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#1 Posted on:
Fri, 20/12/2013 - 17:27

mrbrightside

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Hello and welcome to the 2014 Challenge!!

**** The update for week ending 28th December appears on page 57 - next check in deadline is midnight Wednesday 31st December ****

**** The 2014 Challenge is now closed for new members and as at 1st January 2015 will be replace by the 2015 Challenge run by Bornagain - go and check it out and sign up!! ****

All soldiers, past and present are active for the last week of the year.............all you need to do is check in!!

Good luck everyone and keep up the good work,

Mr Brightside

[email protected]

Posted on:
Fri, 20/12/2013 - 20:22

marek

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2009-12-08

hi ye I going to joint with you to challenge 2014

Posted on:
Fri, 20/12/2013 - 20:47

judderman

Joined:
2013-09-03

Mrbrightside and Marek. I too, will join you guys in this. Look forward to hearing about us winning this fight in 2014.

For me, It's a fight for life. My thoughts tend to become more and more severly suicidal after each relapse. Not sure how much more I can take, the fights real. I must win.

Goodluck friends.

Posted on:
Fri, 20/12/2013 - 21:56

The_Rock

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Before 2009

Count me in.

I know precisely what you are saying Judderman, after my last relapse for the first time I seriously considered the though of ending it. I'm not saying I came close or anything but it was the first time I found the proposition of suicide appealing. So Yes, a fight for life it is and one each and everyone of us can win. One day at a time right now. Wishing everyone the very best of success I beating this disease in 2014

Posted on:
Fri, 20/12/2013 - 23:13

mrbrightside

Joined:
2013-12-15

Rock & Judder - you've both just scared the living day lights out of me.......I lost my younger brother to suicide in 2009 and don't think me or my family will ever truly recover from the devastation it caused. I've thought about it many times but am getting help for it as I could never ever put my family through that again. Please promise yourselves that you'll speak to someone before it ever gets that far.

As for the 2014 challenge, I wouldn't even know where to begin, hence the ask. But at least I know there's 4 of us that are up for it.......I might make an **** of it, but I'll give it a try.........but I'd imagine of of the regular posters will start something.

Mr Brightside

Posted on:
Sat, 21/12/2013 - 12:18

hardtimes

Joined:
2013-12-11

would really like to join you guys for this challenge. I am currently 10 days clean and counting!

Posted on:
Sat, 21/12/2013 - 14:17

judderman

Joined:
2013-09-03

Good on you, Hardtimes. 10 days is good going! I can't go a day without normally. Will post back when I get to 10 days. Goodluck.

Posted on:
Sat, 21/12/2013 - 16:49

feetforward

Joined:
2012-05-06

I'm definitely interested. Why don't you start one Mr Brightside?

Posted on:
Sat, 21/12/2013 - 18:55

lec101

Joined:
2012-03-12

Me too but getting confused about which thread we are all staying on! I am proud of reaching day 12 today but not pretending that I have cracked this, of course. Louise

Posted on:
Sat, 21/12/2013 - 19:32

judderman

Joined:
2013-09-03

Why not have this as the thread! Day 1 - gamble free.

Also, why wait for 2014. Start now! We need all the help we can get, make 2014 a better year.

Posted on:
Sat, 21/12/2013 - 22:38

babybluesky

Joined:
2013-12-10

I posted on the other thread as well but have copied and pasted, as I take it this is the thread we are using now

I would be happy to join the thread, I stopped gambling 11 days ago and would be happy to share experiences, milestones and support that would help with the recovery.

Babybluesky

Posted on:
Sat, 21/12/2013 - 22:50

hardtimes

Joined:
2013-12-11

its been 11 days for me to babybluesky. I really am aiming for a gamble free 2014 so would really like to do this challenge. we can all do it together which really makes things easier.

Posted on:
Sat, 21/12/2013 - 23:17

babybluesky

Joined:
2013-12-10

hardtimes well done on your abstinence of 11 days. I'm also aiming for a gamble free life, it's great to know we are not alone and can all help each other out. This is a great idea as hopefully will make us all more determined to reach our goals of a better life.

