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Posted on:
Sun, 03/09/2017 - 12:27

Mixer

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2016-12-03

Loafin - you're more than welcome to join. You'll be on the next Rollcall, next weekend. Welcome aboard and don't forget to seek as much help from Gamcare as you can to get your gambling-free life started. We'll see you on Day 7 next week ;) and post on here as often as you want if you need a steer :)

Posted on:
Sun, 03/09/2017 - 12:33

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Unfortunately I don't care about Cardiff City as I support Liverpool (with me being from Merseyside originally) and doubly unfortunate is the fact that I live about half a mile from the ground so my front garden tends to be used as a rubbish bin on match days!

Posted on:
Sun, 03/09/2017 - 12:36

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Oh dear, sorry about that Phil. Still, at least Liverpool are high-flying at the moment so a bit of consolation. A shame there's nothing you can do about the garden situation; that must be irritating to say the least.

Posted on:
Sun, 03/09/2017 - 13:19

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Well it's not like it happens every day.

Posted on:
Sun, 03/09/2017 - 13:24

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Fair enough Phil :)

To all readers:

*** If you're looking for the Weekly (Sunday) Rollcall , it's a few posts back ***

Posted on:
Sun, 03/09/2017 - 16:45

Athena1991

Joined:
2016-09-17

Checking in for another day gf - ! Sorry I have'nt been very present the last week I have had some personal issues to sort out which has left my very busy! great to see positivity on this thread continuing regardless! Great to see so many people on this thread clocking up the the gf days :-) 

Posted on:
Sun, 03/09/2017 - 21:02

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hey, no worries Athena. This thread is returning back to 'Positivity Central' (always underpinned by pragmatism and common sense, of course!) and, as you say, great to see lots of GF days building up all round :)

Thought of the day: "If we think we won't gamble today, we won't gamble today."

We can dismiss the option every day!

Goodnight all!

Posted on:
Mon, 04/09/2017 - 05:41

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Like that word in Mixer's last post ' pragmatism ' .  I had to look it up and it seems a pragmatic person is : down to earth - earthy - hardheaded - matter of fact - practical - realistic . They seem like excellent qualities to strive for in overcoming gambling addiction . As a compulsive gambler I guess I was living in a fantasy world of delusions with my head in the clouds .

Posted on:
Mon, 04/09/2017 - 11:21

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hi Abstainer,

Thank you for your terrific post (as always), and, yes, agreed - pragmatism; that healthy reality, is a most important attribute to have on this journey.

Incidentally, I have three favourite positive 'P' words - pragmatism, perception and precedent. It's critical how we're perceived these days, in my view, but important that the underlying substance (of our character) backs it up. As for precedents, well, they're great; if something's wrong, and it's challenged by a lone voice and made right, then a precedent has been set, making things better for everyone. For example, take the Bosman ruling in football. Bosman stood up to the football clubs, and won, free of the restrictive rules that meant the club previously owned him. Every other player has benefitted since. A precedent was set! (Although, looking at the way players hop from club to club nowadays, maybe it's gone a little too far and maybe a new precedent needs to be set ... :)

Other key 'weapons' in our armoury - not just for being GF, but for life itself - are consistent politeness and, above all, consistent respect. We can shrug off, and bat off, all-comers using these. 

Anyway I'm meandering, so back to the point. Which is, as you say Abstainer, keeping it real!

And, reading your posts, you certainly do that! I continue to wish you all the very best.

Posted on:
Mon, 04/09/2017 - 17:02

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Ode to Mixer

Arm in arm not a schism  - Emboldened anew with pragmatism

No delusions or deception - Seeing sense with cool perception

Onwards upwards our ascent - Maybe it's a precedent !

 

 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 04/09/2017 - 17:06

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

That, Abstainer, is poetic platinum. Not a word wasted! 'Tis an ode to us all.

My favourite post of the year so far :)

Posted on:
Mon, 04/09/2017 - 17:18

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

That post by Abstainer made me smile. Thank you!

