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Posted on:
Wed, 21/06/2017 - 23:06

ALAN 135

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Now that's much better Martin , you can't beat a nice tidy and complete post can you !! .

Stay safe my friend :)) 

x

Posted on:
Thu, 22/06/2017 - 00:18

volcano

Joined:
2010-07-05

Its been suspected for a long time Martin but really didnt want to be the one to say it. This is in regards to putting your reply to Alans on your diary rather than his ! Most of the worldwide footy econimicsphychotherapy experts have been studying this phenonemal sickness within Oldham supporters for the past 90 odd years, but with such a sly insiduous desease didnt want to scaremonger the LUFC in denial Oldham supporters. From reading your posts and witnessing this slow evolution within yourself, im thinking your now ready to take this hard path to footy redemption and to start redemption from all your past sins of chanting the nasty Oldham Athletic anthems. To start, what some may describe as a exorism you first need to swear allegiance to the mighty Leeds, then you need to sway all the other traitors and sing in unison https://youtu.be/E1NXh1JRZik

I wish you well in this latest worthy journey on the true path untill atleast the world stops turning round. Happy to march on together with you Martin

Posted on:
Thu, 22/06/2017 - 08:50

Cynical wife

Joined:
2015-06-23

Getting old is better than the alternative. Glad to see you're doing well.

BW,

CW

Posted on:
Thu, 22/06/2017 - 08:58

cardhue

Joined:
2013-01-18

Great post #903 - solid stuff pleased to see your living life fully.

Louis

Posted on:
Thu, 22/06/2017 - 16:22

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Glad to see you're shoes are comfy !
:-)
Xx

Posted on:
Sun, 25/06/2017 - 22:41

tommy190416

Joined:
2016-05-30

Great positive post Oldham!

Know what you mean about the 'neglecting' part but as you say being busy with postive things going on in your life isn't a bad thing. There was a time when we couldn't focus on anything else because gambling had taken over every spare minute of our existence. I'm like you, regularly log on but often find it hard to construct posts on my own diary - mostly because I sometimes worry I'll appear as a gloater how better my life is now that 14 months ago but then I remember these stories gave me hope in the beginning when someone was a year or 2 down the line and had turned their lives around like you mate. Sometimes find it easier in chatroom when its quieter, you have GA which you have embraced to the full so its natural as time goes by you will get more from your meetings than maybe you do here. You are doing what's right for you that's the main thing.

Good to hear you are well.

Onwards and upwards!

Posted on:
Wed, 28/06/2017 - 12:02

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

That's me finished work for the week been sent home and taken the next two days as holiday. The reason if been sent home is that I've hit my target in work, well not just hit in 150% to target and they won't pay me any more commission after 150% as I'm capped at that. No one has ever hit 150% it was said it wasn't achievable. 

 

Well the non gambling Martin proved them wrong. No way would this have happened when I was gambling I had the stupid idea gambling was where the money came from, I'd be sat there with my phone under my desk betting on some Chinese div 2 game watching the screen dangerous attack,2 more corners needed, betting suspended this is the goal I need only for a dangerous attack at the other end GOAL!!! another bet down. Onto the next one some u23 game in Kazakhstan who was I kidding

 

maybe it won I'm might go on a streak but it was never my money just more gambling tokens a loan from Ray he'd get it back soon enough  any winnings was never my money but once I'd lost it all it felt like it was and I'd want it back the chase would begin the begging texts to friends and family the numerous payday applications the cycle begins again. 

 

What for I had it there in front of me, since if stopped I've never missed target at work, I earn more, im respected at work, the majority of the time I enjoy work. Wished I'd realised it earlier but can't go back now as duncs says stepping forward never back. 

 

That turned into another ramble I suppose what I'm saying is I thought I was gambling to get money but it was there already just had to work for it like everyone else no shortcuts just like stopping now no shortcuts. 

 

KTF 

 

Posted on:
Sat, 01/07/2017 - 23:46

Guestuser9

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Maybe change that name to mr achiver? Fair play Martin you've earned yourself those 2 days r&r I'm a tad late but I hope you e put them to good use. Pub? Let's see you get it by the 27th next month lol enjoy the extra coin and hopefully mother has chucked in a few extra dumplings this week? Have a golden one bro x

Posted on:
Mon, 17/07/2017 - 00:34

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I've not had a bet today or since my last post. 

As I've said before I don't Update my diary as much anymore but when I do you I always go back to this 12 months ago in my diary. I was just hitting 300 days and I could see a real change in my thinking. I was starting to get it confidence was coming back dare I say I was actual enjoying a gamble free life. 

