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Posted on:
Sat, 13/01/2018 - 02:12

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Hi mixer I'm striving to hit that striver level as you recommended. Last gamble day for me was 23rd Dec and the finances are already a lot better. Here's to go good start to 2018, thank you mixer for ur continued advice and faith in me.

Posted on:
Sat, 13/01/2018 - 07:22

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Mixer and all the Guru Challengers. Wishing everyone a great weekend. I am pleased as punch and 10 days gamble free.

Off to the gym shortly for a swim & a steam than spend the day pottering about. One things for sure, I won't be having a bet.

Posted on:
Sat, 13/01/2018 - 18:54

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

A quick Saturday update.

Christer1 - thank you for checking in. 'Steady as the ship sails', as they say!

Slot Fool - 9 weeks gambling free [quickly does the maths...], that's 63 days! Really great stuff SF!

Chartom3 - Good, good ... back up to Striver. All in the right direction.

Godoicul - A very warm welcome to our group. It takes a certain kind of person to join us ... you are that certain kind of person. You've made a good decision! Look forward to getting to know you.

Mitch - We'll talk about your reaching the triple day GF milestone tomorrow but great news to hear about the return of your missing wallet. I had a similar good result yesterday. I left my mobile in the cinema (good film, by the say - 'The Darkest Hour'), rushed back in and someone had handed it in. Good karma all round, Mitch? Who knows, but when we create our own luck (by not gambling), I like to think that luck generally is on our side... not always, for sure, but I'm glad, regardless of the result, you haven't relapsed.

Boxingday - enjoy that great feeling you get when you pass a major milestone. Just the beginning, in a way, but what a marker you've set :)

Adam123 - It's a real pleasure to see you are really having a go at this Adam. I continue to have faith in you - without a doubt. Really good to read your progress, my friend.

Abstainer - Thank you for the upate, Stephen, and great you're combining being gambling free with a healthy lifestyle. The perfect combination!

*** Full rollcall tomorrow! ***

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 10:20

rubybaby123

Joined:
2017-07-31

Checking in 170 days gf

New year, new me positive and focused xx

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 10:55

Nicenormalfamily

Joined:
2017-12-15

Good morning, checking in with 30 days GF. Today I will not gamble good luck everyone! 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 14:28

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

226 GF DAYS ! Checking in, cheers mixer my man .

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 17:37

paulll

Joined:
2009-10-16

Checking in 102 days. 

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 17:40

marson_123

Joined:
2017-11-02

Hello fellow challengerschecking in on day 77. Hope we have all had a good weekend lets end it with another gamble free day!!!

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 20:16

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

** GURU CHALLENGE -  Latest WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Sunday, 14th January 2018

 

Good evening everyone and I hope you’re keeping well.

Now, normally I open with a preamble but, just for this week, am going to link to a post I wrote that was developed from what I wrote last week. It’s increased in length to around 1,800 words, but encapsulates much about what I’ve learned about this insidious addiction we have the misfortune to have. I’d be interested to hear what you think about it – it might take a while to read, just to warn you; but hopefully it’s worth it.

So, it’s on with the show.

  • Are you RESTED? Have you disappeared from the forums for a few weeks; if so, you are taken off the Challenge. We wish you luck! 
  • Are you RELAPSING? It happens, but you’ve been honest enough to admit it. Make sure you’re putting in place extra steps right now … else it will happen again and you’ll get nowhere.
  • Or are you ROCKING? Still gambling free? Superb… keep living the life you should; not misery!
  • Or have you RETURNED? It's always great to welcome you back.

 

WE WELCOME

Godoicul – A warm welcome to you. As you’ve said, having gone 16 months gambling-free, your relapse was the kick up the **** you needed to shake you back onto the gambling-free path again. A no-nonsense approach that is going to endear you to other members of our Challenge group; there’s no BS here. Welcome aboard.

ROLLCALL OF HONOUR

Phil72 – Congratulations on hitting 700 days gambling free; that’s a terrific achievement and being ever-present on these forums show that every day is hard-won without an ounce of complacency. Fantastic stuff Phil!

Three new ELDERs join the ranks!

Mitch91 – Congratulations for this important achievement, proving you can handle, and have put in place an excellent strategy for, 3 solid months’ of tempations!

Boxingdayfresh – Our second ELDER meaning business. We congratulate you BoxingDay, you’ve hit that date and beyond. You know this matters. Great stuff!

