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Posted on:
Sun, 24/12/2017 - 17:50

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

Checking in ! 205 GF DAYS MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE ! 

Posted on:
Sun, 24/12/2017 - 18:37

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Good evening everyone - the weekly update will be tomorrow instead of today. Practical reasons - I'm out and about and haven't the means. But I'll have an update tomorrow. Meantime - have an enjoyable Christmas Eve, everyone! 

(Edited on 25/12/27 2:25am to remove typos)

Posted on:
Mon, 25/12/2017 - 18:03

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

** GURU CHALLENGE -  Latest WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Monday, 25th December

Well, here we are, on Christmas Day; my rollcall’s a bit late, sorry about that, but better late than never! I was out and about yesterday, without the means to properly complete the task.

This is a day that means different things to different people. But to compulsive gamblers, like us, it can be a confusing time.

On the one hand, we've been handing money 'hand over fist' to bookies and gambling providers, online or in shops, pubs etc. Tons of money that is always ultimately lost. (That’s why we’re here: we realise we have to stop.)

Then, on the other hand, we see a time of year where so much money is, in our terminology, truly 'wasted'. All these presents, all this excess; we don’t really understand. I don’t know about you, but I’m of the ‘old school’ where I don’t particularly want any presents. If I need something, I buy it. I wince at every pair of Christmas socks and expensive chocolate I get. Even the lead up to Christmas, when we find ourselves spending more money that we usually would. On the face of it - thirty quid plus for the work’s Christmas dinner FFS!

So, how do we square this circle.

The answer, as I see it, is like this. Gambling skews our way of thinking. We gamble for many reasons, but, at its most basic level, it’s because we think that through ‘skill and luck’, we can beat the system and make some money for nothing. (Alas, we know we can’t do that; we lose more often than we win – again, that’s why we’re here.)

The value proposition of gambling – this is the key phase – is very low. The momentary ‘highs’ of winning are subsumed by the far more predominant ‘lows’. In other words, gambling is poor value.

But what of the gifts we buy and receive, the costs of Christmas? Well, the value proposition is much higher because of the joy to the recipients. When we buy presents, it’s because we care about what the recipient thinks – we care. It’s not the cost of the present, it’s the thought. Even when we receive what we might perceive as a c r a p, someone thought about us enough to buy it.

Even an overpriced office Christmas meal means we’re participating with the team, sharing with colleagues who are also, often, our friends. There’s value there.

In summary, there’s positive value with everything except gambling. Another reason to not bother with this extremely destructive activity.

So, enjoy the presents you’ve received, and enjoy the thought of whatever you bought. Not forgetting the best gift you can give is you being you and not the "you" being hijacked by gambling, which we know is the real waste. This is how we need to finish 2017 and start 2018: gambling free.

All-righty. How are we doing this week?

Are you RESTED? Have you disappeared from the forums for a few weeks; if so, you are taken off the Challenge. We wish you luck! 

  • Are you RELAPSING? It happens, but you’ve been honest enough to admit it. Make sure you’re putting in place extra steps right now … else it will happen again and you’ll get nowhere.
  • Or are you ROCKING? Still gambling free? Superb… keep living the life you should; not misery!
  • Or have you RETURNED? It's always great to welcome you back.

WE WELCOME!

NiceNormalFamily  - A very warm welcome to you, NNL. We’ve chatted on the Chatroom recently and a pleasure it is to get to know you. You’re joining a solid, close-knit friendly group all resolved to enjoy life gambling-free. Great to have you with us!

ROLLCALL OF HONOUR

Wow - two double ELDERS this week!

ItMatters – 206 days – ROCKING! Hitting the 200 day milestone is not to be sniffed at – and we congratulate you, ItMatters. What a target to hit, and at a memorable time of year!

Sars27 – 205 days – ROCKING! – Sars, it’s wonderful to see you also hit the same milestone. Life is a rollercoaster but you’ve navigating those highs and lows with a ‘go get ‘em’ attitude. It’s good to see, it’s healthy and a win-win for you and your fabulous family!

Our GURUs

Phil72 – 685 days – ROCKING! Leading our pack, our lead GURU is keeping the faith and keeping it real. Nice one Phil!

Changemylife – 423 days – ROCKING! – Thank you for your kind words the other day. As I replied: I haven’t worked it out as much as you may have thought, but am giving it a damn good try! And I must say, your dedication and posts are inspirational.

Our ELDERs

Degenerate – 272 days – ROCKING! It’s always great to chat you in the chatroom Degen, we often agree, sometimes don’t, but it’s always with mutual respect.

ItMatters – 206 days – ROCKING! I haven’t heard from you for a few weeks, ItMatters: but know, as I wrote last, week, you ‘pop by’ from time to time. Hope all’s well!

Sars27 – 205 days – ROCKING! – Bish Bash Bosh – what more is there to say, my man!

Rubybaby148 days - ROCKING! – It is so heartwarming to read of your gambling free days almost hitting the big 150 – and you do it in your own way, slowly and surely. Keep it going, Rubes - fanastic!

Adamjamal2014-2017147ROCKING! – Your determined, balanced and mature attitude to this is noticeable and it’s this stable thought process that is really helping you Adam. This is good.

Mixer136ROCKING! I’m keeping a very tight rein of my access to cash. Rather, my wife is, and my mum as backup. That’s key on my ‘journey’. It’s working for me; it may work for you; we are all different; whatever works.