That's still the case life is pretty good, occasionally I think of gambling a fleeting thought it passes as quickly as it comes. I just can't comprehend going back to that way if life. 

2 years ago I was playing out the end game to gambling life, the walls were closing in every turn I took ended in lies and deceit, sad times. 

I've had a great few weeks, works still going well. Treated myself this week and have felt no guilt bought some new trainers and clothes, got rid of my old battered phone  and got a nice shiny new one, the it was old and battered due to the last upgrade I got ended up in cash converters that won't be happening with this one. To top the week off I've only gone and booked a holiday, just 5 days a lads holiday to Benidorm not my normal holiday but I know I'll have a great time really looking forward to it. 

Right time to update the challenge before bed. 

KTF 

Posted on:
Tue, 18/07/2017 - 11:05

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Hey mart. .
You've mad me smile this morning. ...great post..
Soooo you've had a blow out in primarni ?
Or like me...upgraded to peacocks ?
New phone...instead of deals in cash converters !
And now a darn deserved boys holiday ....
Fanbleedytastic....I'm mega chuffed for you on all those posative things....you've earnt them...
Now.....some advice for the boys holibobs....
don't forget to wear a sock !
Watch out for marj on her scooter.
Rinse you're mankini after each swim....the salt will cause chaffing !
Dark shades are a must...knowbody can see what your looking at !
Ohhh.....and have fun !
Much respect to you for how far you've come. ....mwahhhh xx

Posted on:
Tue, 18/07/2017 - 19:15

ALAN 135

Joined:
Before 2009

Nice post Martin :)).

I have to ask though , " Lad's Holiday " ?   Can you handle all that excitement at your age ? :)).

Forget what Mrs L said , except the bit about a "Sock " or maybe 2 just incase you end up on a roll ? I was going to say " Incase you get lucky " but as you don't like that word maybe take your inflatable woman just in case eh , as 5 day's can be a long time mate :((  " OLE " .

Seriously though Martin, have a great time , youve certainly earnt it through hard work ( well work anyway ) and deserve some good things to come your way .

Have a great time mate and I'll catch you soon :)). 

 

Posted on:
Tue, 08/08/2017 - 22:01

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I've not had a bet today or since my last post. 

Had a good day a great GA meeting and rounded the night off by popping into chat. 

That's it,  shortest post my in history not even a ramble in sight.

JFT KTF 

Posted on:
Wed, 09/08/2017 - 18:31

ALAN 135

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Hey there " Big O " ( Is that what the ladies call you ) ?  . Thanks for the post buddy and the kind words , it's always good to hear from you and know that your alway's breathing down my neck when I look over my shoulder ( do the ladies say that to you as well ) ? LoL .

That last post from you was the shortest " Ramble " in history but I guess if all's good then there's no news :))

Take care Martin and I look forward to an epic post quite soon :)) 

Posted on:
Sat, 12/08/2017 - 11:45

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I have not had a bet today or since my last post 

 

So the football season is back. The live games  soccer Saturday with Jeff and the boys. 

 

Don't let that little devil in your shoulder kid you into think that a cheeky little football acca will be ok, it won't. The amount of times I'd spend all Friday night and Saturday morning studying and planning my bets convinced this would be the day that I would win big and change my life. It never happened well I suppose my life did change but not the way I thought it would. 

 

I don't know how many times I did all the planning got to the bookies and lost it all on some random dog race or stupid cartoon race. Nip next door to the bank and do the same stupid thing and that was only for the show bets the little pretend bets to cover the fact I was gamble 100's multiple times online. 

 

When I was "lucky" enough to win, lucky your having a laugh it only prolonged the misery I could never win because I could never stop, I'd be on to the Dutch Portuguese Spanish if that didn't take all my money and more I'd be on to the South American and US game. 

 

All that from one cheeky little harmless football acca just to spend an afternoon with Jeff and the boys with false promises of riches that never materialised. 

 

If you get that urge today just look back and think did gambling ever make you really happy, maybe for a short while but it never did in the long term. 

 

Just avoid the first bet and then the second,third, fourth, fifth, sixth....................... will never come

Posted on:
Wed, 23/08/2017 - 00:05

ALAN 135

Joined:
Before 2009

Hey Old buddy , I just stopped off to wish a very happy 700th birthday :)) 

I haven't seen much of you about these day's and not rambling at all ,so I'm hoping your Keeping the faith instead :)).

