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#1 Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 08:56

Mixer

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2016-12-03

 

*** ANNOUNCEMENT FOR ALL NEW VISITORS TO THE FORUMS ***

Had enough of gambling? Fancy a Challenge? There are three... 

Guru Challenge - Let's strive for 30 days / 100 days / 300 days gambling free!

2017 Challenge - Let's be gamble free for 2017, or the rest of 2017!

*NEW* Christmas Challenge - Let's be gambling free till Christmas 2017!!!

Why not take a look, and join one, two or even all three :)

*** END OF ANNOUNCEMENT! ***

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(My regular diary follows....blah blah blah :) )

I was a regular on this site a few months back but fell off the wagon after three months gambling-free. I used the usual excuses to start again, blaming anything and everything and back onto the gambling I went. But I simply must try again and not gamble till Christmas, and then beyond. I am back here because I need to go 'all out' and try again. Yesterday I had a bad gambling binge and enough is enough. I'm tired, weak,  miserable but know I will feel much happier if I stop again. There are some great people on this site and I look forward to catching up. I've asked Gamcare for some more counselling; if there's any available, I'll be straight back on it. 

So I come back with no fanfare, because I have been weak and must stop before this destructive habit costs me everything as it surely will.

 

 

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 11:31

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Mixer, please don't describe yourself as weak - you were a fantastic, enthusiastic, supportive and positive forum friend to me and many others and I am really pleased to see you back as I'm sure will many other forum users.

You aren't and won't be the last person to fall off the wagon as you put it. The most important thing is you've made a decision to try again and have returned to the forum.

Best wishes, Phil.

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 12:34

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thank you Phil as always for your sincerity and warm words. I have to confess I feel very different this time around. Quieter, more low key. But ever determined not to feel sorry for myself - I've got myself into this mess and I'll, dragging and screaming, have to try and get out of it etc.

Great to hear from you though Phil and hope life's treating you as good as it can be. 

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 12:52

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Lots of adversity but gamble-free. Hope to "speak" to you in chat and am fully supportive of you and so pleased to see you back as I said in my earlier post.

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 20:08

Forum admin

Joined:
2010-11-01

Hi Mixer,

Welcome to the forum, and thanks for sharing your story with us.

By returning here, it seems like you’ve taken a brave step in the right direction to help you overcome your gambling problem.

I’m glad to learn that you’ve requested for some more counselling from Gamcare to help you again in your recovery.

Hopefully, you’ll put other strategies in place as well to effect the necessary and positive changes that you require to overcome your gambling problem. 

It also seems like you’re aware of yourself, knows what it takes to become gamble free, and you’re eager to meet significant others from the forum who have contributed to your recovery in the past. This I think is a good move; tapping into the resources that benefitted you in the past. Hopefully, it would work for you again.

Please don’t hesitate to contact us on our free phone Helpline on: 0808 8020 133, and speak to an adviser about your recovery process or, for further help and support.

I’ll encourage you to try and stay in touch with us, and please keep posting!

Kind regards,

Beatrice

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 21:14

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Really enjoyed chatting buddy.

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 21:24

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thank you Beatrice for your kind words, what a lovely welcome back I've had, from Phil, Adam, Tri, terrific people all.

I did have, I will confess, a moment of trepidation on my return. That is, because I was reasonably prominent on the forum for a short while, working on the '100 Day' challenge, and then appeared to drop it like a stone when I suddenly left seemingly never to return. Truth is, I had good reasons and a bit of a crisis (to say the least) and unfortunately, a by-product was resumption of gambling. And now, a few months down the line, I'm back where I started and have to stop - I have no choice (there is no choice).

I genuinely felt bad about letting some great people down on the 100 day challenge; especaily those approaching 100 days but I had my reasons and simply couldn't continue. I won't resurrect the challenge, certainly not in the short term because I feel I need to get back in the gambling-free zone again, chat to people on here and do what we all do best - share experiences and help each other. Credibility is also a factor - I need to earn the right, with the right frame of mind and consideration of others, before starting off any other challenges (and in fact there's a perfectly good one called the 2017 Challenge which is the "daddy"!). I'm certainly not on any ego trip. I'm a recovering addicted gambler who needs help, like we all do.

