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Posted on:
Fri, 06/10/2017 - 21:08

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Yes Thanks Adam; and the (return) trip was fine - back from the great city of Newcastle! 

 

Posted on:
Sat, 07/10/2017 - 11:20

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Mixer . Wishing you a great weekend. Well done on brightening up the diaries ....stephen 

Posted on:
Sat, 07/10/2017 - 19:27

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Glint - thank you for my haiku a few days back for my 50th (days GF) and "Omedetou gozaimasu", for which I can only reply: "arigatou gozaimasu"! Very much!

Stephen - likewise my friend. Hope you're having a good weekend.

All the best Glint!

Posted on:
Sun, 08/10/2017 - 19:47

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Mixer thankyou for the post on my diary. I have just enjoyed reading the Sunday Rollcall on the Guru Challenge thread. Well done on that ....stephen 

Posted on:
Sun, 08/10/2017 - 21:14

Dean0

Joined:
2017-09-14

Hi mixer regular reader of the guru challenge so thought I’d pop this way and share some thoughts on your diary if you don’t mind ?  I think I’ve mentioned this before maybe but I’ve been following the fobt debate for some time now. I remember a time those things weren’t even called the fobt yet trialled in the slot houses. Me the Guinea pig. They were 2 pound a spin back then and still as deadly as the ones we see today. You just lost over a longer period ultimately you lost. Moving on I don’t think we will see the reduction to 2 pound reason being it’s not the gc who’s leading the review it’s the government. The actual organisation who will lose the most cash. Ie revenue so I believe they will go for middle ground somewhere around 20. Which as we know is still a lot of money? 

I think labour have the right idea that being a straight up tax that forces them to put money into addiction treatment at the moment it’s not mandatory it’s more hush hush money if you catch my drift? So Jezza and his pals are onto something there.  You also mentioned a fine a well known company had. That was voluntary sought of a here’s some money we made a mistake. The actual figure is as you can imagine a lot worse. 

For me I’d like to see an actual self exclusion scheme that works sense does it well so why can’t they follow the same structure and bring in a form of identification check? That and more money plowed into addiction rehabilitation would be sufficient in my eyes.

Posted on:
Mon, 09/10/2017 - 23:13

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Mixer thanks for posting on my diary. Saddened to see Alan is leaving us but we're always here if he wishes to come back.

Congratulations on your 60 Days GF which is less than an hour away. Achieved in your inimitable style with great finesse .

Enjoyed listening to Bastille - Pompeii , great song.

Posted on:
Wed, 11/10/2017 - 19:23

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Mixer hope your having a good week. Respect for your Guru Challenge which is proving very popular. Achievable goals presented in a light hearted way which are fun and also motivational. I've got my eye set on Guru status and nothing's going to stop me. Wishing you well in your own recovery, a contented future, free from that awful addiction ...stephen 

Posted on:
Wed, 11/10/2017 - 22:01

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Day 61 and resolved as ever! 

Thank you for your post Wentworth; a thoughtful one to which I'll reply shortly.

And lovely posts as ever Stephen... have responded on your thread :)

 

Posted on:
Mon, 16/10/2017 - 19:01

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Mixer thanks for the post on my diary. Great job with the Guru Challenge, I feel it is a great motivational tool and you make it interesting and a lot of fun.

Big congratulations on 66 Days GF ....stephen

Posted on:
Tue, 17/10/2017 - 17:06

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Stephen - thank you, as ever, for the motivational post :)

I'm on Day 67 - as determined as ever - and on the way to my counselling. I think it's No.10 of 12 - keeping it going despite the travelling (nearly 2 hours each way!)

But do I want to give my all to enjoying a gambling free life or not ...?

 

Posted on:
Wed, 18/10/2017 - 18:23

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Day 68 - another day living life, not misery

Posted on:
Wed, 18/10/2017 - 23:53

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thankyou for the kind words on my diary Mixer, it's good to feel we're all as one looking for our liberty. I can say in all honesty my GamCare friends have helped me enormously, supporting me with advice and encouragement in a non-judgemental manner.