Posted on:
Mon, 04/09/2017 - 18:21

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thanks for that Mixer and Phil . I was in truth being selfish ! 

On the 6th July 1961 I saw the word schism and thought one day I'm going to use that . I can now cross it off my bucket list .

Posted on:
Mon, 04/09/2017 - 22:07

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Delighted to see your bucket list get another 'tick' Abstainer - well worth 56 years patiently anticipating the right moment. Voilet Fane surely got it right when she said : "Good things come to those who wait".

(Where did you originally see the word, by the way!)

Apropos, I've been trying to use the word 'serendipity' for a while now ("happy coincidence"). I'll find a way sooner or later :)

Posted on:
Tue, 05/09/2017 - 00:19

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

*** JUST A THOUGHT ***

When we first decide to go gambling free, there's usually a reason, we don't suddenly "decide to". More often than not, I would suggest, it's because we can't spend any more - the debts have hit a certain point, or there's simply no more money. Or, our loved ones my have stumbled on to the extent of our problems. Or other reasons. But normally, I would suggest, we have no choice but to stop. Let's hang on to that thought....

Here's what happens next. We become morose, self-loathing of what we've done, determined, in the fug of the misery that it's caused, to stop. Partly because there's no money left, and partly because we are actually quite desperate - we know, at this moment, that gambling is making us miserable, our loved ones miserable, everythings just horrible.

The first few days gambling free build up. Fairly easy - we're skint ("anyone can sail a ship in calm waters!") but still very bruised by what we've done.

Hopefully, in the fug we're in, we're taking some practical steps to shore up the position we're in so it doesn't get any worse. Handing over finances to friends and partners; self-excluding from online and land-based gaming companies, casinos and bookies. (If not - - - you should be!). 

At this time, it's good to chat to Gamcare, phone them up, talk it through and start the journey to understand and get into the mindset of why we're gambling. There might be an underlying reason to undertand and rationalise; but it's always good to talk and communicate with others.

Anyway, the fug slowly fades just in time for the next infusion of cash - payday. And all of a sudden, things seem brighter. After being cashless for a what has seemed like an eternity - here's some more cash. All of a sudden all of our problems seem far away, just for a moment. And then, the gambling devil tries to whisper in your ear: You could make the money back you've lost you know... and ---- STOP.

STOP RIGHT THERE.

Here's the reality check. We know we cant win, because even if we do, we end up spending it and then some. So we always lose. So flick that devil off of your shoulder, pick it up by the shirt collar, open your front door and hoof it into kingdom come. (If you wish to holler a "message" then be my guest.)

So what do we do with that cash? Firstly, during this 'raw' time, make sure you can't get hold of it, or take steps to manage it responsibly (sorry, the trust isn't there yet).

Do we clear debts with it? Well, possibly, always clear what's costing you the highest interest first, that's always the best advice. if you're in too deep, though, it might be worth phoning StepChange. They'll help you pay the money back and get your life back on track. But, remember, you've got to stop to do this. If you take the StepChange route and still gamble, well, it's not going to end well. Try not to.

I started this thought saying we often 'stop' because 'we have to', but the truth is, we have a choice. And, when we think about it, it's not really a choice (between life and misery). I mean - who would truly choose misery?

So its no choice, really. We just want to live a 'normal' life, which is guaranteed to be a better life than a gambling one, because we know that always leads to misery, because we always lose (and become untolerable to others, waste time, feel terrible etc. etc. etc.)

When you realise that there isn't really a choice we can see that the one option we have - choosing life - actually means the pressure starts to physically lift from us. Yes, really! And, as time passes, the pressure eases further. 

Because we are free! We are free from gambling the moment we stop. Willpower doesn't come into it; we can relax. We simply need to remind ourselves, every day, not to gamble today, because we know it's bad for us. Don't try to suppress thoughts of gambling; when you do, feel happy that you don't have to gamble any more! You are 'free'! Feel great about it. You don't have to do this anymore.Does it really make you happy? Is that semi-permanent anti-social grimacing and stern expession you put on really "enjoying yourself?"