I hope all's well with you and your's and if I don't speak with you before we'll no doubt have a catch up on the 2yr marker .

You know I'm no good at all the cake and bubbly stuff you do on here so you'll have to make do with me saying . " Cheer's Martin it's been a pleasure to walk alongside you " 

All the best 

Al  xx

Posted on:
Wed, 23/08/2017 - 07:59

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

I was going to do you a pint but I'm undecided if you're a lager/cider/beer type of bloke..spec it's some up north brew that's your tipple....so here's a bar of chocolate instead...

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I'm assuming you can detect its a galaxy bar....one of the best....just like you Martin....anyhow...incase you're wondering why I'm treating you....tis cose you deserve it...
700 days....and what a journey you've had....be proud ...top man x

Posted on:
Wed, 23/08/2017 - 08:07

ODAAT

Joined:
2014-11-10

Mmmm, cheers Lox :-)

Don't worry Martin...I saved you a bit: #

Posted on:
Wed, 23/08/2017 - 12:18

ITDamo

Joined:
2016-01-26

Happy 700th Oldham.

Damo

Posted on:
Fri, 25/08/2017 - 14:42

Bal

Joined:
2015-04-18

Martin,

Better late than never. Big congrats from Bal

Posted on:
Fri, 15/09/2017 - 12:18

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

7 more sleeps top man...
Just saying :-)

Posted on:
Thu, 21/09/2017 - 22:12

ALAN 135

Joined:
Before 2009

Morning Birthday boy :)) .

Well it's not morning yet but as is the norm and if youv'e been out on the lash you won't know what time it is anyway :)) .

Seriously though Martin your one of the first I spoke to on here 2 yrs ago and I'm so glad weve come so far together , youv'e come along way since those dark early day's when everything for both of us was so uncertain and we took each day as it came .Be proud of what youv'e achieved mate , for all the time youve spent passing it forward on here and in the rooms , for being a great dad to your son and a wonderfull son to your proud parents and finally thank you so much for all the help youve given me along the way and I'm pretty sure there would have been times I'd have given up without you alongside :)) .

I'm not sure how GA works but I'm assuming there's a second pin in the offering ? So wear it with pride my old friend and if there isn't then just polish up the first years :)) 

I was going to try and do one of those fancy Cake and Champagne thing's you do but it would never come out looking as good as your's so I'll stick to frying fish :)) .

Have a great day Old friend celebrating your 2yr mark  and I'll catch up with you soon .

All the best and much love Martin .

Alan  

Posted on:
Fri, 22/09/2017 - 06:59

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Mahooosive congrates on your two year celebration Martin. ..I was hoping to post last night when I closed up....but I got involved with a bottle of chilled wine after a busy shift. ...and basically couldn't see what I was doing on my phone !
Anyway.....I'm just going to agree with everything Mr cod said...you're a top top man who chose to turn his life around and I'm eternally grateful that you were here to welcome me into the fold...I'm sure you'll celebrate in style and probbally end up on the wobbly leg stuff over the weekend....and so you should...you darn well deserve it..
Xxx

Posted on:
Fri, 22/09/2017 - 06:59

Bal

Joined:
2015-04-18

Martin,

Many congratulations and welcome to the 2 year club...lol.

Our recovery strategies have been different but the end goal has remained the same. I am sure a few beers will be sunk this weekend and bal will raise a wee dram in your honour.

Best wishes.

Bal

Posted on:
Fri, 22/09/2017 - 14:35

Amom

Joined:
2014-10-09

Congratulations Martin!

Cathyx

Posted on:
Fri, 22/09/2017 - 15:03

ODAAT

Joined:
2014-11-10

Hard work, dedication...You are unrecognisable to the broken man that turned up here :-)

Such an honour to have witnessed your growth :-)  

I know you're not here as much now but hopefully you stick around & keep giving us regular updates...It keeps the hope alive!

Posted on:
Fri, 22/09/2017 - 18:08

ITDamo

Joined:
2016-01-26

Another celebration in quick time.

Congrats on the 2 years oldham and thanks for the support over the last year or so.

Hope you celebrate it in style.

Damo

Posted on:
Fri, 22/09/2017 - 19:26

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

Thank you guys the day says 730 days but the actual day is tomorrow due to that stupid leap day. I'll do a full update tomorrow superstition and all that. 