Amt722 – 130ROCKING!This isn’t easy Amt but get over this Christmas ‘hump’ and you’ve proved something – that even with time off, and potential opportunity, you’ve held firm. Don’t let yourself down. I’ve a feeling you won’t. The memory of the pain, and the pain inflicted on others, is never far away in your memory banks.

Raj128ROCKING! – You’re into your exercise Raj, which is great. But when you get bored, because even the gym can get a bit same-y, make sure you’ve put blockers in place to make sure you can’t act on any temptations. Remember to change your gym routine: switching equipment/cycles/reps can liven up the routine somewhat.

4D – 110 – ROCKING! Our latest Elder is striding ahead and getting settled in; that’s great 4D! This can be done, one day at a time. Isn’t it amazing how much more we respect life as a recovering compulsive gambler? Strange but true.

Our STRIVERs

Adam808 – 89 days – ROCKING! My heart sinks a bit when members of our group lose touch. It happens. I did the same after a relapse I had earlier in the year. Hence you understand my concern! Do get in touch Adam even if you have relapsed. If you have, we are willing you on to better things as you try again.

Boxingdayfresh85 days – ROCKING! Thank you for your very kind posts Boxingday. By the way, I hope you reach Boxing Day tomorrow still ‘fresh’ as a daisy not gambling!

Mitch9186 days - ROCKING! – Thank you for checking in and as you know all too well, this damaging habit doesn’t just affect us; it’s our loved ones too. Keep going, my friend.

Paulll81 days - ROCKING! Thank you for checking in Paull, and, every day, proving that your character and strategic abilities are up there. How we are, and how we do it, matters.

Velvet768 days – ROCKING! – Haven’t heard from you for a couple of weeks, Velvet, but that’s just fine. You’ve finished your shopping and hopefully enjoying the fruits of this today. That’s what it’s about!

Moorey62ROCKING! – You are living the life Moorey, a life that was closed to you whilst in the mire of gambling. You’ve hit a target but this is NOT the finishing line. It’s a stage, but a good one. The next one, I humbly suggest, is 21st March; the start of spring, a new dawn. Not too far away and, one day at a time, achievable. What do you think? Meantime, don't gamble whilst you're contemplating this suggestion ;)

Marson123 57 - ROCKING! – Keep strong, keep reading and keep enjoying life Marson. We’re all with you mate; we’re all settling into a good group here. Keep living the life!

Christer1 55ROCKING! –  You’re putting the effort in, plus helping others on the forums which demonstrates your head-on approach to this. You recognize how important it is to stop this addiction and you’re going the right way about it.

Antics – 55 ROCKING! Haven’t heard from you for a couple of weeks Antics – hope all’s well and you’re still on track :)

Vibe39 ROCKING! – I know you’re waiting for the counselling referral and I hope it’s sooner rather than later. But, if you have to wait, hold off the gambling at least until your first appointment. You owe your counsellor that much, I’d say, and I am sure you’d agree with that.

Slotfool - 46ROCKING! – Everything "done and dusted" for today – how organized we can be when not distracted by the ‘fug’ of gambling. You’re demonstrating all that’s good about the gambling-free life.

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*) - 39 ROCKING! – It is always a pleasure both to read your diaries which I do daily, and to know you, Stephen. Refreshingly real, and refreshingly honest. Plus I love your eclectic taste in music!

RE-RESOLVED MEMBERS

Chartom3 (*ELDER status achieved*) – 16 – ROCKING - ! You are back in the front seat Chartom, wiser than before, and it shows. You know what to do to get back up there. Continued respect.

06/11/17 (Previously ‘’Adam123’, Helpless‘& ‘Next Steps’)  -  7  – RE-RESOLVED – You continue to try to stop, Adam, and we all love a trier! I won’t give up trying to think of how we can get you a meaningful string of gambling-free days. Won’t give up – and neither should you.

STATS FOR NERDS: We have welcomed one new member this week, no-one’s ‘rested’, making our weekly total 2 GURUs, 8 ELDERs, 13 STRIVERs and 3 NEW MEMBERS / RE-RESOLVEDs; a net total of 26.

Right, That’s it for this week. It’s Christmas Day, of course. Just another day in non-gambling terms, remember: there’s no special dispensation for us to buckle today – that’s just the gambling demon talking as we well know.

But it is Christmas Day – and however you’re enjoying this day, whatever you’re up to: take care, peace to you all and I toast your – and your loved ones -  health and happiness. And let's not forget the good people at Gamcare who support these diaries and Chatrooms providing consistently high quality, empathetic support. They deserve a 'Cheers' from us, too!

(Right. Where are my Christmas bottles of ales - a very thoughtful present indeed. It's time for me to acquaint ... :) )

Let’s keep strong; keep sharing and keep strong!

Mixer and Athena, your hosts for this challenge.

Posted on:
Mon, 25/12/2017 - 20:56

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Merry Christmas Mixer .. thanks for the Christmas update - your commitment to running this challenge and leading this is amazing !

Good health and happiness to you too

Posted on:
Tue, 26/12/2017 - 10:51

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Thank you Mixer. A proud if irregular member of the guru gang!

Posted on:
Tue, 26/12/2017 - 11:35

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Thanks Mixer again for the time and effort you put into the weekly rollcall, especially over Christmas,great reading as usual and thanks for the mention always spurs me on,same as above proud to be a member of the guru gang also.