As you rightly say we've got to let the past go and move on. Only natural that we should occasionally take a stroll down memory lane but we don't want to get ambushed while we're down there.

As you pointed out, gambling took up a big percentage of our mental faculties. We couldn't​ give our whole to anything because the addiction took so much from us. Even when not gambling the mind was thinking about the next episode, so we still had no peace from it.

The  brain power that was wasted on gambling could be freed up and maybe could be put to better use ...stephen

 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 22/10/2017 - 21:59

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thank you as always for your kind words, Stephen.

Day 72 ... but still feel as raw as I did on Day 1. One day at a time, forever.

Posted on:
Wed, 25/10/2017 - 23:45

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Evening Mixer and congratulations on 75 Days GF. As you rightly say, not thinking about gambling frees up our minds so we can live a full life. Compare that to a gambling obsession which is a sad, lonely existence and a complete waste.

You do a wonderful job with the Guru Challenge and I appreciate that. Take care ..stephen 

Posted on:
Thu, 26/10/2017 - 18:54

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hi Stephen, thank you as always for the best wishes my friend, and I'm delighted to be on Day 76! You're a good man Stephen and your diary is a 'must read' to me.

Dear Diary, I had a bit of good news today; my pay-cut won't kick in for another 18 months (instead of Christmas) - a welcome breathing space. It gives me time to look for other roles and take stock. One thing's for certain - I'm going to save the extra money like crazy and will not, must not, and will not, gamble. Ever again. Life - or misery.

Posted on:
Fri, 27/10/2017 - 08:29

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Mixer, glad you have some good news on the work front. Wishing you a good friday and great weekend ahead ...stephen

Posted on:
Fri, 27/10/2017 - 12:45

wallyweird

Joined:
2017-09-18

Pay day today waited till 12.01 am moved all spare cash into partner s account felt great and have left bill money in there will be a test but can do it 18 days GF

Posted on:
Mon, 30/10/2017 - 07:57

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Congratulations Mixer on 80 Days GF. Absolutely brilliant journey so far and your an inspiration on the diaries. Just enjoyed reading your 'Guru Challenge Sunday Rollcall', you certainly brighten up the recovery road with your wise words, encouragement and good humour ....stephen 

Glad you enjoyed your stay in Jersey, 

Posted on:
Fri, 03/11/2017 - 19:25

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thnak you so much Stephen. Most appreciated! On Day 84 now .. the same total I got up to "last time". "This time" I have no choice - if I gamble its absolute guaranteed misery. So onwards and upwards to Day 100....!

Posted on:
Fri, 03/11/2017 - 19:53

4D

Joined:
2010-02-10

Good news about the delay to your pay cut Mixer! Just popping in to see how you're doing! Day 84.."you know the score". Well done and keep going. Your talents can be put to many, many better uses than gambling :)

Posted on:
Mon, 06/11/2017 - 09:04

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Mixer. Sorry to read your having medical issues, hope today's x rays are ok and everything works out well for you.

Congratulations on your continuing good progress stopping gambling and your excellent work with the 'Guru Challenge' ...stephen 

Posted on:
Tue, 07/11/2017 - 22:26

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hello Mixer my friend,  hope your ok and have a date for the scan / x- ray. Your friends on the diaries will all be sending you their best wishes. Take care ...stephen

Posted on:
Thu, 09/11/2017 - 11:21

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thank you for your kind good wishes, Stephen. My x-rays and scans will be on the 15th Nov, next Wedesnday. Until then I remain philosophical.

I'm on Day 90 - and like you, considering (once I've hit 100 days), leaving my totals off. I know I'll find them a hindrance; so long as I don't gamble, that truly is all that matters!

Posted on:
Thu, 09/11/2017 - 11:53

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thankyou Mixer and congratulations on 90 Days GF. In GA meetings 90 days is considered quite an important milestone. Take care, be happy and stay strong.