Posted on:
Fri, 22/09/2017 - 19:41

ALAN 135

Joined:
Before 2009

Well I'm not Congratulating you again mate !!  :))  

Posted on:
Fri, 22/09/2017 - 20:11

ALAN 135

Joined:
Before 2009

What Spelling mistake , your seeing things again :)) 

Sorry mate that's the way my son in laws is spelt but I've changed it now as it's yer birthday or is it tommorow ? now I'm reall confused :)) 

Have a good one Bud x

Posted on:
Sat, 23/09/2017 - 10:24

Dean0

Joined:
2017-09-14

Well done for reaching two years bet free a monumental achievement. Here’s to many more

Posted on:
Sat, 23/09/2017 - 14:28

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I've not had a bet today or for the last two years. 

Who'd have thought it two years, when I first came here I was a broken man feeling sorry for myself and lost. With the support of here and GA I began to rebuild my life it's not been easy at times but the good times by far out weigh the bad now. 

I temper this time last year, I didn't really feel like celebrating one year free after all it was also the anniversary of my separation and leaving my lad so I felt wrong in rejoining in that.

I feel a little different this year I've said it before if I'd been taken back I'm sure I would of gone back to gambling as soon I thought I could get away with. So getting it all out even if it did cost me more than money was worth it. 

Time for a quick shower than off to pick my lad up to help me celebrate my birthday and 2 years gamble free. 

Thanks again for the messages and support over the last couple of years. 

KTF 

Posted on:
Wed, 04/10/2017 - 21:34

Tommyt124

Joined:
2017-09-27

What a diary Martin an absolute inspiration if I can do what you have done in the next two years I will be one happy man and one great dad to my kids like you are with you boy .it's took me a while to get through but I've finally done it and aswell as other things it as really helped me these first 20 days plus I'll give u a WhatsApp over coming days and talk more jtf ktf

Posted on:
Wed, 18/10/2017 - 11:56

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I’ve not had a bet today or since my last post.

Cheers Tommy I’m pleased my diary is helping people out there, it may not be the most active anymore but I think that natural you can’t keep saying the same things.

So what have I been upto? I had 2 weeks to myself as my parents went on a well earned break, It was strange having the house to myself, as much as I tryand keep out of there way it is nice to have them around if I need a bit of company. Its was afully quiet without them about and I found myself going out a bit more than usual. I had a good time a week off work to take full advantage and I did that for a few days.

It’s my turn to go away on my hols in 15 days not that I’m counting, the first time I will have been away since all this began over 2 years ago, in fact it will be over 3 years since I had a holiday. I really cant wait different to my normal holiday no 5 star AI with the family, off to Benidorm with a mixed group of around 25 staying in the same hotel that is featured on the TV show. Only going for 5 nights but im sure that will be plenty. A lot of the people im going with will be gambling while there thats not a worry for me they all know about me and will ensure I don’t go down the wrong path.

Had a great GA meeting last night only a small meeting but they are good sometimes can focus a bit more.  One of the new members who’s been coming around a month treated us to some homemade cakes which was a bonus.

A while ago I completed a survey on here about GAMSTOP a couple of days ago they emailed me to see if I wanted to help with some further research, I’ve told them I will and they will get back to me over the next week. So that should be interesting to see if we can do something about the minefield that is online gambling and the difficulties excluding from them.

Until the next time KTF.

Posted on:
Wed, 18/10/2017 - 17:03

Matt 24

Joined:
2012-04-25

Hi Mate

Wanted to say a belated congratulations on your 2 years, as you know I have just clicked over the one year mark and you and your diary helped me get there. Like you, life felt pretty hopeless at points but now it is a world away from hopelessness. I hope you enjoy your well earned holiday!

I really hope that something can be done about online gambling, it nearly killed me and there should be something simple in place so we can blanket self exclude forever from all potential sites in my view.

Take care and I am proud to be chasing you back here at 380 days gamble free. 

Matt

Posted on:
Wed, 18/10/2017 - 17:18

Merry go round

Joined:
2017-06-08

Hi, I did the survey for f&f. Really interesting, I hope it helps too. Thought provoking!

Posted on:
Tue, 28/11/2017 - 23:38

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I’ve not had a bet today or since my last post. 

A familiar starting point of my recent updates with an apology to my neglected diary  

Well while I’ve been away I’ve had a great time. Been on holiday with some great friends and made some more friends with some of the others that  didn’t know. To say it was a boozy holiday would be an understatement  I don’t know how I survived it to be honest. It was great to get some winter sun and I wasn’t going to waste it suffering in bed with hangovers and losing full days like some. I was up  at 8 every morning walking along the beach well the promenade, I have a great dislike of that sand it’s the devils stuff. It was quite embarrassing getting overtaken by a few oap power walkers probably with hip replacements you never know one might of been my old mucker Alan.

then back for a breakfast feast and a couple of litres of water to set me up for the day. Eventually the rest of the group would start stirring and the shanigans would start again. 