Now yes, you might look back at times. That's fine, but don't dwell, don't stare. We are where we are, the future starts here. We can't rewrite history, but we can start to write the future. It won't be easy, possibly; you may have debts, relationship issues or a myriad of other challenges - but you're up for the challenge, right?

Just remember, you are free of gambling the moment you stop. Some people say life is 'boring' when you are gambling free. I say this; gambling your money away actually takes very little time; a months wage can disappear in a couple of hours. So what would you rather have? A 'bored' month being skint? Or a 'bored' money with some money in your pocket (even if you're servicing loans you'll have a bit of free spend). Look at it that way! 

So.... treat yourself, give yourself a break, don't you deserve a break from all this? Yes, you do. Give the gambling a rest, give yourself a rest, relax and enjoy - yes, enjoy - being free. Then, tomorrow, ask yourself the same question: Do I want to be free again? Yes; so, just for today, I won't gamble. Every day, remind yourself, respect yourself - and your heart, body and soul will repay you back like you won't believe!

Feeling better? I think that's worth a gambling-free day in the bank - don't you :) ?

 

 

 

Posted on:
Tue, 05/09/2017 - 08:16

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Great post Mixer , saying it like it is with no frills . Our approach to recovery can be fairly straightforward if we don't complicate it .

I woke up this morning and made the decision that I won't gamble today , only 16 hours left of it so it should be achievable .

When I pass bookies I will just hope nobody comes out with a big stick and forces me inside 

I know I don't have to be a slave to gambling . I am free to choose whether or not I gamble .

I accept that I will not recoup my losses but i can make sure I don't lose any more .

I hope I can be cool and focussed every morning , but I will concern myself with that when tomorrow comes along .

 

 

Posted on:
Tue, 05/09/2017 - 09:29

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thanks, Abstainer, and I like your thoughts in your reply

In the quiet of the morning, sipping a cup of tea, calming repeating those words can apply an instant coat of armour. I love the bookies/big stick line. We know no-one forces us inside, we can walk straight past, quietly reminding ourselves we're not going into that den of misery, "thank you very much". We smile as we walk past, because we don't have to go in, we don't want to go in - it's bad for us. It causes misery, because we can't win, because if we do, we give it back and then some more. We always lose.

And yes, agreed, let's look after today and live today. 

As we know, tomorrow will come round soon enough (and, one day, it won't...!). So let's all enjoy today, look around, "smell the roses" and life a normal life, which is the life to lead.

Let's not deliberately create a rod for our own back, C'mon, everyone - we're better than that. We deserve better than that!

"Today, I'm not going to gamble. I don't want the misery !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "

Posted on:
Tue, 05/09/2017 - 18:47

Athena1991

Joined:
2016-09-17

Loving the posts on the forum they are great to read.

That walking past the bookies or casino moment is one to be enjoyed, because your showing them who's in control. By not going in its a signal of power, freedom and will to live a happier and gf life! All the time that was spent there, is now reinvested into much more interesting projects and activities which give you real rewards and allow you to feel real emotions - its crazy! 

Some of the emotions are a little overwhelming sometimes, as previous emotions were buried by spending hours gambling so we supressed them and never had to contron them in the same way we do. This isnt always nice (depending on the emotion) but important in adjusting to a gf life, and starting to feel free and live the good life.

Hope you all are having a woderful gf day.

Athena

Posted on:
Wed, 06/09/2017 - 13:04

Glint

Joined:
2016-01-08

Doing an excellent job handling The Guru Challenge Mixer.

Good to see Athena1991 getting involved.

I like the influx of ideas you bring to the forum Mixer. New ideas can create progress and progress is needed for positive change.

You are very open and welcoming to new ideas which in turn leaves the challenge open to growth.

