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I need to stop now

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#1 Posted on:
Wed, 11/10/2017 - 01:54

velvet7

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2017-05-26

Hi I joined this site ages ago, but didn't really utilise it. I wish I had. I have just lost a lot of money. I will recover after a good few paydays' but I know it's well out of control. I need my life back. I have to tell my husband tomorrow and the thought is making me sick.
Please, please help me. I just feel so ashamed and low.

Posted on:
Wed, 11/10/2017 - 05:40

Soggycash

Joined:
2017-09-19

Velvet ,  you will be ok. Do you really want to stop forever. If you do don't worry about your husband he will be there for you. 

Posted on:
Wed, 11/10/2017 - 05:59

velvet7

Joined:
2017-05-26

Thanks soggy. Yes,I never want to gamble again. I'm so sick of the cycle of losing a great amount of money, the worry and guilt and having to tell my husband that I've done it again then the worry of finding how much I spent and how much I owe. The money I've wasted is awful, I work in a job I hate and can't even enjoy my wages most of the time. I'm so fed up. I've not slept tonight and I'm not sure I can face my husband. I don't know what to do.

Posted on:
Wed, 11/10/2017 - 07:29

velvet7

Joined:
2017-05-26

We'll, I told my husband. He gave me a lot of hugs and told me not to worry. The rent is paid and we all have food. I'm very lucky to have him. I don't want to let my family down again.

Posted on:
Wed, 11/10/2017 - 11:07

woodley3

Joined:
2010-02-26

Hi Velvet7

You have done 2 of the hardest things already admitting you have a problem and also telling someone about your addiction i.e. Your husband !! I have let my wife and 2 boys down now on a few occasions but this time round I know they will be gone if I decide to gamble again and this is something I don't want to happen. You will feel a big weight has been lifted off your shoulders by telling your husband and it feels so much better already doesn't it ? Things will be hard in the early days but believe me things can and do become better in time whilst we are not gambling albeit this seems so far away for you at this moment in time ! I would say to yourself you just have to be open and honest with everyone now and this is something us gamblers are not use to doing but something we have to in order for us to live as normal life as possible. You should try ringing the gamcare helpline and getting some councilling sessions as I found these worked and gave me answers as to why I gambled and also I would recommend maybe going along to your local GA meeting if there is one near bye as everyone at these meetings is or has being in the same boat at some point.

All the Best

Darren

Posted on:
Wed, 11/10/2017 - 12:28

velvet7

Joined:
2017-05-26

Thanks for spending the time and caring enough to answer Darren. I'm determined to never gamble again.

Posted on:
Thu, 12/10/2017 - 23:12

Soggycash

Joined:
2017-09-19

Hope you haven't gambled velvet,  how are things.

Posted on:
Mon, 16/10/2017 - 15:08

velvet7

Joined:
2017-05-26

Hi again Soggy.

Things are ok thanks. I haven't gambled. Been keeping busy at work, kids etc. Not sleeping too well, things just keep churning around in my head. I'm burying my head in the sand atm in terms of sorting out money worries. It's payday Friday though, so hopefully the stress will be eased a bit on that front. I just have to keep going don't I? Thank you so much for your support, I appreciate it so much.