and calm I could win back everything again, but I gambled and lost £6K in a matter of minutes. I still think if I am patient and have small bets and be patient I can get it back like before. The feeling of now being £15K down is horrendous.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

 

 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 05/02/2017 - 09:25

random

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Hello Wasteofmoney

I don't think there is a recipe for feeling better about a loss off the back of a win. Trying to win back the money by gambling isn't the answer you will most likely dig yourself a deeper hole, I've been there on so many occasions.

Chaser1508 well done on making a huge dent on your debt. This is inspiration to me as I'm about 1 year into a DMP which at the current rate will take 6 years to pay off. You're proof that it is doable for anybody but I you've got to want to quit, as much as i loved gambling I had loads of complications in my life debt, lies, sleepless nights and i wasn't doing my job properly I wanted to tackle these problems more than I want to gamble.

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Mon, 06/02/2017 - 22:46

Daz1085

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2014-02-26

 

Hey guys - just reading through these posts. I'm £15k in debt and have lost much more throughout my 8 years of gambling addiction. The only advice I will ever give is no matter how bad it is now - if you go back - it will get worse. I'm testiment to that. Just used I gamble my salary - nothing else - stopped. Went back after a relapse and now £15k in debt. Do not carry on. You will NOT win anything back. We all remember the good days when we win big but what did we actually spend it on? Naff all. All went back in. The money is just a byproduct of this awful addiction. 

 

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Mon, 06/02/2017 - 23:41

chaser1508

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2016-01-22

Hi wasteofmoney.  Totally agree with random and daz1085...hence my (terrible) user name.  Chasing losses is how I and probably most of us have got deeper into debt.  You remember those rare times when you beat the odds and won big.  You think you can do it again but it is these rare wins that keep the addict hooked and ultimately lose even more money.  Even if you had withdrawn that big win and brought something, you would think you could do it again and probably spend even more trying.  The house always wins, nobody can beat the odds, you are £15k down but you will be even worse off if you gamble again trust me as I have sadly done it myself many times.  

I lost £20k of savings and ended £55k in debt 3 years ago, with the odd relapse on the way I am now 72 days gambling free and £18k in debt.  At the time I use to wake up and think of all the money I had wasted, cry and feel stupid.  Then with help and support from here I decide to not focus on the lost money but how I could turn things around and even help others.  You cant control your past but you can control your decisions and your future.  Also focus on the things that you have and are grateful for...in my case health, family, sunshine, food, roof over my head etc.  Dont focus on what you dont have.  Dont let roulette/betting shops rob you of your happiness and self worth.  Dont give them that power, concentrate on your future and the happiness you deserve.  

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Sat, 09/09/2017 - 22:59

Morgy

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2017-09-09

I understand exactly what it's like.. I feel you and we can get over it together somehow, I lost a bet much lower than you, but when I did, my face went so red and so hot I literally wanted to scream. I'm really sorry for you :( 

Posted on:
Fri, 22/09/2017 - 09:42

chaser1508

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2016-01-22

Hi Morgy,  no need to feel sorry for me.  I did feel terrible and really mentally struggled to not dwell on my losses.  You cant change the past but you can change the future with better decisions.  In this time I have had one or two relapses and I think its really important not to let a relapse derail any progress.  I saw a relapse as a reminder of how gambling only brings misery and pain and used it a drive myself forward.  Dont see relapse as a failure or defeat, just see it as a very small bump on a long but positive journey.  Update re my debt...I am now down to £12.5k (from £55K).  Be great to hear how the others on this thread are doing.

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Thu, 23/11/2017 - 21:18

Lukewba123

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2017-11-23

Hi 

im new to this and I understand everyone on here have probably had it a lot worst than I have but I just thought maybe hearing about other people experiences and how they got past them might help me. 

I have recently lost around £5000, I had won this in the first place but it does not make it any easier to accept that I have lost it all when I think of everything I could have brought and say for instance took my family on a nice holiday etc! I feel like a complete failure when I look at my family and I'm wondering when I'm ever going to get over this. The gambling side of it I don't think is a major issue as since I've lost it I've not even thought about betting again (I know as time goes on I could be tempted again which I would have to deal with when it comes) but at this moment it's how I live with the feeling! Only a year a go I went through depression and this sort of thing is making me feel just like that did and I really don't want to go back to that place.

any advice or anything would be truly appreciated. 

Thanks 

 

Posted on:
Thu, 23/11/2017 - 22:36

Lisa-Bee

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2017-11-23

chaser1508 wrote:

Hi charlieoscarluke. Sorry to hear that your in a similar situation as me. Yes your correct you have to have hope...also we must look forward and not back. We can't change what's happened but we can change our future by making better choices. Also I read that the dalai larma was asked if he could give only one bit of advice only from all his years of wisdom what would it be.  He said "let go, let go, let go." This hit home with me and I try and think of these words when my thoughts go towards my past gambling/debts and it really helps me. 

That quote inspires me too. Letting go is hard but so worth it!

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Mon, 04/12/2017 - 13:52

Kojo

Joined:
2017-12-03

i feel very inspired after reading all these messages. I have lost a total of about 9k in the past 3 weeks or so yesterday being the last straw after loosing 3k., not to mention what i lost before in the past. i have always kept my loses to my self and never opened up about it to anyone. i have finally managed to confide in my girlfriend and it feels like i have shrugged off a huge burden. after reading all these posts i have come to admit and accept that i have a gambling problem and am determined now more than ever not to allow it consume me but rather remind myself of the dire consequences gambling can cause in ones life. lets beat this addiction together ones and for all! TO GAMBLE IS TO LOSE!

Posted on:
Fri, 08/12/2017 - 18:29

chaser1508

Joined:
2016-01-22

Yes there are some great posts and messages in here.  Kojo I am so glad you have took the brave step and told your girlfriend.  It is so hard to tackle this addiction on your own and having support will really help.  My debt is going down and although it is a pain to keep paying out every month it is a useful reminder of the huge damage gambling caused me.  I can see the end in sight (being debt free) and that is really motivating.  "Letting go" of the past and focusing on what I can change going forward has been the key for me.  You can beat this!