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Posted on:
Wed, 31/07/2013 - 12:06

gamblerjames

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2013-05-15

Hi Phil,

Thanks again for your post on my diary and constant support.

Huge well done 66 days gamble free! Good to hear that you were able to spend some time with your Dad recently.

Hope you have a brilliant time in Switzerland, a well deserved treat for your progress so far!

Try not to worry too much on the upcoming football season, just occasionally remind yourself of the losses incurred by betting on this last season and/or the seasons before this. It is sometimes too easy to focus on the good times we had when gambling which normally come about by urges to gamble. Just try and remind yourself of the bad times too.

I'm doing fantasy football at work, will get more thrills out of that than gambling money away on an unpredictable outcome.

Take care matey, stay happy and keep up the good work

Jimbooo

Posted on:
Thu, 01/08/2013 - 12:24

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Thanks Jimbo,

ha, fantasy football yeah interesting!! played for 6 years and 3 out of those played for money, so this year will play with no money. Mrs Phil not overly happy with my participation, but she is really has big fears, and I of course understand.

Work is picking up which is good, and focus is really intensifying with a lot of things, have started listening to some motivation cds, which I have been finding incredibly helpful, it is tailored towards fulfillment and success, but in my opinion can be applied to gambling quite well, as by stopping there is great success. It talks a lot about conditioning the brain, re-training it and it makes a great deal of sense. Going to use it for other areas of my life too.

anyway take care all my lovely friends and enjoy the sun, day 69 for me and things are looking up!!

Phil

Posted on:
Sat, 03/08/2013 - 15:00

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Phil

Just having a quick catch up and glad to read that things are still going well.

The CD sounds like a great tool for keeping inspired and striving forward- use whatever works for you :-)

Take care
Irene
x

Posted on:
Mon, 05/08/2013 - 09:39

stu38

Joined:
2011-06-22

Hi Phil

long time no chat- sorry friend. Well by my reckoning today is your 70 days- FANTASTIC!!! well done mate. Glad to read that life is good and that you are being really positive.

Take care friend,
Stu

Posted on:
Mon, 05/08/2013 - 10:11

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Thanks Sandra and Stu......

fly on Wednesday but off work this week, got the kids all by myself for 2 days, and so far they are being a handful, they are just a little bored!! But with the above in mind not sure how much I will be posting over the next 10 days or so, will try my best.

Day 73, urges becoming possibly less of an issue but I know that I must remain strong. Home life, is as usual up and down, finding it difficult to change things as I would want them, and part of that really is my problem, but I am searching within for the answers.

Anyway take care all my friends and have a great week.

Phil

Posted on:
Sun, 11/08/2013 - 16:21

gamblerjames

Joined:
2013-05-15

Hi Phil

Just a quick one to with you and your family a safe journey and a lovely and peaceful holiday. Well done so far mate,

Jimboo

Posted on:
Wed, 14/08/2013 - 09:24

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Morning my friends....

so back from 6 days away, lost count on what day I am on but at a guess is around 82 i think. Back from Switzerland/France, got off to a tricky start but settled down and had a lovely time, most importantly made some great progress with my wife. Funnily enough the first row of the holidays was probably down to fear from my wife of participation in Fantasy Football, she just worries that it is a "gateway" to gambling, still not quite resolved that one as I still want to do it!!!

Asides from that no real urges to gamble, have got a load of personal goals in mind which require focus and I know that gambling will only destroy the chances of achieving my goals.

anyway the sun is shining and all is good, take care everyone and have a great day.

Phil

Posted on:
Wed, 14/08/2013 - 09:52

FEB 2013

Joined:
2013-02-01

Hey Phil

Glad you enjoyed your hols. Still going well I see - I think having mini goals can be a great form of motivation to help us to abstain.

Take care and remain strong.

Lady Feb - still eating mounds of chocolate!!!

Posted on:
Wed, 14/08/2013 - 21:33

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Phil
Glad to have you back. I'm happy to read you had a good time. Sounds like family life has really improved- well done on the continued effort!
Hopefully, we'll catch up soon
Take care
Irene
x

Posted on:
Tue, 20/08/2013 - 09:23

silassad

Joined:
2012-11-20

Hi Phil

Glad you had a good holiday, i bet switzerland is a beautiful country. Glad things are picking up with your wife.

Stay Strong

Lisa :-)

Posted on:
Tue, 20/08/2013 - 09:36

FEB 2013

Joined:
2013-02-01

Hey Phil

Hope all is ok with you? Havent seen you on here for a few days. Hope all is well.

Take care.

Lady Feb.

Posted on:
Tue, 20/08/2013 - 19:32

gamblerjames

Joined:
2013-05-15

Hi Phil,

Glad you had a good holiday and were able to make progress with the wife. I would love to go Switzerland! Looks like a lovely country.

I'm doing fantasy football this year, doing rubbish already! If it's going to cause problems with the wife it might be worth leaving it this year and showing that you have the self discipline to stop whatever you want. When I first gave up gambling, I thought buying a scratch card every now and then was normal and nothing to do with my gambling addiction, but this was my downfall as it got me thinking about winning again.

Just something to consider. Your doing amazing anyway, keep up the good work

Jimboo

Posted on:
Wed, 21/08/2013 - 08:21

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Thanks LF, Lisa, Sandra, Irene and Jimbo, so nice to get your messages of support.....

Think day 92, and the trend is still improving, the fantasy football issue still remains one, but asides from that my relationship with my wife is so much better, she put her neck out this week so not great but we are closer. Work desperately quiet so trying to fill gaps at work, and in my own time really trying to step up the exercise, all in all feeling quite good.

Stay strong everyone, and well done for all your own efforts!!