Posted on:
Thu, 28/12/2017 - 00:54

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Checking in 59 gfree well how nice this Christmas it is to feel good bout how I'm doing. Gd luck to all u others out there

Posted on:
Thu, 28/12/2017 - 08:34

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Checking In, heading for a bullseye

Posted on:
Fri, 29/12/2017 - 22:00

Raj

Joined:
2017-07-05

Hey Guys..checking in..not gambled a single penny..I only have regrets but must move forward. Keep strong and gambling free! 

Posted on:
Fri, 29/12/2017 - 22:15

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on 20 days gamble free .... no desire to gamble still right now long may it continue

Posted on:
Sat, 30/12/2017 - 07:34

paulll

Joined:
2009-10-16

87 days gamble free. 

Posted on:
Sat, 30/12/2017 - 08:21

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thanks for checking in everyone ... keep strong ... full update tomorrow!

Don't forget the new 2018 Challenge; the best time to join is now - let's see us all aim for a better 2018. I'm in!! 

Posted on:
Sat, 30/12/2017 - 11:20

Stephen 67

Joined:
2017-05-10

Abstainer checking in  44 days back on the recovery road. Wishing all the Guru Challengers contentment and happiness in the new year and a gamble free 2018 to follow.

Thankyou Mixer for all your help and support during 2017. 

Posted on:
Sat, 30/12/2017 - 11:47

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

Checking in for the last time this year ! Thanks for taking the lead mixer my man ! 2017 you’ve been an eye opener ! Next year would be even better as I will remain GF for real ! Love and respect to all :) 

Sars 

Posted on:
Sun, 31/12/2017 - 11:59

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

91 days and Happy New Year to Everyone. 

Posted on:
Sun, 31/12/2017 - 15:30

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

** GURU CHALLENGE -  Latest WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Sunday, 31st December 2017

*** Quick Message – don’t forget to join the 2018 Challenge. Now’s the best time to join! ***

Welcome, friends. Here we are, at the top of the year, at a time when many of us reflect on a year just gone, and everything that’s happened. Just for a moment, it’s worth allowing the mind to wander. Do you recall this time last year? Were you gambling? Were you gambling-free? How were things?

Without dwelling, how are things today – right now? I’m assuming – and I’ve not checked yet – that you’re maintaining a gambling-free lifestyle, day to day. Are things better? Sure, life will always do what life does; but generally speaking. Do you feel better? Are those around you happier, because you’re happier?

I’m not saying life necessary a bed of roses; many of us have debts to sort out. But we’re sorting them out. Many of us have relationship, and other, issues, that may have been directly/indirectly impacted by the scourge of gambling. But we’re starting to rationalise and deal with these too.

A compulsive gambler is a bit like an old thick price of rope that’s got entangled – loose, old threads everywhere. It takes time and effort to unpick those knots, but we can make solid and continued progress if we keep on the gambling free path. Will we eventually be totally unknotted? I suspect there will always be a few tangled threads; that’s the bit of us that’s susceptible to a relapse. But it’s good because it keeps us alert to this unpleasant prospect, and it keeps us untangling.

Let’s keep untangling as we hit 2018. We are a ‘work in progress’ – chipping away at that ‘lump of rock’ gambling made us. Chip, chip, chip – slowly, we’re starting to ‘see ourselves’ once more. Let’s keep at it.

Ok. On with the show!

Are you RESTED? Have you disappeared from the forums for a few weeks; if so, you are taken off the Challenge. We wish you luck! 

  • Are you RELAPSING? It happens, but you’ve been honest enough to admit it. Make sure you’re putting in place extra steps right now … else it will happen again and you’ll get nowhere.
  • Or are you ROCKING? Still gambling free? Superb… keep living the life you should; not misery!
  • Or have you RETURNED? It's always great to welcome you back.

 

ROLLCALL OF HONOUR

BULLSEYE – Two of us have hit the nifty-fifty!

Vibe53 ROCKING! – It’s great see you hit 50 days; it means two monthly paydays – assuming you’re salaried – successfully negotiated.

Slotfool - 52ROCKING! – And likewise, Slotfool; what a great start to 2018. Starting from a meaningful total – a total that shows you mean business.

Our congratulations to you both.

Our GURUs

Phil72 – 691 days – ROCKING! Hey Phil and it’s great to have you as our lead Guru challenge member leading the pack! Will catch up with you in chat very soon J

Changemylife – 429 days – ROCKING! – Loving your recent post which you said you’re looking forward to the New Year with … “optimism, excitement, enterprise and happiness”. And so say all of us!

Our ELDERs

Degenerate – 278 days – ROCKING! Always keeping it real as your recent posts testify. As you say: I will not win cos I will not stop. And it’s as straightforward as that.

Sars27 – 212 days – ROCKING! – What a ray of sunshine you’ve been here on the forums and diaries this year; always ground in reality and always striving to have a good time with your fabulous family! You got it!

Rubybaby156 days - ROCKING! – We all hope you had a fantastic Christmas and it’s gonna be a fabulous, focused 2018 right!

Adamjamal2014-2017153ROCKING! – Delighted to read you’ve hit 5 months gamble free. As you’ve said: “That's 5 full wages spent on myself, family and restoring my finances.” Great words; you know what matters.

Mixer142ROCKING! I’ve kept gambling free till my initial target; this Christmas. But I have to continue. Living life, or guaranteed misery? That’s what it boils down to.

Amt722 – 136ROCKING!Excellent progress Amy722 and you’re not about to stop now. How you write your posts shows your resolve. I can read between the lines and can see your true resolve here.

