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Why do you think you gamble?

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#1 Posted on:
Fri, 27/10/2017 - 11:42

myfreedom

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2012-08-14

Why do you think you gamble?

This is the topic of this thread. Please post all the reasons you think make you gamble.

Let's see...

Posted on:
Fri, 27/10/2017 - 16:26

Forum admin

Joined:
2010-11-01

Hi myfreedom

We have moved your post to the Debates and discussions part of the forum as we felt it was a more appropriate place for this type of topic.

Best wishes

Forum admin

Posted on:
Sat, 28/10/2017 - 11:15

Joydivider

Joined:
2015-03-11

Hi

I found that it was really for every other reason than the money. Bored, Lonely, Depressed, self esteem issues and  I didnt want to go home to an empty flat.

Unware and even ashamed of my own abilities I had no vision for the future. From a promising career start in which I was actually duped as a youngster I ended up doing a series of extremely iffy short term minimum wage jobs that nobody else would do hence the availability. Even in an office it was short term agency based with damn all chance of a reference that meant anything.At one point I was taxi driving for someone and earning £2 an hour on a self employed basis which gets round the minimum wage legislation. 

I did courses but got scared of setting up which is costly if the work doesnt come to fruition. I began to doubt I was capable of anything which added to self esteem issues

I had become a loner as my friends were more casual aquaintances that I was latching on to with no deep or meaningful relationship

I am not ashamed of giving an insight into a gamblers mind. I was more depressed than I realised at the time and gambling was never the answer

I am not ashamed of admitting how my life had spiralled down I couldnt get work where I wanted for every other reason other than my ability. Every mickey mouse fake, low level course the dwp would send me on or bad news about forced sanctions would set me off on an escape trail. Every rejection by a woman or something not going my way would head me off to a gambling den.

Although everyone has a different story this is the level at which you have to start looking at yourself. You need to face yourself to face the gambling addiction. I know that although the money plays a part its often not mainly about the money. 

That is the level to which you have to admit it to yourself even if you cant write it down on the forum

Best wishes to everyone on the forum

Posted on:
Sat, 28/10/2017 - 17:42

Gundonen

Joined:
2017-10-28

Agree with the above post. Gambling and depression and a feeling of isolation go hand in hand. That's what it was for me anyway

Posted on:
Fri, 24/11/2017 - 20:36

Lisa-Bee

Joined:
2017-11-23

I started gambling because I was bored.

I am a loner by nature and on evenings where I am not busy or felt restless I would gamble to pass the time and for some excitment.

I am currently 2 days gamble free and have been putting my 'spare' hours into an altogether more healthy hobby of writing. 

Posted on:
Mon, 04/12/2017 - 13:28

sarahemi

Joined:
2017-12-04

Well it sounds weird, really, to me there is no specific reason except for that I earn too much when I earn more than my needs, I use to spend it any way I go for. Sometimes, I give away all my savings in charity, and sometimes, I lost them in a bet. :-)

Posted on:
Wed, 06/12/2017 - 23:37

Joydivider

Joined:
2015-03-11

sarahemi wrote:

Well it sounds weird, really, to me there is no specific reason except for that I earn too much when I earn more than my needs, I use to spend it any way I go for. Sometimes, I give away all my savings in charity, and sometimes, I lost them in a bet. :-)

Well I looked at this for a while but sorry Im not going to let this go. This is a very casual statement starting with you earn too much and spend it in any way you like. May I remind you that this is a recovery forum and its gone a bit further than extra money/savings we can afford to lose.

The addiction may sound weird to you because its a complex illness. Even your handle states that gambling is normal behaviour for you. Perhaps you dont have a problem then so what have you got to add for those that do? I dont want to get personal but your statement has upset me with its casual approach.

You have also highlighted a logo design company so is it an advert? 

I dont really understand what you are getting at. Perhaps you could explain a bit further

Posted on:
Thu, 07/12/2017 - 16:33

Forum admin

Joined:
2010-11-01

Hi Sarahemi

You'll see that I have contacted you seperately, however, this is just a polite reminder of our forum rules and etiquette: http://www.gamcare.org.uk/support-and-counselling/frontline-services/chatroom/chatroom-and-forum-etiquette#.VGOJC19FC71

Please refrain from advertising on the forum and remember to be respectful and mindful of others and the difficulties they may be experiencing.

Best wishes

Forum admin

Posted on:
Thu, 07/12/2017 - 18:02

Melonade

Joined:
2017-10-31

My reason was debt. I thought I could make it go away after a few first good wins. By the time I realised it had consumed me. It had put me further into debt chasing losses. I thought if I carried on it owed me as the amount of money I had sacrificed. Carried on chasing, took out further loans thinking that win was around the corner and I could pay them all off. Then sunk into depression, gambling was an escape, I was hypnotised and it was an escape from reality. Like nothing else mattered when I was indulged in that world. Then reality kicked me, I was further in debt, struggling to make payments... it was desperation. I never felt so alone. All I wanted was it to be ok.