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Posted on:
Sun, 10/12/2017 - 20:41

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

I've put my blocks I can put in plus can't wait for these multi ğonline multi service to start

Posted on:
Sun, 10/12/2017 - 20:51

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Christer1 wrote:
I've put my blocks I can put in plus can't wait for these multi ğonline multi service to start
Yes the sooner the better as far as the multi online service is concerned, will be a benifit to me and others.

Posted on:
Sun, 10/12/2017 - 22:30

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Keep positive chartom3. Don’t let one set back spoil your progress and gamble free journey. Re-setting your days count is annoying, but it doesn’t take away the knowledge and understanding of your gambling problem that you’ve been learning more and more about whilst previously abstaining. You get to know your problem better as time progresses and just resetting your days count can’t undo that. Keep strong and believe in yourself. Stay close to the site and post regularly. We are all here supporting each other.

Thanks to Mixer for the brilliant weekly roll call. Always a pleasure to read and get a mention and much appreciated. 

Posted on:
Sun, 10/12/2017 - 23:37

Norland27

Joined:
2017-12-07

As long as your making reasonable progress in reasonable time, don’t be afraid to fail as long as you pick yourself up and and start again. Fail your way to success, it’s how we succeed at most things in life.

 

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 02:17

antics

Joined:
2017-07-30

checking in late, my apologies, but still GF. Respect to those who've relapsed for stepping back up to the challenge with integrity and honesty. it isn't an easy post to make after you've stacked up a decent amount of days and toppled them down in a moment of weakness - but we all understand and are all rebuilding.

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 10:37

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

boxingdayfresh wrote:
Thanks boxingdayfresh for your kind words,  the help & encouragement of my gamcare friends is one of if not the main reason i have been able to abstain for long periods in the past. I wish you well on your own journey, you are doing great keep up the good work.

Keep positive chartom3. Don’t let one set back spoil your progress and gamble free journey. Re-setting your days count is annoying, but it doesn’t take away the knowledge and understanding of your gambling problem that you’ve been learning more and more about whilst previously abstaining. You get to know your problem better as time progresses and just resetting your days count can’t undo that. Keep strong and believe in yourself. Stay close to the site and post regularly. We are all here supporting each other.

Thanks to Mixer for the brilliant weekly roll call. Always a pleasure to read and get a mention and much appreciated. 

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 15:23

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Moorey - thank you for your kind comments, although I'm more relieved, in truth, that you are not about to buckle! You've hit Day 50 - that glass of red very well deserved. And make sure it's not 'plonk' either. Get a decent bottle (my upper limit's no more than £6-£7, in fact here's a recommendation --> https://www.aldi.co.uk/ghost-vines-californian-zinfandel/p/078271170265400 :)

Chartom1 - delighted you've blocked the loophole. Life's about getting up again; and getting up stronger! You know, can sense, how much we're picking you up and willing you back on the good path.

Christer1 - yep, the multi-blocking service will help us. Meantime, though, no excuses... we must take responsiblity for our actions, as we well know! And let's say the roll-out of this new servcie is delayed; it'll be disappointing, for sure, but no excuse. We must always ensure our coping mechanisms do not give us an 'out' where we find an excuse to gamble. Life's tough enough, and, conversely, good enough for us not to bother with wasteful pursuits.

Boxingday - thanks again for further kind words. With great advice to Chartom too! As you say, the 'count' goes back to 1, but previous performance is noted. None of us go back to 'Square One' unless we give up, and we're not giving up.

Norland27 - I echo those thoughts exactly. And a phrase/approach I'd not heard before: fail your way to success.  

Antics - thank you for checking in. And you're right, it does take a certain strength of character to step up and say that you've relapsed. I always have respect for anyone who does this; it's easy to 'run and hide' or paint a false picture. (I 'ran and hid' after my last relapse; I won't do that again. As Norland said: fail your way to success. Get stronger as we go.)