Stephen's 'Ode to Mixer' post was indeed brilliant, noted the sharp response from Mixer and liked Stephen's reasoning as much as the poetry. Good exchange.

Thought I'd add a couple of P's:

'Perseverance' is my favourite.

Next one bit of an offshoot of perseverance in some ways and one I struggle with so always recognise: 'patience'.

Do like 'pragmatism' a lot. Well chosen without being obvious. Will make people think.

I'm sure like most people upon seeing the word 'pragmatism' my initial thought was how difficult it would be to put in a haiku...

Thought to not exist

Winning method is now found

System pragmatism.

Posted on:
Wed, 06/09/2017 - 15:33

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hi Glint

I very much enjoyed your considered post, and your additions to our 'P' word repository. Perseverance - a very important attribute which has moved me, following your excellent haiku, to incorporate it into that well-loved poetic device - the limerick!

Here goes. Ahem...!

There once was a chap quite traumatic

T'was gambling, time to be pragmatic

But did he persevere -

Day-to-day to get here!

He’s living a life - and ecstatic!

For any ladies reading, please feel free to change the protagonist in the first line from 'chap' to 'girl' (or 'gal'). It still works, keeps the assonance :)

Back to your post, thank you for your kind comments, and yes, I agree with you entirely that this thread needs to keep fresh, evolving and of genuine value and comfort to all readers. We have a great group here and a relaxing, underpinned by a steely determination, atmosphere. A bit like a lounge with comfy chairs dotted around; but never forgetting our raison d'etre :)

Looking forward to further posts, Glint.  A sonnet, perhaps? :)

 

Posted on:
Thu, 07/09/2017 - 09:24

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Let's keeping strong, everyone, as we really get into September proper. 

The next rollcall's on Sunday, we are 21-strong, lets see if we can achieve 147 days Gambling Free between us !!!

If we think we can, then we can.

Have a great day!

Posted on:
Thu, 07/09/2017 - 15:21

Athena1991

Joined:
2016-09-17

I'm back to day 0 - very silly relapse! I let me personal circumstances bring me down and back the bookies! Time to refocus and start the counting again! 

Hope everyone is having a wonderful and gf day.

Athena 

Posted on:
Thu, 07/09/2017 - 17:24

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hi Athena

Awwwwwwwwwww!!! Really sorry to hear of your blip. We have to be so on our guard at all times... as we know it just takes a moment. But this is a blip right, you're "straight back in the saddle" :)

There's one thing you can do. Ban yourself from the bookies - and any others within a 2 mile radius AND others you might be tempted to frequent. It'll take 20 minutes and you'll have done a really positive thing there.

I like to think - when we fall, we get up STRONGER, with more gambling obstacles and extra, extra determination :)

Here's the number -0800 294 2060

As Mys. Doyle of Father Ted famously implored: Go on, go on, go on, go on !

With you all the way Athena.

Mixer

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Posted on:
Fri, 08/09/2017 - 11:08

degenerate

Joined:
2013-05-10

Erm, checking in. 163 days gamble free.

EDIT: I lied! Day 164. Days going by so fast. :)

Posted on:
Fri, 08/09/2017 - 15:13

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Day 29 here.

How's everyone getting on, feel free to check in if you'd like to :)

Posted on:
Fri, 08/09/2017 - 18:23

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Best wishes to all the Guru Challengers , hope your all living the dream . Would be good to try it after living the nightmare .

Clocking in with 120 Days GF , wondering who I am , where i'm going and who are all these people who keep passing me by ! seems to be thousands of them ! Gets crowded as I pass the bookies , the pavement is obviously not designed for me walking along shoulder to shoulder with all my gamcare friends .

