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I've been CLEAN for 3 years, YOU can do it too.. :)

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#1 Posted on:
Sun, 09/08/2015 - 22:00

£7K

Joined:
2012-03-04

Hi All,

I came to this forum over 3 years ago, a day before my 20th birthday. I had been gambling for about 14months during that time and lost around £7k, this actually increased to £9k after relapsing a few weeks later from that post. Original Post - http://www.gamcare.org.uk/node/106530

I now have been clean for just over 3 years and would like to thank everyone on this forum for all the moral support, personal stories and other advice that was given and shared.

I come from a very poor background and was quite bright achieving straight-A grades at A-level in one of the worse state schools in the country, I was given a scholarship to a very good university for my achievement, however I ended up dropping out due to this addiction. I reached a point where I was suicidal because of this disease, you know where death starts becoming an attractive option and easy way out..

I decided to go back into higher education at a new institution and recently just graduated at 23 as well as securing a top corporate job in the City at an astonishing amount of around £50k in the legal field. 

I hope my story empowers and encourages other to stay strong in their own personal journey in beating this disease. Sometimes we create so much negativity through our thoughts and actions that we lose hope and that the light at the end of the tunnel seems blurred. I found that I had to really discipline myself through identifying the root cause of what made me gamble, how to approach it and replace it with something else. In my case it was that I had dissatisfaction with my university course/institution and was easily distracted/bored due to have no passion or goals to work towards. I did a lot of introspection in attempting to learn about the real me and took on some new hobbies to fill the time where I would be gambling otherwise. I put a plan together and tried my best at executing it each and every day. Once you've hit rock bottom, I personally found that you are liberated as it takes the fear away from trying out new experiences and putting a lot more effort into other areas of your life as you develop an attitude of resilience and of thinking 'what more worse could happen'. 

I wish each and every one of you the best of luck in beating this disease and regaining control of your freedom, happiness and life, regardless of wherever you are in life. 

If I can do it with all the odds stacked against me and being dealt the wrong cards in life as such, then why can’t YOU?

Your Friend,

£7k 

Posted on:
Mon, 10/08/2015 - 17:36

sonic boom

Joined:
2014-05-01

Thanks for sharing and a very well done to you for turning your life around.

Posted on:
Mon, 29/02/2016 - 23:28

Thisisruiningmylife

Joined:
2015-08-13

Thanks for your post was very inspiring 

Please read my story 

Posted on:
Sun, 06/03/2016 - 14:41

quitforever

Joined:
2016-02-22

Thanks £7k for your story I think you've done fantastic on your education and hope you have more than 3 years now, with your job going strong.

Quitforever

Posted on:
Fri, 25/11/2016 - 17:12

deanip

Joined:
2016-11-08

wow, this is inspiring, I am 27 and have been gambling for 9 years. I didnt think it was possible to stop, but 3 years no gambling! that is encouraging me. To stop gambling even more now.

Posted on:
Fri, 25/11/2016 - 19:05

brandon

Joined:
Before 2009

Great post, brilliant idea to post it on here, will hopefully help a few people who are hoping to be where you are. 

Posted on:
Sat, 26/11/2016 - 21:43

Samson

Joined:
2016-05-08

Yes £7k, just yes yes yes!

Congratulations on your inspiring story and securing a very good job. 

Identifying the root causes is definitely key. You've really inspired me as I have been narrowly missing out on good jobs when getting to interview.

After reading this, I now have belief that I can get a good job, earn more than I lost , but more importantly continue the gambling free path.

Posted on:
Sat, 26/11/2016 - 21:46

Samson

Joined:
2016-05-08

You said: 'Once you've hit rock bottom, I personally found that you are liberated as it takes the fear away from trying out new experiences and putting a lot more effort into other areas of your life as you develop an attitude of resilience and of thinking 'what more worse could happen'. 

   I feel exactly the same. GamCare is a life saver.

Posted on:
Fri, 09/12/2016 - 03:45

Ineffable

Joined:
2015-02-21

Good to read such a positive story - thanks for letting us all know you are safe and well.  

My very best wishes for your future - sounds like you have your head screwed on this time around and are now ready to fly into the future with the strength and power of an Eagle - well done!

Posted on:
Sat, 17/12/2016 - 00:11

£7K

Joined:
2012-03-04

Thanks all - I'll be close to being 5 years clean in a couple of months time! 

Whenever the urge or temptation to gamble enters my mind from time to time:

* I remember when I was suicidal and wanted to kill myself because of my losses 

* I remember when I couldn't help my Mum financially because she missed her mortgage payment as she works on a zero hour contract 

* I remember when I couldn't afford to eat a basic meal or buy good food, even toilet paper seemed a luxury 

* I remember when I couldn't afford a bus ride, so I walked for two hours to reach my destination 

Today, my wealth, health and happiness is much better thanks to the decision I made almost 5 years ago. Otherwise I'd probably have still been in a rut, rotting away and watching my life pass by like some hooked ******. 

We all have a choice. 

The choice is up to you, you can either choose to be treated like some cheap dirty cloth on the floor or choose to be treated like a fine Persian rug. 

Do you think all the great footballers give up on scoring goals just because they have one bad match? Just because you had one one or a few bad runs with the FOBTS doesn't mean the rest of your life has to be like that.

Your friend,

£7k

:)

Posted on:
Sun, 22/01/2017 - 09:16

woodley3

Joined:
2010-02-26

Excellent words £7k and so very true you only get out of it what you put into it !

Posted on:
Sun, 22/01/2017 - 10:36

Anon100

Joined:
2016-08-31

Very well done, so pleased for you and thank you for coming back to tell us, I can relate to how your explain the no fear of trying new things because that's what is keeping me from gambling, I have a lot more interests, learnt about my stength and weaknesses, appreciated quality time with family and friends, things we loose when gambling x best wishes to you x 

Posted on:
Sat, 01/04/2017 - 13:02

Rachhya77

Joined:
2016-11-05

its so encouraging hearing ur story. i have been gambling for 7-8 yrs now and it has becaome really bad. im desperate to get rid of this habit.

Posted on:
Thu, 25/05/2017 - 10:33

Liset Blixt

Joined:
2017-05-25

Thanks for sharing your story. Well done! Hoping for the best for you. :) I feel positive now 

Posted on:
Mon, 02/10/2017 - 16:48

£7K

Joined:
2012-03-04

 

 

Thanks all! The time has flown by, it’s been almost 5.5yrs since my last spin on those crack-addict like roulette machines! I’m glad I’m in a financially stable position today as if I didn’t take action all those years ago I would have probably ruined my life and not be where I am today. A life most likely filled with regrets and sorrow to say the least..stay strong! :)

Your friend,

£7k