But I certainly intend to be active once again on the chat and forums, but quieter, more thoughtful, with suitable humility borne out of my continued gambing illness and, perhaps, latterly, weakness.

So, Day 1. I've cancelled my remaining casino membership and on Monday will ban myself from all local bookies. Practical steps. My missus has my card and has changed the pin. She controls the finances; I'm happy with that, "whatever works". Again, practical steps. My short term target (always prefer short-term goals) is not to gamble, or even look at anything gambling related, until Christmas. 

Life could and should be much better for us all; gambling is a menace when you're 'wired' like me, and, sadly, so many of us.

P.S. Great chatting to you, too, Phil :)

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 21:38

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

You too!

I have always thought you were a considerate person who wanted to help other people and was gutted when - obviously for your own reasons - stopped using the forum.

You may have changed your approach and attitude but you are still YOU - a good person who unfortunately got sucked back in but wow honesty etc.

I've got your back my friend and I'm sure you've got mine.

Best wishes your friend, Phil.

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 21:50

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thanks Phil - and I've certainly got your back, mate - have no doubt about that.

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 22:14

ODAAT

Joined:
2014-11-10

Hi Mixer, welcome back, sorry it's under such circumstances.  

I have a question I want to ask in regards to your title thread & that is...What's the point?  Are you actually ready to stop gambling because that just sounds to me like you want to get it under control?

Whilst I accept that in your head you may have had very valid reasons for leaving the forum, you did let people down but most importantly, you let you down because whatever that justification was, it could never have excused your return to gambling which was what leaving was actually about!

Getting through today gamble free is a mini goal.  Trying to not gamble until Christmas is admitting defeat!  Gamble free time doesn't fix anything, let it go once & for all, that way you can start to heal - ODAAT 

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 22:41

Phil72

Joined:
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Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 22:41

Phil72

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Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 23:10

alainepo

Joined:
2016-07-27

Good to have you and your energy back Mixer but first of all you must concentrate on yourself. Stopping till Xmas is a good goal for now and hopefully you will acheive this and go well beyond. You put aside a lot of time for people on here and it was certainly appreciated by me, you did not let anyone down on here. Remember you are also important so concentrate on yourself too. We have all slipped up from time to time and whether you regard it as weak or not the fact is you are not alone. The Mix is back in the Mix, hope it goes well for you.

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 23:54

Rhoda

Joined:
2016-12-06

Pleased to see you back Mixer...forget Christmas....concentrate on today. People say, you have to be selfish in recovery....maybe last time you became so busy with the 100 day challenge, you didn't do enough work on you. For me joining the SENSE scheme and excluding from all casinos was a big step...it was me saying I wanted to let it go. Looking forward to catching up with you.

Posted on:
Sun, 13/08/2017 - 00:19

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Welcome back mixer

Posted on:
Sun, 13/08/2017 - 09:17

Skyblueblue

Joined:
2016-10-06

Sorry to see you back under these circumstances, but good to know that you have the will to take aim and fire on.

As you will see I am still doing fine, but dont forget that part of my success is down to your enthusiasm and support.

Whatever happens i will always feel indebted to you.

Keep low key it thats to be your style this time around...but keep communicating.

There is plenty goodwill and experience out there to guide you to your goal 133 days from now !

Sbb

 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 13/08/2017 - 09:55

cardhue

Joined:
2013-01-18

Hi Mixer

Welcome back and I'm glad you are returning with a commitment to change.

I think you're previous, excuberant positivity helped others. But just trying to be extremely positive doesn't do the job. I know that's a tough one to take - in a sense it seems unfair that the huge energy you invest doesn't bring a return.

A few decades ago there was a lot of quack-ery around how 'positive thinking' will solve any problem. It's subsequently transpired that the people promoting this were simple charlatons. You can't be positive all the time. That's not how humans work. In the same way you cant be happy all the time. You certainly can't think your way to hapiness (you can't control your thoughts for starters - they just arise in your consciousness). You need to make actual changes to bring about improvements in your life  - and these changes should bring about hapiness.

Don't get me wrong - being positive is good and I certainly do hope you stay positive.  Also, your positivity was clearly infectious.  But commitment to change, counselling, getting outside of your comfort zone is more likely to lead you to actually cracking this. Would you consider any further steps?