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Sun, 22/12/2013 - 01:39

The_Rock

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Mrbrightside - Really sorry to hear about your brother, I can't imagine what that would feel like. The good news for me is that when I'm not gambling I'm as happy as they come, it's just in those moments of weakness I think those dark thoughts. Of course I would never do that, I have 3 children and I intend to be here to see them all grow up.

I'm doing this in 2014 but I'm not waiting either, by the time new year comes I will be a month clean already. I've done longer before and I'm sick of hearing my own bull **** about how this time it's different so i'll let my abstinence do the talking this time.

Best of luck everyone.

Posted on:
Sun, 22/12/2013 - 08:26

mrbrightside

Joined:
2013-12-15

Morning everyone

So my inexperience with the forum and challenges has shone through - and I guess my want to support and be supported!! So, let's use this combined thread for ongoing chat, milestones and threads.....plus to encourage each other through the good and the bad times. There's quite a few of us who have been chatting.......and made commitments to themselves that this is their time to release from the hell that is gambling addiction...........so here's who they are and how many days I think they all are on the journey.....

Mr Brightside - 14 days today
Marek - ?? days today
Judderman - 2 days today
Rock_Bottom - 20 days today
Hardtimes - 12 days today
lec101 (Louise) - 13 days today
babybluesky - 12 days today

I'm sure a few others will join us too. I'm not going to spend a huge amount of time administering things - predominantly because I don't know how to, but let's keep checking in with requests, days tallies, supporting words and any experiences that you think may help the group.

What's amazing is that we have a combined total of over 70 days of being gamble free.......which means that there's a potential when Marek adds his days and another 1 person joins that on Wednesday this coming week, with the support of each other and no relapses then we could reach a group milestone of 100 days......now, that would be a Happy Christmas!!! Looking at it another way, and knowing some of our collective gambling habits and losses.........that would mean that as a group, we would have refrained from giving around £10,000 to the bookies. Scary huh? But fantastic!!!

Let's keep going everyone - we can do this!!!!

Mr Brightside

Posted on:
Sun, 22/12/2013 - 16:19

feetforward

Joined:
2012-05-06

Great stuff.

I have 47 days under my belt currently so would be honoured to add that to your cumulative total. (This achieved in part due to the 90-day Christmas Challenge in the Diaries thread! Overlapping challenge threads = exactly what I need at the moment.)

Let's do this together, friends. We all want the same thing, and we all wish it for each other, so let's treat ourselves as we would our friends and help ourselves to refrain. :-)

Clean in 2014! FF

Posted on:
Sun, 22/12/2013 - 17:01

mrbrightside

Joined:
2013-12-15

Brilliant FF - welcome!!! That's an amazing achievement - you are now the Yoda of the group and the person we'll all look to for support in hanging on to your shirt tails.........

You've also just invented our catchphrase........

"CLEAN FOR FOURTEEN!!!!"

Mr Brightside

Posted on:
Mon, 23/12/2013 - 08:51

hardtimes

Joined:
2013-12-11

So.. I was supposed to be going away for 2 weeks yesterday but things happened and now Im staying put for the xmas but I can honestly say that im still happy and content as tomorrow night will mark my 2 weeks clean. Im so proud of myself and cant wait to be "clean for 14"!

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Mon, 23/12/2013 - 11:02

Bornagain

Joined:
2013-12-14

I'm on day 6 without a bet, day by day this is hard. I couldn't possibly plan a year without a bet, but if I can stay strong and day by day live 2014 without a bet it would probably be the best year of my life. Lifes a mess for me at the moment and the only way to pick up the pieces and start living again is to beat this horrible illness.

Heres to a happy 2014 for us all and steering clear of the bookies for me!

Posted on:
Tue, 24/12/2013 - 06:49

mrbrightside

Joined:
2013-12-15

Morning everyone - so, it's Christmas Eve and the weather is terrible........a day for being cosy in the house, wrapping presents (embarrassingly that won't take me long this year, but I'll make it up to them next year), watching films.........and winning another victory.