We're a good group, friends. We get this. So let's keep going: together, with the bonding spirit we have. This is an oasis, a place outside the rough and tumble of life - a place of contemplation, sharing, learning, and topping up our resolve when we feel weak.

We're serious, but also positive, because we know we should live a better life, know we can, and are doing something about it.

Mixer

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 20:48

marson_123

Joined:
2017-11-02

Hi Mixer,

Checking in late im afraid but on day 43. Thank you for the roll call and truly your words have touched me. Im in a bad place at the moment but i can quite happily say no matter how bad that place is it will not be a gambling place. If anything i feel more empowered to ensure i remain gamble free now. My main concern was managing my own finances but i have a plan and i can see light at the end of that plan, and gambling will only stray me away from that. This challenge and this site are a real life line on the bad days. Once again mixer thank you for your time and effort this means a lot to me and im sure others feel exactly the same.

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 21:17

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Hi mixer, yes ive stumbled again, I lasted six days till yesterday, was going super well and then Saturday Saturday night the urges weresuper strong and I made plans for the next day to gamblei felt reliefe then played the next day and felt gutted afterwards. So I'm back on day one. On a plus note I didn't play fruit machine yesterday I was tempted but walked out just played the poker. So one day at a time for now I've managed to not gamble today and not go to the pub, small steps at first ey. So today for me is day one

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 23:24

4D

Joined:
2010-02-10

Sorry I missed the check in yesterday, I was having fun in the snow and totally forgot!! 96 days ago I would not have believed it was possible to 'forget' gambling even for 1 day!!! To anyone struggling please keep going it WILL be worth it. Do whatever it takes, change your routine, change your stresses, try all avenues of recovery and get those blocks in place before u can have 2nd thoughts!! X

Posted on:
Tue, 12/12/2017 - 08:50

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Checking in on Day 51

Posted on:
Wed, 13/12/2017 - 07:06

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Check in day 46 feeling gd

Posted on:
Thu, 14/12/2017 - 00:31

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Checking in on Day 53

Posted on:
Thu, 14/12/2017 - 22:20

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Checking in 5 weeks

Posted on:
Fri, 15/12/2017 - 09:45

rubybaby123

Joined:
2017-07-31

Checking in 140 days gf x

Posted on:
Sat, 16/12/2017 - 09:46

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Checking in on day 76.

Feeling a few urges to go to the bingo - but staying well clear and using distraction techniques. In the past, going back to the bingo and then slots has been my downfall. Often starts with small manageable losses but leads to the big bucks and thousands wasted. Not falling into the same trap again this time. Staying strong for myself, my family and our future. 

Posted on:
Sat, 16/12/2017 - 09:59

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Checking in on Day 55

Posted on:
Sat, 16/12/2017 - 10:11

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on 7 days gamble free ....

Posted on:
Sat, 16/12/2017 - 20:22

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Mixer and all the Guru Challengers. Hope everyone's having a good gamble free weekend. Abstainer checking in 30 days gf.

Keeping on the recovery road is sometimes really tough but it can be done if we have positive intent. If we use a bit of common sense than it might be even more achievable.

My dream is to do 300 days gamble free (Guru). I imagine the urges to gamble will still be around but I will find that out when I get there. 

Hope we can all go forward shoulder to shoulder and see what else is out there. We might be pleasantly surprised. Whatever we do has got to be better than that gambling madness.

Posted on:
Sun, 17/12/2017 - 09:29

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Hi Mixer. I hope you are well. I'm checking in on 415 days GF. Moving forward one day at a time.

Posted on:
Sun, 17/12/2017 - 16:23

paulll

Joined:
2009-10-16

74 days GF here. I’ve not had much to say on my diary this week, but have tried to help and encourage others when possible. 

Posted on:
Sun, 17/12/2017 - 19:11

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

198 GF DAYS BABY !!! Let’ fudging goooooooo yessssirrr!

Posted on:
Sun, 17/12/2017 - 20:47

Raj

Joined:
2017-07-05

Hi Guys..still Gambling free..really busy at work and gotten into exercise big time..though had a few cans recently and some brandy shots! -:) its tat time of the year..watching Santa Claus o ITV+1..merry Xmas everyone,.stay strong and be gamble free..