Best wishes and keep posting

Louis

Posted on:
Sun, 13/08/2017 - 12:11

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

Thank you for your comments, here are my considered replies

ODAAT - As always you hit the nail on the head with your straight talking. The reason for my title is part desperation and part kidology on my part. I am so disappointed with my failure, and losing my way, that being GF till Christmas will be a genuine, manageable achievement. But after Christmas I know I have to carry on and double-down my committment. I'm still wallowing, pathetically, in a slight-remorse stage slightly exasperated by my weakness. I have to say it how it is.

And yes - I did let people down. They say the measure of a man (or person) is how you handle the lows of life, as well as the highs. I handled this low (that I won't go into it here, but will at counselling) badly and, as I previously said,  dropping everything like a stone was ill-considered, although at the time I was a bit punch-drunk and my mind all over the place. I had a responsibility to do better for everyone who was part of the 100 Day Challenge, I honestly believe that, from a moral and courtesy point of view, and failed. Hard on myself? No, not on this occasion. I would like to apologise to everyone I let down, not just from not continuing the challenge as I should have, but the negativity of my leaving which was, and I see it now, a knock-back for everyone. I cannot over-emphasise this point; I really should have thought this through at the time, looking back I shake my head at my selfish lack of consideration. Certainly a weaker part of my character I must improve.

So where do I go from today? Well, I'm going to grind those days out to Christmas and believe I can do that. (And then - I whisper to myself - onto the next time-point). I will be ever-present on the forums, helping others, as we all do, perhaps more 'low key', without setting up another challenge because people will rightly think: well, it's OK for today, Mixer, but what if you do another midnight flit and leave us in the lurch like last time? It's a good question. Any mitigation on my part? Well, I guess I'm fallable like averybody else - lots of people suddenly 'disappear' from the forums but that's no excuse really. (I'm too old and tired for tinpot excuses.) To me, it boils down to this and this is how I'm going to look at it: Ask me in exactly a year's time on these forums if I mean this. If I reply, Yes, then you know I mean it. If I'm not here, or give a wishy-washy answer, then you can confirm I was a bit of a fraud all along. And I don't want to be a fraud.

Phil - thank you, as always for your defence Phil, it's always appreciated. I'm back at the early stage but, as my previous reincarnation on this forums made clear (somewhat), I can certainly 'give it' and the flip side is I have to, and can 'take it' too. Brutal honesty is good for me personally - at ODAAT is admirally consistent. You're a good friend, Phil.

Alainepo - great to hear from you again and I'm sorry for letting you down. I'm coming back stronger and feel the resolve coming back as I write. I will prove my intent by my words and actions over the coming days, weeks and months, and look forward to catching up with you again.

Rhoda - my goodness we go back a long way and the first thing I'm going to do is look into the SENSE scheme and complete it. Actions. I really look forard to chatting with you again Rhoda, thank you so much for the warm welcome back.

Sbb - thank you for your welcome back. I actually feel I let you down more than most people because we had this almost telepathic philosophical understanding between us of this insidous disease and I broke the bond. I will try not to do it again, time will tell if I have what it takes this time. You remain GF Sbb, what can I say; does a compliment from me matter any more. It brings my failure, my 'white flag' into sharp focus. I say this not from self-pity; I need to earn your respect again and I'll quietly re-prove my colours, Sbb.

Cardhue - thank you for your post, and I spent time considering your thoughts on positive thinking, which, as you rightly say, is, by itself, not the panacea. Reading all the self-books can be useful but, as we all know, it's just one part of the jigsaw, the pieces need to be put in place to produce the full picture. It's interesting you mention getting outside the comfort zone - I'm taking on a Signing (sign language, Level 1) course from September and that's every week for 9 months. A good social skill to have and that will benefit my interaction with a family member and certain work colleagues. Something different.

Thank you everyone for your comments. I'm aware that this post has been a bit "me" centric but I felt I owed a response given my disappearance in context of leaving the 100 Day Challenge and also to update you generally. I will certainly switch the 'lamp around' and catch up with how you're all doing because that's part of it as we all know; sharing experiences and helping each other.

Right. I think I've done enough introspection for one day (year!). It's good to be back (but I should never have left). As the saying goes: I start from here. But will learn, as we all do on this pebble-strewn path of life, lessons from the past. 