Some people have been a bit quiet recently......so, can we have a check in of everyone in the group please.......number of days clean and a couple of lines on how you're doing......plus any asks of the group you may have.........

So, Day 16 for me......tired......a bit angry still, (See my diary post).......but with some feelings of pride beginning to emerge now.........I'm going to win this.

Have a good Christmas Eve everyone!!!

Posted on:
Tue, 24/12/2013 - 10:20

hardtimes

Joined:
2013-12-11

2 weeks for me- feelings of pride for myself which have eluded me over the last few years! Onwards and upwards- clean for 14!

Posted on:
Tue, 24/12/2013 - 13:08

JamC

Joined:
2013-12-06

Hi everyone. I would love to join the challenge.
The worse my gambling got the more scared I got of what would happen to me or what I would do to myself. I would never have actually carried out these thoughts as I love my family so much, especially my kids but I can see how this type of addiction can make people desperate.

26 days gamble free

Posted on:
Tue, 24/12/2013 - 19:28

hardtimes

Joined:
2013-12-11

merry xmas everyone x stay clean and have a great xmas!

Posted on:
Tue, 24/12/2013 - 23:24

babybluesky

Joined:
2013-12-10

Just checking in quickly, been working all day so trying to get ready for tomorrow.
Two weeks in now and 14 days :)
Merry xmas everyone and well done on your continuing abstinence

Baybluesky x

Posted on:
Wed, 25/12/2013 - 14:19

mrbrightside

Joined:
2013-12-15

Just checking in with a quick hi and a happy Christmas to everyone!!

Day 17 and super confident that I'll be fighting to keep the run going tomorrow!!

Eat loads, drink less, celebrate victories, look forward, not back.

Mr Brightside

Posted on:
Thu, 26/12/2013 - 10:25

happy days

Joined:
2013-03-21

Hi everybody. It has been 13 days since I last had a bet and I am hoping that I will never return to the bad days of betting. After 25 years of living a life of a compulsive gambler It had come to breaking point. Loss of family, friends, huge amount of debt and nearly the loss of my wife and children I have to give up. I have attended 2 GA meetings which are working as it allows me to offload my problem with others in the same situation. Still thinking of betting each day but I am taking it as a day at a time. Thanks for listening and I hope that you all have a bet free 2014.

Posted on:
Thu, 26/12/2013 - 10:46

DaveUK

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Just to add my two penneth - the idea of a year without gambling, or a lifetime even must seem like a dream to most on here but going from being a problem gambler to nothing is, well not impossible, but quite unrealistic. It's a bit like a football team struggling to stay in the premier league one season then having the ambition to win the title the very next!

My suggestion would be make it your mission when you awake each day to be - ' I will not gamble today'. Achieve that and the rest will take care of itself.

Best wishes
Dave

Posted on:
Thu, 26/12/2013 - 15:54

happy days

Joined:
2013-03-21

Thanks Dave for your thoughts. I will be trying to take it a day at a time and hopefully as you said the rest will take care of itself.

Posted on:
Thu, 26/12/2013 - 17:27

hardtimes

Joined:
2013-12-11

hi everyone I hope you all had a great xmas! just checking in- 16 days gamble free!

Posted on:
Fri, 27/12/2013 - 15:04

mrbrightside

Joined:
2013-12-15

Just checking in guys - tough day yesterday but 19 days today and determined to win.

lec101 - where are you Lou? Check in will you please?

Back to tidying out the garage and keep busy!

Mr Brightside

Posted on:
Fri, 27/12/2013 - 17:07

feetforward

Joined:
2012-05-06

Hi all
Had a wobbly few days before Christmas but sat it out, and remain gamble-free at 52 days. Looking forward to each new clean day that follows.

No doubt Gamcare will shift this thread to the Recovery Diaries forum at some point so prepare yourselves!

