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#1 Posted on:
Wed, 11/05/2016 - 01:30

Christer1

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2016-02-29

I'm not gonna hide the fact that I'm back to square 1 I have to be honest with this blooming online betting and yes I've self excluded and gutted but back on here from the beginning again

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Wed, 11/05/2016 - 03:07

chubb5000

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Best of luck Christer1 and remember, it's not just the money that's the issue, so much time wasted! 

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Wed, 11/05/2016 - 03:33

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Thankyou Yes as they say money isn't everything but my family are my wife doesn't know I do it I got caught out few years ago then went clean and she didn't really understand so I'm scared to even mention it so so I am going to fight it ( or try) I love my sport that's the prob but I'm going to give my absolute best

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Wed, 11/05/2016 - 09:14

P_K

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Christer, read as many of these recovery diaries as you can (especially the longer ones).  To have ANY chance of recovery you have to accept that this wasn't a blip and that you'll just continue to repeat the cycle until you make serious changes.

Wishing you strength.

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Thu, 12/05/2016 - 07:20

Christer1

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Day 3 still going I know it's not long three days but I'm happy as in the week that's the weekest times, weekends I'm more busier so takes my mind of Sydney rabbitos going -16 on stupid handicaps

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Thu, 12/05/2016 - 07:20

Christer1

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Day 3 still going I know it's not long three days but I'm happy as in the week that's the weekest times, weekends I'm more busier so takes my mind of Sydney rabbitos going -16 on stupid handicaps

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Tue, 20/09/2016 - 16:05

Christer1

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Back again im back on a losing streak i really need to stop

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Tue, 20/09/2016 - 16:44

g-doggy

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You will never win! I lost 550 last night 9lk debt. I'm done with it! 

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Fri, 23/09/2016 - 01:23

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Ffs everyday my wages go so from today im going to try. A diary

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Fri, 23/09/2016 - 04:25

Christer1

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Day 0 i try my hardest not to bet but did then won off that then blew all my winnings and stake so not happy with myself i will start my diary as this helped me last time. last bet put on at 830pm 22/9

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Sun, 25/09/2016 - 02:14

ODAAT

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Christer, a diary is unlikely to be enough for you given these false starts!  We cannot win because we cannot stop so get yourself some proper blocks in place to break your gambling (Time-Money-Location, remove one & you cannot gamble) triangle & get some help either from GA, your GP or the counselling services provided free through GamCare.

I tried to stop losing for years & years, finding out I had to stop gambling was a horrible shock but I am no longer on my knees.  I know you say you don't want to tell your wife but you have proved since then that you can't do this alone & it will be better coming from you than her finding out again.  

Make the changes before it's too late & start living again - ODAAT 

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Tue, 18/10/2016 - 01:37

Christer1

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Thankyou for advice i guess i will go the root of putting in my own blockd wish me luck

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Tue, 18/10/2016 - 07:57

Charley1

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2016-09-11

Morning Christa, why don't you try and write in here everyday (if you can) I find it helps me keep a focus and more detenrmined to see those days rack up. You will never won because we can't stop. When you want to gamble, perhaps try reading diaries of people on here or wrote in here. There is so much fabulous advice, support and encouragement on here. It may help you to get involved in other people diaries too. It may not be for you, but it's just a suggestion to try and help you. Take Care. Live the life you love, not the gambling life you hate. Cx

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Wed, 19/10/2016 - 01:57

Christer1

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Thankyou charlie some good advice from you i will definatly try cause i am sick of feeling like how i feel from today i will start a regular diary

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Wed, 19/10/2016 - 09:00

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Right starting again i will try my hardest again i feel i can do this my weekest times are when im on my own but im going to occupy pie myself alot more and not sports bet dinner times or before i go to wor or even after

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Wed, 19/10/2016 - 13:05

Charley1

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Afternoon Christa, thank you for checking in on my diary and reading it. Great you have written on yours today. Day one of the rest of your life. Have you thought about setting yourself little goals during the day, week, month etc? Perhaps keep you busy and boy do you feel good when you can rock each one you achieved off! Nothing major, just little tasks as you said you need to stay busy, I'm the same and this works wonders for me as I feel I've achieved more a the end of each day. I've now started tackling things I've left for months because I was never in the right frame of mind to deal with them, I know the aren't going go away and I'm the only who can sort them, so im on with that and it doesn't bother me now as my head is much clearer (less fog!) Hope your day is positive so far and continues to be. Take Care C x

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Wed, 19/10/2016 - 20:14

Christer1

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I know only 1st day but kept occupied with kids all day and didnt look on my phone to see what next i could bet on.off to work now which can my worst time cause i divert my self to bookies b4 i get there

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Wed, 19/10/2016 - 20:50

Christer1

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Made it to work even my boss said blimey your early i know its only 1 st day but its nice feeling i have set my self a three day target