Do I feel better after writing this? Not really. I feel a little humbled how I've been welcomed back, what it says about you (wonderful), and what it says about me (not a lot). I won't let you - and me - down this time.

 

Posted on:
Sun, 13/08/2017 - 12:20

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

What happened, happened. You've come back to the forum and been very honest about your life over the last few months.

This is your diary so you are entitled to be "me" centric - it's your personal space. I removed my post from last night as I couldn't see the point on somebody else's diary but ultimately you have my 100 per cent support and I look forward to reading about your progress.

Best wishes as always, Phil.

Posted on:
Sun, 13/08/2017 - 12:25

Sech7

Joined:
2017-05-03

You don't need to apologise for your posts being centred around you., that's the whole idea.
I wasn't part of your challenge but I kind of was in my own way.
I can see why you think you may have let people down, but also, and more importantly, you showed a lot of people what they personally could achieve by doing the right things.
It was brave of you to come back mate and I wish you all the best, as do many many others.

Posted on:
Sun, 13/08/2017 - 17:43

Katiecoo

Joined:
2016-11-25

My dear friend, I am so glad you are back. I was awful worried for you and could sense when you left you were in a bad place. I have also wasted a year battling. Let's as before start again together. Christmas seems like a perfect goal.

Posted on:
Sun, 13/08/2017 - 19:29

Glint

Joined:
2016-01-08

A hearty welcome back Mixer.

Posted on:
Sun, 13/08/2017 - 22:50

ALAN 135

Joined:
Before 2009

Hi Mixer ! 

I mirror all the other post in welcoming you back " It's good to see your footsteps around the forum again " 

All the best my friend :))

Posted on:
Mon, 14/08/2017 - 11:57

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thnak you everyone for your kind comments; I've replied to you personally and if I haven't I will do soon.

Today, I've applied for more counselling and undergone an assessment. They have insisted I speak to a doctor first before my first appointment because of the answers I've given. I've given the counselling provider that assurance and am now going to book a doctors appointment. I won't go into details but, like so many of us, gambling has driven me into a very dark place at times, despite my apparantly sunny countenance.

I've also phoned the bookies exclusion service on 0800 294 2060 and specified the bookies I want to be banned from. They suggest anywhere within a 2 mile radius of where you live, but you can add other bookies from anywhere. It actually includes arcades that have a bookies attached (some do) which is useful, because I'm banned from those arcades by association.

I need to provide (e-mail back) a photo of my passport or driving licence plus a photo, these are circulated to the premises. I must agree not to go in any of the bookies for one year, and staff will immediately ask me to leave if I do.

It's easy to do, I just take a picture of my passport page with my photo on it, and take a photo, on my smartphone and e-mail it back.

The whole process took around 20 minutes; it was very efficient and very civil and I recommend it.

My next job is to self-exclude from the last remaining casino I'm allowed in, going to Google SENSE and take it from there.

So that's two main practical steps I've taken. 1. Restrict my money supply; my wife controls all of my spending to the last penny and 2, Remove places I can gamble. I've already excluded myself from all on-line gambling.

Some of the reasons I failed before were because I always seemed to leave myself some 'outs', things I let myself do. One of those was Quiz Machines in pubs; I didn't count those as gambling. But now I do, and won't go on them at all.

Another thing is the office lottery which is £2 a month. I know some on here will disagree but I look at it as 'insurance' rather than gambling so will continue this (I know, I know, but I would be mightily peed off if it came in and I was the only non-winner on the team...)

Anyway just some rambling thoughts that help me mark my (relative) progress and might help others considering similar steps.

Posted on:
Mon, 14/08/2017 - 12:15

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

Sounds like a very productive morning and some very positive decisions made. Best wishes, Phil

Posted on:
Mon, 14/08/2017 - 12:26

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thanks Phil. I've come to realise that, despite appearances, my last 'attempt' to stop was actually fairly half-hearted; whilst I ticked some of the boxes, I left gaping holes in my strategy and that has really come back to bite me. In short, I lost my way. This time, absolutely no gaps, no holes. And no delay. 

Posted on:
Mon, 14/08/2017 - 13:26

Phil72

Joined:
2016-10-07

I think your honesty has been inspiring. A lot of people were gutted when you left and as I'm sure you've realised are delighted you've come back and - been as open as you have. You had and have lots to offer.