Loved your limerick Mixer but when I googled that and sonnet I was in over my head. I always thought a limerick was a witty ditty rhyming with good timing , but it's a lot more structured than that .....stephen 

Posted on:
Fri, 08/09/2017 - 18:44

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on day 12 .......Glad to say still gamble free,things are a struggle but trying to stay positive and on the right track

Posted on:
Fri, 08/09/2017 - 21:08

Raj

Joined:
2017-07-05

20 Days gambling free...feeling  good..joined a gym and no thoughts at all about betting. 

Posted on:
Fri, 08/09/2017 - 22:18

rubybaby123

Joined:
2017-07-31

Checking in 42 days gf xx

Posted on:
Sat, 09/09/2017 - 18:49

Athena1991

Joined:
2016-09-17

Checking in for day 2, im managed to pull myself out of the hole i got myself in and ready to get myself back on track. Down but not out!! Lets do this.

Athena

Posted on:
Sat, 09/09/2017 - 22:54

antics

Joined:
2017-07-30

Checking in day 20, let's keep it going folks.

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 08:20

amt722

Joined:
2013-11-10

Day 24, really struggling financially at the moment, customer not paying. It is this type of situation that would of taken me back to the online slots only a month ago. I am resisting the temptation as I know it would make the situation worse. Looking forward to 6 days time when I will have achieved 30 days gamble free. Taking it a day at a time.

Due to my gambling binges it is and will be for several months (maybe years) a constant struggle financially and at times mentally. Having an unregular income makes the situation worse for me. 

Enough of my ramblings, best wishes to everyone on this thread, it has given me focus and a goal to achieve which has certainly helped in my 24 days of abstinence. Cheers

 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 10:56

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

** GURU CHALLENGE -  4th WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Sunday ... which means - time for a Rollcall! *** THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR CHECKING IN! ***

As we settle into September, how are we getting on – we’ll find out in just a moment. First off, a warm welcome to Loafin who has joined our ranks. Welcome aboard Loafin, you’re joining a lively and very focused group who wants to live life; not a life of misery.

Being gambling-free isn’t easy.

However, the rewards far outweigh the ‘empty calories’ we add when pointlessly wasting huge sums of money, wasting time and generally being morose and self-loathing to ourselves and others (who didn’t ask for and don’t deserve this ****), for something we thought we’re were “enjoying”....

It’s been a rollercoaster of a week, team, but we are sticking together, supporting each other, encouraging and rooting those of us eating up those gambling-free days, yet also picking up and giving that extra boost to those of us who are finding it difficult. And let there be no doubt – honesty admitting to a lapse shows character and respect to the rest of our group; this is a quality that will help you, in the long term, help tame this demon.

 

ROLLCALL OF HONOUR!

It is time for me to dust off my golden trumpet (no, that not a euphemism!!!) for this week’s rollcall because we have a number of promotions up the ranks! But first, we salute Phil, our one and only GURU, as he hits 579 days; let’s see you hit a DOUBLE GURU total of 600, Phil!

 

NEW ELDERS! Hitting a fantastic 100 gambling free are Sars27 and ItMatters! Gentlemen, we all heartily congratulate you on hitting this milestone. Here’s where you saunter through like a VIP passing through customs control at the airport, and board the airplane that's going to take you to Day 101. The journey continues, and you are both in a much better place, and living the life. Day by day, you can keep eating up those days. SUPERB, chaps! You are now ELDERS!

 

Our other ELDERs are going strong too! Bornagain, I have you on 200 days but did receive a post from you on this thread on 22/08/17 saying you are on Day 7; which puts you on 21 days. If you would be able to clarify your true GF count, that would be great :)

Denegerate and Abstainer continue to, day to day, add to their burgeoning GF totals. Full respect from us all, gentlemen!

And Kadis, just one day to go, sir, before you hit the ton-up and ELDER status. Let’s make the rollcall ‘all yours’ next week!