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Thu, 20/10/2016 - 08:51

Christer1

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Off to bed now after busy night another small step this morn i can follow cricket this morn without following it on bet 365 which was never good cause used to look at other bets.i have found on a gd ap not from a betting side

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Thu, 20/10/2016 - 08:51

Christer1

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Off to bed now after busy night another small step this morn i can follow cricket this morn without following it on 365 site which was never good cause used to look at other bets.i have found on a gd ap not from a betting side

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Thu, 20/10/2016 - 23:03

Christer1

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Well another good day i m just keeping myself occupied. Not thinking of bookies

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Fri, 04/11/2016 - 02:00

Christer1

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Still gamble free not wrote on here been family illnesses but through being strong i havint cracked although thought bought it im happy im this far

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Tue, 13/12/2016 - 02:09

Christer1

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Right i i will carry on my diary hello well throu strains of family illness and stuff i had a week week but im determind to still carry on again as children on mend i started yesterday. My weaknesses are watching sport and feeling i can predict outcome.reading another post on here its hard if you predict outcome get it right and wished you bet i even know you shouldnt

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Fri, 23/12/2016 - 02:51

Christer1

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As u can guess it happened again im detirmenined to keep trying. Last couple of days i have refused to check my sports app for results and im finding it helping x

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Wed, 04/01/2017 - 15:47

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Still going xnmas hasnt been easy but im determind

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Wed, 04/01/2017 - 16:05

Skyblueblue

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2016-10-06

You are going round in circles wasting your time Christer1.

Unless you have a better strategy in place and really, really want to stop all you are going to ever do is get a rest for a few days then blow it all again.

Who cares if you may or may not have predicted the outcome of something !

Why not take the predicatable out of you and do something amazing for you and your loved ones - like stop - For good ?

Sbb

 

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Wed, 11/01/2017 - 08:00

Christer1

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2016-02-29

what you say is so true but lets face it is not as simple as it sounds but yes i need a new stratigy

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Fri, 13/01/2017 - 14:55

Christer1

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i feel i have a good new strategy in place my biggest pitfall is i either bet berore i get to work or after in moning.im on day 3.i work in a supermarket and on nites so last nite before work took out money and then left bank card at home and put the cash on a gift card so everynight i dont have to bring in a card .i cycle 2 miles evry day to work and back

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Sat, 14/01/2017 - 19:53

Christer1

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2016-02-29

its only day 3 but feel good bout this. time and not felt urge to gamble on usual sports flutter away and it does feel good

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Wed, 29/03/2017 - 15:51

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Once again I have relapsed but I know last time it helped writing on here and reading other stories .as I have said before I fear telling anyone after reading stories  of other halves not understanding I have to do it alone 

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Wed, 29/03/2017 - 15:59

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Day one after being burnt and really feeling down after few big tennis bets messed me up I'm determined to mend again 

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Wed, 29/03/2017 - 17:56

Loxxie

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2016-01-15

Hi christer..thanks for popping over to my diary...
I've took a quick look at yours ..
And yes....you to could have my strength....if you set up some barriers to stop you gambling in the early days...no...it's not easy....but trust me it's a fight well worth fighting.....the alternative...a life full of sadness and isolation....give the helpline a call....chat one to one for help and support....I did...best thing I done...good luck x

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Wed, 29/03/2017 - 20:56

Christer1

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2016-02-29

thankyou yes i will do that and yes barriers are a very good idea its like now last couple of days i stupidly chased some losses and now all i feel is horrible but yes i agree with what you said thankyou for advise

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Wed, 29/03/2017 - 21:39

cardhue

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2013-01-18

#31 - strange, people who tell their OHs almost always vouch for it being a good decision. A surprising amount come clean and get support. Some don't but feel the sweet relief of not leading a lie and being able to build from the bottom up.

Are you imagining things to justify secrecy. Or am I imagining things. Pretty sure I'm not - I really don't see any people regretting coming clean.

Louis

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Wed, 29/03/2017 - 23:08

Christer1

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2016-02-29

ones i see are there current wifes sayinghes gone to far and want to see what they can do to help for their children also live in fear cause few yrs ago i admitted online betting and she blew her lid

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Wed, 29/03/2017 - 23:13

Christer1

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2016-02-29

so im not imagining things thankyou

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Wed, 29/03/2017 - 23:35

split

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2017-02-28

I am like urself, I what to quit, and I don't want anyone to know about my issues. So I understand the need to want to keep it hush hush. 

Truth is I have read your diary and you are going around in circles. We have all been there. You need some blocks in place, even if you don't wanna tell people you need blocks. Self exclude from as many online sites as possible. And betting shops. Why not get a joint bank account with the wife. Then you know you can't gamble as she will find out? You are not telling her but at the same time she is able to track your spending. Something to think about?? 