Best wishes, Phil.

Posted on:
Mon, 14/08/2017 - 15:30

Markman

Joined:
2011-12-14

Thought I was dreaming when I saw Mixer's name reappear on the forum the other day!

Good and bad to have you back Mixer. I hope things go the right way for you this time.

Right behind you as I am still going strong following your amazing support at the beginning of the year.

Take care and do not be hard on yourself my friend.

Markman

Posted on:
Mon, 14/08/2017 - 20:49

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

Markman - thank you so much for your post and I'm delighted your GF days have extended well into the double-hundreds. You, and other hardy souls like you, are my inspiration now. I'm right at the start of the journey but I'm coming back three times stronger. In fact I've just sent off photos to [email protected] to ban myself from every bookies in sight. Thank you so much for your welcoming return.

ALAN135 - it's great to be "treading the boards" again, and thank you too for the welcome back. Looking forward to catching up!

Sech7 - I've really enjoyed chatting along with you on the chat here - a few genuine "lol"s already I have to say! Again, thank you for the welcome back.

I've a lot to make back, but having made my genuine and heartfelt 'mea calpa', I'm returning wiser, calmer, and hopefully a better person.

Posted on:
Mon, 14/08/2017 - 22:50

Abstainer

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thanks for that Mixer . A real tonic to see your positive approach to recovery .....stephen

Posted on:
Tue, 15/08/2017 - 18:35

Athena1991

Joined:
2016-09-17

 

Hi Mixer 

Good to see you followed through and phones the exclusions scheme - i did not and as a result relapsed! Keep going and I will join you on your quest to be gf untill christmas! Keep going :-) 

Athena

Posted on:
Tue, 15/08/2017 - 18:56

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Welcome back Mixer! :)

You were such an inspiration to me last time buddy. As I'm sure you were to many, many others.

Good luck in your quest for freedom. My journey starts today. 

Let's get to Christmas (and beyond...) together! 

Take care. Moorey

Posted on:
Tue, 15/08/2017 - 22:38

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thanks Moorey, and you're on - let's have a GF-free few months until (at least) Christmas. It starts here in the height of summer. Can it be done? Lets not worry about whther it can or not, let's get tomorrow out of the way. Tomorrow, we don't gamble. Right? :)

Posted on:
Tue, 15/08/2017 - 22:45

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Mixer wrote:

Thanks Moorey, and you're on - let's have a GF-free few months until (at least) Christmas. It starts here in the height of summer. Can it be done? Lets not worry about whther it can or not, let's get tomorrow out of the way. Tomorrow, we don't gamble. Right? :)

Right! :) tomorrow I shall not gamble!

Posted on:
Wed, 16/08/2017 - 11:39

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Stay strong today buddy! 

Wishing you well. Let's get through another day gamble free. 

Hoping to always be 4 days behind you....

Posted on:
Wed, 16/08/2017 - 15:08

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thanks Moorey - day by day, gritted teeth through gritted teeth, one day at a time, we will do this, this time.

Today I received a reply from self-exclusion.co.uk. My mugshot and self-exclusion form is now posted at over 30 local bookies and acrades - I am allowed in none of them. For a moment I thought - I know a few people who work in some of these places but then I thought: You know what? Who cares. If it helps stop me gambling then it's a good move. The ban is place for a year when it can (will) be renewed.

My next step is SENSE, to ban myself from the one remaining casino in my area. It's tougher this, I've known the manager (socially) for many years. But, again, what is this all about. It's about taking practical steps to stop gambling. So I'm gritting my teeth, and though SENSE, doing something about it.

 

Posted on:
Wed, 16/08/2017 - 15:15

Bornagain

Joined:
2013-12-14

The manager will probably be pleased to see you have banned yourself, he or she won't want to add to a problem gamblers addiction. I was really nervous about self excluding from shops close to me as the staff know me, but I found they were generally relieved that I was trying to help myself. Be strong and I hope you can use SENSE and get banned from the casino.

Posted on:
Wed, 16/08/2017 - 18:13

Rhoda

Joined:
2016-12-06

Hi Mixer, the manager and staff were really upbeat when I self excluded. Genuinely felt that they were pleased I was doing, rather than perpetuating a problem. They are people with lives and families too....I don't think they want to be responsible for creating misery. It is so much easier once the bans are in place. Helen.