Raj128ROCKING! – Not dwelling and keeping on the only road out of Gamblesville and into the Thrillsville of life itself. Keeping your eyes on the road ahead – keep it going, nice and steady, Raj!

4D – 116 – ROCKING! - Yes, what a way to finish the year 4D! Focused, keeping right on track and, given in life we ‘reap what we sow’, you carry on like this and you’ll carry on reaping.

 

Our STRIVERs

Boxingdayfresh91 days – ROCKING! Thank you, as always, for your kind words BoxingDay. Having hit Boxing Day, and still fresh, I know you’re ready for the next milestone – one year hence!

Mitch9193 days - ROCKING! – Here’s hoping you had a great Christmas Mitch, and, with the financial control controls you’ve put in place, every chance of a great New Year, too!

Paulll88 days - ROCKING!  Delighted to see you hit 88 days, Paul; I know you’ve had the odd potential ‘wobble’ but you’ve righted yourself before you went Pete Tong – keep building that resolve and resistance.

Velvet782 days – ROCKING! – I am so sorry to hear you’re not having a good time right now, Velvet. We are all with you, your team mates and friends here. Your continued non-gambling, in the face of so much going on, is testament to the character you are showing. We are thinking of you, Velvet.

Moorey70ROCKING! – It’s not easy this Morrey but, by hell, are you digging in here mate. It’s truly wonderful to see and you’re setting yourself up for a year that could really be your year, Moorey!

Marson123 63 - ROCKING! – Full understanding and respect that you’ve got a lot going on right now Marson, and hoping life’s treating you well as we bid farewell to 2017.

Christer1 62ROCKING! –  Always taking each day as it comes which is considered a good, solid way to approach a gambling-free way of life. If we approach our addiction realistically, then we’ll get a realistic result; which, with determination, support and a good practical statregy in place, will be a positive one.

Vibe53 ROCKING! – Thank you for checking in a few days back and it’s great to see you’re keeping on the good path. This is the right direction for you and everyone who cares about you – it’s the only win-win!

Slotfool - 52ROCKING! – A real joy to see you hit this meaningful milestone Slotfool – you know it matters and what a platform to build on for 2018.

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*) - 45 ROCKING! – I always enjoy visiting your diary, as you know, and looking forward to some great chats over the year ahead; they’ll be plenty :)

NEW & RE-RESOLVED MEMBERS

Chartom3 (*ELDER status achieved*) – 22 – ROCKING - ! You are exactly right, Chartom – it really is time to let go of the past, unshackle that ball and chain and be free of this. And you are free from the moment you say: “I’m not gambling today’”. You’ve done it before; you can, and will, do it again. Thank you for your kind words, as always.

NiceNormalFamily  - 16ROCKING – Our newest member of the gang has hit sweet 16 days gambling free today! That’s great, NNF, and the foundation stone on which to step as we hit the new year – 2018’s gonna be a good ‘un, right?

Adam123 -  8  – RE-RESOLVED – You’re continuing to have a go, Adam, and all credit for that. My New Year’s wish would be for you to hit STRIVER (30 days) in 2018. What do you say :)

RESTING

Antics – RESTING – I’m resting you, Antics, but you’re welcome back on board anytime – just give the word.

Adam808 – RESTING – Sadly, having to rest you, Adam, but am crossing my fingers you’ll hit 100 days shortly, but, if not, remember we’re all with you, my friend – we’re all on a journey to better things and sometimes, we stumble. Keep in touch if you can.

ItMatters – RESTED – I’m, with reluctance, resting you ItMatters; but hope you’re keeping Ok and you are welcome back any time. Just give me the word!

STATS FOR NERDS: Three of our team have been rested this week. Our totals are: 2 GURUs, 8 ELDERs, 10 STRIVERs and 3 NEW MEMBERS / RE-RESOLVEDs; a net total of 23.

Have a fantastic New Year’s Eve everyone!

And let’s start 2018 as we mean to continue: gambling free! 

Let’s keep strong; keep sharing and keep strong!

Mixer and Athena, your hosts for this challenge.

Posted on:
Sun, 31/12/2017 - 16:09

Nicenormalfamily

Joined:
2017-12-15

Checking in with 16 GF and to wish you all Happy New Year. May 2018 be better for all of us and our loved ones. 

Posted on:
Sun, 31/12/2017 - 16:43

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Happy New Year to all on this challenge ....... lets make 2018 one to remember for all the right reasons .....

Posted on:
Sun, 31/12/2017 - 17:07

Adamjamal2014-2017

Joined:
2017-06-11

Checking in 153 days GF. I wish all a happy new year.

Posted on:
Sun, 31/12/2017 - 19:51

Stephen 67

Joined:
2017-05-10

Checking in 45 days gf. As always it was great to read the weekly roll call, you have a real talent Mixer and give so much of yourself in support of your fellow travellers. 

I definitely do feel like a bit of old rope with broken strands, disheveled and tatty. By not gambling I can slowly unravel myself. Small steps is the way i'm going forward and I aim to enjoy the challenges that lie ahead.

Happy New Year to my GamCare Brothers and Sisters. We are family and I wish you all peace and happiness.

Posted on:
Sun, 31/12/2017 - 21:22

antics

Joined:
2017-07-30

checking in 61 days gf, happy new year to you all folks

Posted on:
Mon, 01/01/2018 - 13:02

amt722

Joined:
2013-11-10

Best wishes for the New Year to you all.