Posted on:
Sun, 17/12/2017 - 21:14

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

** GURU CHALLENGE -  Latest WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Sunday, 17th December.

 

Here we are once again, everyone, and I hope you’ve had a good week. I’ve learned a few things, I have to say, and would like to share them with you.

If you’re gambling ‘poison’ is fruit machines or FOBTs, then this will be of interest. You may be aware that professional fruit machine players know ‘tricks’ to get an edge on regular players, meaning regular players have even less of a change of winning at even more miserly odds. They do this by taking potential advantage of ‘flaws’ (often deliberate) that might be added by the programmers, which, allied with poor (or collaborative) internal testers, means certain trusted players could take advantage of this information and cash in. It’s another reason not to gamble: not only are you fighting poor odds anyway, better poorer odds still with tricksters taking their cut! So don’t be the mug punter.

FOBTs are another interesting area. Again, those with compensated games are susceptible to the same ‘flaws, but even ‘random’ games (B2) such as Roulette aren’t as random as they seem. But surely they are, right? Well, they’re not. If a given machine has played out it’s required percentage after a given period/very large number of spins, then the machine (which usually ‘underpays’ up to this point) has to ‘make up’ the difference and go into happy mode. Professional players, allied with insider info from those with database access, could potentially pinpoint these happy machines. To the detriment of regular players, of course, playing machines set below the required return. If you’re not in the know, you’re the mug punter!

Just to underline the true odds against any ‘Joe Public’ punter, there are additional tricks that further worsen the odds. Coin mechanisms, such as the new ones put in place to calibrate the new one pound coin, are still in beta test (albeit out there en masse!). Sometimes, they have faults that could detriment the balance of the game for the casual punter.

Why am I giving you this detail? To basically say – if your weakness is fruit machines and FOBTs, here’s yet another reason NOT to gamble, and keep your money in your pocket, and keep your sanity as you continue the only game in town – keeping gambling free.

My view is that part of a good gambling free strategy includes learning about our condition, and I hope the information I’ve provided crystalises what we probably knew anyway, and, at a high level, ‘joins the dots’.

Ok. Let’s move on and see how we’re all doing this week.

  • Are you RESTED? Have you disappeared from the forums for a few weeks; if so, you are taken off the Challenge. We wish you luck! 
  • Are you RELAPSING? It happens, but you’ve been honest enough to admit it. Make sure you’re putting in place extra steps right now … else it will happen again and you’ll get nowhere.
  • Or are you ROCKING? Still gambling free? Superb… keep living the life you should; not misery!
  • Or have you RETURNED? It's always great to welcome you back.

ROLLCALL OF HONOUR

4D – 102 – ROCKING! Welcome to the rank of ELDER and delighted to have you aboard. You’ve really stuck with this and congratulations are without question in order! There is no complacency about you concerning this most important life direction you’re making and know full well it’s one day at a time. Being gambling free is very moreish, and the gambling devil doesn’t like that – good! Brilliant stuff 4D.

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*) - 31 ROCKING! – Welcome back to Striver, Stephen. When the gambling devil gives us a bop on the nose, we respond with a counter punch that sends him flying. That’s how I picture your return up the rankings, Stephen!

Our GURUs

Phil72 – 677 days – ROCKING! Always great to talk to you on the Chatline Phil; and you’re KTF!

Changemylife – 415 days – ROCKING! – Thank you for the update, and always keeping focused one day at a time. Reminding yourself, taking yourself back, to those dark days just before you stopped is, I think, very important to do. The gambling devil will always tell us “things weren’t as bad as they seemed”, but we know, you know, they were. They were very bad times indeed.