Posted on:
Fri, 10/11/2017 - 01:00

4D

Joined:
2010-02-10

A great achievement, well done Mixer on 90 days. You've been paying it forward on most of those 90 days too and I hope its helped you break the 'habit' of gambling. I think gambling is more than just a habit for us cg's but that is one element of it...

I hope all goes well for you over the next week. Medical tests can be a v stressful time. Wishing you all the best for a positive outcome :)

PS. I've not had time to write a review of Justin larcombe's book yet (as promised in chat one night a few moons back) but I've not forgotten! I want to read it again before making my mind up :))

Posted on:
Sun, 12/11/2017 - 23:59

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thanks for posting on my diary Mixer. Enjoyed your youtube link, Idina really got the audience moving.

Really impressed with your Sunday Rollcall on the Guru Challenge, great to see friends working together and overcoming the urges to gamble.

Wishing you a good week ...stephen

Posted on:
Tue, 14/11/2017 - 10:09

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Mixer hope your feeling ok. Best wishes for tomorrow, hope the scans / x ray come back with something positive and you get your medical issues resolved. 

Great to see you 95 Days free from gambling.

 

Posted on:
Wed, 15/11/2017 - 08:35

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Mixer. According to the recovery diaries page you posted on my diary at 7 30 this morning, however nothing has appeared in my diary! Hope all go's well for you today. 

Posted on:
Wed, 15/11/2017 - 12:52

velvet7

Joined:
2017-05-26

Morning Mixer glad to see you're still going strong.

Posted on:
Wed, 15/11/2017 - 23:18

4D

Joined:
2010-02-10

Hope all went OK today Mixer :)

Posted on:
Thu, 16/11/2017 - 16:54

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

Thank you Velvet, 4D for your kind words.I had my scans yesterday and await my results. Meantime, I'm on Day 98 yet strangely 'unexcited' by my impending Day 100. That's because there's a slight sadness that I'm compelled to do this, but know, deep down it's the only choice I have. It's the only choice we all have. 

I'm glad that you are both keeping good gambling free counts going, this is forever, we all know that, and it's good we're all sharing a similar journey :)

Thanks again 4D, Velvet and - keep going :)

Posted on:
Thu, 16/11/2017 - 19:02

adam808

Joined:
2017-08-27

Hi Mixer, I hope everything went well with the scans, got my fingers crossed for you.

Wow 98 days...what a fantastic achievement. I understand that feeling to a degree. I think you just have to view it as a huge victory even if it doesn't feel like it...just like Day 30, and 50 were. Each day is another day gamble free.

Take care.

Posted on:
Fri, 17/11/2017 - 00:44

4D

Joined:
2010-02-10

Hi Mixer,

A difficult time for you which I can understand. Hang in there mate. You have been a guiding light and inspiration to quite a few including me, so I will leave a few words here tonight to reach out to you. You are not excited on 98 days and this may be down to other things going on which is OK. You can celebrate later. But do not feel a sadness about 'forever' and 'compelled'. I have felt this and in my case, this is the sadness of my gambling head, trying to tempt me back. Remember this is also a choice, your choice not to gamble, just for today.
Personally I will also leave you with another thought which is: look how many you have helped on the challenge! And that is a Mixer on sub-100 days! I do wonder what a Mixer who is on 100+, 200 or even more might be like!!! I am curious to find out! I wonder what he would say to you on 98 days?
Stay strong my friend.

Posted on:
Fri, 17/11/2017 - 21:47

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thank you very much for your kind words 4D which have genuinely inspired me. You are right - I have a choice, no matter what, and have decided to use logic and what's genuinely for the best for me, and my family, in order to make what I consider the right choice. You have raised an important point; there is always a choice. 

It is a real pleasure to help people with the challenge and I do it, like so many of us, including your good self and so many others, because we care not only about how we deal with this, but others in the same boat as us, too. All gloriously unconditionally, too. I will never, like all of us, 'reveal' who I am, because that's the point. We're all in this together; who we are doesn't matter, but are still friends bonded by a common cause, a united intention of living a better life. That'll do :)

So thank you. I will continue, resolved as ever, with extra oooomph, as I guide past that 100 day barrier, as I must, and will. And, in due course, you too, 4D! We're all in this together, and, because it has to be a lifetime (logically, and for the best) I like to think we will be kindred spirits for some time to come.