I for one have no issues with the titles used, be it guru, elder etc. I do not pay attention to these, only interest I have is remaining GF and find this thread a massive help with continuing on this path. Maybe some don't agree with the counting of days GF but I find it good for me. I am a very competitive person, hence why it took me 10 years to stop, I couldn't admit defeat. So for me not a bad thing to log in once a week and add another 7 days to my 137 days GF. 

Thanks to Mixer for taking the time and effort to continue this challenge. 

On 01 January 2019 I will be 502 days GF. That's my personal challenge for the year ahead. 52 weekly updates on this challenge.  

 

Posted on:
Mon, 01/01/2018 - 21:21

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

*** Welcome to the first update of 2018 ***

Hello once again, fellow Guru Challengers. I hope you saw in the New Year happily and any sore heads are soothed by now!

As often happens in the New Year, there's often reflection and new year's resolutions. I'm not normally one for these personally, but there's one I'm keeping and I'm sure you'll resonate: "Every day, I will remind myself not to gamble, because it's bad for me and my loved ones. The choice I have is either a path towards guaranteed misery, or to live a life how it should be lived, gambling free."

We all have our own different ways of slaying this gambling beast, often on a daily basis, and we've got to keep it our of our hair, out of our lives, every single day. If we do, we continue to fall into better thought patterns that very slowly, but very surely, tilt us away from this destructive malfunction of our minds. We are, without realising, turning a corner. It takes effort, of course it does, but the rewards are immense. It's the biggest ongoing win of our lives; that's the truth. Let's keep at it.

NiceNormalFamily - thank you for checking in; very pleased to note you've nagivated the Christmas period gambling free. January coming up - you can continue in this vein, day by day - no problem. The peace of mind over the last two weeks? Priceless. Going gambling free is more than money can buy.

Chartom3 - thank you for the new year wishes and you're exactly right - let's make 2018 a year to remember, for all the right reasons. I couldn't put it better myself.

Adamjamal - 153 days to the good; finances restored and now the best bit - finances will now be improved. Dare to spend and save in the best way you see fit for you and your loved ones. This is the way life should be lived!

Abstainer (Stephen) - As you rightly say, this is all about small steps. Once the practical restrictions are in place, it's all about a daily 'top up' of our resolve, like adding petrol to our gambling free-motor, keeping the GF mileage high and our car purring like a very contented cat indeed (I can almost hear that cat in my mind!)

Antics - I delighted you've checked in, very glad all is well and - yes! - back with us!

Amt722 - Thank you for a very considered post. As I know you appreciate and well understand, the titles are simply there as an interesting way to mark the 30, 100 and 300 day milestones that are our objectives to reach and pass, nothing more than that. Some may find these names useful and for others it's incidental - "whatever works".  I like your target of 1st Jan 2019 when you will hit the 500 day milestone. This interesting mathematical coincidence is more than fate, I'd say, and something I will strive for too. Thank you for your kind words, amt722.

Right - here's to a year to remember. Let's make it count. We're not here forever, let's not deliberatley disadvantage oursleves by gambling; that's just crazy. Let's give ourselves the best chance in life from here on in. We know what to do, and, even better, how to do it! 

"Just for today, I will not place a bet."

All the best best to you all,

Mixer

P.S. It's worth reading the first post in this thread - it's a hard-hitting post and full respect for Scott, for posting it.

Posted on:
Tue, 02/01/2018 - 13:51

Mitch91

Joined:
2017-10-03

Afternoon all

Checking in at day 95! creeping closer to the magical 100!!

Hope you all had a great christmas and new year, mine was the best in years :)

Happy 2018 people

 

Posted on:
Wed, 03/01/2018 - 00:06

marson_123

Joined:
2017-11-02

Hi Mixer and fellow guru challenges firstly my apologies for going quiet the last couple of weeks an awful lot going on and in quite a bad place. However those demons are not winning and gambling is not on my mind. Day 66 today and im feeling very proud of myself for not giving in. My life is literally a whirlwind at the moment but i have my goals and priorities in sight so there is no excuse for me. Again thanks to everyone on here this challenge really does keep me positive and has inspired me so much to better myself.

Posted on:
Wed, 03/01/2018 - 13:40

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

It's good to be making plans, living life differently, being treated differently and treating other people differently. Proud to be a member of the guru challenge!

Posted on:
Wed, 03/01/2018 - 22:56

Stephen 67

Joined:
2017-05-10

 Apologies to Mixer and Guru Challengers. I gambled today so will have to start again. 

Posted on:
Thu, 04/01/2018 - 07:46

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Checking in for the week

Posted on:
Thu, 04/01/2018 - 07:49

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Stay strong Abstainer, we are here for you.
Well done for being honest and starting again. You can do this, you have managed to get so far before, you'll get there again. We believe you can xx

Posted on:
Thu, 04/01/2018 - 23:20

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Checking in day 12, I can do this, we can do this

Posted on:
Fri, 05/01/2018 - 09:17

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on day 27 gamble free ... still very much on the right track, more determind than ever.

Posted on:
Fri, 05/01/2018 - 18:57

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Abstainer (Stephen) - I've posted on your thread. We're all with you mate :) 

Posted on:
Sat, 06/01/2018 - 09:35

paulll

Joined:
2009-10-16

Checking in on 94 days. 

I haven’t been on the forum as much as I would like recently, and it’s important I don’t drift away. Need to remind myself of the damage gambling has done to me as it’s easy to get complacent as the days pass by. 