Paulll102 days – And making up our triple-whammy of 100-dayers is Paul. We doff our caps, Paul, this is a real achievement hard-won and you’re ready for similarly better days ahead, proving your credentials. Well done mate.

Our GURUs

Phil72 – 705 days – ROCKING! Like you, I miss the Chatroom, what a ‘golden hour’ it is. Let’s hope the Gamcare top brass earn their brass and do something about it, soon.

Changemylife – 443 days – ROCKING! – Thank you for your kind words last week and glad you enjoyed the joke. You’ll be pleased to learn – another one today!

 

Our ELDERs

Degenerate – 292 days – ROCKING! I’ve enjoyed our ‘chats’ on the Forum Chatroom (R.I.P. but it was worth a shot!). Always good to chat to a fellow ‘techie’ too; I don’t know about you but I’m never far from a screen, coding, writing documents or on here! No wonder I’m so short-sighted!

Sars27 – 226 days – ROCKING! – I’ve been reading about your speeding incident the other day, and being fined for going 42mph in a 40mph zone seems a little harsh to me. A little flexibility from our Boys in Blue wouldn’t have gone amiss. But as you say, it hasn’t ‘tilted’ you and you remain GF. That's the money shot :)

Rubybaby170 days - ROCKING! – Thank you for the check in Ruby and wonderful to hear that you’re keeping GF and, as a result, positive and focused not any being GF, but for life itself. It’s always heartwarming to receive check ins like yours!

Adamjamal2014-2017167ROCKING! – You’re sensibly, as I wrote last week, looking forward to short and medium term targets. That makes perfect sense and the way to go.

Mixer156ROCKING! I’ve been booking holidays for 2018 left right and centre (a series of short breaks), none of which would have been affordable if I’d’ve carried on gambling. This benefits my family who can’t wait. Isn’t this what life’s about?

Amt722 – 150ROCKING!Thank you for checking in and hope January’s not too financially stretching for you. Christmas always takes it out of us, but at least, being gamble free, it was worth it.

Raj148ROCKING! – You haven’t checked in for a short while but hope all’s well with you Raj. Do get it touch, always good to hear from you!

4D – 130 – ROCKING! Thank you for your kind words and great to see you’re ‘trucking’ along. Hey, the middle lane is the best place to be. A bit of slow and fast good too, as long as we don’t veer off the GF motorway.

Boxingdayfresh105 days – ROCKING! Yes, a triple figure GF and storming past the milestone. Time to relax a little, catch your breath, and pace the next 100. You’ve passed the probation, here’s the real test. One day at a time!

Mitch91102 days - ROCKING! – Once again congratulations for your ton-up. Don’t forget, once your counselling sessions have finished, keep the continuity. I’m sure your counsellor will advise you how to keep focused once the sessions complete.

Paulll102 days - ROCKING!  Excellent Paul, steadily eating up those days, days of life itself, one day at a time. Focus, interest, awareness of yourself and others; it all returns when we’re gambling free. Clarity of thought is priceless.

Our STRIVERS

Velvet796 days – ROCKING! – Haven’t heard from you for a while, Velvet; I hope all’s well with you, do get in touch if you’re able.

Marson123 77 - ROCKING! – Thank you for checking in and your sentient is right – let’s finish the weekend with a gambling free day. It might be mid-January but when you’re gambling free it’s a good time.

Christer1 76ROCKING! –  Thanks for the check in and your advice to others is spot on – self-exclude from everything. Us recovering gamblers can be very crafty so we need to block all tempations – willpower is usually not sufficient.

Slotfool - 66ROCKING! – 66 days gambling free, 2/3rds of the way to Elder. I believe you can do this, with a disciplined approach, one day at a time. I believe in you.

RE-RESOLVED MEMBERS

Chartom3 (*ELDER status achieved*) – 36 – ROCKING! Yes. Back into Striver territory with a steely resolve. And delighted to hear your counselling sessions are really bearing fruit.

NiceNormalFamily  - 30ROCKING! – A key, critical milestone navigated, NNF, you should be proud of your achievement. My goodness, you will be thinking about gambling a LOT now you’re in a ‘cold turkey’ state. My advice: Think about gambling by all means! Don’t suppress the thoughts; it’s hard enough stopping. But think to yourself: thank goodness I’m not gambling, that I don’t have to do this anymore. Be happy, that, day to day, you’re gambling free! That seems a counter-intuitive view, but how relaxing it is that you don’t have to stop the thoughts, simply don’t translate them into action. In time, these thoughts will start to disippate, slowly but naturally.

