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#1 Posted on:
Wed, 29/11/2017 - 16:30

Sharon41

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2017-03-16

Thought it was time to start a new thread as although have remained GF (phew)Have been working too much and neglecting my diary which has been my saviour along with everyone on this forum. So from now on even if there's not much to say I want to leave something her. Also still feel bogged down with debts etc but am with Payplan but because I was in debt before gambling (yes madness) I strive to be debtfree whilst being able to live S:) 

Posted on:
Wed, 29/11/2017 - 17:45

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

Hi Sharon ,

Well done for staying strong ! I know it’s easy to say to forget about the debts but time flies and it will soon be all cleared . Keep up the good work :)

Sars

Posted on:
Wed, 29/11/2017 - 20:54

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

You are such a kind and considerate person to other forum users including me. All the best, Phil.

Posted on:
Thu, 30/11/2017 - 10:22

Sharon41

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2017-03-16

@Sars27 thanks so much for your supportive words as always. I'm sticking with odaat but also making mini goals financially and personally for a brighter future.

@Phil72  thanks for posting and being a constant source of advice and compassion.

Today I'm just going with this 'It'S not a matter of letting go-you would if you could. Instead of let it go we should probably say let it be' take care S:)

Posted on:
Thu, 30/11/2017 - 14:50

Matt 24

Joined:
2012-04-25

Sharon,

Pleased to read you are still going strong. The debts being with Payplan is a good thing, will take the heat off you from your creditors. You will get debt free one day and imagine that sense of achievement when you do.

Take care.

Matt

Posted on:
Fri, 01/12/2017 - 09:49

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

So 1st December is here and for the first time in years I don't feel the financial stress that gambling put upon me for the last 5 years, havevoaid bills and have enough for a comfortable time. I know Miley Cyrus is a bit marmite but the lyrics of 'the climb' are worth a listen. Take care all S:)

Posted on:
Sun, 03/12/2017 - 23:21

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Have had a full day doing house stuff, including getting the Xmas gear out of the loft. Really looking forward to a comfortable time not stressing about money, has been a long time coming! Absolutely no room in my life for gambling and the misery it brings, take care S:)

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Mon, 04/12/2017 - 08:33

Smashed

Joined:
2017-08-13

Hi Sharon

Thank you for your kind words on my diary it means a lot. Stressing out about money is about what we see and what others have and we want a piece of that car or a better house or things we think we need, so whats the quickest way to get that, lets look around, "Ahh Gambling" - Mr A Smith from Derby holding his 5 million pound massive check with a glass of champage " On my first ever £10 deposit I scooped the jackpot on my 30p spin" and there they are loads of winners holding massive checks. We will have some of that we find out the games and start plugging away a few times and we can hit it " Please be the big one" fingers crossed oh no so close just £40 this time or the bonus that never gets near the centre, delve in deeper and the odds of winning are in the trillions 234,000,000,000-1 a mugs game, like you say it brings misery as eveyday people chase hopeless dreams and in the process leave a mountain of debt in our trails. More and more companies jump on the casino bandwagon as the riches it brings for super rich folks not caring that a nation is secrely addicted, they dont care. Keep going Sharon you are an inspiration to others, enjoy Christmas for what it is x

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Thu, 07/12/2017 - 09:37

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Day 266 Thanks Smashed, always really useful to have inputas I must admit sometimes I feel isolated and moving at snails pace. I agree with you, every penny you spend makes the hole deeper to get out of. After Christmas I will hopefully be working a little less and have a few hours more to myself as at present I'm stuck in a work/housework cycle and feel like a whinge but need something for me. Here's to a GF future with a clear head and a spring in our step.  Take care S:)

Posted on:
Thu, 07/12/2017 - 09:52

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Hi Sharon.

Just to say supportively that I've got a few hundred pounds left to pay through StepChange who have helped me enormously. It's great to be able to see the finishing line ahead and after I've cleared my gambling debts I will strive to maintain the one day at a time approach.

Another great example of the benefits of being gamble-free is that I had to have private treatment for a problem with my right ear as I could not possibly wait to see an NHS consultant. I would never have been able to afford it if I'd continued to gamble.

Everyday bet-free is a great day despite adversity and ups and downs.

Best wishes as always, Phil.