Our ELDERs

Degenerate – 264 days – ROCKING! It’s not surprising, given how much money we’ve blown, often huge sums on a whim, that we’re not used to handling it when it returns. Even if we’re on reduced budgeting because of debt, any extra is still ‘odd’ to handle. But, with time, we can get used to handling it again and let’s never forget – recovering gamblers are excellent money managers. We don’t waste money when we don’t gamble.

ItMatters – 198 days – ROCKING! I haven’t heard from you for a couple of weeks, ItMatters, but appreciate you tend to update around fortnightly so no worries. I hope everything’s Ok.

Sars27 – 198 days – ROCKING! – Thank you for your update and a serous milestone coming up, but, remember, as ex-gamblers, which we are every day we make the decision not to gamble, every day is just another day. I just ‘just’, but brilliant when contrasted to the miserable gambling opposite!

Rubybaby142 days - ROCKING! – Thank you for checking in Ruby and so delighted you’re keeping this going with no reason to stop! Keep it going Rubes!

Adamjamal2014-2017139ROCKING! – Reading through previous posts can be painful but it’s worth it. You can ‘read between the lines’, see where certain posts allude to wobbly moments and, importantly, how you overcame them. It’s always worthwhile to revisit, and remind ourselves what is driving us to stop.

Mixer128ROCKING! My mum asked me the other day “Have you really stopped for all this time?”. I asked why, and she said: “You struggled last time, and I wanted to make sure”. That shows how my previous gambling has permeated in what other people, including my Mum, think. I assured her, and assure you, that I remain gambling free. I wasn’t upset by her question; if anything it added to my resolve and a sad reminder of my past. I accept I will never have a bank card again. I remain utterly disciplined in how much money I have access to (it’s pocket money and strictly controlled and accounted for). Resolve? I am resolved, but having effectively ‘no money’ makes sure. Self-exclusions from bookies and casinos add to this, but have no complacency whatsoever as I continue this lifetime journey, one day at a time.

Amt722 – 122ROCKING!I know that you’re having a tough time of it. You recently lost a key client and very sorry to learn of this. All I can say is that at least you’re not gambling and worsening the situation. I hope things are getting better for you after this most unwelcome news.

Raj120ROCKING! – You’re doing great Raj and keeping the flame of gambling free life alight. We all know it’s the only way and we have to fight to keep on the path. But we can!

4D – 102 – ROCKING! Delighted you have hit this fantastic milestone 4D! What a journey you’ve had, and, as you appreciated, you’re just getting into gear, settling in. The terrain starts to smooth a little now; you can navigate some of the little bumps in the road. Keeping a steely eye on the gambling devil, of course, who, when he appears, you can firmly boot into touch as soon as he dares to approach.

Our STRIVERs

Adam808 – 82 days – ROCKING! Haven’t heard from you for a couple of weeks Adam – hope all’s well my friend.

Boxingdayfresh77 days – ROCKING! We know the time of year this is, extra susceptible with Christmas parties and the like catching us off our guard. But you’ve recognized that time’s the prerogative here and wasting it on gambling is just that – a waste. Personally, I’m given (by my wife) slightly less cash than I need for my office parties. I never borrow from colleagues, so this really keeps me in check. (One party down, one to go!)

Mitch9178 days - ROCKING! – Hope all’s well with you, Mitch; haven’t heard from you for a couple of weeks but no worries, due check in when you can.

Paulll74 days - ROCKING! There’s always a good karma, I like to think, when we help others, so long as we don’t neglect our own journey. I would say you’ve got the balance about right, Paull, and continue to wish you well.

Velvet768 days – ROCKING! – Last week you posted about getting all the Christmas presents etc. out of the way and what a lovely feeling it is. Not only having paid for them all, but no further stress facing and fighting through the crowds!  Being gambling free really does bring peace of mind in so many ways.

Moorey56ROCKING! – I was a bit concerned about you last week Moorey but my worries have been assuaged. You are right about trepidation about hitting a target and where to go from here: is it ‘mission accomplished’? As we well know, it’s nothing of the sort but we always need to visit our aspirations and motivations. I look at this this way: we never arrive at the finish line, but we certainly finish a stage, like the Tour de France. There’s another stage to come – but an exciting one and one worth looking forward to! But always one day, one step, at a time.