Posted on:
Sun, 19/11/2017 - 06:18

Glint

Joined:
2016-01-08

Congratulations on your 100 days and elder status Mixer.

Great work as always on the forum. Really impressed with your dedication and application.

Wishing you good health, continued success and happiness.

Posted on:
Sun, 19/11/2017 - 08:57

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Congratulations for hitting your Century, Mixer. 

You came so close to doing so last time but this time you’ve shown who’s the boss by sticking two fingers up to the gambling devil and given yourself the best possible chance of a positive future. 

Wishing you well buddy. 

Moorey

Posted on:
Sun, 19/11/2017 - 11:11

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Well done on your centenary Mixer and becoming an elder! All the best, Phil.

Posted on:
Sun, 19/11/2017 - 15:40

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

CONGRATULATIONS !!! Mixer my man ! 100 days GF ! That’s a very good achievement ! And here’s for more and eternity :) 

Sars 

Posted on:
Sun, 19/11/2017 - 20:10

degenerate

Joined:
2013-05-10

100 days is awesome! Very well done Mixer!

Posted on:
Sun, 19/11/2017 - 20:31

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Congrats on 100 days gamble free Mixer, great achievement, keep up the good work buddy your doing great :)

Posted on:
Sun, 19/11/2017 - 21:03

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Congratulations Mixer on 100 Days GF. You have certainly had a massive impact on the diaries and helped a lot of people.

Enjoyed reading the Sunday Rollcall on the Guru Challenge. I am back to day 3 but I treasure that 3 days and am hungry for more. I won't give in again. Take care. Stephen  

Posted on:
Sun, 19/11/2017 - 21:10

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thank you so much, everyone, for your kind messages. I am touched and they are very appreciated. 

It helps galvanise me for the days, weeks and months ahead and hope, in some small way, I'm helping you too as we all strive towards that common goal - a happier, gambling-free life :)

Once again, thank you.

Mixer

Posted on:
Tue, 21/11/2017 - 00:10

46 and out

Joined:
2017-08-08

Congratulations on your 100 days gamble free Mixer.  A great achievement, well done and keep up the great work.

46 and Out.

Posted on:
Tue, 21/11/2017 - 00:32

4D

Joined:
2010-02-10

Well done Mixer great to see you in triple figures!!

Posted on:
Fri, 24/11/2017 - 22:15

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Mixer. Pleased to read your x ray and scans came back all clear. Hope your feeling ok in your self. Take care, wishing you a good weekend. Stephen 

Posted on:
Tue, 28/11/2017 - 00:18

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hi Mixer. Sorry your household is full of cold, hope the lemsips do the trick.

As always the Weekly Rollcall on the Guru Challenge was good to read and very inspiring.

I am only on day 11 but determined to get to the Guru status of 500 days. If i don't have a dream how am I going to have a dream come true! Surely after 500 days I will finally be able to put it all behind me.

Posted on:
Tue, 28/11/2017 - 15:55

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thank you for your kind comments, everyone.

46 and Out - may I pass reciprocal congratulations to you hitting your ton-up a couple of weeks ago!

4D - you are not far away my friend - in two weeks you'll hit triple-digits too!

Abstainer - I'm a lot better today, back at work - the Lemsips, indeed, did the trick! You'll be a Guru - I sense your inner strength and determination. "Happy talking" (talking)  helps to ;)

Posted on:
Mon, 11/12/2017 - 11:02

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Mixer. Enjoyed reading the Weekly Rollcall on your Guru Challenge thread. Good to see friends gamble free as christmas approaches.

Really impressed with your progress, 122 days gamble free and done with hope, humour and a positive determination. 

I'm on the recovery road for good now. One day at a time will work for me. Guru status of 300 days is achievable and that's where i'm heading. 

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