Take it easy everyone, try to find some peace and quiet during the Christmas/New Year chaos and it'll help reduce the urge to lose yourself in gambling.

Posted on:
Fri, 27/12/2013 - 17:31

babybluesky

Joined:
2013-12-10

Hello everyone, just checking in, now at day 17

Posted on:
Fri, 27/12/2013 - 20:38

The_Rock

Joined:
Before 2009

Just thought I would check in as been off for a few days, nothing sinister just busy with family. I'm off for an early night as it's been a very merry Christmas! 26 days in the bag and feeling stronger all the time.

Posted on:
Fri, 27/12/2013 - 21:27

Hopeful-Liam

Joined:
2013-11-26

Hi, I am also looking to have a clean 2014 to clear my debts and help me gain a better life for myself, through attending college in September (which I couldn't do with this current debt).

I look forward to sharing experiences and milestones and would like to add 32 days gamble free to the cumulative total.

Liam, being Hopeful.

Posted on:
Fri, 27/12/2013 - 21:58

hardtimes

Joined:
2013-12-11

Hi Everyone- just checking in to say 17 days now- oh and my name is Linda. I am hoping to put the hardtimes behind me!

Posted on:
Sat, 28/12/2013 - 19:54

babybluesky

Joined:
2013-12-10

Day 18
So far so good, had a couple of urges yesterday no more as yet, so till gamble free today.

Posted on:
Sat, 28/12/2013 - 21:20

mrbrightside

Joined:
2013-12-15

Evening everyone,

Just a quick run down of recent check ins and collective group total if everyone's still on track.....

Mr Brightside - 20 days today (checked in 28/12)
Marek - ?? days today (checked in 21/12)
Judderman - 8 days today (checked in 21/12)
Rock_Bottom - 27 days today (checked in 27/12)
Hardtimes - 18 days today (checked in 27/12)
lec101 (Louise) - 19 days today (checked in 21/12)
babybluesky - 18 days today (checked in 28/12)
feet forward - 53 days today (checked in 27/12)
Born again - 11 days today (checked in 23/12 but diary check in today and on track!!)
Jam C - 30 days today (checked in 23/12)
Co-ord 45 - 15 days today (checked in 26/12)

Soooooo, 11 disciples marching on and winning the battle day by day. We really need check ins from Marek, judderman and lec101 to be sure of our numbers.......but what a start to this folks, it's certainly helping me.........as much as I don't want to let myself or my family down, I don't want to let you guys down either..........our collective total is........

219 days free of gambling...........

Taking our approx daily loss average at £100 a day......we've collectively saved nearly..........

£22000.00

Keep it up everyone.........my commitment to the group is that I'll do the count every Sunday night and update days etc. Your commitment needs to be 1) to yourself! 2) to continue to fight for all of us 3) to check in at least once a week or I'll take you off the list as I want our numbers to be the truth!!!

Keep going everyone!!!

Mr Brightside

Posted on:
Sat, 28/12/2013 - 21:45

mrbrightside

Joined:
2013-12-15

Stop Press!!!!

Just checked out Juddermans post and he's on track for 8 days - well done mate and stop focussing on 12 being your record!! One day at a time and you'll eclipse that - this is for keeps!!

For info, I'm out tomorrow night, so the formal updates will start next Sunday 5th January!!

Mr Brightside

Posted on:
Sat, 28/12/2013 - 22:40

happy days

Joined:
2013-03-21

That's a great effort Mr Brightside, well done. Let's hope that the 12 can continue the good work so far to remain bet free. Looking forward to checking in next week.

Posted on:
Sat, 28/12/2013 - 23:07

lec101

Joined:
2012-03-12

Hello, Hello! Still here, and delighted to report 19 days in...Merry Christmas one and all. Have been very busy with extended family and mainly cooking and entertaining nieces and nephews. Have missed the interaction and very glad that we are all still on track. Have had several urges, of course, but have also enjoyed more time with partner, friends and family. Onwards and upwards and loving the daily tally of what we have saved. Got sent a 'pressie' from a gambling website and looking forward to selling it...x

Posted on:
Sat, 28/12/2013 - 23:37

mrbrightside

Joined:
2013-12-15

Louuuuuuuu!!!! Yes, yes, yes!!!! So glad you posted girl!!!