Marson123 49 - ROCKING! – Thank you for your kind words Mason and I was likewise touched by your words. Life ain’t easy and we all need sincere, genuinely intended support wherever we can find it and you’ve got it here, my friend; I know you’d do the same. Keeping posting, keep safe and rest assured all of us here are rooting for you.

Christer1 48ROCKING! –  Thank you for your update Christer and as you say; 10 days till Christmas! Gamblers never look forward to Christmas; it just compounds the misery. But we are recovering gamblers, the other side of the fence, and we can allow ourselves a little slack. Not to gamble, but to ease of getting stressed by it all. Christmas, like gambling, is as easy or difficult as we want to make it. We don’t have to fight the crowds or get sucked in to all of the hype of it all. We are allowed to chill about it if we want to, and would probably say, as we recover, we don't need or want the extra 'hastle' of it anyway!

Antics – 47 ROCKING! Thank you for the update Antics, and you are quite right in supporting those of us who have relapsed and reported this to fellow Guru Challengers. It shows honesty, and, most importantly, respect.

Vibe39 ROCKING! - I know from your posts that work isn’t great and that can be a real stress; I’ve had rather poor bosses in the past and it can be a nightmare. I really hope things are sorting themselves out; don’t forget to cover your back and believe me when I say things will eventually even themselves out. Don’t rise to the bait, poor managers invariably come unstuck these days; we’re living in different times and bad behaviour, thankfully, gets rooted out a lot quicker. A LOT quicker!

Slotfool - 38ROCKING! - Thank you for your update, Slotfool, and checking in as you consolidate your Striver status. All good, and why not?

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*) - 31 ROCKING! – Back up to Striver and I am not going to patronise you and say ‘I knew you would’ because life is never that easy. I know you’ve had health issues and still not out of the woods. The most important thing right now is for your continued recovery. The fact you’re keeping your resolve shows your inner resolve and fortitude. We are all with you Stephen.

RE-RESOLVED MEMBERS

Chartom3 (*ELDER status achieved*) – 8 – ROCKING - ! Genuinely delighted that you have dusted yourself down, and back in the rump seat, ready to do this all over again. This is the spirit, the character that epitomizes the spirit of this Challenge and those of us that are part of it. We are all with you.

06/11/17 (Previously ‘’Adam123’, Helpless‘& ‘Next Steps’)  -  7  – RE-RESOLVED - I know you find this tough. I wrote this post today, about fruit machines, with you in mind, actually! I’d be interested in your thoughts; whether it helps you. I really hope so, Adam.

 

RESTED

GeoRESTED - Sadly, I have to rest you Geo but you are always welcome back – you know that.

HowDidIGetToThis RESTED  – Regrettably, I will have to rest you HDIGTT. You are, of course, welcome back anytime.

STATS FOR NERDS: We have ‘rested’ 2 members of our Challenge this week. No new members, so we currently have 2 GURUs, 8 ELDERs, 13 STRIVERs and 2 RE-RESOLVEDs; a net total of 25.

Have a great pre-Christmas week, everyone.

Let’s keep strong; keep sharing and keep strong!

Mixer and Athena, your hosts for this challenge.

 

Posted on:
Sun, 17/12/2017 - 21:53

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Thanks for another enjoyable Sunday evening read, Mixer.

You’re rollcall is always insightful and personal towards each and every member that registers. That takes a lot of effort and time on your behalf. So thanks a lot mate.

Here’s to another week of staying gamble free....

Posted on:
Mon, 18/12/2017 - 01:21

Adamjamal2014-2017

Joined:
2017-06-11

Checking in 140 days. Working nights these days. Thanks for a great post Mixer.

Posted on:
Mon, 18/12/2017 - 02:10

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Thanku mixer for your great roll call you are right in many ways normally I dred Xmas but this year it's all good money still left no urges but still taking each day as it comes

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