Posted on:
Fri, 08/12/2017 - 09:15

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Hey Sharon. .
Thanks for popping over to my diary. ..I'm glad it helps you..
Look at yours days mounting up love...huge respect to you for fighting the fight..
I get what you're saying about
"Life standing still "
For me it was kind of ..."so this is it now then "
I suppose because we spent so much time gambling we have to rebuild our routines...
It's an ever changing journey love....
I tend to go with the flow now...
Deal with things as they crop up...
As best as I can....
It's my life now...im not a slot machines prisoner. ...
The stage will pass love...limbo land is not for ever...it's just another part of the journey....
You're getting stronger and stronger all the time....
Be kind to yourself. ...xx

Posted on:
Fri, 08/12/2017 - 09:49

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

@Loxxie your kind, thoughtful words mean so much Thank you. Really looking forward to the weekend, Christmas Dec's up tonight then a rare night out tomorrow. Hope everyone has a fun weekend planned, I realise now that gambling sucked me dry of good feelings....joy, positivity, motivation etc all went out the window, But I'm gradually getting them back. It's hard to break the cycle but when you do it shows you what you'very been missing. Take care S:)

Posted on:
Fri, 08/12/2017 - 12:51

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Sharon.Thankyou for posting on my diary, the support has kept my spirits up.

Great day in sunny Hull, blue skies and chilly but still a lovely day. I sm feeling better today although still chest pains and breathing's not too good. Going to haul my sorry backside off to a 'five rhythm dance' tonight, told the dj i'll sit out quite a bit but will be good to join in the fun.

Tormented a bit with urges to gamble, the addiction trying to fill my head with the usual nonsense. Feel strong enough to keep saying NO but it does frighten me to be honest. Loxxie's post struck a chord as I do feel like i'm in limbo at the moment. The misery of a gambling binge not far behind me and sometimes recovery just seems to be so far away. I will keep your advice in mind and take one day at a time cos I know that will work for me. A month ago everything was looking rosy so I need to get that mindset back. Sorry if I've rambled on a bit. Take care. Stephen x

 

Posted on:
Fri, 08/12/2017 - 15:37

Smashed

Joined:
2017-08-13

Enjoy your night out tommorow Sharon dont get too drunk, get tipsy, well super tipsy is allowed, just enjoy yourself because like you say gambling will take your money but once it's done that then it affects you, your mood, your persona, your interaction as you cant just shake it off like a duck shakes off water it hurts to lose your money for nothing and then you have to adjust to compromise your losses while still keeping that brave front on like its all gravy. Have a good weekend :-)

Posted on:
Sat, 09/12/2017 - 09:52

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Hi Smashed
Thanks, will enjoy but am quite good at knowing where to draw the line! Things are sloely slotting into place financially and I have made mini, realistic goals. Havr a great weekend S:)

Posted on:
Sun, 10/12/2017 - 12:32

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Well I survived my night out, which was rather tame! and only spent £20. Went out with a good friend who has had a really rough year but we made a pact to be kind to ourselves and make more time to have fun. Off out to buy a new diary, set a realistic budget and carry on kicking gambling butt. Happy Sunday, take care S:)

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 00:20

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Love the message in your last post Sharon. "Went out with a good friend who has had a really rough year but we made a pact to be kind to ourselves and make more time to have fun."

That's what life should be all about: having fun, accepting responsibility, showing kindness and respect to ourselves and others whilst being there for our friends and loved ones.

The alternative involves bowing down before the slots and fobts of fat cat gambling companies who love to see lost souls on their knees feeling utterly wretched and living a tormented nightmare.

After what we have all been through, it beggars belief that any of us would go back to gambling. Sadly though it is a very difficult addiction to overcome and requires a lot of courage and determination. People like yourself are both an inspiration and a reminder that it can be done so keep blazing that trail. Respectfully yours. Stephen.

 

 

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 11:06

Matt 24

Joined:
2012-04-25

Hi Sharon

270 days, well done and glad you are realising that you are allowed to enjoy yourself. You are doing brilliantly keep it up.

Matt

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 16:13

Sharon41

Joined:
2017-03-16

Day 270

Stephen thank you for your thoughtful post, indeed life isn't a 24/7 hoot but we all deserve happiness,  things to look forward to and a treat now and then, gambling removed any good thoughts or feelings, I can see that more than ever now.Take care my friend S:)

Matt Thanks it's taken a long time to have that L'Oréal moment 'you're worth it' Everyones worth it! For a long time I felt like an outside looking in in what life could be like and I'm gradually getting there. Hope you have many happy memo from your trip, take care S:) 

Posted on:
Fri, 15/12/2017 - 15:47

Matt 24

Joined:
2012-04-25

Day 274, closing in on the triple century girl, well played.

Thanks for your post on my diary, as always appreciated. I hope you enjoy the Weeekend too :-)

Matt

Posted on:
Sat, 16/12/2017 - 15:42

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Sharon hope your happy and well. 

Love your approach to recovery, when addiction comes calling you just say NO. Wonderful how you have always stood your ground with hope, courage and resilience.

No if's or but's or why me's. You decided enough was enough and set about rebuilding your life.

My dream is for a gamble free 2018.... Ps I've got a new thread.