NEW STRIVERS!  We have two; yours truly and LaurainSky are now motoring and showing that extra level of determination to break free from the NEWBIE rank. I don’t do self-congratulation however LaurainSky, you’re demonstrating an excellent non-gambling ethos and attitude and we all admire you for that. Next stop ELDER, one day at a time. Do keep in touch, drop us a line because we care and to help you help yourself to succeed. Meantime, MikeyNash and Rubybaby are cruising down STRIVER highway, one day at a time, in that setting marked 'life'. This is the way to be, this is the life to lead :)

Our NEWBIEs have had mixed fortunes this week. Athena, you’ve had a blip but are 'back on the horse' … keep blocking and sealing off those weak spots that are enabling you to keep creeping back – you’ll really thank yourself. We are all with you! Xenedra – I know you’re finding this difficult and I echo my advice for Athena, you both deserve so much more rather the misery you are both putting yourself through. It pains me to see you putting yourselves through gambling ‘self-harm’ like this :( but know you have it deep within, with help, support and practical measures to turn that frown upside down :)

Chartom3 – keep grinding out those days, day by day. You’ve taken responsibility for your actions and know you can put the steps in to build up an impressive GF total. Keep going! Raj – you're digging in to that inner strength we all know you have. Let’s get you promoted to STRIVER. Antics – likewise you are building up a good solid total – 21 days – that shows you MEAN this. Steady as she sails, as they say, day by day.

Moorey – I haven't heard from you for a while so please update us if you feel able. You’re part of the team and we haven’t forgotten you and hope all is well with you, my friend. Sidney – delighted to see you’ve started a diary – which can be SO helpful and on 16 days too; laying down a marker to show you mean this. Loafin – our newbie newbie! – once again, welcome aboard and on 8 days. Let’s see what you’re made of…

Conradnose – I’m not sure how many days you’re GF, you’re welcome to divulge, but if you prefer not too that’s respected, too. Whatever your total, so long as you’re Gambing Free, then kudos to you, because you’re choosing a happier life. And what’s wrong with that?

Here are the ‘scores on the doors’ today. All checked beforehand!

GURUs

Phil72 - 579 (days)

ELDERs

Bornagain - 200, Degenerate - 166, Abstainer – 122, ItMatters - 100, Sars27 - 100

STRIVERs

Kadiz1 - 99, MikeyNash – 61, RubyBaby – 44, LaurainSky - 31, Mixer - 30,

NEWBIEs

Athena1991 - 2, Xenedra - 4, Amt722 - 24, Chartom3 - 14, Raj - 22, Antics - 21, Moorey - 17, Sidney - 16, Loafin 8, Conradnose - ?? 

Let’s keep the momentum and look forward to another good week. Just think: there are 21 of us; that’s 147 gambling free days – over 4 months’ worth – we can accumulate between us. The bookies, online casinos, slots etc. will be deprived of over 4 months’ income. Boo hoo, how sad. Isn’t that a lovely thought?

Let’s keep strong; keep sharing and keep strong!

Mixer and Athena, your hosts for this challenge

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 11:11

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Thank you Mixer! As you know though my immediate target is to hit 580 days!

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 11:13

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Of course, Phil ;) and quite right - always one day at a time :)

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 16:05

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

Checking in , 100 days GF!

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 17:28

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Fantastic to read Sars ..... have a great evening, my friend :) 

You're choosing LIFE ... what can be better than that !!!

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 18:19

adam808

Joined:
2017-08-27

I'd like to join if possible. Currently on 15 days! Looking forward to getting to be a Striver. 

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 18:51

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

You are more than welcome to join us Adam808. Consider yourself part of the team!

You'll be part of next week's rollcall and we are all with you ALL THE WAY as you aim towards Striver status.

You really can do it :) and welcome aboard :) !

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 20:28

ItMattersMoreWh...

Joined:
2017-06-02

Just a quick check in 100 days GF

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 21:06

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

That's a post to savour ItMatters - the 100-up! Our congratulations and best wishes as you really start to motor. Dalmation Day tomorrow.... 101!

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 21:15

bdog

Joined:
2017-05-07

Relapsed recently after a good run. Need support. Need to become Guru Bdog!