Phil

Posted on:
Wed, 21/08/2013 - 08:55

Ricky25

Joined:
2009-08-23

Hi Phil,

Well done on the 92 days mate really good going. I had a similar problem with the football at work they got a stake for the dream team and I thought I could talk myself into being a part of it cus it goes on for so long. But my wife was totally against it and I am glad because it made me realise that ye if I did the dream team it is technically a gamble putting in 25 quid for a chance to win over a 100 quid so I am just glad I came to my sense and said no and they all understand at work. A couple of people were like just do it. But they don't understand that if I did and I won that cud trigger me off next year to going straight back into gambling. I think the only way to really stop gambling is to stop all forms of gambling and that is what I have done.

Also like yourself my fitness is become a big thing and I am concentrating on it more and going to GA every Thursday.

Well glad to hear things are good with your wife mate. Keep busy and stay strong.

Ricky

Posted on:
Wed, 21/08/2013 - 22:41

gamblerjames

Joined:
2013-05-15

Hi Phil,

Thanks again for your post on my diary! Kind words like this have got me to the stage i'm at.

If your wanting to get back in to exercise, get a bike! Best sense of fulfilment ever in my opinion. Gets you fit and takes you to the nicest parts of the country,

Take care mate, stay happy

Jimbooo

Posted on:
Mon, 26/08/2013 - 13:19

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Thanks Sandra and Jimbo,

yes still around and using the chat when I am free, as opposed to using pretty much all the time to instill some discipline, I have the discipline now, so just topping up and keeping up with all my friends.

Well what the last week has told me is that my wife is still very fragile, she still questions a lot of what I do, but I think it is getting easier all the time. I still have urges, but the one thing that I do know is that if I gamble I will lose more money than I can afford to lose, and it is not safe for me to gamble again, I know that so will adhere to!!!!

Health kick coming on strong, still smoking like a chimney but cutting back on indulgent food and stepping up the exercise, and feeling great with it!!

take care everyone and have a great week

Phil

Posted on:
Mon, 26/08/2013 - 20:10

irene

Joined:
2012-11-12

Hi Phil

You are doing great :-)

I'm sure as time passes, Mrs Phil will learn that you are in this for the long haul and things'll improve.

Glad to hear about the "health kick" every wee bit counts!
Take care
Irene
x

Posted on:
Tue, 27/08/2013 - 10:04

silassad

Joined:
2012-11-20

Hi Phil

Once again just to say thank you for your kind words on my post and glad that things are going ok for you.

Lisa :-)

Posted on:
Mon, 09/09/2013 - 13:08

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

thanks Sandra, all good with me, been quite lazy with my diary, but if I am being completely honest things are going quite well for me. Don't really get urges anymore and have been too busy fitting in time to go for a run or doing something useful about the house, which is going down quite well. Reckon I must have lost a stone in weight and starting to feel better about my shape (it never really annoyed me too much, but I have let myself go) and planning what things I can start doing when I reach my fitness goals.

It has only been the last few days that I have realised how little gambling enters my thoughts, I still check sport and watch what I can but no thoughts to gamble. My wife is slowly coming around but as a family we are all having a lot more fun.

I hope that all my good friends are well and staying strong. I will occasionally be on the chat when I get some spare time and I hope you all have a good week.

Phil

Posted on:
Tue, 10/09/2013 - 02:13

FEB 2013

Joined:
2013-02-01

Hey Phil

Great to hear things are going from strength to strength for you. You should be so pleased with your progress. Well done you.

Take care.

Lady Feb.

Posted on:
Tue, 10/09/2013 - 22:14

chris78

Joined:
2013-05-24

Hi Phil,

Great to read your still about and life is moving forward for you, I know the feeling about not coming on here as much as the thoughts of gambling become fewer and you fill your time with other stuff, But as I was reminded last night this is our recovery and we have to keep working at it. You should be on day 111 if I`ve got my maths right a big step forward from the early single figure days. All the best stay safe.

chris

Posted on:
Thu, 03/10/2013 - 19:36

PhilB73

Joined:
2013-05-25

Hi to all old friends and hello new forum members.....

Day 0 I am afraid to say, not gambled any of my own money but have succumb to a free offer in a very small way. Have convinced myself that it is ok and I can not use any of my own money ever again, yes I do believe that but I guess if I stand back and look in I maybe just lying to myself. So why I have I come back on here, well my wife has discovered some of my old habits creeping back in, hiding my phone, constantly looking on my phone, yes I am doing that and it is the same behaviour which I was doing before so although I am not spending any money I am becoming deceiptful, it is unacceptable.

The last 4 months I have made excellent progress, I have given up drinking, taken up a strict exercise regime and tried to make myself a better person, it has worked. But for me personally, my relationship with my wife, although having improved drastically, I have no hope in my mind of a future. Maybe I am being impatient, and that is a big problem with CGs, but in a way I feel my progress has been of little gain, it has but the most important thing to me, has not.

I know I need to look at the positives, and I will do so, please don't be angry with me, that is the great thing about this place, not judgemental because this behaviour is not uncommon, and believe it or not I still want to do the right thing. My wife not talking to me and a lot of hard work undone as a consequence of my secrets and lies. Here's to a brand new start.

take care everyone and I hope you are all keeping well.

Phil

Posted on:
Sat, 05/10/2013 - 18:46

FEB 2013

Joined:
2013-02-01

Hey Phil

Lovely to hear from you again. You must remember and keep in your mind how well you have done so far. I too slipped and had what I called my "moment of madness" lasting a couple of hours out of 7+ months!! I wasn't disappointed but sad with myself. Thankfully, I got straight back on track and now back onto week 7 again already. Hope you can do the same, I am certain you can. Relationships can be such a difficult thing, especially when addiction is thrown into the mix. I hope you are able to get what you want from it.

Take care and keep in touch.

Lady Feb.x

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