Posted on:
Wed, 16/08/2017 - 18:27

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Well done on your progress today Mixer. They are big steps you've taken! 

You can go to bed tonight feeling pleased with your achievments today. 

A productive day to say the least.

Yes I agree, the staff in the bookies are like any other person.

They've no real gain in watching you lose £1 after £1. Friend or no friend.

They don't want to see a good man going down.

Have a good evening Mixer. 

Another mini battle overcome and won. 

Posted on:
Wed, 16/08/2017 - 20:58

dholla1

Joined:
2017-08-09

Mixer,

I will keep this short my friend but just wanted to say that after all the kind words / support / advise that you've given me on my diary I wish you the best of luck. I would re-itterate alot of the things that you said to me but I don't feel the need. I feel quite confident in saying that you know where you want to get to and you know what you need to get there so once again, best of luck to you.

Sure we will speak again soon, in the mean time stay strong buddy, we're all in the same boat paddling up that same river at the moment.

Posted on:
Wed, 16/08/2017 - 23:00

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

dholla1 - than you for our kind words, and I'm personally delighted you are settling into a GF journey. Always day by day, of course, but getting into a good rhythm. Thnak you for our best wishes, and I without doubt want you to succeed too! And, yes, it's going to be challenging, as we navigate that certain creek but we have a GF paddle ready to help us navigate all the s*** ! Ok. No gambling tomorrow. Agreed....? Great! (I anticipated your response!)

Rhoda (Helen) - thank you for your message of encouragement and my priority target tomorrow (apart from being utterly and totally GF) is to complete the casino ban. You're right, it's never personal with the staff and management, even if they are friends and I know deep down the manager will understand (he's a great friend and very professional). Thanks Helen and looking forward to catchng up with you - we go back a long way :)

Moorey - likewise thank you for a great message my friend. You're bang on with what you say, similar to Rhoda. And a GF under your belt, too - that's what it's about. Let's have another GF day tomorrow OK :) and I'll be starting up the 100 day challenge again in the next few days too - Yey!!!!

Hey bornagain, and great chatting to you tonight. Thansk for your message that uncannily - and accurately - echoes the top-drawer sentiments and advice from Rhoda and Moorey. Hey, we all know our stuff - we all know what to do - we're all good people unfortunatley trapped in a certain mindset that tilts towards gambling BUT we can do something about it. Not just by putting in good practical steps, like self-excusion and counselling etc., but by geeing each other, chivying each other along. Does it help? I believe so. Let's stick together, determinedly, grimly at times, but let's enjoy life too. I know you felt despair tonight - I (and so many of us) understand and emphasise. But let's keep going. Let's remember our priorities, and like you, mine's family, and, just for tomorrow, let's go GF.

And that's how I'll end my post today. Let's all go GF tomorrow. One day. Can we do it and check in tomorrow (a one-line will do!). Yes, I reckon we can :) 

Posted on:
Thu, 17/08/2017 - 06:52

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

Another day, another day GF. Only on Day 6, so nothing to shout about; but got to work through the foothills before climbing the heights.

The first thing I think about every morning when so wake up..? My GF strategy for the day. I think, how much am I taking in to work (£15). How much will I need (£3 for lunch). Do I need to top up my emergency float (not yet, still over £10). 

What else do I need to do as I look out if the window and see a murky, miserable day outside? (Typical August!)

I'm going to spend 20minutes reading a couple diaries on here, that I haven't read before, without commenting, just reading and seeing how my fellow abstainers are getting on. I notice Ghost is on Day 76, so I'm going to see how he/she does it.

I'm also thinking about the good people I know on here and hope they're going to be GF today. Moorey, Phil, Adam, Sars, Athena and so many more. I think about Sbb and will quickly read through some of his old diary entries - a really good diary, I dip in often.

And then, at around 7:15 I'll get up for work, spend a little time with my family, appreciating what I have, before setting off for work with the strongest possible mindset I can muster for the day.

Sorry to ramble on but it all helps me set the day up and I wish everyone who's reading this a good GF day ahead.Whatever our troubles, however we've got to this place, if we can do just one thing today let's just be GF. Everything else will be off the back of that, and it will always be better than the alternative.