Posted on:
Sun, 10/09/2017 - 21:20

Raj

Joined:
2017-07-05

The Keep up all the good work guys..back at work..was working on the weekend. Started the gym now and getting into fitness again.   

 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 11/09/2017 - 21:02

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hi Raj, that is really good to here. You're doing great and concentrating your energies in exactly the right way. Keep going; you are ensuring, day by day, a better, happier, fitter and more lively you. That's the spirit - with you all the way :)

Posted on:
Mon, 11/09/2017 - 21:03

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Bdog - welcome aboard. You CAN be a Guru; you've had a good run, as you say, but this time you really need to go for it. Up for it? Then welcome to our group!

Posted on:
Tue, 12/09/2017 - 18:48

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

*** JUST A THOUGHT ***

It's interesting,isn't it, that many of us, when starting our gambling free journeys, initially consider a life outside gambling 'boring'. And there is a reason for that that I'll come too..

But first of all, let's take a different angle. When we gamble, we might think it's not boring, but WE, as gamblers, most certainly are!

Gambling is a solo activity, in which we either stare at flashing inanimate objects like computer or slot machines, wasting money and becoming morose, miserable and not great company, to say the least. We might think we are enjoying this life, but are we? We're the boring ones! 

And consider this. It doesn't take us that long to lose money we probably can't afford, and the enjoyment factor, if that's what you call it, is very quick in terms of time. So any 'excitement' is very short lived.

It comes down to this. Would you rather spend the rest of the week or month skint and bored, or be 'bored' with money in your pocket?

Believe me, and most of us know this, being skint is not fun and those skint days can pass very slowly ... that's deadly dull. 

If you have money jangling in your pocket, then you have ... options! You can live better, eat better, share with friends and loved ones ... a world of opportunities open up.

Sometimes, though, as addicted gamblers we are still bored, but that's because our gambling has prevented us to see and appreciate what real life is all about.

When you start to open those dusty old curtains and peer through the sunlight behind, you start to see, almost  magically, but certainly instinctively, a world of possibilities. 

That £20 you spent with a click of a mouse or a scribbled betting slip... that can buy so much. £100, that's a bloody good day out. £500? You're on a memorable break with your loved ones. There are so many possibilities. 

Watch out for my next 'Just a thought' where I'm going to look into what we can enjoy for £20, as recovering gamblers, with this seemingly small sum in your pockets.

Let's look at the possibilities and enjoy real life for what it is - infinitely better than the miserable alternative!

Meantime, does anyone have ideas to spend £20? (Please, keep it clean :) )

All the best

Mixer

 

 

Posted on:
Tue, 12/09/2017 - 19:14

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Great post.....boredom was a big reason for my gambling and trying to find other things to do has been hard,but now would rather be bored and not be adding to my money worries that bored and getting myself into even more debt............ looking forward to seeing some good ideas on how to spend that £20 

Posted on:
Tue, 12/09/2017 - 19:42

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Loving this gamble free life , no worrying about money all the time.

I dozed off earlier and dreamt I was a log ! Just woke up in the fireplace .

Posted on:
Tue, 12/09/2017 - 19:58

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

When I was a lad you could go out wi 20 quid and paint the town red , have a nosh up , get well oiled , go to pictures wiv the girlfriend and still have enough for a taxi home n a bag a chips for the missus . Ha them was the days ! 

Posted on:
Tue, 12/09/2017 - 20:58

adam808

Joined:
2017-08-27

Wise words as always. Fascinting I was thinking a similar thought tonight watching some of the Apple announcement. £1,000 for the new top of the line iPhone.... insanity. Yet... sometimes I've burned through that amount in ONE NIGHT and had nothing to show for it. 

Imagine if we had spent all this money on things for ourselves, or treats for our families, or on memories. This is what the new journey is all about now. Rewiring our brains to reprogramme our lives so that we can be LESS boring and actually make new exciting memories, and buy nice things for ourselves and others.

Kind of an exciting new start when you think about it.
 

 

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