Best Christmas present for me knowing that my "buddy" was still fighting the good fight!!! Woop woop!!!

Keep in touch and congratulations, going to sleep tonight with a huge smile on my face!!

Mr Brightside

Posted on:
Sun, 29/12/2013 - 00:12

hardtimes

Joined:
2013-12-11

hey guys
18 days and staying strong. am so proud to see my name on the list Mr Brightside and I will not let myself down and nor you lot either xxxxx Linda

Posted on:
Sun, 29/12/2013 - 01:59

The_Rock

Joined:
Before 2009

Checking in as I like to do last thing before I go off to sleep, 27 days completed. This week might be difficult emotionally, if I'm still here next weekend I'll be thrilled...and I will be. Just because something isn't easy it doesn't mean it can't be achieved. Good luck folks x

Posted on:
Sun, 29/12/2013 - 02:16

AdamPrice

Joined:
2013-02-01

Hi all I would like to be included in the challenge, I feel it will help alot with my motivation as I have been close to slipping up a few times in the last couple of weeks :-/

currently on 113 days gamble free :)

Posted on:
Sun, 29/12/2013 - 09:28

Bornagain

Joined:
2013-12-14

Still here, day 12 without a bet getting myself warmed up for 2014 and a whole year without a bet. Its an immense challenge, but life would be fantastic if I could achieve it. Day by day I will give my all to beat this!

Posted on:
Mon, 30/12/2013 - 13:28

2012theyear

Joined:
2012-01-01

Hi All

I'd like to do the challenge also if that is ok. I'm currently on 37 days no gambling. Would be a dream come true to go the whole of 2014 with NO GAMBLING. I want next Xmas/ New Year to be a really happy time. The last several years its been misery. So, i'm up for this challenge BIG TIME

Cheers

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Mon, 30/12/2013 - 18:58

The_Rock

Joined:
Before 2009

Checking in on day 29. Bit.wobbly today for some reason, had a few urges, but have resisted using my coping strategies.

This is the 4th longest amount of time I've ever stopped for.. My best was last January to March where I achieved 69 days before I caved in, I think that was the hardest I'd tried and it hurt like hell when I failed. Looking back I can see where I went wrong and what I could have done to stop it ending badly. I want this so much now and am determined to succeed.

Posted on:
Mon, 30/12/2013 - 20:26

hardtimes

Joined:
2013-12-11

hi everyone- just checking in 20 days gamble free. Rock bottom- i too have found today hard- in fact it was the first time since i stopped that i struggled with urges but i will see it through and tomorrow will mark 3 weeks for me! Linda x

Posted on:
Mon, 30/12/2013 - 21:24

*ashamed*

Joined:
2013-12-30

I'd like to join the challenge Mr B.
I'm only on Day 1 and have also started a 'recovery diary' to try and help me stay focused.

I need to change my life in so many ways but can't do anything until I have conquered this awful addiction :(

I want 2014 to be a year I'll remember for good reasons.

I have not gambled today.
I do not want to gamble tomorrow.

M x

Posted on:
Mon, 30/12/2013 - 21:53

lec101

Joined:
2012-03-12

Hello Mr B and all the group! Yup, today has been hard and I don't know why either...maybe we are thinking that it would still be OK to gamble in 2013, as long as we don't in 2014...I think that has gone through my head today. I am finding the whole 'let's not let ourselves, partners and each other down' extremely helpful. Please all keep an eye out on the new members forum and encourage them to join us. I'm a firm believer in strength in numbers.

Posted on:
Mon, 30/12/2013 - 22:00

babybluesky

Joined:
2013-12-10

Great check in post mrbrightside I have definitely become more motivated and determined not to gamble. Well done to everybody on here.
Day 20 :)
Happy New Year everyone x

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