Adam123 -  22  – ROCKING! – You have played this Challenge honestly and warts an’ all from the start, Adam, and I am personally delighted you’ve broken away from the usual week or two before you’ve faltered again. Let’s build on this momentum, Adam, and see you hit Striver. I promise you, that would make my day! I KNOW you’ll be honest. I’m looking forward to next week!

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*) - 11 -  ROCKING! – Thank you checking in and I read a lot of the inspirational, supportive messages you send to others, whilst continuing to keep a strong hand at the tiller for your own journey. I will pass by your diary later!

RESTING

Moorey RESTING – It is with reluctance I have to rest you from the forum Moorey. But please get in touch if you can; you’re a member of our group no matter what. We’ll support you, you know that, Ok.

VeebeeRESTING - Sadly I have to rest you from the Challenge, Veebee, but do get it touch, and hope all’s well.

STATS FOR NERDS: Two of our team have been rested this week, and a new member has joined us. Our totals are: 2 GURUs, 11 ELDERs, 4 STRIVERs and 5 NEW/RE-RESOLVEDs; a net total of 22.

Let’s keep 2018 going as we mean to go on!

*** JOKE OF THE WEEK ***

Jack was about to marry Jill and his father took him to one side.

'When I married your mother, the first thing I did when we got home was 
take off my trousers,' he said.

'I gave them to your mother and told her to put them on.

When she did, they were enormous on her and she said to me that she 
couldn’t possibly wear them as they were too large...

'I told her, 'of course they're too big. I wear the trousers in this family 
and I always will’.

Ever since that day, we’ve never had a single problem.”

Jack took his father's advice and as soon as he got Jill alone after the 
wedding, he did the same thing; took off his trousers, gave them to 
Jill and told her to put them on.

Jill said that the trousers were too big and she couldn't possibly wear them.

'Exactly,' replied Jack. ‘I wear the trousers in this relationship and I always
will. I don't want you to forget that.'

Jill paused and removed her knickers and gave them to Jack.

'Try these on,' she said; so he tried them on but they were too small.

'I can't possibly get into your knickers,' said Jack.

'Exactly,' replied Jill..

'And if you don't change your bloody attitude, you never will!”

:)

Let’s keep strong; keep sharing and keep strong!

Mixer

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 21:54

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Thanks mixer for the words of encouragement it means a lot. Still gamble free horray

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 23:43

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Cheers Mixer. The Jack and Jill joke brought a smile to my face.

Posted on:
Mon, 15/01/2018 - 13:09

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Lol at the joke Mixer. 

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 01:54

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thanks Mixer. As always I enjoyed reading the weekly roll call. Interesting and informative with some humour thrown in. 

Hope you are at peace with the world and enjoying your gamble free life. Wishing you a good week...stephen 

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 07:08

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Surprise surprise I've let myself down again I found a online sports betting firm which I had a bet and lost but not that much but once again I'm back to zero and have that horrible failure feeling inside me again. Sorry again everyone I'm off to hide myself from the world

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 11:32

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Hey Christer don’t beat yourself up about it like you said you are back to 0 but you are still on the forum and still want to stop. Self exclude from that site and take it one day at a time. I’ve recently done exact same thing.a few weeks down line I’m feeling much better you will too

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 14:39

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Thankyou godoicall I'm glad I come clean and not hid it. I have self exluded from there and back on the road. I am still. Mad with. Myself

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 18:38

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Agreed, Godoicul, we mustn't hide but get straight back in the GF saddle. Kudos to you Christer for being honest and upfront.

Yes, be mighty p***ed off with yourself, that's good, but then balance that with your remedy. What did you miss, what gaps allowed you to gamble? Well, it's clear here. You've got to get the software that ensures you can't register with any online gambling firm. Now's the time! 

We're with you Christer. Your honesty shows the integrity you have.

We are with you all the way, my friend.

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 20:43

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

There's a new Challenge out there - the Easter Challenge! 

Well worth joining. Let's get to Easter gambling free!

Posted on:
Thu, 18/01/2018 - 00:03

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Thanks for the mention in the update. Great to have reached over 100 days. Checking in safely with 108 days . I’ve worked out without any further gambling debt, I could be debt free by December 2020. This is my long term goal and I’ll only get there by saying no to gambling each and every day until all my debts are paid and I’ve undone the financial damage so to speak. Feels like any other life plans like saving up for a house etc have to be on hold until all my gambling money problems are sorted. It’s three years away ... but I can do it. I’m here for the long haul . 

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