Yes they was some gambling going on but I Was prepared for that, the majority of the people knew about my gambling history. I had plenty to distract me if needed and then even a few politely asked me if they minded if they went to the casino.

Time to start planning another holiday maybe this time just me and our Jacob. 

Still going strong at GA and have my 2nd year pinning next Tuesday. Just been tonight and had a great meeting and it’s inspired me to get cracking on my therapy for it. So I’ve dug out last years a bit of an edit and then add another chapter, year 2 of recovery, time to re read the last year of my diary and pick out some  key things that have happened I’m sure I’ve got a few nuggets of recovery in there. It’s times like this that I wish my diary hadn’t been neglected but it might be easier to sift through. 

I’ll leave it there KTF

Posted on:
Wed, 29/11/2017 - 01:12

S_J_B

Joined:
2013-05-25

Nice one Martin! ☺

Congrats on two years, You truly turned your life around and should be sooo proud of yourself!

Onwards and upwards, keep doing what is working!

S&B xx

Posted on:
Wed, 29/11/2017 - 08:08

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Hey big man...lovely to see you popping in here again. ..so glad you had a great holibob. ..well and truly deserved...
If the old guy walking on the beach had a knotted hankie on his head...it probs was the old duffer...and if he was sporting socks with sandals...it most defo was him...trendy chap...our Alan..
Two year pin coming up..that's amazing Martin...I bet you add so much to you're group...and I can imagine you taking the newcomers under your wings...look how far you've come. ..amazing journey ...with you firmly in the driving seat. ...
Big hugs big brother xx

Posted on:
Wed, 29/11/2017 - 12:04

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Ps
Just remembered. ..you never did send me any pics :-)

Posted on:
Fri, 01/12/2017 - 18:21

ITDamo

Joined:
2016-01-26

Happy 800th Oldham.

Damo

Posted on:
Fri, 01/12/2017 - 23:02

Little miss lost

Joined:
2016-05-24

Congratulations 800 days - Inspiringly amazing!! X

Posted on:
Sat, 09/12/2017 - 11:05

Oldhamktf

Joined:
2015-09-26

I’ve  not had a bet today or since my last post. 

Thanks for the congratulations they are much appreciated. 

Had a great week last Sunday had a birthday party which was lots of fun, glad I had a few days holiday left to use up as certainly wasn’t feeling like work on Monday morning. 

I’ve had a few random days off the last few weeks to watch the Cricket in the middle of the night, a sport I never bet on which I can only put down to the fact I love it so much and didn’t want to to spoil it. It’s been like working a night shift sleeping in the day and up at night to watch the ashes, shame we’re getting battered only missed on day and that was the day we actually played well. Maybe that should tell me something lol. 

Earlier this week had my open meeting to receive my 2 year pin along with 9 others with various lengths of abstinence. Took my Mum and mate who was going to be my best man along with me and held myself together a lot better than last year. 

I’ve just posted this in on our GA WhatsApp group so thought I’d share it here. 

Morning all, days like this used to really **** me off when I was gambling. I’d have spent all last night studying for the football and gee gees only for meetings to be called off due to the snow football trebles  turned into singles, that singles wins get paid out a pittance convinced the other 2 would win and I would be a rich boy It my would leave me feeling robbed. Then the need to win that money that I should of won would take over, on tilt I would chase looking for games in Europe that weren’t called off not even studying just putting random bets on, ending up in South America going all in on my favourite team in Bolivia ironically called The Strongest. Off to bed I would go leaving the bet running. Waking up the next morning check my phone it’s won, the cycle starts again, it loses have to find some more gambling tokens to start again. 

All this because a few games got called off and I thought I should of won. 

Today my only worry is will they be enough soon to go sledging later. Life without gambling is so much less stressful and fun. 

Posted on:
Sat, 09/12/2017 - 14:32

Amom

Joined:
2014-10-09

Martin

Congratulations on receiving your 2 year pin. I have been on this forum since your first day and your recovery is truly inspiring. It gives me hope that my son (who also attends GA albeit with a lot more bumps in his journey) can enjoy a recovery such as yours.

Enjoy your gamble free day/weekend!

Cathyx

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