Right, time for me to read a bit more!

Mixer

Posted on:
Thu, 17/08/2017 - 07:04

degenerate

Joined:
2013-05-10

Interesting post. I did not know you could self exclude from selected local bookmakers via a website. I thought you had to brave going into the shop. I might give it a try one day.

Posted on:
Thu, 17/08/2017 - 07:12

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

What a positive post to read first thing in the morning, Mixer.

Yes, if we only manage to achieve one thing today, lets make sure that it is we make it through the day gamble free. 

The rest as you say will follow....

I'll be reading a few diaries on here too before I set off this morning. 

Have a great day buddy!

Posted on:
Thu, 17/08/2017 - 07:21

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hi Degen,

Just noticed your post; thank you.

In fact, banning yourself from several bookies at once is very easy - just phone 0800 294  2060!

If every visitor to this website who has a problem with anything bookie or arcade related (FOBTs, horsesetc) just phoned this number, if that was the first thing they did, it would make a powerful difference to them, from the off!

I implore everyone with a FOBT problem to phone this number. It takes 20 minutes!

You just need to email back two photos, one of a passport or driving licence, and a face shot. Done! (Just take snapshots from any phone with a camera.)

 

Anyone deadly serious about stopping wasting their money and life on bookies FOBTs really must consider this.

All the best Degen, and wishing you a GF day today.

Right: I've gotta get up! 

Mixer

P.S. Cheers Moorey - just read your post. GF today - right? That's all we ask :)

 

Posted on:
Thu, 17/08/2017 - 16:26

Athena1991

Joined:
2016-09-17

 

Let's get to Xmas gamble free! We can do this! If I can do it it will be the best Xmas I will have experienced as an adult as I have always lost a tonne of money from being off work and gambling all day - only day 2 but they all count 

Athena 

Posted on:
Thu, 17/08/2017 - 21:08

dholla1

Joined:
2017-08-09

Mixer, you anticipated my response correctly pal, no gambling today and no gambling tomorrow either. Hey one day at a time and we'll get there.

Athena, day 2 is 2 days better than normal for most people on here, congratulations. You'll be amazed how quickly they add up, keep it up.

 

Posted on:
Thu, 17/08/2017 - 22:09

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

 

Dholla1 - Excellent stuff, just what I wanted to hear! You are indeed a team player; and any team is far more effective than the count of its individual members.

Another GF day in planning tomorrow -superb.

Athena - talking of team players, you're part of our determined little gang. Another GF in the offing tomorrow- all setting us up for the weekend. Resolve building all the time.

Moorey - with you all the way and another key member of our team. We all count the same, we are all worth it and we will succeed. Another GF tomorrow Moorey..? I don't need to ask that question. I just know, from your clear determination in your posts, the answer.

GF tomorrow everyone. That's all we ask of each other! And we'll catch up tomorrow, friends. :)

 

Posted on:
Fri, 18/08/2017 - 00:29

Moorey631986

Joined:
2016-09-08

Another GF day for me tomorrow, yes. I'm finally starting to think more clearly now. It's such a simple, yet wonderful feeling. 

It's not until you stop gambling that you realise just how much of a destructive bubble you're in.

Not good!....

This worry-free life is far more enjoyable :)

Posted on:
Fri, 18/08/2017 - 06:05

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Well I'm here on your thread reading thread wow what a popular person u r I like ur advise I did the multi exclude and it really helped and easy which u could do same for online

Posted on:
Fri, 18/08/2017 - 09:04

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hi Christer1

Thank you for your kind words.

It is nice, I suppose, to be popular but the real inner satisfaction is to be *respected* as someone who is personally trying to slay the gambling beast, and as part of that goal is happy to help others with unconditional, positive help and support. I would love to drag us all, kicking and screaming but happier and wealthier financially and spiritually ... because I detest gambling and the misery it brings to those of us who need help with it.

I'm all ears about multi-exclusion online Christer, what you did and the difference it makes to you.

Why not join our little gang, too, as we collectively, day by day, grit our teeth and take the enjoyable route in life rather than guaranteed misery.

I wish you all the best Christer. And look forward to hearing from you!

I'm on Day 7. Still in the valleys but looking up at the path that takes me up the mountain; not the mountain itself. One manageable step at a time; that's the secret. 

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