I wish you all the best, I really do. It will only get worse if you continue and you will be praying that you stopped now!! Take if from me as people told me the very same advice years ago. I didn't listen and they where right! 

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Wed, 29/03/2017 - 23:45

cardhue

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2013-01-18

If you're scared of a boll o king, ok. But what do you expect if you s p unk all the money away?

end of the day you need to man up and take some responsibility here

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Thu, 30/03/2017 - 00:34

Christer1

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2016-02-29

yeh once again cardhue not good advice and split thankyou yes your right i do need blocks and yes been going round in circles will be my job in morning and yes i think joint accounts is good idea i will look into it

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Thu, 30/03/2017 - 10:00

whatami

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2015-06-03

Personally I think joint accounts are only a good idea if they are joint signatories, otherwise if just you can take money out of it, then it could be closing the stable door after the horse has bolted if you decide to do something rash. Thing about it from your OH's perspective. They need to protect themselves and the family from your destruction, so giving a route to their money via a joint account, I think, is a very bad idea. I know some people feel the fact they'd have to 'fess up if a line on the statement showed they'd been at it, is enough to stop them. But what if it isn't and you act on an urge? By then it'd be too late. What you can do with various accounts is set up alerts. I have an account with a large bank named after a city in Spain begining with 'S' (who took over Alliance and Leicester and others here in the UK). It's a basic bank account with a seperate top-up debit card. I have configured alerts to send SMS messages to my wife's phone any time there is a debit of over £50. That way, she's got to know about it instantly it happens and can call me to confirm what it was. They *may* offer that facility for joint accounts? However, if you're like me your credit rating will be very poor and a joint account will link your finances and stuff up your OH's too.

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Thu, 30/03/2017 - 14:06

Nonchaser

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2016-11-25

Remember that getting burnt feeling and bottle it up. My gambling time was evenings, to escape after work, sitting all hours into the middle of the night depositing and chasing. My cards are now locked away upstairs in a money tin. This means I can't deposit at night time or I would wake up my husband in the process of digging about for my tin. I allow myself my cards for online purchases only or spare money from the tin to shop with. No more willy-nilly gambling spends to credit cards. The calm feels great.

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Thu, 30/03/2017 - 16:12

Christer1

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2016-02-29

I must admit whatami I've always thought same bout joint acounts and that is why I'm hesident to try it .my blocks will be on betting shops there my worst enemy as I've excluded from all online anyway I have one plus if there is a plus I never use casino fobt machines it's sport betting I'm bad with.i work nights and my worst time is beginning and after work so I will top up a gift card and leave my bank card at home 

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Thu, 30/03/2017 - 16:15

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Day two and feel good as not touched or been near bookie and self excluded again

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Thu, 30/03/2017 - 20:57

split

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2017-02-28

Keep it up fella, 

I must admit whatami I didn't think of that. I am sorry if I have given the wrong advice... As indeed I do now see how a joint account could be a bad thing. Brillant idea about the bank cards.

I just wanted to add, excluding from the bookies and online sites is one thing. But I am living proof that those actions alone or not enough! There's always another website you haven't excluded from. Or a betting shop in a different part of town. 

Please fella get some blocks in place now!!! Like literally NOW!!! You need to otherwise you will be back on here telling us all about ur losses. 

I used to get a lot of payday loans to fund my addiction when I had no money. Did you know you can ring them up, explain you are a gambler and they will put you on the do not lend list. Mbna and Barclays did the same with my credit cards too. Unfortunately it was too little to late for me! 

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Sun, 16/04/2017 - 22:33

Christer1

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2016-02-29

after all blocks and coming clean i screwed up again two days ago.last night i went out and never even thought bout having flutter and im happy with that ive had nice bank hol with my fam of course in back of my mind i regretting that stupid moment but im determind to win this battle over

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Wed, 17/05/2017 - 14:57

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Well after relapsing again I feel I have a lot of weight of my mind I've joined a multi self exclusion scheme which are all shops in my area after as I'm on day 2 now feel happy cause know can't do a lot even if I feel urge to bet. And all online the same. Last time I had a good run then just blown it all

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Fri, 19/05/2017 - 00:57

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Day 3 I feel good again hope I can keep this up there are more barriers to stop me x

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Fri, 19/05/2017 - 00:58

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Day 3 I feel good again hope I can keep this up there are more barriers to stop me x

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Fri, 19/05/2017 - 00:59

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Day 3 I feel good again hope I can keep this up there are more barriers to stop me x

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Tue, 23/05/2017 - 20:31

Christer1

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2016-02-29

Still feeling good and not gambled does any one know any good books to read bout celebrities that have found it hard to stop please help

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Tue, 11/07/2017 - 02:26

Christer1

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2016-02-29

We on here should make our own website called we hate our life's as gamblers. Com as that's how I still feel as still throwing money away

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