Posted on:
Sat, 06/01/2018 - 11:44

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Day 97 checking in !! 

Posted on:
Sat, 06/01/2018 - 12:24

Stephen 67

Joined:
2017-05-10

Day 3 without a bet. Early days but feeling positive. Thank you Mixer for your ongoing support and the work you put into the challenge. I am more determined than ever to reach the status of Guru, 300 days free from gambling will be a massive accomplishment. Thank you Slot Fool for your kind words, I have just read your diary which I found very moving, you have shown so much courage, honesty and determination. Thank you Chartom for your ongoing support, it means a lot to me.

Many of us have experienced that sad emptiness of a relapse but we don't need to go through it again.

Wishing all the Guru Challengers a good gamble free weekend.

Posted on:
Sun, 07/01/2018 - 10:19

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

*** GURU CHALLENGE -  Latest WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Sunday, 7th January 2018

Quick Message – don’t forget to join the 2018 Challenge. It’s not too late; now’s the best time to join.

 

Here we are then, at the beginning of a new year – so here’s to a happy 2018! And happier if we don’t gamble; we know it’s bad for us, so why have we been doing it, and why is it so difficult to stop? And why is it such a problem?

 

  • We all started for very different reasons.
    • Curiosity – those adverts with big bonus opening offers seemed too good to be true (and you may even have won at first!)
    • Because others were gambling – Mates in the pub or friends were gambling – thought I’d join them
    • Escapism – Seemed like a distraction from any ‘woes’
    • Chance to make a fortune – This could’ve been an easy way to make money
    • Or some other reason. Something may have happened in our life that ‘triggered’ your first, and subsequent, gambles.

 

  • Why is it so difficult to stop?
    • It’s everywhere – as long as I’ve got money and time, and there’s opportunity, I’m just too tempted
    • Debt – I need to get out of worsening debt; just one ‘big win’ will clear it
    • Escapism – It continues to distract me from my ‘woes’
    • It’s enjoyable but I’m losing more than I’m winning, and, when I think about it, it’s actually more tortuous than enjoyable.
    • It’s like a ‘friend’ to mebut I can see it’s not a friend at all. It’s just a way of me handing over my money to some soulless gambling operator.

 

  • Why is gambling such a problem?
    • It’s because we can’t stop. If we win, we keep going until we lose, and then we keep losing. In other, words, we never win.

 

What can we do? We can do three things.

  • Admit we are compulsive gamblers; likely for life, such is the baffling nature of our condition. Therefore, a lifetime solution is necessary. We need to be determined and ready for this new phase – a better phase – in our lives.

 

  • Seek support of loved ones and professionals (e.g Gamcare, counselling, GA etc.) as necessary. This requires honesty from us, an open admission of our problems. Professional support includes reading books from experts, discussing issues in places like Gamcare etc. In other words, anywhere we can learn about our condition and realise it will likely destroy us if we continue unabated. Counselling might draw out reasons that caused us to gamble in the first place.

 

  • To put in place restrictions to ensure that we cannot gamble even if we wanted to do. This includes, for example, handing over financial control to a trusted friend or loved ones, self-exclusions in place at likely gambling sites, whether online or ‘bricks and mortar’, and other measures.

 

What about if we relapse?

 

  • We are human. We may well relapse on this lifetime journey of going gambling-free. (I have personally relapsed many times.) Only ‘beat yourself up’ if you are going to ‘give up’ trying to go gambling free, or are not prepared to learn from the experience.
  • True character is shown from those who, when they fall down, get up again, stronger. If you relapse, be honest about it, think about why it happened and think what you can learn for ‘next time’; what can make a future relapse less likely?
  • Keep trying. Not only will you be wiser, you’ll be a better person each time, too.

 

Let’s have a great 2018 everyone. And … on with our challenge! Oh - by the way, I don't know about you, but I'm missing the Gamcare Chatroom, currently down for a couple of weeks. Here's a Temporary 'Chatroom' that you're welcome to visit, at the same Chatroom times, if you fancy a chat.

  • Are you RESTED? Have you disappeared from the forums for a few weeks; if so, you are taken off the Challenge. We wish you luck! 
  • Are you RELAPSING? It happens, but you’ve been honest enough to admit it. Make sure you’re putting in place extra steps right now … else it will happen again and you’ll get nowhere.
  • Or are you ROCKING? Still gambling free? Superb… keep living the life you should; not misery!
  • Or have you RETURNED? It's always great to welcome you back.

 

ROLLCALL OF HONOUR

We have a new ELDER in the ranks!

Mitch91100 days - ROCKING! – Absolutely delighted to congratulate you on your Gambling Free century! It’s not been easy, but you’ve seen a good three months plus gambling free, including the critical Christmas period. What a fantastic set-up for the New Year. You;ve done this with no complacency and you’ve put decent blockers in place. Our very best wishes to you as you pass this fantastic milestone, Mitch!

 

Our GURUs

Phil72 – 698 days – ROCKING! Hiya Phil and loved your post about the outstanding 88p debt as you come to the last of your debt repayments. Happy days ahead, and I know you’re ready for what should be good times.

Changemylife – 436 days – ROCKING! – I think I might take up jogging after you reported, after your 5k run, “more jogging = more jigging” if I’ve understood the definition of ‘jigging’ correctly J ;)

 

Our ELDERs

Degenerate – 285 days – ROCKING! Like you, I’m missing the Gamcare chatroom immensely; let’s hope they sort it out soon. Chatting in a forum post, like what I’ve tried to initiate, isn’t the same, especially as – take last night – it was just me there. Oh well, we’ll see what happens.

Sars27 – 219 days – ROCKING! – A very, very good build-up of GF days, and you’ve asked, what’s 2018 got in store for you? Good things, better things. Create your own luck, you create your own better pathway. That’s the game!

Rubybaby163 days - ROCKING! – Hope you had a great new year Ruby and you’re rocking and rolling on the GF road.

Adamjamal2014-2017159ROCKING! – Not wishing to look too far ahead, but half a year Gambling Free beckons, Adam. One day at a time, you can pass this very important milestone.

Mixer149ROCKING! If it wasn’t for the strict financial blocks I would probably be gambling again. Whilst only having a max of a tenner on me at all times is a bit restrictive, it’s far, FAR better than the alternative. My new bank card came through the post the other day; I immediately cut it in two and passed it to the missus (my income is transferred to the joint account she handles).

Amt722 – 142ROCKING!You’re exactly right, as I previously commented; titles are an irrelevance really, it’s about how we handle our commitment to going gambling free. And 142 days and counting speaks volumes.

Raj141ROCKING! – You’ve appreciated the ‘madness’ gambling causes to us, what a baffling addiction it is. But, there’s only one solution and that’s to strive to be gambling free. You’re doing just great!

4D – 123 – ROCKING! You finished 2017 in the same way you’re approaching 2018 - gambling free. How refreshing, how could it feels, to finish one year the same way the next one is starting – guilt free and the peace of mind that goes with it.

Mitch91100 days - ROCKING! – Our newest ELDER settles into the ranks and, as all of us know so well, bein gambling free is such a good place to be.

 

Our STRIVERs

Boxingdayfresh98 days – ROCKING! Never forget, hitting three figures isn’t a destination, it’s a milestone. But you’re more than entitled to break open the bubbly and pour a glass as you stream past… J

Paulll94 days - ROCKING!  You’re exactly right, it’s easy to get complacent, or think ourselves as deserving of a small ‘reward’ as we hit a milestone, but that’s just the gambling devil talking to us. We ignore this insidious creature and boot it into the back of beyond!

Velvet788 days – ROCKING! – We’re all hoping you’ve started 2018 in a better place Velvet. We’re all here, thinking about you and supporting you.

Moorey76ROCKING! – I hope you had a good Christmas and New Year, Moorey. We know this is a damned difficult addiction we have, never to be underestimated. Do get in touch when you feel ready to, my friend.

Marson123 70 - ROCKING! – Thank you for your update and I certainly appreciate you’re going through a bit of a rollercoaster (to say the least) what with one thing and another. Hang in there. This is one of life’s ‘tests’ that are not making things easy. We are all on your side, Ok.

Christer1 69ROCKING! –  Your positive message to Abstainer (Stephen) epitomizes the attitude we have on this forum; unconditional support. It’s this spirit of togetherness that’s going to get us all through!

Vibe60 ROCKING! –Haven’t heard from you since Chrimbo and here’s hoping you came through the holiday season unscathed; but, if you didn’t, we’re with you 100%, Ok.

Slotfool - 59ROCKING! – I’m sorry you’ve been a bit under the weather but starting to feel better again. Your gambling-free strategy is great; handing over control of the finances can be liberating – I do the same. Here’s to a great 2018 to you, Slotfool (although I don’t think you’re a fool!)

Our RE-RESOLVED MEMBERS

Chartom3 (*ELDER status achieved*) – 29 – ROCKING! You have doubled, and re-doubled your efforts to remain gambling-free and that is truly to be admired, Chartom. You understand what this means; your resolve and constitution continues to grow.

NiceNormalFamily  - 23ROCKING! – You wrote about New Years resolutions in your posts and I think you settled on the best one of all. One day at a time, remaining gambling-free. It’s often the simplest approaches that are the best, and the most powerful. I’d say you’ve got it spot-on!

Adam123 -  15  – ROCKING! – I’m genuinely delighted you’ve hit two weeks gambling free, Adam, and I hope the impetus of a New Year helps strive you to greater heights! Well done, my friend.

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*) - 3 RE-RESOLVED – Thank you for your kind message, Stephen, and, you know, you’ve not had it easy lately but you’re not making excuses. That’s brilliant. You know what to do and we all know, in some circumstances, it’s just not that easy. But you know the score, have such a refreshing honesty and candid nature, that it’s no surprise you’re so well-supported on these Forums. We’re all with you.

 

RESTING

No-one rested this week!

STATS FOR NERDS:  Our totals are: 2 GURUs, 9 ELDERs, 8 STRIVERs and 4 RE-RESOLVEDs; a net total of 23.

Let’s start 2018 as we mean to go on, let's keep sharing and keep strong!

And let's finish with a laugh!

*** JOKE OF THE WEEK ***

A woman noticed her husband standing on the bathroom scale, sucking in his stomach. “Ha­­! That’s not going to help,” she said.

“It sure does,” he replies. “It’s the only way I can see the numbers!"

:) 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 07/01/2018 - 15:49

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

Checking in, 219 GF DAYS ! Let’s go!!!! Thank you very much for an awesome rollcall mixer ! Thanks for always helping us all :) 

Posted on:
Mon, 08/01/2018 - 07:50

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Thanks Abstainer; that's lovely of you to say :)

Thank you Mixer; great roll call as always, thanks for your kind words, I'm feeling better each day.

Have a good week fellow challengers

Posted on:
Mon, 08/01/2018 - 12:56

4D

Joined:
2010-02-10

Thanks Mixer for your hard work on the challenge and well done all challengers. Checking in 124 days gf. My blocks are in place and I try not to worry about gambling but focus on other things. Not much to say at the moment, just trucking along :)

Posted on:
Mon, 08/01/2018 - 23:26

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Thanks for the mention Mixer - yes I did mean jigging (as in nookie). As always you are doing a sterling job and congratulations on 150 days G.F. - the real proof that you're on the right pathway. And you don't take it for granted.. You know the score! By handing over your finances - yes it's a humble action, but you fully appreciate it is the only way.

Also love the joke about the man on the scales (it could be me!). Hey this could be the start of something here. 'joke of the week'. Not me! - well maybe..

Posted on:
Tue, 09/01/2018 - 07:40

Nicenormalfamily

Joined:
2017-12-15

Good morning and thank you, Mixer, for keeping this challenge going! I forgot to check in on Sunday. My day count says 25 days GF but somehow feels much longer since that last bet. No real struggle to gamble at the moment, but well aware this could change anytime. Good luck everyone!

 

Posted on:
Tue, 09/01/2018 - 22:05

ItMattersMoreWh...

Joined:
2017-06-02

Early/Late check in - 221 days GF going strong, I am pleased to see people racking up the days. I am looking forward to chalking 2018 off as a gamble free year. One day at a time isn't really for me - so I am looking forward to 31st December 2018.

Posted on:
Tue, 09/01/2018 - 22:21

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

Good evening/morning everyone! I hope you're having a good week. To everyone who's checked in :) ...

Sars27 - I am absolutely delighted you are continuing this gambling free life; you are living THE life, and building up an amazing reserve so that when the rollercoaster takes a dip, as it does at times, you're ready for it. I believe, and maintain, that a recovering gambler's life is actually better than someone who has never gambled at all. Why? We really appreicate the value of things. Money? Not what we're after, certainly not for money's sake. Keep it going Sars!!!

Slot Fool - I thought your post on Abstainer's (Stephen's) thread a couple of days back was absolutely fantastic, truly. Compassion, understanding - this is the underlying spirit you have. What can I say.

4D - Trucking along is just great! Cruising down the slow/middle lane of life is just great - it's the fast lane that causes us trouble. Do we ever go in the fast lane? For sure! Life is for LIVING, but we must always boot the gambling devil into kingdom come before we strap on the seatbelt!

Changemylife - Jiggling; I thought that what you meant and I'm glad I got it right ;) As for the joke of the week, well, good news - it's going to be a permanent fixture. I've looked at my Top 100 favourite jokes and eliminated those I can't tell in these politically-correct snowflake-laden times and the number left was ... 0. Damn. But don't worry - I'll find one!

NiceNormalFamily - Very wise words indeed - "No real struggle to gamble at the moment, but well aware this could change anytime".

We are one bet away from disaster; it really is like tipping a snowball off a snowy mountain. It ends up like an avalanche. So you are right to be on full alert. It is lovely to have you as part of our Challenge, NNF.

ItMattersMore - Setting a target of the end of 31st Dec 2018 is fantastic. You're keeping it real - I know that - and aiming for a realistic middle-term goal. I wish you well. I'm loving this sort of commitment, personally. Really liking it.

Posted on:
Wed, 10/01/2018 - 07:22

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Checking in day 72 going good

Posted on:
Thu, 11/01/2018 - 08:02

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Thanks Mixer, that's lovely of you to say.
9 weeks gamble free for me today
(YAY!)

Posted on:
Thu, 11/01/2018 - 10:37

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on 33 dayd gf ... all good long my it continue ...

Posted on:
Thu, 11/01/2018 - 14:32

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Hey Mixer I’d like to join the struggle/challenge to help refocus after a relapse of a few months last year. I’d got to 16 months GFand don’t know what caused the relapse. I last gambled on 22 December 2017 so I’m 20 days GF. Peace and GL to everyone else fighting this battle.

Posted on:
Fri, 12/01/2018 - 14:26

Mitch91

Joined:
2017-10-03

Thanks for the mention Mixer.

Feels good to have hit 100, i only have 2 counselling sessions left now, she wants me to think about what i want out of my last 2 sessions, think we have covered a hell of a lot. i can see myself growing as a person, im getting more confident im doing things id have never done 2/3 year ago im opening up to friends, family and partner more often. No thoughts about gambling for a few weeks now which is great had a really good christmas and new year. 

Had a bit of a meltdown the other day after managing to save money and treat myself the past few months i lost my wallet at York outlet which was a bummer as it was the better halfs birthday and i wanted to take her out that night (good excuse losing wallet ;) ) luckily someone had found it and posted it to my work address all monies  gift cards etc still inside. 

enough waffling im off to see my beloved blades :)

Stay GF all 

Posted on:
Fri, 12/01/2018 - 23:32

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Hey guys . Checking in on 103 days ! Great to hit the century and I’m treating myself to something nice to celebrate ! 

Posted on:
Fri, 12/01/2018 - 23:38

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Evening All; I'll have a personal reply to everyone whose checked in during the last couple of days tomorrow; and great to welcome a new member - Godoicul too! Full replies tomorrow, my friends :) !

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